| Have all the really older guys given up?
Posted: 1/10/2009 1:12:41 AM | I'm having difficulty finding a man in his sixties. My mom (88) lives in a senior community apartment complex. There are a lot of opportunities there for the ladies that are looking. It seems like most of them aren't. I'm a hot commodity when I go visit her. 
You are a beautiful woman with a positive attitude. Hopefully he's just around the corner. | |
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| Have all the really older guys given up?
Posted: 1/10/2009 7:15:39 AM | Some men want more than just Company they are probably looking for a commitment which brings up the issue of there assets. Then being older, excuse me "experienced - mature" the children start looking over there shoulder watching that dad - grandpa doesn't get invloved with a woman that could take away there possible inheritance.
Really as you say age is a state of mind. Just keep hope up and keep fishing for that which you seek. Alsways keep hope alive!! | |
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| Have all the really older guys given up?
Posted: 1/10/2009 7:31:31 AM | | OP, what a beautiful woman you are. Really, I can see your youthful spirit in your face. Why not give a younger man a try? Not necessarily someone your children's ages, but someone who is 10 or 15 years younger? I don't see the harm and I bet it would be a lot of fun. Why not? | |
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| Have all the really older guys given up?
Posted: 1/10/2009 11:52:48 AM | Hiya Shirley, think I can safely say we havnt all given up. I've just come out of a 30 year relationship and was a bit cynical for first 6 month, but not pepared to tar all women with same brush, Just dont give up the hope x | |
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| Have all the really older guys given up?
Posted: 1/10/2009 12:39:46 PM |
You are scaring me...if a beautiful woman like you is having trouble, what does that say for the rest of us as we get older? There ARE more available women than men as we get older, but that doesn't mean that they aren't out there...you just need to try harder to find them.
My mom was having trouble finding men her age too, when she was your age..then she retired to FL...and there they were!
...She scared me too...I'm having difficulty finding someone my age and in my area wanting to date......what's it going to be like in 10. 15 years....hmmm, maybe I should start looking at re-locating to Florida now.
...maeflowers | |
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| Have all the really older guys given up?
Posted: 1/10/2009 1:05:28 PM | For heavens sake, don't let me discourage any of you. I think most of the problem with me is I live in an area "where you can't get here for there", if you know what I mean? So many are not willing to do the driving it takes to meet someone they have only seen a picture of, emailed and a few phone conversations.
I'm near enough to Florida that it is not an impossible drive so maybe there is hope on the horizon. I'm not big on the idea of marriage unless Mr. Wonderful happens along and I can not live another day without him..........not likely to happen. I'll keep a positive attitude and an open mind like most of the ladies on here. You all have given me some good feedback......thanks. Maybe the javascript:smilie(' ')will be better soon. | |
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| Have all the really older guys given up?
Posted: 1/10/2009 1:16:18 PM |
As men age do they just give up wanting the company of a woman?
Above about the age of 30, the rate at which men marry exceeds the rate at which women marry. AND the ratio of the rates increases with increasing age, so that past about age 50 men are marrying at about a 50% greater rate than women are; by age 70-75, men are marrying at about double the rate women are.
So the definitive answer to the OP's question, based on the data, would seem to be a big NO.
Guess again. | |
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| Have all the really older guys given up?
Posted: 1/10/2009 1:45:03 PM | Just scanned your profile. I doubt that you are too old and you seem like the kinda gal a guy with his head on striaght would appreciate at first glance. A lot of guys on here, from what my female friends tell me, are after younger women for some reason. Others are thinking they are ready for a relationship but aren't. Lots of reasons for bad choices. I guess the biggest thing is you gotta kiss your share of toads to find a prince (or princess) and thats just the way it works. Get happy or stay happy with you and keep your standards and spirits high and things are going to work out in good time.  | |
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| Have all the really older guys given up?
Posted: 1/10/2009 2:00:14 PM | | Ah, not true of all of us. I'm having a hard time finding someone who actually wants to go out, most everybody just wants to email, how do you get to know people without meeting them? Joe | |
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| Have all the really older guys given up?
Posted: 1/10/2009 2:35:53 PM | | I guess you form a relationship by listening to each other. (they say) I spoke to a man the other night on the phone for two hours. He sounded nice and I enjoyed the conversation but he didn't ask me out and upon reflection really think I probably filled out a questionaire he had established. I am a very honest person and realized I answered more questions about myself than he did about himself. I don't intend to be phoney and will usually answer a question in good taste. It's evident I probably didn't pass the golden question. You are right about talking to someone face to face but if it's not possible because of distance you have a choice to discontinue or take a chance. There is nothing in the stars that says he or she is right next door. But I am learning that this system of getting to really know someone is a little difficult. Sometimes it makes you feel like a horse for sale...you know... lets check the teeth, feet and sometimes the tail...oops...I didn't say that now did I...oh well, truth is truth...and sometimes that end is more important that the rest...or ...you didn't answer a question with the right anwer and there isn't even a book to study...Go figure!! Well anyway you just have to chuck that one off as not the one and move on and on and on and on......."To Infinity and Beyond!...(there is something to be said about that statement from Bud Lightyear!) | |
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| Have all the really older guys given up?
