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| Do most women hate sex, and only do it to please men?
Posted: 1/4/2009 8:58:38 PM | Ok, call me old fashioned, but I see a woman that likes to **** people a slut and a man that does the same a man whore.....that doesn't take money. also, i consider you easy if you will **** just to ****
and whether you differ in opinion or not, i couldn't care less what anybody else thinks of my opinion | |
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| Do most women hate sex, and only do it to please men?
Posted: 1/4/2009 9:30:45 PM | Hmm...this is interesting.
I will flat out admit that I LOVE sex. That being said, I have only had sex with one man. My now ex husband.
I was a virgin when we married and was raised in that whole, religious, gotta be married before you have sex...thing. So I didnt know a THING about sex.
When I got pregnant my sex drive went through the roof and stayed there. I was BEGGING my ex for sex and he..after teaching me everything he knew...told me I was a freak and pervert for wanting sex so much.
Now that we are divorced and I am trying to get back into the dating scene again I have often thought about the whole "sex just for the sake of having sex" idea. One guy I met...through this site actually...basically asked me to be his **** buddy. I REALLY like him and we talked through email, texts, IM's and phone calls almost around the clock for about 6 months. I fell for him HARD! And then the **** buddy idea came up. I thought about it for awhile and I realized that I couldnt be just a **** buddy to him because I knew I would get attached and get my heart broken. Needless to say, we never had sex but because I didnt want to be his **** buddy..obviously he didnt want or need me for anything else. He dropped me a few weeks ago.
It wasnt that I didnt feel I couldnt have sex just for the sake of having sex. I dont see the problem with that. And I certainly no longer think you have to be married first before having sex. I just knew that, with him, I wanted MORE than just to be his **** buddy. And I think I knew in the back of my head that it really wasnt ever going to go anywhere and I was just going to get really hurt.
There are a LOT of women out there who love having sex. And all kinds of different, kinky sex!! LOL! But there are just as many women out there who have been hurt through sex and arent as willing to take their walls down just for a fling. Hey..if you have the ability to have sex with someone and NOT feel anything for them..more power to you. I wish I had a little of that. But I think the main issue is that if you are only looking for someone to **** whenever the need arises..just say so. Dont sweet talk someone and lure them in with the idea of a relationship when that isnt what you want. And I think that if you really care about someone then it doesnt matter how good they are at sex. That is something the two of you could work together on and fix. | |
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| Do most women hate sex, and only do it to please men?
Posted: 1/4/2009 9:38:29 PM | | Wildman, you said you'd call. You said I was beautiful and you'd call. You never called... I never would of did it if I'd knew you wouldn't call. Would you of called if I didn't done it? Would you of? | |
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| Do most women hate sex, and only do it to please men?
Posted: 1/4/2009 9:46:04 PM | I love love love sex... I won't lie... but I also know how to put it in its perspective...
Sex with just anyone is just that... just sex... which is rather boring...
to me sex is so much more exciting with someone I truly care about.
There are a lot of men out there that will have sex with a woman and then move on to the next conquest... just as there are many women who will do the same... but to me that isn't because of the man/woman who left... people need to be smarter about who they allow intimacy with them and need to be more upfront about their expectations in the relationship.
I am in control of every aspect of my life... and no "big bad man" is ever going to "use" me or "take" something from me that I am not ready, willing and able to give. If I choose to give it... then I choose to... and if he excepts it and then decides he wants to move on... well then... if just wasn't meant to be I guess... brush my shoulders off...
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| Do most women hate sex, and only do it to please men?
Posted: 1/4/2009 10:01:14 PM | | I honestly think that if a woman has a connection 2 a man, then they will build on that. A man is sexual, and a woman passionate. A woman is connected thru their partner and a man thru thermones, thus there is something missing. If a man can figure this out and find a common balance, then by giving her pleasure first, will give every man an edge thru satisfying her first, and make her happy will put ur self in the hall of fame..... | |
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| Do most women hate sex, and only do it to please men?
Posted: 1/4/2009 10:19:25 PM |
You sound like a sexually liberated woman. Wish there were many more women like you. But I think it's more socialization and social expectation than anything.
Indeed. Some women however, choose to live their lives by societal standards instead of their own standards. Its unfortunate..having more sexuallyy liberated women would make dating far more easy for everyone. | |
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| Do most women hate sex, and only do it to please men?
Posted: 1/4/2009 10:34:19 PM |
I wonder if that's why I keep asking my right hand to be exclusive?
My reply ... I agree that making luv is the best sex but just sex is SO MUCH FUN ... Maybe I should ask bob to make it exclusive .... oops where is he ? I think I dumped his sorry plastic wanna be shaft in the closet ... lol ... He isnt any good with out a man ... lol ...
Did you just insult my boyfriend?
Them's fightin words! | |
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| Do most women hate sex, and only do it to please men?
Posted: 1/5/2009 6:28:52 AM |
I hate to burst your bubble but men don't own the monopoly on sexual urges and insatiable sexual appetites. Many women, including me, can definitely understand your position.
With all due respect wcms1963, I seriously doubt it.
I'm sure many women have bouts of major 'horniness', but do they feel that way again after 24 hours? 12?
That women can crave sex every bit as much as men is entirely believable. However, for men, our satisfaction period of rest is much shorter. Be thankful we are such dogs, while it no doubt gets annoying, it does allow many of you to get away with murder. | |
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| Do most women hate sex, and only do it to please men?
Posted: 1/5/2009 6:56:07 AM |
but do they feel that way again after 24 hours? 12?
