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| | Why are there so many young single mothers aged 18-22?Page 29 of 34 (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10, 11, 12, 13, 14, 15, 16, 17, 18, 19, 20, 21, 22, 23, 24, 25, 26, 27, 28, 29, 30, 31, 32, 33, 34) | | maybe because some dont choose it. It just happens sometimes. I mean im a mother of one and im 21 and Im proud of it. | |
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| Why are there so many young single mothers aged 18-22?
Posted: 8/23/2011 3:47:49 PM | The question posed by OP has fascinated me for awhile. I just don't understand it; maybe because I had no desire to have kids when I was that age.
The reasons I don't understand it are many - there's more birth control available now than ever before; it's practically free at Planned Parenthood; and it WORKS. Why have a child so young when it is so preventable? And why do it when it makes your young life so much more harder than it has to be? Is it because young women nowadays think their baby will love them unconditionally (the wrong reason to have a baby)? Is it because of the free welfare you'll receive? Is it because you're afraid to pursue your dreams?
When I was in my late teens it was very rare for girls that age to have kids at the rate they do now. So I know it is entirely preventable. So why this generation? Why not wait until you're in your 30's when you're done with college, have some good work experience under your belt, and may have found a good guy to settle down with? | |
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| Why are there so many young single mothers aged 18-22?
Posted: 8/23/2011 5:07:11 PM |
The reasons I don't understand it are many - there's more birth control available now than ever before; it's practically free at Planned Parenthood; and it WORKS.
I got pregnant on Birth Control. The pill to be exact. Never missed a day. I took the pill at the same time everyday. Wasn't on antibiotics. Wasn't sick with the flu or diarrhea. I was one of the few who had break through ovulation.
Hormonal birth control doesn't work for me. Had another pregnancy while on the patch. My husband at the time was quite surprised. Needless to say after kid 3. I had my tubes cut and scared shut. Now that has been 100% | |
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| Why are there so many young single mothers aged 18-22?
Posted: 8/24/2011 6:28:12 AM |
Is it because young women nowadays think their baby will love them unconditionally (the wrong reason to have a baby)?
No, not the reason, although my children do adore me and think i am the greatest thing on earth.
Is it because of the free welfare you'll receive?
No, not the reason, i never recieved welfare, living on a poverty pittance was never my goal, i like to live comfortable, and large and welfare isnt enough for me to afford the lifestyle i prefer.
Is it because you're afraid to pursue your dreams?
Nope, not the reason, i have pursued most of my dreams and am living my biggest dream.
Beautiful children, loving man, nice home in the suburbs close to the beach, a wonderful family to share my life with, living a comfortable content life with my loved ones.
Why not wait until you're in your 30's when you're done with college, have some good work experience under your belt, and may have found a good guy to settle down with?
I am 31 and soooo glad i started young. I just would not want to be starting out with my family right now. I am already comfortable and established with my life and can now just kick back and do my thing and enjoy raising the little ones. I would like to MAYBE have one more child and then get a tubal or 10 year IUD. I had a hard time conceiveing my last child, and went through many negative pregnancy tests, tears, and fertility meds, and that was at the ripe old age of 25. Now that i am in my 30's, who knows if i will even be able to concieve again, even if i try?
And it is entirely posssible to work after you have kids, i have and so have many other women. | |
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| Why are there so many young single mothers aged 18-22?
Posted: 8/24/2011 12:52:20 PM | | I think the reason their are so many young mothers is because we have stop teaching our daughters through our actions. Alot of these young ladies are looking for love in all the wrong places. Instead of looking inside the are looking for someone to put it there. Low self worth is a big part I think. They feel they have to have something so the settle for anything. We as mothers need to learn how to teach ourselves and our daughters how to date and what red flags are and how to say no thank you to unwanted conditions. | |
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| Why are there so many young single mothers aged 18-22?
Posted: 8/24/2011 4:27:59 PM | (ohwhynot46) Sorry, but the way I see it is that being aware of risks and deciding to take those risks by making the choice to enage in the associated behavior logically implies accepting the responsibility for risks associated with one's behavior.
The "way (you) see it" isn't gonna prove to be very helpful if a guy knocks you up, then skates. It isn't in accordance with reality. Right or wrong, guys feel resentment at being coerced into a course of action, and they will EVEN IF there is "talk" before-hand. The "course of action" to which I refer, of course, is being forced to give up their single lifestyle because of someone else's decisions.
So, I hope you have a coffee-table, 'cause I want you to picture me jumping up on it and doing my "I RULE AND YOU DROOL!" dance...
Arlo...  | |
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| Why are there so many young single mothers aged 18-22?
