| Why are there so many young single mothers aged 18-22?
Posted: 2/26/2009 7:50:05 AM | | There are so many ways around this whole situation. My family does not help me at all with my daughter! As for not being able to pay for daycare.. that's a load of crap because there is subsity for daycare where you may only pay $70 a month for daycare.. and if you still can't pay for that, well then my dear you have a problem. My daughters father hasn't been in her life and is no where to been see for the last 5 years now, so really like the last guy said, would you like some cheese with that wine? It's really not that hard, it's only hard if you make it that way. And you DO NOT need a man in your life to help you take of your son, if that's what you think that you need then you've got bigger issues than you think you do. So here are the rest of us single moms still walking in the same shoes you are and we're doing just fine! | |
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| Why are there so many young single mothers aged 18-22?
Posted: 2/26/2009 8:38:28 AM | | It's not that we chose to have children so young, it just happened. I was in a GREAT relationship when we found out that we were pregnant. We weren't preventing it but we werent trying at the same time. He left me for a 17 year old while I was pregnant...things happen, that's why! | |
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| Why are there so many young single mothers aged 18-22?
Posted: 2/26/2009 9:55:56 AM |
there are some single mothers out there that want a job... when someone can find me a job that pays better than me sitting at home, cooking, cleaning and looking after my baby... then ill go out and do it... kids having kids at 14 is not acceptable... but it happens, guess we just have to deal with it!
Get off your couch and go find one! Not being able to pay for childcare is the lamest excuse I have ever heard! The system (my paycheck) that pays your rent, puts food in your kids mouth, and probably dresses you quite nicely will GLADLY fund childcare in hopes you will one day get off your ass!
I would rather the $700 a month I pay in taxes go towards childcare for someone trying to better themselves then go to a lazy baby making machine!
[Quote] so im stuck at home and cant get a job yet because im trying to finish school
YES!!!!!!!! You see DJ, she uses the "system" as a TOOL, not a lifestyle... | |
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| Why are there so many young single mothers aged 18-22?
Posted: 2/26/2009 11:40:21 AM | | Why do people always judge young mothers?!?!just because they are young dosn't mean they are any different to any other mothers out there and it dosn't mean they can't be good mothers either!!If you can have sex at the age of 16 then why is it a problem to have children at that age .I am 21 and i had my son when i was 18 and i wouldn't change him for the world he is my number one and i have done really well bringing him up,me and his dad split when he was just 6 weeks old so i have done it all by myself with the help from my family.it isn't just young mothers there are young fathers out there aswell why are you not judging them?!?!Just because we are young dosn't mean we can't make big choices for ourselfs its noones elses buisness and i am a proud mother. | |
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| Why are there so many young single mothers aged 18-22?
Posted: 2/26/2009 12:23:26 PM | | some things happen and the reason im a single mum is because the bloke who i was with who was was actually 28 still hadnt grown up, i thnk single mums should be proud of themselfs cause it isnt easy but u learn to be strong x tasha | |
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| Why are there so many young single mothers aged 18-22?
Posted: 2/26/2009 3:50:43 PM | | No one judges young mothers for the simple fact they had kids early. Rather they judge the ones who do not prepare for their child when they are pregnant, have no long-term and short-term plan, can't afford to support their child, blame the teenage father for the decision, continue to make poor choices, expect the government and everyone to take care of them, and make no effort to better their lives for their children. | |
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| Why are there so many young single mothers aged 18-22?
Posted: 2/26/2009 4:20:20 PM | Just wht the heck is wrong with making the decision to have a child during your peak child-bearing years? I was married and owned my own business while attending college full time, when we decided to have a child. I was 20 when she was born, and it was the best thing that ever happened to me. In fact, she is the only good thing to come out of that marriage. I adore my child, I do not live off of the system, I am educated....yes, grasp the concept that you can get a good education while being a mother....Oh my God what an amazing thing!!!!!
So OP, get off of your high horse, and have some respect for the women who don't take the easy way out, single moms have the option to abort, so the ones who have the children are the ones who (most of the time) are being responsible and doing their best to make it in this world. If you don't want to date someone young with a child, then put it in your profile. But don't paint all young mothers with the same brush here...some of us made the CHOICE to have our children young...and we don't regret it. | |
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| Why are there so many young single mothers aged 18-22?
