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| How can a younger guy, pick up an older women.
Posted: 1/11/2009 8:07:08 PM | | I agree with most of what others have stated but if you are looking for a sexual experience only....be honest and you may just get what you are looking for.....so much better to just "put it out there".............no games required or desired with us "older women." Good luck. | |
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| How can a younger guy, pick up an older women.
Posted: 1/11/2009 9:54:07 PM | When in comes to "older" women, in my experience it's always been the other way around. It is the cougar that hunts her prey. And by "cougar" I generally mean a woman who is 10+ years older than you are.
A real cougar is the predator and she hunts you down, it's not the other way around. You don't "pick her up", she pounces when she sees the opportunity and drags you off.
How to attract cougars. Just talk to them at an adult to adult level. | |
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| How can a younger guy, pick up an older women.
Posted: 1/12/2009 7:44:23 AM | | Be what they want. no woman, old or young wants to be with a fake. So if you want an older woman for sex then let them know, if you want an older woman for a relationship then find one and let them know that. But if you are going for the second route then I suggest you have a future plan, have a career in line and don't still be living at home. I've almost always dated older women, 2 years older or a lot older, Age has only been a small part of why I liked them but be aware that it usualy became a large issue in unexpected ways. | |
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| How can a younger guy, pick up an older women.
Posted: 6/17/2009 12:07:02 AM | This subject amuses me to no end. I have had many younger men approach me, some relentlessly for years. I dated an 18 yr old guy who I have known for years. He always came to me when things were really bad in his life because he knew I had his back. And he had my back when I was really down. And before I knew it we were involved. I was attracted to him because he was soooo honest. He was always very mature for his age, no pretense or BS lies, no hidden agendas.
But I felt bad after about 9 months with him and ended it. I felt like he was not moving forward because I was stopping him from having a normal life. Keep in mind we had many friends and family in common, all in the dark about our weird arrangement.
I met a man my own age, dated him for a year and I realized men my age have LOTS of hidden agendas, strange ideas and tactics they "think" will work on women and it just plain sucks. If men my age were HONEST and TRUSTWORTHY, I would rather date them. But so far my most intelligent and meaningful conversations and relationships are with younger men. So what's a woman like me supposed to do? I am stuck between a rock and a bunch of young men who are trying to act like the older men I am not attracted to in the first place, lol. (P.S. it's not a physical thing either- I am not that shallow). | |
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| How can a younger guy, pick up an older women.
Posted: 6/17/2009 12:20:58 AM | Be nice to an older woman, in fact just be her friend.
I've found that if you don't pressure or bring up sex with girls, they really like that and things will fall into place. A lot of women want sex just as much as men do, but they don't respond well to talking about it 24/7.
If you tell an older woman she's a MILF, that's not going to end well.
You're probably not going to get with a 40 year old woman right off the bat. I'm 24 years old and I think 32 was the oldest for me. I'm not seeking out older women though purposefully. | |
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| How can a younger guy, pick up an older women.
Posted: 6/17/2009 12:21:07 AM | I'd advise against removing the mohawk photo....I LOVE that photo! The great thing about younger people is that they haven't become jaded and are still free enough to be themselves and experiment around with things.
Don't become an old fogey by taking the advice of some here and turning yourself into a clone of what 'old' folks are supposed to be like...boring and predictable! Be yourself! Be crazy! Have fun. Pretty soon you'll have to fall in line to pay the bills and your life will be full of duty and responsibility and very little fun!
My only advice would be to have clearer photos and to alway be honest about what you are looking for. You could also be a little daring and put a bit more about yourself, your desires and interests out there!
Always be real! | |
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| How can a younger guy, pick up an older women.
Posted: 6/17/2009 12:23:13 AM | | I have a young guy that I am very good friends with. He is 22 and I am 48. We have a blast messing with people in public. Holding hands in the grocery store or professing our love and gazing into eachother's eyes over a romantic dinner. It is fun just to see who will be judgemental about it. It is all just a game, but fun playing outside the box. We just have a great time together - I love him. He is my great friend and it is just that clean and simple. | |
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| How can a younger guy, pick up an older women.
Posted: 6/17/2009 12:35:06 AM | | As it turns out, there's something to be said for aging, I have dated younger men, even fell head over heels in love with one but as it turns out, we're not on the same page. Not even a little bit except for how we feel about each other. How we feel about each other doesn't make a rat's A$$ difference when it comes to the things that I want out of life now that I'm older as compared to the things he wants out of life right now | |
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| How can a younger guy, pick up an older women.
Posted: 6/17/2009 5:51:13 AM | I still think this is a "mother" thing...but who knows.
I find men 10 or more years younger than I lack so many things to keep me interested. It isn't that they can't be wonderful people or fun companions but they just don't fit into my life and I'm not wasting my time on trysts...
OP...suggestion? Change the look...you look like a teenager, not a man. Also, correct the spelling errors on your profile blurb...it doesn't translate well " intellectually" as you mentioned.
