| Scars, do they scare you (guys)
Posted: 1/1/2009 7:21:37 PM | Referring to HSJS and hair pieces...
Chuckle chuckle ... 
Watch pulling my hair too hard please.... lol .... might end up in your hand....
K-I-D-D-I-N-G.... my hair is natural.... well the length is... do I need to confess coloring???? | |
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| Scars, do they scare you (guys)
Posted: 1/1/2009 7:24:31 PM | Nope. I've got my share of scars and my wife had breast cancer and leukemia and a number of reconstructive surgeries. When you love someone the scars don't mean that much. Well, that's what I think anyway....  | |
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| Scars, do they scare you (guys)
Posted: 1/1/2009 7:27:07 PM | | Most everyone has some scars of some type. I would hope that would not be a condition for falling in love with someone. I have a scar on my bikini line from having 3 c sections. It is hardly noticeable. I was sick in the past but am fine now. If you love someone you love them no matter what. The outside of a person is just that the outside. It is what is inside a person that is important. | |
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| Scars, do they scare you (guys)
Posted: 1/1/2009 7:28:30 PM | | Hi Spence56. Sorry to hear about your wife. My mother had leukemia and unfortunately we lost her 6 years ago. | |
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| Scars, do they scare you (guys)
Posted: 1/1/2009 7:56:40 PM | | Scars don't scare me since I have one ugly one on my arm. I think I have have features and qualities that are good so I try to avoid showing the scar. I wait to see where things are going to before the show and tell because I may get emotional talking about it. | |
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| Scars, do they scare you (guys)
Posted: 1/1/2009 8:06:59 PM | scars are a part of life for most people.. its just like women who have had a child... sometimes you get stretch marks... any normal guy would look past that because it comes with the territory.
same thing with your friend, she had surgery, she has scars. they may look scary, but it doesn't change the person on the inside.
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| Scars, do they scare you (guys)
Posted: 1/1/2009 8:15:10 PM | I've got plenty of scars myself. Most of them are not immediately noticeable, and none of them formed keloids - just the way my body works, and those Celt genes don't provide for keloids, anyway. Some folks are curious and want to know the stories behind them, which is fine by me. I consider them as a 'rite of passage' from various times in my life.
I worked in the operating room at one point. I've seen lots of scars and been involved in procedures that certainly left scars. They don't adversely bother me. I've seen beautiful women with large port wine birthmarks that covered a third or more of their body. While unsettling to most people, I understand the physiology behind them, and it never was an issue for me. I've also seen someone who had a serious indented cavity at the base of her spine, a result of the removal of a congenital spinal tumor as an infant. The cavity was perhaps 5 inches deep, and frankly, would be shocking to someone who didn't expect it. She stated it never slowed her down, nor did it seem to bother her significant other at all.
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| Scars, do they scare you (guys)
Posted: 1/2/2009 12:30:32 AM | I would pursue a relationship with her. I may want to pursue a family situation, but never underestimate the love you can both give and receive, any and everywhere.
Scars don't scare me...I have scars of my own. The ones that take longer to heal for any one, are the emotional ones. Why would I put someone aside based on their medical history? We're all sure to die one day--inevitable. But, to destroy a chance at love until our dying day, no way. | |
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| Scars, do they scare you (guys)
Posted: 1/2/2009 5:29:49 AM | While I dont think scars are sexy, they are a part of living for most people, especially as we get older. I have no problem with a womans scars - they are a part of her and if SHE is sexy, then her scars will be too. "Sexy' is much more of an attitude, than a body type/size.
If she has lots of scars, it might be nice to divulge that before getting naked together so the other person isnt surprised. But someone who cares will not have an issue with it. | |
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| Scars, do they scare you (guys)
Posted: 1/2/2009 7:07:26 AM | Personally, i think if a man is 'put off' by any scars a female has he just isnt worth bothering with, after all scars can be a badge of courage for a person having gone through trauma., This also applies to a female being 'put off'' if a guy has scars also.
Life happenings are just that and i would prefer to look at the whole picture and see the person inside rather than on the outside. There are many people scarred in the theater of war, road accidents, fires, by operations etc etc and they are all worth loving for who they are, not what the may look like.
Your female friend should go forward - there is always someone for someone out there in the wide world and a someone who will love her for being just her and overlook the bodily imperfections.
Sheesh even the Phantom of the Opera found someone who loved him lol. | |
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| Scars, do they scare you (guys)
Posted: 1/2/2009 8:39:47 AM | I recently ran into a male friend of mine who had had his stomach stapled as a weight loss method. After losing 200 lbs, he had the skin removal surgery done. He claims there is a scar all around his waist and the back of both thighs. He almost died after the surgery but he's alive & well and certainly more healthy than he was at almost 400lbs.
I look at scars as stories. Most people have them-for whatever reason. Most of the people on here were talking about surgical scars......
But lets say someone received 3rd degree burns to a large portion of their body and miraculously pulled through. Scars from burns are a lot different than surgical scars and there are usually lots of skin grafts associated with them. You are left with scaring from where they took the skin grafts and where they were implanted. Add to the mix, the twisting of the skin (most burns do not heal flat & neatly like a surgical incision). A person that has been severely burned, will certainly have a lot more scaring than someone that has undergone a surgery.
