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| Why are there so many young single mothers aged 18-22?
Posted: 7/2/2012 9:31:21 PM | | Sigh.. and old fashioned man would be a gentleman and would not put a woman down for the choices she's made in her life. No one says you have to date a single mom and if you're in your early 20s especially I wouldn't expect that you'd want to. All these women are having kids because some young stud who called himself old-fashioned came along and told them how wonderful and great they are and how wonderful and great everything will be and much of a good man and a gentlemen he is... then vanished when $hit got real. or some other story along those lines. for every single mother who is that age group there is a single father who hopefully is not a deadbeat.. but probably is.. just remember that when you judge.. if all it takes is once and *boop* preggo.. then the next once could be your once. | |
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| Why are there so many young single mothers aged 18-22?
Posted: 7/2/2012 9:47:43 PM |
Sigh.. and old fashioned man would be a gentleman and would not put a woman down for the choices she's made in her life.
Why not? Decent men, who have lived their lives intelligently, do not want some idiot who has popped out a bunch of kids with losers.
All these women are having kids because some young stud who called himself old-fashioned came along and told them how wonderful and great they are and how wonderful and great everything will be and much of a good man and a gentlemen he is... then vanished when $hit got real. or some other story along those lines.
Surely you don't actually believe that? The truth is, 99% of single moms fell for a loser. They knew he was a loser from day one, but they found it attractive. Decent men, responsible, morally upright men, are BORING. So, these idiots chase and f--k the lowest, scummiest, most worthless badboy they can find. Then, she cries and stomps her feet when, big surprise, the guy splits after she gets pregnant. Gee, you'd never have seen that coming!
These women get exactly what they deserve. Actions have consequences.
Bed.
Made.
Lie in it. | |
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| Why are there so many young single mothers aged 18-22?
Posted: 7/3/2012 1:17:13 AM |
But from what I'm seeing on here these women are having kids as accessories or something.
Holy hell.....lmfaooooooo......okayyyy.....no, just no.
Accesories, to me, are things like jewelries, handbags, sunglasses, hair decorations.
Not quite on the same level as my beloved, precious children, that i love immensely, & have immersed my life into raising them, providing for them, making them feel loved & special, & caring for them.
It is like having a piece of my heart & soul go walking around outside my body. I love them more than myself.
I would die or kill for them. They are part of me. The love is so intense that if i really stop & think how much I love them,
I get light headed from the immensity of the love that i feel in such a strong capacity.
I really cant say the same for, say, my newest purse or bracelet. | |
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| Why are there so many young single mothers aged 18-22?
Posted: 7/3/2012 1:47:41 AM | ^^^ Ummm.....you have a kid yourself, no? So you must be guilty of these very same things, yes?
Nope. I never ran away from my son. I have custody of him, and take care of him myself. His mother is mentally ill, she cannot help how she is. When I met her, she was a middle class university student, a talented writer and artist, and a historian like me. Someone with a bright and respectable future. Mental illness took away her ability to fulfill her potential. No one chooses to be mentally ill. She was a highly intelligent, talented woman. I still have a couple of her landscape photographs on my walls, and a number of them reside in private collections...sold from gallery and museum exhibits that her work was included in many years ago, in happier times.
The worthless men that most women chase are the exact opposite. They are scumbags because they choose to be scumbags. The women know they're worthless, and screw them anyway, because they're attracted to their personalities. The fact that these men have no education, no intelligence, nothing in life that means anything to them beyond getting laid and getting drunk/high just makes them all the more attractive to women. | |
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| Why are there so many young single mothers aged 18-22?
Posted: 7/3/2012 3:13:04 PM | | Any number of reasons, but a very common one is that are naive and actually believe it when some liar tells them he will love them forever. Reject her for believing and hoping the best? Reject the child who did nothing wrong? Never in a million years. | |
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| Why are there so many young single mothers aged 18-22?
Posted: 7/3/2012 3:47:50 PM | | disturbing the population is above and beyond 7 billion people and we keep having kids. Obviously they had unprotected sex and children out of wedlock. yup. kids having kids but they know it all so dont try to tell them any different. | |
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| Why are there so many young single mothers aged 18-22?
Posted: 7/3/2012 4:24:03 PM | Because a true gentleman simply wouldn't put a woman down for their choices in life especially when they have no idea what their situation is or what circumstances have occurred that brought on that situation. I didn't say they had to date the women if they choose not to.. Simply choosing not to date someone doesn't make you a bad person, it's the attitude and the way you treat that person that does. I don't say that 99% of single fathers chose to sleep with losers. because I KNOW they are in that situation for a reason.
