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Sorry to hear about things and as they stand with you but it's good to see that you are looking to going back to achieve something that you feel will help you in time. Life is not a bed of roses for anyone - we all have to work hard and strive to get what we want. At your age, the opportunities are endless. This is where you need too get your head strapped onto your shoulders real hard and work it. A job is a job, it pays and you in turn can pay bills. It's not bad at all but the drive should come from you. Being on welfare is an economic strain on the economy - help lighten it's load!
So good luck and when you do achieve your goals, stand tall and be proud of yourself ;) | |
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| Why are there so many young single mothers aged 18-22?
Posted: 2/9/2009 2:25:02 PM | Fun tall what are you on about? I was out of school at the age of 21 with completed education and couple of jobs experience when I had my first child, so what school bus please? And if we are talking about mothers and other adults who get further education in adulthood, well that's only commendable. I personally think it's a good idea to learn always. That's what life is about. During my stay at home I have self learnt what most go into university for and make a decent living on it.
Nobody, no matter what age has any idea what they are getting themselves into when they become parents for the first time. True, some less than others but this is not quite age related. We are NOT talking about school age mothers here in the first place. Your sweeping statements simply don't fly. I am certainly more of a society contributor than an average Joe, with or without kids and so are other mothers who contributed to this thread. A true minority of them is relying on benefits past the child's babyhood. So get your facts straight before your spew your crap. And one more thing - investing into the children, is far more of a society contribution than you are obviously admitting, therein pretty much lies the future. | |
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| Why are there so many young single mothers aged 18-22?
Posted: 2/9/2009 2:39:12 PM | ~ A true minority of them is relying on benefits past the child's babyhood~
When was the last time you went into a welfare office? Do you ever read the news-paper? I bet .... never! Now, take a trip into one of these offices and tell me you are wrong in what YOU say. Jesus!
~investing into the children, is far more of a society contribution than you are obviously admitting, therein pretty much lies the future~
Like what..........summer camp | |
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| Why are there so many young single mothers aged 18-22?
Posted: 2/9/2009 7:51:39 PM | Well you see fun tall, I don't hang out in welfare offices. What exactly are you doing there? I have never lived off benefits. And I was a mother at 21. I am one of those people whose fat taxes feed those people who do hang out in social security offices, you know, so I could be one of the first ones to complain. Trust me, there are many ways our government wastes money. I am not denying that some parents do take benefits. But they come in various ages and sexes. Like many rightly said, its not the age, it's a certain nature that makes you okay with living off benefits.
You are not making any sense with you summer camp comment. | |
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| Why are there so many young single mothers aged 18-22?
Posted: 2/11/2009 12:11:47 PM | | Let me just start here. I am going to be 20 in a few short months and I have 2 daughters both under the age of 2. They are 15 months apart. I got pregnant in high school and I am married to the man that I have my beautiful daughters with. My girls are both well taken care of and I dont think age has much to do with parenting at all. Granted, we should wait until after school, I completely agree. But parents cant be judged by their age. I have plenty of friends who have children and are doing great, and others who are doing a horrible job. Is it their age? No. It is their maturity level and their willingness to take responsibility. I dont see it as fair to judge parents by age at all. My mom told me everything I needed to know about sex, and I still went through with it. My husband was raised in church and he was taught abstinence all his life. But our parents dont make our decisions for us! We, as teens, think we know it all and proceed accordingly. Do I wish I had waited? Yes, but I love my daughters and I wouldnt trade them for the world. So before you go and judge someone for a choice they made in the heat of the moment, take the time to hear them out first. | |
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| Why are there so many young single mothers aged 18-22?
Posted: 2/11/2009 8:00:57 PM |
Good old fashioned family values have been tossed out the window in the past few decades. That is why we have the problems we have today.
OH Lady Margaret Beauford, why didn't I get knocked up at 13 like you? The world would've been a much better place with such good old fashioned family values!
Maya Angelou, have you no good old fashioned family values? | |
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| Why are there so many young single mothers aged 18-22?
Posted: 2/12/2009 4:20:49 PM | And all I have to say, is age does NOT determine how good of a parent you are. It is maturity level. And if we were to truly do things as they were done before, girls would be getting married and having babies ALOT younger.The other thing I have to point out is the fact that alot of these young mothers arent living off of the system. Im not! And 9 other girls that I am friends with arent either. We all have our own homes and vehicles and have no problems doing right by our children. And I give props to our men who are actually taking responsibility out there. You are definatly filling a HUGE role.
And mommie.marcie, I am glad your standing up for yourself and your son. There are so many out there who dont see everyday what single moms go through because the man is too much of a boy to take responsibility. for you too! And keep it up. | |
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| Why are there so many young single mothers aged 18-22?
Posted: 2/13/2009 10:02:45 AM | | for a lot of reasons, some women mature more rapidly then boys, so i think some younger women are ready to have children, and make the mistake of choosing a a boy to get pregnant with.....maybe in the hopes of the boy growing up, this is where it goes wrong, the boys run for the hills, do not live up to there responsabilities and the young woman is left with a dead beat dad | |
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| Why are there so many young single mothers aged 18-22?