Posted: 1/10/2009 3:48:43 PM | | 74 years of age and PC literate, not to mention still a beauty! You go girl! Dont give up. The pond is just a bit smaller as we age. | |
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| Have all the really older guys given up?
Posted: 1/10/2009 3:53:34 PM | OPie ~~ you'll do fine: great attitude, willingness to travel, basic liking of the opposite sex. They are out there, promise ~~ some very loverly critters indeed. Enjoy, and don't rush.
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| Have all the really older guys given up?
Posted: 1/10/2009 4:09:54 PM | | i don't know if you'd call it ''giving up''....maybe it is.......i'm just so tired of all the seemingly pre-scripted games.....i'm probably too old to be on a dating site as well....i can't even find convesation over a coffee or dinner which i find particularly sad since that what hundreds of women in my own city list as a favorable first date....we just get tired of all the ''no answers'' after a while....i'm polite,well educated,employed full time,so to my way of thinking that should merit at least a conversation.....i personally know a few guys on here and they've experienced the same thing....we just wonder why a woman would go through all the trouble of composing a decent profile and not follow it up......so you see,we just get tired of going absolutely nowhere on here-i myself very rarely log into this site anymore because its become more well known for women who never reply......so i guess we're really just giving up on this site...... | |
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| Have all the really older guys given up?
Posted: 1/10/2009 4:18:38 PM | O.P., you're probably just looking in the wrong places. As another poster mentioned; most older men do not play around with computers. Maybe you should go and hang out at Lowes, Home Depot or a local diner and see how that works out for you . . . | |
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| Have all the really older guys given up?
Posted: 1/10/2009 4:21:27 PM | Happy Birthday, Shirley! You're a beautiful lady, and I hope that you find a good, decent older man!
Best of luck!
Peace and Blessings | |
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| Have all the really older guys given up?
Posted: 1/10/2009 4:41:45 PM | "Maybe you should go and hang out at Lowes, Home Depot or a local diner and see how that works out for you . . "
Ok, I truly give up if that is the option to meeting men. Local diner...........ah!!!!!!!!!!!! | |
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| Have all the really older guys given up?
Posted: 1/10/2009 4:41:50 PM | | I personally think they have. I myself, gave up and why is that...because, I am so tired of listening to the poor me syndrome. most seem to ferget, theyre not the only ones who have gone thru hardships. havent we all been thru enough? there is no manual to tell us how to live our lives..or how to raise a family or how to act, feel and etc. life isnt always easy, take it for what it is and live it to the best ability of our knowledge and that is all we can do. | |
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| Have all the really older guys given up?
Posted: 1/10/2009 5:03:19 PM | | I didn't gie up. I seem to attact for the most part, psychos, and other's have notice this. I am not above dating, but I want someone I can relate ot, not escape from. | |
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| Have all the really older guys given up?
Posted: 1/10/2009 7:18:44 PM | Hi, Shirley! I totally agree with others -- you look beautiful in your pictures and obviously are radiating an equally beautiful spirit.
Actually, I don't think it's a bad idea to make some trips to Lowe's or Home Depot! And, I think it's easy for men and women both to feel like "giving up"...but I also think it's best just to live your life in the best and happiest way possible. When you are happy and fulfilled, that will reflect itself to others.
Take care, and I wish you all the best -- as I do to all of my fellow fishers who also have a LOT going for them. | |
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| Have all the really older guys given up?
Posted: 1/10/2009 7:54:29 PM | Hi Shirley,
I am an about to turn 67 DWPM and just returned from a wonderful two week singles group tour. The trip had a female to male ratio of 5.5:1 which tends to be the reality of women to men on these trips. I had a great time hanging out with two funny attractive 55 year old ladies and a hot 40 year old. These women reside on the other side of the country from me but we will stay in touch. If they lived closer I would consider dating two of them. Many of the unhappy frumpy-dumpy women in their 50's had seriously bad attitudes toward men; their attitudes came out so I avoided them like I avoid STDs, prophylactically. So did all of the other men. The other men hung out with the happy, fun women. From what I experience, see and hear if you take care of yourself, are happy and friendly, truly enjoy men and get out where you can meet good men, you will eventually find one. Stay upbeat and positive, go to the gym, eat right and go out! You have a great profile and I can see men seeking your company. | |
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| Have all the really older guys given up?
Posted: 1/10/2009 8:18:42 PM | "Many of the unhappy frumpy-dumpy women in their 50's had seriously bad attitudes toward men;"
Just like the overweight men who blame every women for everything bad that happened in their marriages.
Blah, blah.....................some many damaged people.
Easier to just remember the happy marriages we had and forget about the terminally damaged. | |
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| Have all the really older guys given up?
Posted: 1/10/2009 8:19:11 PM | | My take upon this is, I am ok to be alone. Really it does not bother me. It would just be icing on the cake to find one to grow older with and enjoy eachothers company. | |
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| Have all the really older guys given up?
Posted: 1/10/2009 8:40:00 PM | I agree that going to the local "diner", you may meet someone. I live in a small town and quite a few of the retired men in the community hang out every morning at the Dunkin Donuts and in the next town over they hang at the local McDonald's and there are others in the small local restaurants.
Now, if I could find a place where the men in their late 50s early 60s hang out! LOL | |
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