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The truth is, 99% of single moms fell for a loser.
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But you just so happen to be in the 1% huh.. of course..?? And no.. 99% of us don't know the guy is a loser from day 1... just as YOU have a story as to why YOU are a single parent.. MANY of us single mother do and it's not simply he was a loser from day 1.. It's completely ridiculous to spew all the crap you just spewed and then give the perfectly reasonable explanation as to why you are in the situation you are in and conveniently exclude yourself from the "99%" you speak of.. Guess that means all the other single dads on this site are the losers.. since you are the 1 that isn't.. sounds pretty ridiculous doesn't it?? | |
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| Why are there so many young single mothers aged 18-22?
Posted: 7/3/2012 4:50:48 PM |
And no.. 99% of us don't know the guy is a loser from day 1...
So then, it still comes down to not knowing the guy well enough before you have sex or a kid with him...
The fact is, all too often when you look back at the guy, there were red flags... which were ignored, overlooked, or worse, the woman thought she could "change" him... | |
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| Why are there so many young single mothers aged 18-22?
Posted: 7/3/2012 10:54:08 PM |
Nope. I never ran away from my son. I have custody of him, and take care of him myself. His mother is mentally ill, she cannot help how she is. When I met her, she was a middle class university student, a talented writer and artist, and a historian like me. Someone with a bright and respectable future. Mental illness took away her ability to fulfill her potential. No one chooses to be mentally ill. She was a highly intelligent, talented woman. I still have a couple of her landscape photographs on my walls, and a number of them reside in private collections...sold from gallery and museum exhibits that her work was included in many years ago, in happier times
Ummmm, so you knocked up some cuckoo chick that is crazy to the point where she cant care for your son, but you talk about women choosing the wrong guys? Come on dude.........i respect completely that you are a good Dad & care for your child, but the judging on your part is, well, rather silly.
If I met someone like you in real life, say at a PTA meeting or something, I would respect you as a fellow parent, & as a single parent, maybe even try to strike up a friendship seeing as we have something in common, but you would just look at me & assume "dumb broad who sleeps with losers"? (i am a widow, but you wouldnt know that if you saw me with my kids, you might just assume i am one of those Maury Povich show type single mother). | |
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| Why are there so many young single mothers aged 18-22?
Posted: 7/4/2012 4:31:27 PM |
Ummmm, so you knocked up some cuckoo chick that is crazy to the point where she cant care for your son, but you talk about women choosing the wrong guys? Come on dude.........i respect completely that you are a good Dad & care for your child, but the judging on your part is, well, rather silly.
If I met someone like you in real life, say at a PTA meeting or something, I would respect you as a fellow parent, & as a single parent, maybe even try to strike up a friendship seeing as we have something in common, but you would just look at me & assume "dumb broad who sleeps with losers"? (i am a widow, but you wouldnt know that if you saw me with my kids, you might just assume i am one of those Maury Povich show type single mother).
She was able to care for him until a few yrs ago. If she'd been like that when I met her, I'd have never dated her.
Every day, I see women by the hundreds with men who are absolutely worthless. Guys with their pants hanging off their asses, guys who don't even have a car, who have zero education and even less ambition. You're damn right that I condemn them. Lie with dogs, get fleas.
Hell, even my mother admitted to me that most women of my generation are idiots and whores. After years of not working for a living (housewife), she got a job and has suffered serious culture shock from listening to her (mostly younger) co-workers talk about their personal lives, lol. | |
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| Why are there so many young single mothers aged 18-22?
Posted: 7/4/2012 4:31:30 PM |
So then, it still comes down to not knowing the guy well enough before you have sex or a kid with him...
Personally I think after 8 years of my life with him I knew him better than he knew himself and vice versa
Everyone has a reason why they are a single parent just like everyone has a reason why they are single, unemployed, still living at home at 40 etc
If a man asks me about my situation I will gladly tell him.
Smexi | |
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| Why are there so many young single mothers aged 18-22?
Posted: 7/5/2012 10:20:15 AM | | I elected to start my family at 18 years old. It was no problem for me and I never saw anything wrong with my actions nor do I regret having my first one so young. I was a responsible young mother who raised one child into her adulthood successfully; she is in university, no children and no marriage, and works a couple of jobs. | |
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| Why are there so many young single mothers aged 18-22?
Posted: 7/5/2012 4:42:52 PM | And the whining goes on. I still remember this one woman that was trying to get knocked up to cement the relationship with the guy. Sometimes the baby trap doesnt work and the guy splits cause he cant stand to be with you anymore.
