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| | Why are there so many young single mothers aged 18-22?Page 30 of 34 (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10, 11, 12, 13, 14, 15, 16, 17, 18, 19, 20, 21, 22, 23, 24, 25, 26, 27, 28, 29, 30, 31, 32, 33, 34) | | You know, if you go for a walk down the street and see a lot of people smoking, and you yourself are not a smoker, one could easily think that 99% of the people in that area smoke. Is that a true statistic? Not at all. It's called perception. You perceive that the majority of people are doing something when, in fact, the majority are not. You ever hear of the saying "One bad apple spoils the bunch." What I believe that saying to means, is if you pick up a bushel of apples and see one bad one, you then think that all of them are bad, hence discarding that entire bunch without looking at the individual apples themselves. Think about it for a second. | |
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| Why are there so many young single mothers aged 18-22?
Posted: 9/27/2011 1:08:47 PM | Gerald Ford Jr (38th president of the USA) was 6 months old when his mother divored his father...
She remarried when her son was 3 years old.
Her second husband had no childten and they had three son together.
Gerald Ford did not know his DAD was not his biological father till he was 17.
They are good man out there ... They are just hard to find .... | |
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| Why are there so many young single mothers aged 18-22?
Posted: 9/27/2011 9:51:25 PM | | If you are mother you are a mother. If you are not content being a Mom then maybe you should have made other choices. I think yeah it would have been nice to have had my 4 1/2 year old when I was ready but instead she was born when I was 22. I wish my younger sister would have waited to have children but she had her first at 18. Yes, some of us did not make the best of decisions, but I think its perfectly okay to be content being a Mom because its what you are. We don't have to go walking around the rest of our lives with this young single mom label. Granted I am sure there are countless of young moms who wish they could have done somethings a little differently. Everyone has a story. | |
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| Why are there so many young single mothers aged 18-22?
Posted: 9/28/2011 11:43:48 PM | | Well the answer to the original post is real simple a lot of younger girls these days are immature and can't realize when a guy is playing them but they spread their legs anyways usually because they're "in love" usually due to just poor judgement or the fact that they just can't realize that their tall,tattoo'd,blue eyed boyfriend with a terrible band is just some poser douchebag but as long as he's cute they'll do him anyways. They use the excuse "I thought he was the one" or "he cheated he's a scumbag" when really they're the ones to blame for dating the guy. Facts aside I feel like its getting a lot more common or at least now single mothers are going out more because I agree I go into town and theres always 40 knocked up girls with no guy and an attitude problem more then I've seen in the past. Kids are very sexually active these days I think the real scumbags are the ones that "the condom broke" or "we don't need birth control we'll beat the odds" it just comes down to girls trusting the wrong guys and paying for it later nobody WANTS to be a single mother. That original post takes balls props for that especially knowing that 40 disgustingly retarded single mothers are gonna be like "oh hell no" cause they feel like their **** don't stink still and probably 50 guys that are trying to get laid are gonna say you're out of line for saying such a thing. Also yes you do have old fashioned views you feel like girls need to keep it in their pants and they should don't let anyone say anything different. If I seem angry yeah a little because I'm the guy that gets passed on while they're out making these mistakes. | |
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| Why are there so many young single mothers aged 18-22?
Posted: 9/29/2011 12:32:22 AM |
It's because they're uneducated, don't understand their anatomy, and fail to use protection. Further, it's because women think they can trap their man, or men think they can trap their woman.
& all this time i thought it was because i wanted children.....lol 
I think it should be a law that if you want to bring a child into the world, and you aren't yet married, you should be bound by law to raise the child alone with no government aid or child support.
Many married couples are using government aid. Esp. military families. It is not limited to single Mothers.
Making kids who are the victims of bad choices go hungry is not a solution.
Many women are pro-life
Staunchly, hardcore pro-choice here, & most of the Moms i know are as well.
the kid is going to need a real family unit. Otherwise, he/she will be MUCH less likely to develop into the person they ought to be. Without two role models, a child is unbalanced.
Families come in many shapes & sizes, educate yourself, get out into the world more.
SIngle Moms, Single Dads, married nuclear families, divorced couples, widowed parents, Grandparents, adoptive parents, step-parents, gay/lesbian parents, are all very capable of raising a child up with love & a good home. | |
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| Why are there so many young single mothers aged 18-22?
Posted: 9/29/2011 4:09:28 AM | Staunchly, hardcore pro-choice here, & most of the Moms i know are as well
IMO because it is a ready made ethical position that can be used to divert attention from an examination of their own poor decision making skills.