If you're looking for a maternal woman who'll take care of you...good luck...once she catches on, she'll ditch you fast. I know I would.
I personally think you need to do a bit more maturing before you're ready for the big leagues...but there's always some who defy expectation so you always have a chance with some women.
I've had the privilege of "the younger man" and it was an experience that left me "wanting" more than they had to offer. Goes to show there's more to life than Red Bull and a hard d*ck. | |
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| How can a younger guy, pick up an older women.
Posted: 6/17/2009 5:56:46 AM | Gees, I hope so! Cause I don't have either of those^^^^^
Good luck OP...but seriously, you really have to mature some before an "older Lady" will pay any attention. There might be the odd one out there curious enough to give you a ride, but after that, the glitter loses it's shine!! I think you get my point! | |
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| How can a younger guy, pick up an older women.
Posted: 6/17/2009 8:38:40 AM | | Ya i know your pain, I like older women too mainly because I like the idea of being with someone mature and successful. Im not attracted to them sexually as much but Id rather be with someone with a good head on their shoulders and a well developed life... id love to be a house husband or a stay at home dad... but most older women think younger men just want to conquer them like some sort of sexual mountain. | |
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| How can a younger guy, pick up an older women.
Posted: 6/17/2009 8:59:41 AM | Well my first and only wife was much experianced than I (+20 years) as were some of my LTRsvand it worked out well for many years. 
One thing I have found is YOU do not pick them, THEY pick you.
Now I have stated that fact you already have a lot lot of good advice to read so ....C-Ya. | |
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| How can a younger guy, pick up an older women.
Posted: 6/17/2009 9:06:39 AM | | At the OP's age, a 10 yr age difference can be huge. I don't think many 32 yr old women would be interested in dating a 22 yr old man. Maybe unless they were primarily just looking for sex. Many people in their early 20s are still maturing and growing up in many ways. But I don't think a 10 yr age difference would matter that much if a man was 30 and a woman was 40. There are plenty of people in their late 20s and early 30s who are mature, successful, stable, intelligent etc. | |
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| How can a younger guy, pick up an older women.
Posted: 6/17/2009 9:27:28 AM | Well, I don't date older women, but I get hit on by older women all the time.
First off, when it comes to older women, they'll try and pick you up, not the other way around, but first you are going to have to make yourself more attractive to them.
As the other posters are saying, first you'll need to do something about your image. Your photos scream 'immature', and that is going to hurt your chances.
See, if an older guy is chasing younger women, he wants someone with a hot young body and youthful energy who 'acts mature for her age.'. It's going to be the same thing with cougars. Dress mature, act mature, but be young. Lose the wild hair & piercings, and dress up a bit more, these women aren't going to be attracted to someone with the same fashion sense as their children.
Then work on your confidence and maturity level. These women don't want to feel cradle robbing guilty about sleeping with you, so you are going to have to act very adult. If your life situation doesn't put you in the 'fully independent' category quite yet, you have to at least have well laid out plans that are currently in motion to get there.
Lastly, I don't know if a dating site is going to be the best avenue for you to meet these type of women. I would suggest going to a local, slightly upscale bar. Maybe a martini or wine bar, or even the microbrew beer bars. Something that doesn't cater to the college kid or club crowd. I know that when I go to these types of establishments get pawed at by cougars all the time.
However, that might just be the whole allure of the unobtainable, since I want nothing to do with women older than me. If I came across as very interested or borderline desperate, maybe they wouldn't want me? I can only assume at that level the thrill of the chase applies to cougars just as it does to men on the prowl.
I applaud you stepping up to the plate though, as it leaves more 20 something women available for me. | |
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| How can a younger guy, pick up an older women.
Posted: 6/17/2009 2:14:52 PM | I have had younger men interested in me, but I get the feeling they are more interested in "hooking up" which I'm not interested in. Most of the time I think we are not in the same 'place' as far as where we are in our lives....views on marriage, children, careers, etc. That all changes and evolves as we get a bit older and [hopefully] wiser. I don't want to say that this can never work out, it's just in most instances the timing is a bit off!
If you truly are interested, let her know! And show her you are serious and not just looking for a hook up or experimenting.
good luck! | |
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| How can a younger guy, pick up an older women.
Posted: 7/20/2009 6:39:26 PM | Brother, I suggest you learn about the art of pickup first. What women want, what gets them interested in you romantically as opposed to friendshipally (not a word).
After that, seeing as you're of age, head out to a more elderly crowd place. Show that you can mingle with not only the older girls, but the older guys as well. That indicates that perhaps, since you can converse with him, you might have something to share that she might find interesting as well. Basically, taking you out of the "kid" frame.
Around where I live there are also couger spots where older women pick up on dudes exactly like you, young guys with some stamina and little cares. Check around at local bars and you'll hear things. | |
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