Now the accidental hit and run unprotected sex scenarios are just pure animal lust that quickly goes bust.
Shit Im a poet just didnt know it. | |
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| Why are there so many young single mothers aged 18-22?
Posted: 7/13/2012 3:11:16 PM | | Because shit happens and some young parents sacrafice there teen years instead of killing or putting a baby up for adoption which can leave someone scared for life. Even though me and the mother or not together anymore i would much rather struggle and have him everyday knowing he loves me and i love him Then know I have a kid somewhere in the world or that the first child i could have had was aborted. | |
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| Why are there so many young single mothers aged 18-22?
Posted: 7/19/2012 1:19:15 PM | Sigh.. and old fashioned man would be a gentleman and would not put a woman down for the choices she's made in her life. No one says you have to date a single mom and if you're in your early 20s especially I wouldn't expect that you'd want to. All these women are having kids because some young stud who called himself old-fashioned came along and told them how wonderful and great they are and how wonderful and great everything will be and much of a good man and a gentlemen he is... then vanished when $hit got real. or some other story along those lines. for every single mother who is that age group there is a single father who hopefully is not a deadbeat.. but probably is.. just remember that when you judge.. if all it takes is once and *boop* preggo.. then the next once could be your once.
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There is so much truth in that post. - Nice one Confuzz!!
My daughter is twenty and has a one year old son. She had been with his father for two years and when she fell pregnant me and my wife at the time were devastated. She was doing well with her studies and had been accepted as Potential Officer candidate at Naval college. She had an implant but she took ill and we were told that the antibiotics she took were the likely reason she fell pregnant. Her boyfriend was holding down a secure job and was delighted at the prospect of becoming a father. My daughter wasnt quite so keen but also didnt want a termination. So life changed and she got an apartment. Boyfriend did not not move in but in fairness attended every appointment with her and bought stuff for the baby.
As her pregnancy progressed he started to go out more with his friends using the old excuse that he needed to spend time with them as when the baby arrived he would be moving in and his life would then be devoted to his new family.
Of course he never did fully move in. The slightest arguement and he would cloear off back to his mums. If baby wouldnt settle then he would use the excuse that he had work in the morning and needed his sleep - He would then go back to his mummys about 10pm leaving my daughter to look after baby.
He loved the idea of pushing the buggy round town showing off his son to friends. He loved it when people cooed and congratulated him on his lovely son. Truth was that he made my daughter an insecure wreak. He would stay at her apartment most nights but moan if the place was untidy. He would complain to friends that as soon as he came in my daughter would hand the baby to him to look after ( Truth was as soon as he got in he would demand she hand baby to him) Me and my daughters mum supported them as much as we could by providing essentials such as washing machine, dryer, cooker etc .
As the first year of being p[arents came to pass a big first birthday party was arranged for my grandson and I took the day off work. I could tell the novelty of being a dad was clearly wearing off for daughters boyfriend and after the party he made some excuse about having to help his mother and cleared off leaving my daughter and the rest of us to clean up...
Then bombshell ...Turns out daughters boyfriend had been seeing someone for a little while and decided to end the relationship with my daughter....No sooner had he done that but he makes all kinds of demands and accusations. He expects to see his son whenever he likes. His new girlfriend has the right to see his son whenever she likes so she can bond and become a good step mum. He tells my daughter that she cant have my grandson christened, that he is applying for custody cos the apartment is often untidy.
Apart from the emotional pain this tosser has inflicted on my daughter he has rubbished her on social networks and called her an unfit mother. He rings her and texts her demanding to see his son then never turns up until hours after the agreed time.
Its ok for him ..He has made his sperm donation and can swan around boasting about his son...Its my daughter left doing all the work bringing up the baby. He can go down the pub when he wants and have his life ... My daughter believed all the bullshit he gave her and the promises ...Of course they were too young to have a child together but having fallen pregnant yes she believed everything would work out ...Afterall he wanted a baby and a family, why should she not believe him?
After many tears and mourning my daughter realises what a jerk he is...We paid for her to go see friends and have a break and recently a new guy has come into her life...She is keeping him at a distance and is naturally wary about any committment. Ex boyfriend isnt at all happy about the prospect of another guy coming into his sons life but then that, as they say, is tough.
We have supported her and she has had the sense to start legal proceedings to make sure mummys boy pays child maintainance and an order is being drawn up for access so there are fixed days when he can see his son.
Life is not easy for my daughter but she is back at college part time, she has her own apartment and my grandson is well fed, well dressed and doing ok. Both me and her mum babysit for her sometimes so she can have a break and get out, see friends etc.