Posted: 2/26/2009 10:40:06 PM | | why is it the MAN is always at fault? not all guys are jerks, and some even get custody of the kids because the MOTHER is immature. yes women have it tough, and men cant carry a child for 9 months, but why is the MAN always being pointed at and bad mouthed about the entire pregnancy and childbirth issues. most women between 18 and 22 nowadays, have a problem with sleeping around, thats why there are so many single mothers. i have dated a few single mothers in that age range, and was astounded by their actions. a couple had been with enough guys to make 2 full football teams, and was bragging about it. now tell me why the MEN are always stereotyped as dogs. | |
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| Why are there so many young single mothers aged 18-22?
Posted: 2/27/2009 2:06:58 AM | Look, people make mistakes in a relationship. However, the children are not the mistake it was who they were involved with. Chilrdren are the most amazing and incredible and rewarrding things that can be experience in life.
I truly see it as a blessing instead of an issue. The reason being is that they have matured enough to figured out that there is no reason to be miserable for the rest of your life by staying in a relationship with someone who there is no love in their heart for. Buuts only stay because of the child or children.
Everyone deserves to be happy. Just because they may have a child does not make them anydifferenc that anyone else on this site.
In my opinion, it shows a great deal of intestinal fortitude and emotional strength not to mention they are comfortable in thier own skin with who they are and have the ability to stand up for themselves amd make a decision that is a major decision to leave the security.
So many people stay together for the wrong reason, Children, Jobs, Financing Inheritance. The list could go on forever. I commend any woman and or man that takes control of his or her life and musters the strength to walk awasy
I personally applaud them for the bravery to go out on their own and make a life fior themselves Not all men are cut out be be parents. Face it most men are not capable of what is needed to be a father after they climb to z bed with her and dont seem to care of the consequence of what has been done. It's most men were are mindless child whos hope to me a like children who arnt concerned about tomorrow.
I have always respected the singke mom. | |
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| Why are there so many young single mothers aged 18-22?
Posted: 2/27/2009 2:13:06 AM | No one judges young mothers for the simple fact they had kids early.
But they do Amore, this very thread is based on that. Not that I care. People who need to judge others are always unhappy with themselves for one reason or another, and that is what makes them do it. It would be far more beneficial for them to ask themselves "Why do I need to judge?", "Where does it come from?", "What bugs me about myself that makes me do it?"
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| Why are there so many young single mothers aged 18-22?
Posted: 2/27/2009 2:36:07 AM | Because in their infinite wisdom, the fundamentalist scream "abstinence" (something they can't do themselves), and then stick their heads in the sand and pretend teens won't have sex. Encouraging these teens to have safe sex seems a better idea, but then, that is the same thing as encouraging them to have sex period, isn’t it?
I wish I could take their ( the super religious hypocrites) stupidity and flog them with it. | |
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| Why are there so many young single mothers aged 18-22?
Posted: 2/27/2009 3:55:09 AM | Wow... what a question... i had my daughter at 19 i find it very rude for you to make a question like this.
Maybe were single mother cause you "men" dont know how to man up and take responsibility for your actions.
It takes two to make a baby...
You have a ****ed up perspective on life,maybe you shoukd think before you speak. | |
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| Why are there so many young single mothers aged 18-22?
Posted: 2/28/2009 10:12:56 AM | | Well Pils, for being a single mom also it is very easy for me to blame my daughters father for taking off! But it's not always the mens fault, it's easy to blame them because majority of the time it is them who don't stick around. But there are women out there that do the same thing. I know of a couple that were married and had 3 children, and she's the one that screwed off and left him with the kids! Now that's a man that I give the up most respect for! Raising 3 kids on his own and running his own business! Lol and with all those young women out there sleeping with the majority of male population... well i don't even know what to say about that! I find it very wrong, and what are they trying to teach their children! That it's alright to have so many people around? Not sure but i'm sure when their children grow up they will have some explaining to do! No one meets my daughter unless I feel it's the right thing to do! | |
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| Why are there so many young single mothers aged 18-22?
Posted: 2/28/2009 10:51:52 AM | Why should it be disturbing...apparently there is a fact that say, women mature faster then men...!!! I was pregnant with my first at 17 and had her at 18, and now i have a second one.. aint anything wrong with that. It takes courage to have kids...they take alot of time, and im sure everyone knows that. I lasted with there father for 3 years. And now im going on 21. Having kids, is the best thing that has happened to me. And im sure most moms would agree with me when i say, having kids changes every little thing about them, including immaturity(which is why we mature faster)
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| Why are there so many young single mothers aged 18-22?
Posted: 2/28/2009 11:05:37 PM | If more people had them, there would be less of us supporting them. Because, let's face it, most single mothers in that age bracket do not hold full-time jobs and live off the system. Part of it is a learned behavior and what kind of morals kids grow up with.