Combine this with a belief in "fate", astronomy and any manner of idiotic irrational beliefs and you have something that encapsulates the reasoning power of far too many young mothers.
Whats is more, without the influence of rational people in their lives the children of these mothers are going to be stunted by their parents idiotic illogical view of the world, their mothers family planning perspective and a distorted view of the value of education and men in family life. | |
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| Why are there so many young single mothers aged 18-22?
Posted: 9/29/2011 5:49:23 AM |
IMO because it is a ready made ethical position that can be used to divert attention from an examination of their own poor decision making skills.
Do you have ANY clue what it means to be pro-choice?
I may be a little fuzzy minded at the moment ebcause i have been up around the clock with a sick child, but last time i checked, pro-choice has nothing to do with what you are going on about?! Research pro-choice vs. pro-life. I am proud to be pro-choice, which i doubt you even have any concept of. Are you pro-life? Just curious.
Combine this with a belief in "fate", astronomy and any manner of idiotic irrational beliefs and you have something that encapsulates the reasoning power of far too many young mothers.
Im an idiot for believing that fate brings everyone the right person when the time is right? Because i choose to view the world differently than you do? it sure beats being bitter & hateful & prejudiced. So sorry your life has not been touched by any blessings. I choose to believe in fate because life has brough many good things my way. Last time i checked i was 31, hardly a young mother.
Whats is more, without the influence of rational people in their lives the children of these mothers are going to be stunted by their parents idiotic illogical view of the world, their mothers family planning perspective and a distorted view of the value of education and men in family life.
Excuse you??!!!! Because i choose to be open minded i am now an illogical idiot?!
if anything you are sounding like one. Why on earth are you insulting me? (I know, i know, i am a woman who chose to have children, that is is a perfectly good reason to be hated on)
And where on earth did you get the idea that i have no perspective on family planning, education, or family? I spent a great deal of time & money at a fertility specialist & countless hours researching how to concieve when dealing with infertility, i know more about reproducvtion than the average person. My children are recieving a wonderful top notch education at one of the best schools in the state, & have a wonderful, large, loving family. Both my relatives & my late husbands relatives are devoted to these kids, & they have a wonderful stepfather.
You are very angry & bitter it seems, i feel for your children to have to grow up with so much anger, hostility, & sheer spite, as well as the ignorance of the world at large. That is truly sad. SMDH. | |
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| Why are there so many young single mothers aged 18-22?
Posted: 9/29/2011 6:08:27 AM | Pro-choice is pro-sex education, pro-easily accesible conception, birth control, & pregnancy education.
Pro-choice is the belief that all women have the right to decide weather abortion, adoption, or giving birth is best for them, & that all 3 choices are OK to choose.
Pro-chouice means fewer abused children, less unsafe back alley abortions that could kill or seriously injure women, less children in foster care, & less children living in poverty, or to parents who do not want them.
Pro-choice is the belief that women have rights over thir own bodies.
Pro-choice is the belief that government has no place in a womans bedroom or uterus.
Pro-choice is pro-family, pro-woman, & pro-child. | |
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| Why are there so many young single mothers aged 18-22?
Posted: 9/29/2011 1:28:30 PM | Fourty years ago ...
Almost all teen mothers gaves away their baby for adoption.
The number of teen mothers is about the same as 40 years go...
Now most keep their baby.
The reason many young single mother are on POF is theyhave little time to find a guy ..
They are busy ... working and taking care of their children ... | |
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| Why are there so many young single mothers aged 18-22?
Posted: 10/1/2011 2:37:15 PM | | so obviously i did not read all the replies on here, but in my opinion the reason there are so many young single moms is because of young, single guys who are not committed and run away. back in the day if u got a girl pregnant u 'did the right thing' and married her. now, u just leave her....then the girl gets looked down on for being a single mother...come on | |
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| Why are there so many young single mothers aged 18-22?
Posted: 10/1/2011 2:56:04 PM |
I'm 19 and a single mom, and in a way I feel my whole life is passing me by..
Sweetie, it's not passing you by. It's taking a different path than most others your age. I feel for you, it must be a bit lonely too.
But baby grows up real fast and before you know it, you'll rejoin the rest of the world. Hope you're close to your mother  | |
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| Why are there so many young single mothers aged 18-22?
Posted: 10/2/2011 8:52:33 AM | I think it should be a law that if you want to bring a child into the world, and you aren't yet married, you should be bound by law to raise the child alone with no government aid or child support. This would make potential mothers think twice about popping kids out whenever they see fit.