Hell yeah! And a lot sooner than 12 hours. Not all women are happy with one orgasm to hold them for the week. It drives me crazy when a lover assumes we've come to the end of the line once I've come the first time. | |
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| Do most women hate sex, and only do it to please men?
Posted: 1/5/2009 7:03:04 AM | No we don't hate sex. What we hate is bad sex . Men who don't have a clue. It's called wasting our time.
But show me a man that knows how to satisfy not only my mind but my body and you my friend will have a happy woman on your hands | |
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| Do most women hate sex, and only do it to please men?
Posted: 1/5/2009 7:56:55 AM |
Not all women are happy with one orgasm to hold them for the week. It drives me crazy when a lover assumes we've come to the end of the line once I've come the first time.
One lover, almost always a good sport about anything, could never bring herself to talk during sex, despite my encouragement, and yeah, leading by example (which, as a leadership technique, almost never works). But after one great "session", as I was sinking into the sheets, she brought her lips to mine, and said, "5, 7, 4, 11, and 6". I thought she was sharing her pin number at first, but through much laughter, she told me she was rating the O's she'd just had. It had little to do with me (I was just standing real close to the pile); it was all her. Closest she ever got to talking during sex (she'd just get this tight-lipped, eyes-tight-shut look like she was reeeeaaaallly concentrating). Maybe she was seeing some other guy on the backs of her eyelids. Lol. But she made me feel like the luckiest man on earth.
Sorry, maybe a little off-topic, but orgasms, ime, come from within. Just gotta find the right Triggers (I know, I know, Lone Ranger's horse).
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| Do most women hate sex, and only do it to please men?
Posted: 1/5/2009 8:05:30 AM |
having more sexuallyy liberated women would make dating far more easy for everyone.
One would think that, but it seems that this comment would only apply to those men and women who are open minded and more accepting of change. However, I believe those stuck in the "then" probably have a hard time with this. | |
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| Do most women hate sex, and only do it to please men?
Posted: 1/5/2009 8:10:18 AM | Oh honey....I get horny again almost right after orgasm. I am horny all the freakin time it seems. Then again, its been a loooong time for me. 
However, when I was actively having sex I was always ready to go again before he was. I was always wanting sex more than he was. He started calling me a freak and a pervert because I wanted to have sex almost every day. Now, had I been like that at the beginning of our relationship he would have been happy. It took me about 2 years into our marriage before I started wanting sex all the time. By then, he wasnt interested.
So yeah...men arent the only ones who knows what its like to crave sex and have a partner that isnt interested. | |
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| Do most women hate sex, and only do it to please men?
Posted: 1/5/2009 9:08:30 AM |
Really there are women like you out there? Then how do you explain this constant barrage of whiney" I was used and kicked to the curb after he got what he wanted" threads I see in the forums 100 times a day?
Yes, I've met a few women like her. It wouldn't be, er fashionable even today for a guy to complain that he got kicked to the curb after she got what she wanted.
However, if a woman blames the break up of a starting relationship on the guy only being after a one night stand...
- It's conventional
- It frees her from any responsibility | |
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| Do most women hate sex, and only do it to please men?
Posted: 1/5/2009 9:34:52 AM | I'm a huntress at times myself, so I'm sure I have had my fair share of victims as you put it. The reality is at this point in our lives, no one "makes" you do something you don't want to do.
If someone is having trouble saying no and sticking with that decision, then they have issues bigger than sex. They have self esteem and confidence issues.
Of course there are the few exceptions to every rule, there are those men who do use women and vice versa. But the major of men and women are not into playing games. A few bad eggs make it bad for all... how sad at our age too. | |
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| Do most women hate sex, and only do it to please men?
Posted: 1/5/2009 10:05:59 AM |
most women never ever have sex because they want to, they only do it after being seduced by some smooth talking guy.
Actually I rubbed her feet.
Is there ANY woman out there that actually love sex?
One woman said she saw colors exploding in her head at times when we had sex. I sort of took it she liked it.
I really wish the trolls would answer the question instead of trying to promote themselves by bragging about their sex skills. Tell it to the moon, nobody gives a crap. | |
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| Do most women hate sex, and only do it to please men?
Posted: 1/5/2009 10:15:20 AM | I would only love sex if it was with someone I loved. I don't do casual sex or one night stands because I like knowing that the person I am with is caring and loves me back. Also trust, It is more enjoyable with someone you know and trust and also again, love.
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| Do most women hate sex, and only do it to please men?
Posted: 1/5/2009 11:52:00 AM | I don't look at it that way. I don't know many men who couldn't find it elsewhere, unless they were either picky about it, or simply didn't want it somewhere else. That has nothing to do with the fact that they can. They can pay for it if that's what they need to do...there's always a way.
That is the way it SHOULD be, but to say that it is that way is to deny reality. Most men are prisoners of their own egos, so they ARE picky and their egos are too fragile to pay for sex because that lacks the element of conquest. Women DO exploit that. I'm not saying they shouldn't exploit it, either. I'm just saying they do. It's an observation, not a crticism. In my opinion, those whose egos prevents them from doing something they want to do, are welcome to be miserable. Women do manipulate men with sex and that if men recognized it and took advantage of their options, they would level the field. Instead, they do things that disadvantage them further. If what I want is sex, I pay for it. Then I'm never in the position of having my d1ck rule my life. (The only issue this has created is that I've had escorts want to date me. However, dating an escort has, in itself has been an interesting experience, so I'm not complaining.) | |
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