| First meeting someone from Online
Posted: 1/7/2009 8:24:29 AM | Maybe on line dating isn't for you. Perhaps you need to meet people through some other approach.
As for the guy. Have a girlfriend meet him and then introduce you to him. | |
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| First meeting someone from Online
Posted: 1/7/2009 10:49:18 AM | hey jess i had the same problem ....for over a year i was on here and just couldnt meet or give out my phone num. i loved talking but when it came down to it i would miss out from running . then i had this guy i was really into i told him about me being scared , he let me no that it is no different then meeting someone at the grocery store or else where so i held my breath accepted a few dates (but not with him) and they went great! wel ok not all of them but u no if your uncomfortable or not feelin it just leave ,u can always say i left my sweater in the car:~) ...you no also guys are just as nervous as us ....remember that, it can make you smile in the middle of the date just watching how nervous they are LOL.
and just to let you no the guy who told me to get out there was the one i wanted bad thank goodness i went on the other dates so when he asked me out i was alot more comfortable we are 2gether now ..........so jump in get the first ones over find you comfort zone so u r ready when your fish comes along. | |
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| First meeting someone from Online
Posted: 1/7/2009 11:16:13 AM | | I feel that most of the time it is both people that are nervous about speaking on the phone let alone meeting. Get to a point where you're happy and in a real good mood or just need to let off steam (depending on how well you know him) and then give him a call. He will probably be just as nervous as you, speaking to them on the phone before you meet is much better as you more than likely will have a few jokes and get to know what they are like a bit more as on the phone you don't have time to think of an answer like on an IM service, therefore you know his instant reactions to things. It isn't all that bad meeting someone from the internet as long as you know them. Maybe meet him with a few of your friends and a few of his somewhere socially, that way there is less chance of awkward silences. :) | |
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| First meeting someone from Online
Posted: 1/7/2009 3:02:30 PM | I can totally understand being nervous meeting someone the first time, i was the same. When i first met someone off POF we arranged for me to collect her from a bus stop, we then we went down to the beach for a walk. This way i didn't know where she lived which was fine, you don't want to give just anyone your home address. I did have her mobile number but was told for emergency only, which was fine. After a walk along the beach, a few KM's from the car it started raining, then hail! by the time we got back to the car we were both soaked, great first meeting, one neither of us have forgotten. She obviously felt comfortable enough with me as she got me to drop her off at her house, we have been hanging out ever since.
Meeting in public places is a very good idea. I know you need to meet face to face to get the *vibe* to see if they are ok or not.
Good luck OP!!! | |
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| First meeting someone from Online
Posted: 1/8/2009 8:05:30 PM | You have to remember that all of us are nervous to some degree until we get to know someone. Perhaps it's easier to be outgoing when you didn't expect to meet someone, so you don't have a pre-conceived notion of how to handle the situation. No expectation, no anxiety. Online, we are putting a lot of thought and effort into finding someone.
Tell him if you would feel more comfortable with messages or using IM here for a while longer until you feel you know enough about the other person to be able to carry on a conversation by phone or in person. Keep this in mind. Conversations by messages or by phone will not tell you very much about that person. You came here to meet someone. He is just as nervous as you are. Meet him in a place you've been to before if that makes you more comfortable, think of some things you would like to talk about or questions to ask him, and the nervousness will pass.
Good luck! | |
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