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| Staying off ex's facebook and myspace
Posted: 7/15/2009 11:50:35 PM |
Anyone else ever feel this way, how did you stay off your ex's profile?
i deleted my facebook and myspace account entirely. And that's it. | |
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| Staying off ex's facebook and myspace
Posted: 7/16/2009 12:23:54 AM | I've done that too in the past. It sucks. You want to look, but you KNOW it's a bad idea... but you do it anyway, and then you regret it.
Gotta cut off all ties, man! Delete her, BLOCK HER if you have to. Whatever it takes. Getting her out of your life 100% only makes it easier for you to move on. Don't even think about 'what could have been' because it's a load of crap. Delete her, remove anything and everything that reminds you of her, and start dating other women. There are other women out there! | |
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| Staying off ex's facebook and myspace
Posted: 7/16/2009 1:23:36 AM | | I went to another country where internet wasn't that great and people socialized a lot. I came back after my 3 month hiatus a new person. I still had love for my ex just wasn't obsessed over her anymore. I appreciated what we had and that was that. She was the only girl I ever loved. It took me almost 2 years to get over her. | |
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| Staying off ex's facebook and myspace
Posted: 7/16/2009 10:47:50 AM | I had a hard time staying off my ex's as well. Over time I just stopped looking at it because I no longer really cared what she had on there. It wasn't an intentional move to stop doing it, I just stopped because it didn't even enter my mind to do so
Good luck. | |
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PS1975
| | Joined: 4/30/2009
Msg: 56 | |
| Staying off ex's facebook and myspace
Posted: 7/16/2009 11:20:17 AM | | Wow, yeah, this I totally relate to. I have a really hard time letting go when I'm rejected in love. But its ultimately self abuse to have any kind of interaction or see him anywhere in person or online. So remembering that I am trying to take better care of myself and not torture or punish myself helps. And remembering that when I take better care of myself I attract nicer people. The other thing that helps is believing that love will find me again. I have a very fatalist mentality when I get rejected and I have to fight against telling myself that I'm never going to find something substantial and real. We will. Everyone is capable of finding love. I've met total ***holes who have happy relationships. I'm not an ***hole. I have to believe that if they can find love, so can I. | |
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| Staying off ex's facebook and myspace
Posted: 7/16/2009 8:56:05 PM | | next time you feel tempted to look get a lighter keep it lit for a min or so till its all nice and hot.. And put it on your face or tounge... thats all your doing to yourself... Its tempting yes but your setting yourself up for heart break.. Be more active if your looking for pain. Get a stick and beat yourself with it that way your burning calories and hurting yourself at the same time. Or just delete your own profile | |
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| Staying off ex's facebook and myspace
Posted: 7/16/2009 9:39:51 PM | To the original poster..
LOL..dude i know how you feel..long story short..
met a woman from here..we were booty buddys..became exclusive..she was by my side through my cancer,then i knew for sure she was mine for ever...
I was goin through some of my cancer issues(she lived 3 hrs away)mentally and cause of that my self esteeme was down,i wasnt allowed to work for awhile and couldnt do anything for a few months..
My ex caught me on pof haven nothing more than an onlne fantasy(cause of my health and finances i needed a lil get away)..One time o proved i knew it was her all along and just went along with it(proved it too with a letter emailed to myself that was time stamped be the conversation got to naughty)..2nd time i wasnt sure but seemed familiar..She caught me b4 i caught her..She saw some pics of ex's on my pc..I told her i got some and didnt hide them,she had full access to my pc..Worked for her brother driven his rig with her brother and we one late dec nite in ontario canada totalled his truck..Another emotional blow...I come home to her and find out im gonna be a dad and was shocked but very happy....2 months later she emails me that we are broke up...Month after that she is showing on facebook and msn that she is in a relationship,seems her so called "FRIEND" stepped in right after i was tossed yet i never knew of this friend..
NOW...At 35 weeks she flys off to alberta canada to be with her new man thats workin out west of me,with her two kids..She is now 39 weeks and still cruisin around alberta in a big rig....I live in novascotia....trust me....IM hurtin big time cause she is gonna be in ab to have this child with her new man that i was so happy thinkin it was mine..
Timeing is iffy if its mine(im thinkin back and tryin to find log book pages to see where i was around the date of conception..Her being so cold and totally dissen me,even her 14 yr old has seen our emails(WRONG THING FOR A MOM TO DO)and called me names...
Best thing she ever did was to block me...She is due around the tail end of july..been blocked from her acc for a few months now...Best damn thing she has done for my mental health..Things are pointing that she was no as innocient as she made me think she was...her goin 5000k away and blowin me off like i was a turd in a toilot is provin to me she was a cheatin hoe....
