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| Have all the really older guys given up?
Posted: 6/29/2009 7:18:55 PM | "I firmly believe that older single men are single for a reason. They started out as jerks to begin with, and just got jerkier with age. That explains why they're still single! "
This describes me to a tee.
Some people objected to this, but I think it's true. Women can get married even if they are strange or from other planets, but for guys it's tougher. For a man a bad personality follows him not only to dating and marriage (or lack thereof) but to his jobs, his clubs, his judgement on Judgement Day.
Women can mask their really stinky personality if they happen to have one with parfume and make-up. This is not even allegorical. It's just the way it is. | |
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| Have all the really older guys given up?
Posted: 6/29/2009 7:24:57 PM | Candilily, that's sure a direct slap on the face by fate or Lady Luck or by Natural Selection, eh? Your mother finding a date before you do on PoF. And getting into a relationship while you're still just sifting through profiles upon profiles of losers.
If my mother, bless her heart, pulled something like that on me, I'd clear stop talking to her, period.
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"I perhaps am not understanding why some women and men are on a dating site if all they want to do is knock the other sex."
They would be more miserable if they did not have an outlet to sound and vent their frustrations. So they are on a dating site not to date, but to vent. Some people go to doctor's offices to talk about their poetry, some others go to the butchershop to pick up chicks on Wednesdays and Fridays, because they heard that that's when fresh meat comes in.
People get what they can from where they can. If a dating site is a venue for venting, well, it's either allowed or it has to be redesigned to make that sort of thing impossible. | |
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| Have all the really older guys given up?
Posted: 6/29/2009 7:35:56 PM | "But to find an unselfish partner is becoming more difficult. "
I think it's time to raise the bar for yourself and lower your standards at the same time and date a selfish woman. I mean, if there are no alternatives, why not? You'll be like one of the guys. Nothing wrong with that, it's a natural fact to blend in with the herd.
I think anyone (women, men, oxen, vixen) who becomes selfish has been exercising the same gratification system. If you like ice-cream, you eat it; then you don't like ice cream, but you eat it anyway, because your memory eggs you on, "c'mon, it always makes you happy... if it's not doing that this time, then have another one."
This is the same thing with women becoming selfish, and men becoming jerks. People, generally, rely way much too long on the same pleasures to keep them entertained. If people switched their focus in life and their goals, that would not be such a problem. If people don't switch, they just want more of the same thing and they don't get happier.
My brother, in his 62nd year, was canned from his job, and he took on learning English as a second language, and bicycling (he does 40 mile runs twice a week, at 20 mi/h average or better). I took on writing and creating things, physical things, with my hand. I had to replace dating and smoking, and he had to replace the job he had had. His wife was canned two months ago, and she never switched from her old hobbies: cooking, and complaining. She is very good at both. She's a nice woman, works hard, she shies away from no task no matter how dirty or tough, but she never shifted gears. You gotta be able to do that if you want to survive happily.
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Devine, below me: Being a goddess from another star is not covered by the "marriable if woman" guarantee that was issued when you were assigned a gender.
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"OMG ron9...giving up at 62! Haven't you heard the 60 is the new 40? LOL."
Sixty is the new sweet little sixteen.
I hade one date each with three women in their early sixties, and they each looked better than most other women, any age. I realized some time ago that in this day and age the only thing you need to do if you want to look young, is to be very slim. And trim, not emaciated. Well, you have to bathe and put on make up and dress up nicely, sure, but the main ingredient, like cabbage in cabbage soup, of a beautiful person is slimness and trimness.
Please don't accuse me of being a hypocrite. I am 210 lbs, very overweight, and I know that I look gross. I don't aspire to score a slim woman, under 125 years of age. I hope to, I wish and believe I could, but then I regain my better head and realize I was living in a pipe dream.
The point is, sixty is the new sexy seventeen. | |
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| Have all the really older guys given up?