Whoa.....last time I checked it takes two to make a baby. If a guy has unprotected sex with a woman it is just as much his fault as hers. Why should the child suffer and why should the man not have to help support the child? Maybe potential fathers should make sure they use protection..that might make them think twice about banging whomever they choose without and responsibility. And just fyi...I am not some bitter mother. I had children very young but I was married and just recently got divorced. Your attitude is scary...... | |
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| Why are there so many young single mothers aged 18-22?
Posted: 10/2/2011 10:08:58 AM | ''I think it should be a law that if you want to bring a child into the world, and you aren't yet married, you should be bound by law to raise the child alone with no government aid or child support. This would make potential mothers think twice about popping kids out whenever they see fit.''
Totally agree with you ros and what a stupid post anyway?
So a young girl falls pregnant and decides to have the child. And your law says you would give them no aid or support ?? So you would see them starve and make them homeless....While Patrick Penis who made her pregnant swans off to make his next baby with someone else having got a taste for proving his manhood works.
It takes two to have that baby and there are so many cases where the guy is the instigator. Assuring the girl that if they have the baby he will be there for her, that he desperately wants the child, that he is looking forward to being a father. When the girl seems unsure and considers a termination the guy is there crying, begging her not to cos ''Its my baby too'' promising her he will buy this and buy that and always support her...Then as the pregnancy reaches full term where is he, swigging Budweiser's with his mates, phone switched off, screwing other girls.
There are some damn fine girls between 18-22 who having become pregnant decide to keep the baby. Yes they are state reliant for a while but for every one that sees the welfare system as an alternative lifestyle there are others that go to night school, who hold down part time jobs.
I dont believe any girl WANTS to be a single parent they just happen to believe the flannel that comes out of a guys mouth or find out during the pregnancy what a total waste of space the guy is and rather than face uncertainty they make the decision to go it alone with a view to providing a better life for her and child as and when she is able to. | |
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| Why are there so many young single mothers aged 18-22?
Posted: 10/2/2011 7:08:58 PM |
I think it should be a law that if you want to bring a child into the world, and you aren't yet married, you should be bound by law to raise the child alone with no government aid or child support.
A lot of married couples are using government aid. | |
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| Why are there so many young single mothers aged 18-22?
Posted: 10/2/2011 7:55:46 PM | " think it should be a law that if you want to bring a child into the world, and you aren't yet married, you should be bound by law to raise the child alone with no government aid or child support. This would make potential mothers think twice about popping kids out whenever they see fit."
Jeez a little harsh. Many people dont fit the definition of a single mother. Most single mothers should get a high level of respect exspecially young ones (i am 20)...its hard to say unless you have walked a mile in those shoes. If you have children you must have rememberd the hours of crying feeding changing and bouncing a little new born around no? Imagine alone with no help not even a companion to talk to. Granted there are plenty of girls out there who do not set a high name to us, but there are many hard working ones like myself who are doing the best they can.
In my defence Id like to say i was with a great guy for 4 years, i got pregant and he just couldnt do it. Im still in school full time and work part time and am raising a beautiful little girl and wouldnt be ashamed to be a mother at all. | |
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| Why are there so many young single mothers aged 18-22?
Posted: 10/12/2011 2:35:15 AM | Lauraaynslee. I understand your position , and congratulation .
YET. If they don't have any help for the government , why not go all the way and shot them both now ?
Tried to think a little first. Who is going to suffer?
The child is.
No child support ?
Please, are you for real ?
So it is ok for a man to make a child, and not take the responsability for it ?
You may be doing a good job with your life and your child , and should be proud of your accomplishements. Yet, a little of compassion may help a little.
You are doing fine now. So many are not so lucky, It is amusing that you as a single mother think the way you do. What is not really surprising. You may be a smart cooky but look like you are turning up to be a very reactionair person. Don't turn your back on the less fortunates , you will become an old ugly woman, with a cold heart.
The question is coming from a person with little brain , or a limitted one.
It takes a "men",to get a young women pregnant, it is in the world I live on any way.
So one way or the other the question is not a valide one.
But interesting to see how people think. | |
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| Why are there so many young single mothers aged 18-22?
Posted: 10/12/2011 2:44:00 AM | By the way, if we want to make new laws , what about cutting the d.ck off the men who get them youngs ladies pregnant, then run?
Tried that and see what happen. I bet you the satistics will show you a new trend .
Then we can have a new gender . Women will not have to worry so much about the toilet seat left up any more. They "new gender" will have to seat down to pee , because I doubt very seriouly if the can do it standing up any longer after the "operation". | |
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| Why are there so many young single mothers aged 18-22?
Posted: 10/12/2011 7:02:54 AM | I just creased up laughing at that one .......