You want my 2cts worth....block delete her and ask her to do the same to you...mentally you will feel so much better.. | |
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| Staying off ex's facebook and myspace
Posted: 7/20/2009 3:48:27 AM | Damn I did the same thing.
Its been five months, and come to think of it, I haven't looked at it in awhile now. I was checking it see her "realationship status" but really, what do I care? I will feel like sh!t if she's with a new bf, right?
I could really care less. It would be nice if we both put up a block upon each other after breaking up. That would be a great deal to make upon break up, right? Well, I think so anyway...
I wonder if she ever scoped mine? :) | |
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| Staying off ex's facebook and myspace
Posted: 7/20/2009 5:09:23 PM | | I hear ya man. I do it too. It's been little over 2 months since she broke up with me after 4 years. I have her email password and re-set her facebook password ever few days so I can see what she's up to. I need to stop but can't. I finally decided I would check it one last time yesterday and I would be done. What do I see, she broke up with her new boyfriend for a day and back with him. I didn't think she would ever break up with this guy, after what happened between us. Wish I didn't go in it yesterday. Now I'm all messed up like the first day we broke up. I'm going to call her and tell her how I feel and see what happens. Get my closure so to speak. Point is, no way you can stop or anything. It just will happen one day. I tell myself this and still check up on it, hopefully we will all stop torturing ourselves and stop finally! | |
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| Staying off ex's facebook and myspace
Posted: 7/22/2009 3:15:44 PM | Talking about facebook profiles.my friend broke into her boyfriends tonight and found that he had been putting saucy comments on to a girls inbox .she then decided to check his old pof account and seen that he had been on there too talking to females giving his number out.
its such a addiction to be able to do this.I suposse she done it to make her feel better by not expecting him to of done any of this.Didnt expect to find anything.but if hadnt have done it,how long would it have gone on for ...her being made a fool off | |
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| Staying off ex's facebook and myspace
Posted: 7/22/2009 3:36:38 PM | | I too am finding it hard. We deleted eachother from Myspace and Facebook, but I'm constantly looking to see if she has changed her picture. It sucks | |
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| Staying off ex's facebook and myspace
Posted: 7/22/2009 5:43:39 PM | | Stop torturing yourself. You are beating yourself up over the head with this and you are only doing it because you want to see if she has moved on, found someone to replace you. | |
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| Staying off ex's facebook and myspace
Posted: 7/22/2009 10:22:50 PM | | Jeez Dude! you're young and not hidious looking, just find a hot girl and f*** her brains out for a few weeks, that will stop you from looking coz you won't give a s**** and you'll be too busy. | |
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wravyn
| | Joined: 6/22/2009
Msg: 71 | |
| Staying off ex's facebook and myspace
Posted: 7/24/2009 1:30:57 AM | I know what that's like. I miss my ex all the time. I know he was a compete jerk, and he treated me like I never even mattered to him. I just couldn't help checking his facebook, just to see if he was okay, even though a lot of the things he said hurt me (such as joking about STDs and calling me an Americ**t).
Our relationship was extremely long distance (he lived in Canada, and I lived in Missouri). He never talks to me anymore so checking his facebook was all I really had to know he was alright. Now, I don't even have that, and it's really difficult. | |
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| Staying off ex's facebook and myspace
Posted: 12/8/2009 2:46:54 AM | | honestly i deleted him , even thou he left without an explaination... i broke my heart for a few weeks and read breakup pages on the net and i deleted him! i then sent a quick message to say i had deleted him and he said he had been pissed and that he then understood. i just went away for a few weeks got on with my work and things and let him be... and guess what it worked the net sites about breaking up worked! he came back! and he said it was awful the breakup etc etc so we will see where it goes as iam a good girl and just looking a nice simple loving life:) fingers crossed! loves hurts but being in love rocks! and loving yourself and your family is the most important thing in the world. | |
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| Staying off ex's facebook and myspace
Posted: 12/8/2009 12:20:26 PM | As clichéd as it sounds, time is a healer.
Put it out of your mind. Spend time with your friends, try not to think about her, delete her number, resist the tempatation to email / text.. Really it will get better with time.
Been there many a time and wasted many months / years in the same position as you, in the end with the support of good friends you look at what you're doing objectively and you'll get through it. | |
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Wiyan
| | Joined: 12/8/2008
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| Staying off ex's facebook and myspace
Posted: 12/8/2009 8:59:59 PM | a friend informed me that my ex bf had a pic on his myspace profile of me kissing a ceramic sculpture an artist had rendered of him-I had better things to do than stalk his profile myself. I contacted him asking for removal. He is now married-yet another reason this is way out of line, but made excuses why he couldn't take it off. Anyhow... I contacted myspace and reported he did not have my permission to post this pic of me (which he didn't)-problem solved OP the block button will work wonders for your trigger finger | |
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