Posted: 6/29/2009 7:36:33 PM |
Women can get married even if they are strange or from other planets...
really???
wow! i must have been doing something absolutely horribly wrong my whole life!
*sigh* | |
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| Have all the really older guys given up?
Posted: 6/30/2009 2:27:24 AM |
So for now I must keep on doggedly trudging along, keeping hope alive that somehow, someway, if only I keep trying I will be rewarded by a flash of inspiration, finally able to figure out the secret of becoming irresistible as I lay down to die.
farceur, that just sounds so brave...
That's it. The world hates me. My heart is unloved. I must take my leave of this uncaring multitude of picky women. A man can only try so long and then he must admit defeat.
I too share your pain | |
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| Have all the really older guys given up?
Posted: 6/30/2009 2:46:12 AM |
That's it. The world hates me. My heart is unloved. I must take my leave of this uncaring multitude of picky women. A man can only try so long and then he must admit defeat
Girls, I think we're taking the wrong approach with farceur. I think he needs us to be firmer instead of coddling him.
Farceur! Snap out of it! Pull yourself together, man!!!!!! What are you thinking? (cyber slap across cheek).
Now, are you feeling better? Ready to face another few dozen coffee meet and greets? I thought so..lol.. | |
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| Have all the really older guys given up?
Posted: 6/30/2009 6:27:01 PM |
As men age do they just give up wanting the company of a woman? The few I've met are only interested in someone taking care of them. I've been there and done that and am ready to just have fun.
Any thoughts on this? Happy New Year.......Shirley
Happy New Year in [b July to you Shirley!
Now to answer your question : Have all the really older guys given up?
In the immortal words of Admiral John Paul Jones, when asked "Are you ready to surrender" his reply was "I have not yet begun to fight!"
Look Out Ladies! | |
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| Have all the really older guys given up?
Posted: 7/3/2009 11:19:03 AM | Yeah most of the older guys have just about given up, just as well. seems we are being beaten out by the younger ones. we are on a highway to hell.    | |
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| Have all the really older guys given up?
Posted: 7/3/2009 11:55:40 AM |
seems we are being beaten out by the younger ones. we are on a highway to hell
Younger ones couldn't hold a match to us! We're on a Stairway to Heaven! | |
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| Have all the really older guys given up?
Posted: 7/4/2009 7:01:43 AM | | Given up or wised up? After a couple of years of playing these silly, silly games of endless messaging and phone conversations before finally getting to the first meet only to be disappointed, time after time, the instant you meet someone because they have totally misrepresented themselves, I choose to think I have wised up. No more internet dating. Meeting someone in the real world removes any doubt about someone's age or physical appearance so you are able to then explore the rest of the factors of compatibility. | |
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| Have all the really older guys given up?
Posted: 7/6/2009 10:06:04 AM | I guess we may really ever know the true circumstances of singleness (is that a word?)?
I just know my own story...My ex and I split 14 years ago, and I raised my 3 alone,while having to support them and go back to school as yes, I too had thought that I married forever...after learning that you can only control your own destiny, it was time to move forward.
Moving forward for me, was having litte time for anything except kids,school (all of ours) and work. I always figured that my time would come later. I never had enough of me to spread any thinner.
Now, I guess maybe I've waited too long.
I'm finding it is very hard to trust anyone or open yourself up to be hurt. My kids are pretty much on their own now, but I really don't know what I enjoy or hobbies...it was always just survival....
I'm figuring that my story can't be unique...there must be someone for me out there somewhere...
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| Have all the really older guys given up?
Posted: 7/6/2009 6:11:56 PM |
Now, I guess maybe I've waited too long.
I'm finding it is very hard to trust anyone or open yourself up to be hurt
You did not wait too long. You did what was right and devoted your life to your children. Now its your turn and its never too late. Its your turn and you can't go though the rest of you life living in fear that you may be opening up yourself to hurt. We all get hurt in life. Here and there and everywhere in between. If you get hurt, shake it off and get back in the game. The game of love and the game of life.
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| Have all the really older guys given up?