Would this make it any different? If someone had significant scaring over their body and not just a 4x6 line (example)? Maybe that's what the OP was refering to? Something more than just a simple c-section or appendectomy or such.
I believe that if you really love the person, its not going to matter. Though its nice to forewarn any new intimate partners.
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| Scars, do they scare you (guys)
Posted: 1/2/2009 9:39:18 AM | I also have some major scars from previous surgeries and I can say that there are men out there that can look past the scars and still find you attractive. Your friend has to be honest with them up front so if the guy is turned off by the scars then she hasn't wasted her time with someone who has issues with it.
I do know that the first time with someone was scary and I can understand her hesitance but I have found that if you are comfortable with things then most men will be also. The man I am with now loves my body scars and all!
I hope she decides to give it a chance and that she can get over her body image issues because there are good men out there!  | |
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| Scars, do they scare you (guys)
Posted: 1/2/2009 10:01:05 AM | Well...I am the type of person, along with my sisters and many friends that are concerned about their tan lines, none-the-less scars. Well...I got into a motorcycle accident on August 27 and was laid out for two months. In efforts to make sure I have the least amount of scars I have stayed out of the Sun. Which has been utterly depressing considering I love the beach and went fishing almost every weekend.
I was estatic when I did not get run over by a car. Happy to be alive of sorts. But, after looking at my injuries, feeling repulsed by any type of raw meat that was being prepared on tv, and realizing I am going to scar it freaked me out a little.
But, I seem to have healed well but I have scarred. It doesn't seem like men really care though. I think some even find it attractive. I rather not have them however it is a reminder to be a little more careful in my life. And, I don't really like completely shallow men anyway so if he did have a problem Iwould not want him anyway.
My guy friends that know my body that massage me all the time thinks I look a little beaten up, given they had a chance, they'd still love to get with me. So, it hasn't hurt me. I think it was only because I have really nice skin and no scars pre-accident. I have scars between my right hand knuckle. A patch on my right shoulder. Scared on the left plam of my hand and small little specks on my far knuckle on my left hand. I have a scar inside my left arm. Large discoleration due to road rash on my back. My left leg is scarred on the outside due to road rash...There was a hug hole in my ankle and my whole left feet has scars...men have always admired my feet too.
It hasn't hurt me really... Of course, both outwardly and inwardly I am not to insecure about it. Sometimes it has to do with confidence. Look at Seal, he has a gorgeous woman that loves him for who he is (although his money and beautiful voice probably helps)... Sometimes, its a blessing in disguise. I still might look to some skin graphing and dermobrasian or something like that to make it less revealing. C'mon...pre-accident I was concerned about tan lines. These are scars and I'd rather not have them. But, as far as men having issues with them...not so much it seems.
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| Scars, do they scare you (guys)
Posted: 1/5/2009 7:44:03 PM |
Why if you are a person with self confidence would you ever consider spending money on getting surgery to remove a scar just to please any potential partner you may have.
If you had teeth that look like a meat grinder, you'd want to get those fixed, wouldn't you?
I understand if you want the surgery for yourself and your own self esteem, but I would never consider doing it for another person.
If a person has that much "self esteem," why would they consider surgery at all? Any time someone gets cosmetic surgery, it is never for themselves, no matter the situation or circumstances. It is for them to feel like their appearance more acceptable or pleasing to others. | |
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| Scars, do they scare you (guys)
Posted: 1/5/2009 8:39:29 PM | Teeth like a meat grinder....lol...
There are many people that do have teeth like that and for one reason or another do not get them fixed. Could be financial or they just don't care. I personally would have them fixed, but I would do it for me and no one else.
Any time someone gets cosmetic surgery, it is never for themselves, no matter the situation or circumstances.
Well I know plenty of women that have had breast reductions to reduce back and neck pain. I have had moles removed because in the summer they would get sun burnt and hurt. So in fact, theses reasons for cosmetic surgery are for thine self.
You can have all the confidence and self esteem in the world, but if there is something that you don't like about yourself, then you have the choice to fix it. That means that you can do it for you and for nobody else. | |
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| Scars, do they scare you (guys)
Posted: 1/5/2009 9:41:06 PM | I don't have any really bad scars... but I do have stretch marks from having my daughter... like one lady said... it looks like a road map... and yes I used to be a little self conscious about it... but then an ex-lover of mine gently kissed each one and told me they were beautiful, because they came from having my daughter...
I decided to believe him... and to be honest... I've never had a man complain about my stretch marks... | |
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| Scars, do they scare you (guys)
Posted: 1/6/2009 12:27:48 AM | | It should'nt matter as long as the Scares are'nt from where they were something else. Is it a turn off for women. Some love tats and some hate them. In the end its all about how you feel about them as a person. If they are not there for you then they will most likely stop if they are there for you they won't even see them. And in the end the Scars you have to worrie about are the ones that hurt the heart and mind. They are the ones that can hurt you to. | |
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