The reason there are so many single mothers ages 18-22 is because there are a lot of guys age 18-22 who make the bullshit promises as outlined by Confuzzled4ever. They think its proof of their manlyness and fertillity having "Made a baby" but they are too damn stupid to realise that any fertile guy can make a baby...Its takes a man to be a dad. | |
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| Why are there so many young single mothers aged 18-22?
Posted: 7/19/2012 2:07:52 PM |
She had been with his father for two years and when she fell pregnant me and my wife at the time were devastated. She was doing well with her studies and had been accepted as Potential Officer candidate at Naval college. She had an implant but she took ill and we were told that the antibiotics she took were the likely reason she fell pregnant.
Look, the fact that anti-biotics can affect the reliability of birth control has been well known for years...
I told me kids that before they were old enough to worry about it...
I told them a lot that they needed to know... Oddly enough, neither of my kids are single parents...
The reason there are so many single mothers ages 18-22 is because there are a lot of guys age 18-22 who make the bullshit promises as outlined by Confuzzled4ever
Actually a lot of the reason is because these kids "think" they can do it... but reality slaps them in the face... same as it does to young girls who think a baby would be "nice" to have...
We paid for her to go see friends and have a break and recently a new guy has come into her life...She is keeping him at a distance and is naturally wary about any committment.
Yep, typical, the girl has a kid with a "jerk" THEN she finally grows up and starts getting "wary" just a little too late...
But hey, the "jerk" gets to spread his genes and probably somewhere down the road, your daughter will meet a nice guy but by then she won't want any more kids... | |
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| Why are there so many young single mothers aged 18-22?
Posted: 7/19/2012 2:48:32 PM |
Reelax, I understand where you're coming from. I too have noticed that there are A LOT of great looking women who I'd love to try and date on here, but when I see they already have children and they're 25 I get turned right off.
I'll be the first one to admit that I shouldn't judge a woman who already has kids because all it takes is one time and *boop* preggo! But from what I'm seeing on here these women are having kids as accessories or something.
Call me old fashioned, but that's how I see it too. You're not alone.
If your interested in them, take the time to find out their story, some started families young, and for what ever reason the family unit fell apart, not just getting knocked up. Some of their stories and views may surprise you and show you their true value as a person :) | |
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| Why are there so many young single mothers aged 18-22?
Posted: 7/19/2012 2:48:53 PM |
Look, the fact that anti-biotics can affect the reliability of birth control has been well known for years...
Antibiotics only effect the pill that is consumed orally. There are other forms of birth control a woman can receive. The implanon (or bar) coil or injection as well as condoms
The only fool proof method is not to have sex obviously but that is not going to happen
Smexi | |
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| Why are there so many young single mothers aged 18-22?
Posted: 7/19/2012 2:49:48 PM | ilovehistory, with that attitude it's no wonder you're single, even a women without kids might not be so accepting of that attitude.
Seriously why is it your story is valid, yet you won't accept women may have found themselves in similar positions? by your opinion you child's mother cold be 1 of those dead beats. | |
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| Why are there so many young single mothers aged 18-22?
Posted: 7/19/2012 3:30:06 PM | Hello pete. Your daughter sounds like a strong woman. I hope she stays that way. As soon as a woman puts her foot down for some kind of consistency from the dad, the $hit hits the fan again.
It's funny.. When my sons fathers first baby was born it was a girl and no one paid any attention to her.. When my son was born for the first 3 months I couldn't get his family out of my life.. Now i'm the "reason" they stay away. Yea because I insisted that his father stick to some kind of routine when it comes to seeing the baby. Since I had work and attended college and had a multitude of other things to plan, but when he called he and said he'd be there in 10 and I wasn't home, I was expected to rush home.. I stopped rushing home, he stopped coming by and he wouldn't compromise or commit to anything. So it's all my fault... Hey whatever helps him sleep at night. Right? You just pick up and do what you have to do to make life better for the child. With or without him.
It drives me nuts that people think this is ok. It's not.. It boggles my mind that people think it's ok to ditch a child you helped create, especially since so many of us have a similar story to that of your daughters. It's not ok. And i'll repeat that until I can no longer speak, because a child really does need both parents and honestly the parents need each other's help to properly raise a child. Not that one can't do it alone, it's proven that you can, but it's so much harder.
Thank goodness your daughter has you to help her a bit.. Many single parents don't. Tell her to stay strong. If he wants to be a dad, he'll step up. She doesn't have to grant visitation to the new woman either.. but she can't stop him from taking the child around her.. Sucks but that's how it is. I really hope he grows up a bit for your grandchild's sake. | |
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