Posted: 7/7/2009 9:39:48 AM | | hi,strawberry,i think most men are a bit worried of making the same mistakes over again. so they are very cautious when meeting a new lady,especially a stranger.its difficult to find a perfect match.we all have baggage afterall.so after a lot of dating you do get dishearted and think about giving up.or maybe every date gets harder to approach.i wont give up,because i know there is someone out there i can make happy as wel as mysself ......anyway nice comment strawberry | |
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| Have all the really older guys given up?
Posted: 7/7/2009 11:15:17 AM | Hello mikehubb58, Are you sure all of these women have the problem or is the problem really that all men no matter the age or status is still looking for Barbie instead of a real woman? Seems like most of the profiles that I read for men no matter the age states in so many words that they are still looking for a Barbie Doll instead of a real woman. Just an observation. But thank you for your input. | |
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| Have all the really older guys given up?
Posted: 7/7/2009 7:20:00 PM | My 98 year old grandfather married a 63 year old woman. So the ALL the older men haven't given up. We teased him about robbing the cradle.
Perhaps some have. Perhaps some women have too. However, all I need to find is ONE exception.
You never fail until you quit trying.
"Wether you believe you can or you can't, you're right" - Henry Ford.
Thats my two cents worth, hope I didn't overcharge you.
Arthur | |
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| Have all the really older guys given up?
Posted: 7/7/2009 7:44:53 PM |
Ms. Shirley? OP ..........You're never too old to be on a dating site!
As men age do they just give up wanting the company of a woman?
Be forwarned, most men on dating sites want to email forever! They aren't interested in meeting in person. Mostly because of their own insecurities.
There's no need to speak bitterly on here. You're not the only person who is not getting the results they had hoped. I could say that most women are too picky and probably aren't as good as their profiles say they are; but I won't because I don't believe it's mostly true. The only thing I do believe is that women get many more emails than men, if for no other reason then the nature of men. | |
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| Have all the really older guys given up?
Posted: 7/7/2009 8:33:41 PM | | Interesting thread. I'm 51 and I won't say I've completely given, just 95% given up. Just don't see a lot out there that interests me and its too much work. I'm quite happy with my lifestyle, living on the beach, playing tennis and volleyball, riding my bike, seeing friends, enjoying my hobbies. For one thing, I'm not looking for someone who has spent their life married and hasn't really traveled or had much fun and now wants to. I did all of that in my 30s and 40s and now I'm more interested in enjoying being home. I'm sorry that so many women never had a chance to do those things when they were younger but I did and have no great interest to now. | |
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| Have all the really older guys given up?
Posted: 7/7/2009 9:54:22 PM | no not all of us i turn 56 to day and i like to have fun but fun is not the same as it was 35 years ago i like to see things most of all remember them, feel what and who i am with to peep in to the heart and mind of the woman i am with i have no need to go from woman to woman you cant find what you need by doing that but if that is all you have ,then thats sad with a hole in it | |
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| Have all the really older guys given up?
Posted: 7/7/2009 10:32:21 PM | Some of us just never get old but if I ever do giving up is not an option,
but a friend of mine who happens to be a little a older says why bother if he
has to take a little blue pill to get it up, he`d rather give it up! | |
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| Have all the really older guys given up?
Posted: 7/8/2009 4:06:11 AM | bencasey - Msg 222
I won't say I've completely given, just 95% given up. Just don't see a lot out there that interests me and its too much work. I'm quite happy with my lifestyle, living on the beach, playing tennis and volleyball, riding my bike, seeing friends, enjoying my hobbies. For one thing, I'm not looking for someone who has spent their life married and hasn't really traveled or had much fun and now wants to. I did all of that in my 30s and 40s and now I'm more interested in enjoying being home. I'm sorry that so many women never had a chance to do those things when they were younger but I did and have no great interest to now.
Yes, there is a definite disconnect in this area, and I think you nailed it down quite accurately. Many men can identify with what you expressed. | |
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