Can you just imadgine the scenario....
Billy turns up at the Dog and Duck to meet his mate Kev.....
Heyyy Billy I was just gonna get a beer in if you want one and as it happens Ive just met karen here and her friend Sarah... Thought we could all go down the beach after then back to mine, have a few more drinks and see where it goes...
(Whisper) Sorry mate you know that girl Mandy I met last summer, you know the one I was after for a while then dumped when she got preggers?
Oh Yea Billy I remember her . have you seen the baby yet?
Naw Kev I never bothered, you know me I just donate the sperm I dont hang around after...Well anyway the Penis Police caught up with me so they took me to the hospital and I had to have me balls and bits removed ....So if its ok you just go ahead and I will just have a few more beers
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| Why are there so many young single mothers aged 18-22?
Posted: 10/12/2011 6:29:55 PM | | I had my first child at age 20, but I was married at the time. Everyone has their own time when they are ready, and sometimes it's not planned so you are forced into parenthood before you are ready. Some people are never ready and go to their grave without any. To each their own :) | |
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| Why are there so many young single mothers aged 18-22?
Posted: 10/20/2011 5:05:00 PM | | I had my first child at 19. I was married though. Didn't even have sex til after I was married. I am now 24 my oldest is 5 my youngest is 2. I graduated High school and did everything like they did "in the old days." | |
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| Why are there so many young single mothers aged 18-22?
Posted: 10/20/2011 5:39:03 PM |
It's because they're uneducated, don't understand their anatomy, and fail to use protection. Further, it's because women think they can trap their man, or men think they can trap their woman.
I've met plenty of girls who want children, but can care less about establishing a family unit first. Many women will argue that they raise their children alone and are doing just fine, but chances are (9 times out of 10) they're draining the bio-father with child support and draining the government of welfare.
I think it should be a law that if you want to bring a child into the world, and you aren't yet married, you should be bound by law to raise the child alone with no government aid or child support. This would make potential mothers think twice about popping kids out whenever they see fit.
Many women are pro-life, but the fact of the matter is that whether or not you can afford to have a child, the kid is going to need a real family unit. Otherwise, he/she will be MUCH less likely to develop into the person they ought to be. Without two role models, a child is unbalanced.
Cheers.
Fly4pics, let me quote your whole input, msg 726, becaue it seemed to fire up a heated debate - so it i important not to take it out of context.
Basically, we can agree that we wish "more resposible parenthood decisions".
How can the Law give better incentives for people to decide more responsibly?
whatever the Law is, it is always some kind of compromise, between various lobby groups.
as for the money, much more money is spent on weapons, than on child support.... | |
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| Why are there so many young single mothers aged 18-22?
Posted: 10/20/2011 7:17:39 PM | sarahkatherine:
I had my first child at 19. I was married though. Didn't even have sex til after I was married. I am now 24 my oldest is 5 my youngest is 2. I graduated High school and did everything like they did "in the old days."
Come on, how crazy is it for a 19 yr old to be getting married and having babies. And now you're a single Mom. That's sad. A 19 yr old isn't mature enough to be settling down and marrying, no life experience, no relationship experience, no solid career or education. Now you're separated (children come from a broken home) and you're working at a fast-food joint to make a living. | |
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| Why are there so many young single mothers aged 18-22?
Posted: 10/21/2011 12:45:17 PM | Why is it crazy to be getting married at 19 and having babies? And why is it such a big issue if she does work in a fast food joint? Do you know why her and her hubby separated? Would it have been ok if she had married at 30 and then separated at 35 with two kids age 5 and 2 - Does that make it more Morally acceptable then to you Ice?
There are people around if you open your eyes who have got married young and stayed together all their lives- My Ex's parents married at 17 and 16 years old and 53 years later they are still together and there are lots of couples who got married in their late 20s and early 30s, had kids then div0rced. Worse still there are families right now that should NOT be. From the outside they look like the conventional family all cosy but hell is breaking out in doors!
So come on Ice, who said the ''Home'' is broken - The girl is working (OK go on turn your nose up cos shes flipping burgers) She is not on welfare. Maybe she likes it there, perhaps the hours fit better with her home life. We cant all be lawyers, doctors or bio chemists. For all you know she may have a supportive family network that is full of love.
Oh and who says she cant better herself educationally - She is only 24 for gods sake !!
within the next 5 years BOTH her kids will be at school and she has time to take on college even if its part time. Who knows maybe she might be Manager of her fast food place then - But then to you that's not good enough Ice.
Shes working, she is looking after her kids - In today's society and economic climate that's two big plus's. | |
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