Posted: 2/13/2009 3:27:14 PM | Well, i am a 26 yr old with a 2 1/2 yr old son. Things happen and when you're caught up in the moment, you may not sometimes think about what could happen. I did and stopped alot of times, but it took one time not to think about what could happen to me. now i am a single mom. that's something i have to deal with and enjoy what i have. i love my son and wouldn't trade him for anything in this world. not even a million dollars.
sometimes young girls may think that the father is going to stand there by their side. well, not too many do. my sons father did the same thing. when i was 8 months pregnant he told me in my kitchen that we were not together, and probably not ever going to be together.
you can't down someone for having a child at a young age. instead people need to tell them that they are still a good person. | |
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| Why are there so many young single mothers aged 18-22?
Posted: 2/14/2009 6:55:46 AM | simply because age 18- 22 usually meet with almost same age. They might not sure how it will go, are they able to continue or not and even though that they are not careful. The second man might appear in her life might be Mr right, but at the same time, Is he ready to be the kids Dad? he might think he will be or try or do his best.
I would say if she is young it is better for her to be careful in her early age until she is certain of how it will go otherwise she will understand me when she is 40 yrs old. | |
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| Why are there so many young single mothers aged 18-22?
Posted: 2/14/2009 7:58:07 AM | torquoise pixie
I understand, but why they do not take more time to have a better chance. It is not easy for kids to be raised up by a man not their Dad, but it hurts them if their dad does not ask about them and hurts more and more if he lives in town, it happens. Why all of that, because they were in hurry. The person who pay the expensive bill are the kids and their mam later. | |
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| Why are there so many young single mothers aged 18-22?
Posted: 2/14/2009 9:38:00 AM | | It can and also does happen in case where the person took all the time in the world. What is the point of sitting on a forum and judging others about something they cannot take back anyway? And mind you, normally they don't wish to take it back either. I regret nothing. As for the expensive bill that apparently both the parent and the kid pays - that is a waaaay too much of a generalisation. There are many kids that are better off being brought up by a single parent then some other kids who always had both parents together. Moreover, a single parent is not necessarily a sole parent. The parents might no longer be together but they can often both be in the child's life. That is pretty much my case. And I am paying no expensive bill, it's just something you are projecting on other people because you believe it. | |
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| Why are there so many young single mothers aged 18-22?
Posted: 2/14/2009 11:27:20 AM | | I am sorry if sounding to judge people but I am speaking in general not to specific cases it might be different. But I believe kids with the two parents are better with exceptions. Regretting is a sensitive issue we could say if a single mom got a baby from her partner after few months or so then discovered that it will not work and ended as a single mom and she should look for a good man match with her and their kids, Next if we asked her that time will go back and you know what will happen, are you going to find another person or will keep going even you know the result. i believe if it will happen that most ladies will say If I know I will not be involved with this guy, sounds good, but no one will be able to know the future nor going back on time to fix up, so the best way to be just careful, and this message for girls without any regretting if did not happen. | |
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| Why are there so many young single mothers aged 18-22?
Posted: 2/14/2009 10:55:36 PM | I'm going to take a wild guess and say that they had sex, got pregnant, and felt they were able to raise a child? Seems like a good answer anyway. What always amazes me about these questions and they are usually presented by men.....what do you think made them a single mother? Not all of us are Nadya Suleman....for most of us it too good old fashioned sex and a man....a man that refuses to take his share of responsibility and simply walks away because he "can't handle it" or some goofy reason like that.  | |
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| Why are there so many young single mothers aged 18-22?
Posted: 2/15/2009 12:52:36 PM | aniceman,
You simply cannot send messages that apply to everyone. You have no clue what is best for anyone, they are the best judge of that. You have some stereotype in your head which to you is more real than real people. Yes most kids are better off with both parents, but sometimes those parents cannot be together. Honestly wouldn't you be better off looking at issues that are relevant to your own life? You don't have kids and don't want any either, so why exactly are you even interested in this topic? | |
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| Why are there so many young single mothers aged 18-22?
Posted: 2/15/2009 1:14:08 PM | First of all. Your premise of 'old fashioned views' is totally wrong. My own mother was married and pregnant at 17. That was in 1964. My grandmother on my fathers side had her first child at 20, again married and settled. On my mothers side, it was 16; also married and settled. Both my grandmothers stayed married to the same man their entire lives. My mother divorced that man and married my own father ten years later. It has long been common for women to bear children at a 'young' age. The belief that people should wait until their late twenties or early thirties is a "new-fashioned belief". What bothers me, similar to you, is the alarming number that have never been married that are mothers; especially when it's plain from the pictures that multiple fathers are involved. Seems to me that they haven't figured out what causes that situation. Divorce and un-wed sexual relationships are the culprits to your quandry. Barring those situations, they wouldn't be on here at all!  | |
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| Why are there so many young single mothers aged 18-22?
Posted: 2/15/2009 1:36:28 PM | There was a short essay we had to read last year in college... 'Not All Men Are Sly Foxes' by Armin A. Brott. I'll even provide you with a link to Newsweek's online version. Check it out. http://www.newsweek.com/id/118260
It basically says that we teach this behaviour to our children, that fathers "don't exist." | |
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| Why are there so many young single mothers aged 18-22?
Posted: 2/15/2009 6:18:13 PM | | Age doesnt and shouldnt matter. My dad was 32 when i was born and he had a 2 year old son and a 12 year old stepson and he still high tailed it when i was 2! Some good parent, huh? My husband is 19, we have 2 little girls and he is more of a man than my father ever was. | |
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