| Calling in help! What do I do!?
Posted: 1/8/2009 12:05:51 PM | | Obsessed? Try passionate to find the love of yer life and eliminating all possibilities. I'm far from obsessed, but that's always easy to say on the outside looking in. | |
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| Calling in help! What do I do!?
Posted: 1/8/2009 12:12:51 PM | you are not obsessed, infatuated- sure, not obsessed.
mail and or email her regularly and just be a friend til your done with AIT. AIT is not Basic, not prison, you have liberty, you have mail, computers, TV. As far as the 'army guarAINTee-ing you your pick- NoT! only if your pick and their pick are the same thing. GL
P.S. go Air Assault- easy two weeks get a patch! | |
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| Calling in help! What do I do!?
Posted: 1/8/2009 2:02:50 PM | You have six choices  I'm sorry but my son & son-in-law who are both career Army (son-in-law use to be Air Force) and they have yet to go where they picked, well except when my son has picked Iraq and Afghanistan. You could get your pick of one of 6 but I wouldn't bet on it.
The woman doesn't want to meet you, I don't know if she's trying to let you down easily or if she's scared or indifferent, but she said no, you should really stop trying to build something from nothing. If she wants to communicate with you she will if not, leave her alone. You are going to be very busy, the last thing you need is to be thinking about a woman you've never met, plus you are going to meet so many new people.
Good luck in your training! | |
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| Calling in help! What do I do!?
Posted: 1/9/2009 7:08:01 PM | She just IM'ed me, said she missed talking to me, and hopes to talk to me soon. I wasn't here to reply then. Either she's chokin' my chain really good, or there was validity to our conversation like I thought.
I hope I'm not wrong in this, but you know when you first talk to someone and you can just tell they speak from the heart? I feel that... though I've been through enough to there's always variables, so I play it with my head as well as with my heart. | |
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| Calling in help! What do I do!?
Posted: 1/9/2009 7:21:29 PM | | Honestly you are deflecting and I don't blame you, your putting the worry of leaving on her. She is not "the one" as you say for you haven't even met her...meeting her would only make it harder to leave. My 2 cents, focus on being safe and thank you for joining the military, very honorable...check in on her when you get back, chicks love guys in uniforms it is all good. | |
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Posted: 1/9/2009 7:54:49 PM | Me leaving is inevitable... the worry, or any other emotion of it is a bi-product, I can't help that. Never gave her any guilt trip about it or anything. And yer right, it would make it harder, but I know how to control my emotions enough to deal with it, let alone there's plenty more harder things I'm worrying about.
I appreciate the 2 cents, and ultimately, that's the reality of it. That IS where my mind is. I'm not some new recruit out of college, so I know what ya mean. | |
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| Calling in help! What do I do!?
Posted: 1/9/2009 8:05:30 PM | She likes you lots, Boss. She's worried about HER pain when you leave.
I know how to control my emotions enough to deal with it, Perhaps she's not so strong in controlling hers? Something to think about.. Guard her heart. | |
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| Calling in help! What do I do!?
Posted: 1/10/2009 6:23:06 PM | Gotta let it go for now , if it was my sister ,I would think she made the right choice due to the timing .
You know a farmer will plant his seed and wait for the result of that effort..months of waiting.
Hopefully that crop provides a good harvest but only time will tell.
You talked to this woman and I am sure you will not be forgotten in the 8 months your gone..let the memories you left behind do thier thing..just like the seeds the farmer left behind ..hopefully in 8 months it provides you will something amazing as well
stay safe young man
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| Calling in help! What do I do!?
Posted: 1/10/2009 8:50:16 PM | Speaking as an ex Navy wife...
If she doesn't feel as though she wants to get into a relationship with someone who is going to be away for any length of time, please do not push it. I used to tell new wives and fiancees soon to be Navy wives, "Remember, you were not issued in the seabag." When they asked me what I meant, I would tell them, I can not explain it, just always remember that sentence and one day, it will dawn on you and hopefully, you will know you will be okay! (Because of course, everyone handles separation differently.)
You two have yet to meet. She could just not feel the way you do, she could have met someone else, or she could honestly feel in her being, she doesn't want to have to deal with a long distance relationship.
When you come back, try giving her a call, see if she wants to meet then, but if not, don't push it. You really shouldn't want to be in a relationship you have to force, no matter how strongly you feel about it.
Good luck :o) and thanks for serving!!! | |
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| Calling in help! What do I do!?
Posted: 1/12/2009 5:04:19 PM | LoL... I know what ya mean penelope. If they military wanted you to have a woman, they would've issued you one.
I'm just letting it ride for now. We talked again, and it was another wonderful conversation, in depth, and constructive. She said she'd still like to talk when I can, and I will still talk to her. She is talking to other guys, which is fine, otherwise I'd be psychotic. I care about her enough to know she deserves what she wants, and she needs to find it no matter where or who it might be. | |
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