Posted: 8/24/2011 4:56:28 PM |
maybe because some dont choose it. It just happens sometimes. I mean im a mother of one and im 21 and Im proud of it
My goodness such naivete and idiocracy. Lady, YOU chose it and it does not just happen sometimes!! You wanted it to happen for whatever misguided reason. Your contribution, however, is great as it gives the forumites a clear insight and answer to the initial question to why there are so many young single mothers. | |
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| Why are there so many young single mothers aged 18-22?
Posted: 8/24/2011 6:49:06 PM |
So, I hope you have a coffee-table, 'cause I want you to picture me jumping up on it and doing my "I RULE AND YOU DROOL!" dance...
if you will do that dance in your fruit of the looms, i will bust out the singles for a lap dance.
holla fo' a dollah | |
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| Why are there so many young single mothers aged 18-22?
Posted: 8/26/2011 2:02:36 PM |
(sweetnessinflorida) if you will do that dance in your fruit of the looms, i will bust out the singles for a lap dance.
Here in Canuckystan, the smallest bills we have are $5.00. Those $1 and $2 coins are really... uncomfortable...
Arlo... | |
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| Why are there so many young single mothers aged 18-22?
Posted: 8/27/2011 4:00:16 AM | I get in my car daily knowing the risks. The bridge could collapse as I drive over it. Doesn't mean I welcome that collapse with open arms.
I could get hit by an idiot too busy texting, or worse, was behind the wheel inebriated. Doesn't mean I'm welcoming the accident with open arms.
I was a naive 17 year old. I thought I was going to marry the guy. I won't question if I was in love. To this day I firmly believe I was very much in love. I was on the pill; took it religiously. Same time every day. It was the only form of BC we used. We knew there was a chance it would fail us, but seeing as how I'd been on the same form of BC since losing my virginity, we held our confidence in it.
Well lookie now. I'm almost 24. I have a 5 year old. I'm the only parent who stuck around and provides for the child. | |
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Crd722
| | Joined: 8/8/2011
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| Why are there so many young single mothers aged 18-22?
Posted: 8/27/2011 2:42:27 PM | Is it so bad that less moms want to put their children into the system because they kept their children? And like me, I seriously thought I was going to marry my ex. We were engaged before I got pregnant and he cheated on me. We didn't plan on having a baby. I was told I had very little chance of getting and was on birth control to help with the cysts.
It's sad but the guy leaving because he's not ready is a huge reason why there's so many single moms. Sometimes the mom try to fix the relationship until they're mentally and emotional drained. | |
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| Why are there so many young single mothers aged 18-22?
Posted: 8/27/2011 7:25:15 PM | | I WAS married to my ex, he left me for a younger lifestyle after making the decision together (however poorly informed) to marry and have children at a REALLY young age. Both of our parents fully supported this insane idea and now im a 23 yr old divorced single mother. He remarried has 3 step children and 2 new children of his own and hasnt spoken to any of us since he got married. The point however is whether or not we "choose" to have children most of us did not intend on being "single parents" most thought we would just be parents. And i did follow my dreams.It just took a lil longer a lil more hard work to get there. | |
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| Why are there so many young single mothers aged 18-22?
Posted: 9/17/2011 12:20:16 PM | It's because they're uneducated, don't understand their anatomy, and fail to use protection. Further, it's because women think they can trap their man, or men think they can trap their woman.
I've met plenty of girls who want children, but can care less about establishing a family unit first. Many women will argue that they raise their children alone and are doing just fine, but chances are (9 times out of 10) they're draining the bio-father with child support and draining the government of welfare.
I think it should be a law that if you want to bring a child into the world, and you aren't yet married, you should be bound by law to raise the child alone with no government aid or child support. This would make potential mothers think twice about popping kids out whenever they see fit.
Many women are pro-life, but the fact of the matter is that whether or not you can afford to have a child, the kid is going to need a real family unit. Otherwise, he/she will be MUCH less likely to develop into the person they ought to be. Without two role models, a child is unbalanced.
Cheers. | |
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| Why are there so many young single mothers aged 18-22?
Posted: 9/17/2011 4:14:41 PM |
It's because they're uneducated, don't understand their anatomy, and fail to use protection. Further, it's because women think they can trap their man, or men think they can trap their woman.
I've met plenty of girls who want children, but can care less about establishing a family unit first. Many women will argue that they raise their children alone and are doing just fine, but chances are (9 times out of 10) they're draining the bio-father with child support and draining the government of welfare.
I think it should be a law that if you want to bring a child into the world, and you aren't yet married, you should be bound by law to raise the child alone with no government aid or child support. This would make potential mothers think twice about popping kids out whenever they see fit.