Sooooooo glad a lady said this instead of me! You hit the nail on the head! | |
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| Why are there so many young single mothers aged 18-22?
Posted: 3/1/2009 11:36:52 AM | | He must have not had sex till he was 25 or 30.. I started young at 12.... So i could have had a kid at 12.. Some times your not trying to make a kid you just there for the fun...Win your young you dont think that hell i'm going to be a 12 year old daddy.. | |
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| Why are there so many young single mothers aged 18-22?
Posted: 3/1/2009 1:01:30 PM | Thanks i totally agree Hi im a 21 yr old mother my babys farter is not around which is his option not mine. i dont undersatnd y all you ppl are talking about us like we have commited a crime or like we r horrible people. i was 20 we i became preg and i smoked and drank what 20 yr old dont party. When i found out i was preg all that stopped because my son didnt pick to smoke or drink just cause we are young it dosent mean we are crap mothers my son is well looked after and cared for. There is 30 yr old women out there who pick to have kids who take drugs drink party dont look after them so dont make out we are shit mothers cause most of us are not.  | |
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| Why are there so many young single mothers aged 18-22?
Posted: 3/1/2009 3:52:44 PM | | Ya know what I do understand what you mean about so many young girls having children, but none the less it isn't always something they plan. I am a single mother, I didn't choose to be, but it takes 2 people to make a marriage work. I'm only 23 and I have 3 kids. I was married for 3 years. My kids are very well cared for by me. I think I actually do have old fashioned values. I always wanted to get married young, have lots of children and do the whole cliche housewife thing. In these times yes mothers have to go to work, but back in the day, they didn't. That's old fashioned. I think that your posting was just uncalled for. | |
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| Why are there so many young single mothers aged 18-22?
Posted: 3/1/2009 3:54:03 PM | | I don't want to say accidents happen because I don't belive children are accidents but often times they're unplanned and unfortunately not everyone at that age is mature enough to step up to the plate and man up to their responsibilities. | |
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| Why are there so many young single mothers aged 18-22?
Posted: 3/1/2009 4:34:29 PM | I don't understand how you can say that I'm not mature enough to be a mother? If I was mature enough to take the plunge to get married, I'm mature enough to get married. If we can give our lives to our country by making our own decision, we're mature enough to be mothers.
The next time you question such a miracle from God, just remember that child is a gift from God. Everything happens for a reason. One day, you'll probably meet a woman who became a mother at such a young age. Some day, it'll all make perfect sense.
In the meantime, please do not make another woman feel horrible for the fact that she is a young single mother. We face enough stigmatism without it.
-Summer | |
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| Why are there so many young single mothers aged 18-22?
Posted: 3/7/2009 8:33:41 AM | because there dating single boys there age, and think that they can change these boys
the fact is that some women are ready to be mothers at this age, but very very few boys are ready for the responsibility , this is really a north american problem, the worst part is that they dont get it the first time, and go back to find another boy... and do it again!!lol | |
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| Why are there so many young single mothers aged 18-22?
Posted: 3/7/2009 8:58:49 AM | Because many people do not adhere to a stigma of having children out of wedlock or before they can fully support them. The fear of getting pregnant is almost non-existent today. Far too many social programs and government hand outs available if you screw up. If they did not exist more young people would make damn well sure that the condom did not break and the girl was on the pill as well. Or even crazier that they really knew each other and had a love relationship before having sex. We live in a feel good society where people would rather risk pregnancy than to say "I cannot afford condoms or did not take my pill today" or even worse "I don't even know this person"
Young parent does not equal bad parent. But it sure slows down the chances of a good job or good education in most cases unless they have a huge support system.
But why are you OP point the finger at the females? Last time I checked a male donor was required so there are just as many single Dads out there too. The problem is that many of these guys walk away and leave the young lady to fend for herself. WHY? Because they barely know one another and can't admit that they are far too immature to take on the needs of another person. At 16-20 most people cannot afford to be independent but it sure as hell does not stop them from having casual risky sex. | |
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| Why are there so many young single mothers aged 18-22?
Posted: 3/7/2009 10:20:51 AM |
I don't understand how you can say that I'm not mature enough to be a mother? If I was mature enough to take the plunge to get married, I'm mature enough to get married. If we can give our lives to our country by making our own decision, we're mature enough to be mothers.
That's BS... you don't need to be mature to get married or to have a baby or go to war for your country. So the idea that young single moms have babies because they are "mature" is bull crap.
If they had tests for maturity... there wouldn't be many married people, or parents, or people in the military. Good try though. | |
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