| Do women in Oregon ever mail first
Posted: 1/24/2009 6:11:05 PM | I looked at your profile and see absolutely nothing wrong with it.
You are on three members fav list...so you're not being ignored.
My next question would be WHO are you writing...and WHAT are you saying?????
oh...and ps...
You've been here as long as Nerdy...calm down. Let the girls get to know you. | |
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| Do women in Oregon ever mail first
Posted: 1/24/2009 7:17:44 PM |
how do you say "I am not interested" without hurting feelings.
You're not my type. Easy as that. You can give a reason or two if you have them. Like if it's cause they're too big you can say. "I'm pretty active and like a woman you can fit into a size 5."  j/k
Seriously just a 'not interested' or if you feel guilty about it a little white lie about 'i'm interested in someone else right now'. It never hurts. A simple read/delete works well too. It's a pretty obvious not interested sign. Or remove yourself from their favorites if they've added you. | |
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| Do women in Oregon ever mail first
Posted: 2/22/2009 8:36:06 AM | I always email first when I see a handsome face that appeals to me. However, nobody replies. All my emails say are Hi, I read your profile and like what you have to say nice to see somone putting themselves out there without being afraid. No thank you for noticing me or the compliments given, its either they are read and deleted or deleted period. I guess some guys just lack the social skills to say thank you to a compliment.
Regards, Ellen | |
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| Do women in Oregon ever mail first
Posted: 3/2/2009 8:39:30 PM | Agreed Ellen!!!
So many are lacking in social skills, the courtesy of a simple reply is so lost. I'll at least reply, even if the person sending a message is smarmy, ugly, or flat-out stupid... I'll at least (nicely) let them know I'm not interested. | |
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| Do women in Oregon ever mail first
Posted: 5/13/2009 4:21:23 PM | No....never. (but I doubt it's limited to Oregon)
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| Do women in Oregon ever mail first
Posted: 5/17/2009 10:03:01 AM | | Do men ever reply to woman who email first? I completely agree with you about why be on here if you aren't going to converse with people. Good luck with your searching :-) | |
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| Do women in Oregon ever mail first
Posted: 5/25/2009 8:28:32 PM | So do women ever email first???
I can say YES, I do all the time. What have we got to loose? This is the beginning of a conversation.
But the true question is...do guys ever RESPOND when they have read our message?
I have found that maybe 1 out of every 10 I email first will respond. And we know that the messages have been read.
So, what is up with that? (' ') | |
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| Do women in Oregon ever mail first
Posted: 6/4/2009 9:19:00 PM | i would have to say that after having been on several sights i have made the majority of the first contacts. i am a very social and outgoing person with quite a bit of confidence and i think that plays a big part of my willingness to be the first contact. learning to not take a lack on connection personal.
truthfully i'm a little disappointed with the amount of first contacts i get from men. i'm wondering what stops a guy from making the first contact, but that would be another discussion thread, wouldn't it? | |
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| Do women in Oregon ever mail first
Posted: 6/25/2009 12:04:24 AM | Yes they do! And a good thing, too. One I'm most interested in I cannot find by searching, so likely wouldn't have 'met' her on my own. Also, I haven't initiated anything yet - between being out of town and unexpectedly busy I haven't had the time to look over many profiles.
I joined just over a week ago and have had 7 women write and a couple of those are moving from email to meeting. At this point I'm going to see where these initial get together's go before I venture any contacts. I'm not a serial dater kinda guy.
And yes, I do write everyone back and will continue to do so. I appreciate it and I figure it's best to give what I want to receive.
As for your profile (I should probably look at it, but haven't yet) here's my take on it... if you're honest with yourself and honest on your profile, and you're willing to trust in yourself to attract what you want then don't sweat what you do or don't get just because what you want hasn't arrived yet. Things just take as much time as they take.
I'd say good luck, but my feeling is you don't need it - you've got all you need!
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| Do women in Oregon ever mail first
Posted: 7/5/2009 1:56:24 PM | | Well, I'm a woman in Oregon and I've emailed plenty and have gotten only one response. So, I'm thinking it's not connected to gender! I've been reading some of the forums and it appears the percentages of responses is pretty low all the way around. | |
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Posted: 7/16/2009 7:49:49 PM | Yep I have initiated the first email several times...I even learned to tolerate the ocassional Unread/deleted or read/deleted sign with no return message. Unread/deleted one is the one that makes me wonder the most. Hey sometimes I not looking for anything just complimenting them on one of their pics, something said in their profile, or music they have. Occasionally I do have a question about soemthing said and it would be nice to have it answered.
a simple dont bother me would be better actually.
Overall though I think most have be real gentlemen.... | |
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Posted: 7/17/2009 11:42:01 PM | | I've had a number of women initiate with me, including the one I'm now leaving this site for: fisherwoman. She is like a dream come true. We hit it off in everyway. So love can happen for you on this site, and it can happen when a woman initiates, as well. Good luck. Wildoutdoorguy. | |
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| Do women in Oregon ever mail first
Posted: 7/18/2009 1:31:09 PM | | Women do send out messages too, but they also get the same as men do. they send one out, and see it's been read and deleted. That makes them not want to send one out again for awhile. Then they get brave again, and decide to take another chance. | |
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| Do women in Oregon ever mail first
Posted: 7/19/2009 4:39:59 PM | It would be nice if you could tell if someone saw your profile as a positive or a negative by looking at your Viewed Me list. It would seem you could improve your success ratio by sending e-mails only to those who saw you in a positive light  | |
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| Do women in Oregon ever mail first
Posted: 8/5/2009 6:51:58 PM | | I have occasionally, but usually I allow the man to contact me first. Guess it's just that I'm old fashioned. | |
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Posted: 8/23/2009 7:13:41 PM | I can't recall receiving one from a woman,..yet.
I've sent out quite a few with a very low response rate. People that I have met are overall good people.
Should I continue to follow up with those that have read but do not delete the initial contact sent by me, or wait till they respond? A quandary perhaps. Any Feedback? | |
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| Do women in Oregon ever mail first
Posted: 8/23/2009 7:23:29 PM | | Dreams, If you want to come across desperate, I would send out another email to those who haven't responded. That's what women like you know. For a guy to hit on them and then keep pestering them, even when the woman has shown no interest. NOT. Obviously if they haven't written you back, they aren't interested. At least not yet. They may have to work through their various higher-level tiers of guys before they think of settling for you. No humor here, nor sarcasm. | |
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| Do women in Oregon ever mail first
Posted: 9/7/2009 2:21:37 PM | They certainly do. I just got a message from a girl here in Portland not 10 minutes ago, and there have been two other occasions that I've gotten messages from girls I hadn't contacted yet.
So while it certainly doesn't happen as often as men making first contact, it does happen.
Hang in there! | |
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Posted: 9/10/2009 7:40:15 AM | Here is another take --
I do not email first very often. Partly because I was raised to be 'old fashioned' (or I'm just 'old', lol), partly because if I email first it circumvents the email filter for those who have emailed for intimate encounters.  | |
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Posted: 9/11/2009 8:28:45 PM | | I've been approached, without solicitation. I try to respond in kind. Thus far I've seen no real initiative to speak of as far as actual dating, but ..I'm giving it time.........Chris | |
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| Do women in Oregon ever mail first
Posted: 9/11/2009 9:30:03 PM |
Should I continue to follow up with those that have read but do not delete the initial contact sent by me, or wait till they respond? A quandary perhaps. Any Feedback?
Hi 45Dreams,
Following up with one additional email would be appropriate in my book. | |
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