Many women are pro-life, but the fact of the matter is that whether or not you can afford to have a child, the kid is going to need a real family unit. Otherwise, he/she will be MUCH less likely to develop into the person they ought to be. Without two role models, a child is unbalanced.
Cheers.
I think we have already established that majority of the single mothers are in fact not on welfare. More than half actually work and meet the financial needs of the house hold. And what the hell? Draining the father for support. UMM yeah. I get $30 a week in support. Talk about a financial drain. | |
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| Why are there so many young single mothers aged 18-22?
Posted: 9/17/2011 8:53:08 PM | | I think there are a lot of single mothers on the site because young girls think that being a mommy and not having a job equates to a legitimate career. A lot of girls will do anything to avoid getting a job and if getting pregnant and "raising kids" is their way of avoiding a job, they'll take it. I know lots of woman who basically got married for the sole purpose of having a baby and then divorcing the guy shortly afterward. Guess who picks up the tab for the kid for the next 18 years. You got it. Fortunately, I never made that mistake but there are lots of young girls ready to play some guy for sperm and money. After they get it, he is out of the picture. | |
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| Why are there so many young single mothers aged 18-22?
Posted: 9/19/2011 12:07:33 PM | | Alright..I was 18 when I got pregnant, and it's such a horrible stereotype u guys are putting on teenage mothers! Yea some pawn off their kids on thier parents but to say we all do is ignorant! I'm now 21, and I am in school full time and take care of my kid! So next time u wanna group ppl together think first! | |
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| Why are there so many young single mothers aged 18-22?
Posted: 9/19/2011 12:45:47 PM | | I find your comment unfare and insulting!!! yes some women have kids for all the wrong reasons and to trap a man but not all of us are like that. I was with my eldest childs father for almost 6 years and it was a mutual split so i did not try and trap him and he did not try and trap me. Women can make good parents at any age is the way i see it. I might not be the most perfect mum but i do my best for my kids always have done and so have so many other single mums out there. I hold my hands up to single mums because its hard work and we dont need people like you pulling us down because of the few bad mothers you have met or spoke to. | |
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| Why are there so many young single mothers aged 18-22?
Posted: 9/20/2011 6:04:21 PM | | While posting four times in a row, and giving no indication who your post is aimed at. You didn't capitalize 50% of the time and barely used any punctuation. Cheekyblond you are not helping us look any more educated. | |
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jmark4
| | Joined: 7/3/2011
Msg: 722 | |
| Why are there so many young single mothers aged 18-22?
Posted: 9/21/2011 2:16:50 AM |
It's disturbing to me at least to see so many single mothers so young on this website and they seem perfectly content being a mother at such a young age. Maybe it's just me and my old fashioned views of having kids after say 25. What do you people think?
1. girls are much more slutty than in previous times.
2. guys are worse if that's possible.
3. working at a high school for 10 years it's amazing how many young people have unprotected sex. it's mind boggling and very dumb.
It's the taboo thing to talk about. That generation uses phrases like,"I have no regrets", or "everything happens for a reason", so it gives them a pass on their mistakes.
We have as many single moms' than any other first world country in history. More grandparents than ever before are raising their grandkids.
If you have morals or character you are laughed at. If you are a girls gone wild child or a player, you are cool. Some "celebs" get famous for sex tapes or being vulgur and slutty.
Our society has changed and not for the better. | |
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jmark4
| | Joined: 7/3/2011
Msg: 723 | |
| Why are there so many young single mothers aged 18-22?
Posted: 9/21/2011 2:20:21 AM |
And we dont all drain the govement . If a man cant put somthing on the end of it then so he should do his bit for the child as it takes 2 to make a life.
TOTALLY RIGHT ON! I dont get so many women allowing men to impregnate them and other women and no one sues for child support.
You haunt them until the child is 18. So many young men are NOT paying child support or paying very little child support.
And it has nothing to do with class. Bristol Palin sure isn't poor and she had unprotected sex and a kid, all the while preaching to poor blacks the importance of being responsible.
Parents need to teach their daughters to choose better guys and guys need to be better guys. | |
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| Why are there so many young single mothers aged 18-22?
Posted: 9/21/2011 12:33:52 PM | | I'm 19 and a single mom, and in a way I feel my whole life is passing me by, but most men my age fall for ate.immature with low self esteem and when a baby comes into the picture they take off in the other direction | |
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| Why are there so many young single mothers aged 18-22?
Posted: 9/22/2011 2:12:45 AM | | because they get kids get dole money get house and never have to work just scrounge of the dole and people like me and every other person that works keep um thats why so many single mothers of young age on here they got it easy not saying all are bit 99% are the aarea i live it full of um cause they get everything payed for should be made go out and work simple | |
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