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Posted: 1/25/2009 3:04:00 AM | I'm guessing you're quite young OP..sorry..didn't look at your profile..
He was clear about the relationship that he wanted from you..just fun, sex and friendship.
It wasn't going to go any further than that between yourself and him.
At least he was honest with you.
The thing is that when you get into a relationship like that where he has been honest then you need to take some responsibility for it too.
If you don;t like or want what he is offering then walk away..you do have a choice.
If you are fine with spending a night with a guy and then the possibility of never seeing him again after that night then go for it...but if you are going to feel hurt/used/upset then don't do it.
You'll learn as you get older to make choices for yourself a bit more and to set yourself boundaries..but above all..listen to what men say they want from you..and if it's not what you are looking for then just walk away. | |
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Posted: 1/25/2009 5:56:28 AM | What is wrong with you OP is you have given your game away in this post.
You seem pretty desperate and needy,the first guy who has come along and blown your mind has ditched you because your too far away and you can't handle it,you are questioning yourself as to what is wrong with you when the reality is that he just needed a hole closer to home.
Your wallowing in self pity and are smitten with this guy because for a short time he showed you a good time and affection.
You should have endless amounts of emails now from guys claiming they want to meet you and get to know you, when in truth they will be just looking for an easy lay because a few choice words spoken to a woman with low self esteem usually means she will spread her legs fast hoping that a quick jump will grant her the relationship she craves.
Then as you are doing , she is left wondering where it all went wrong when the guy hightails it out of her life and her self esteem takes another blow leaving her blaming herself as to why things didn't progress further.
I bet if this guy met up with you again omeeshuwa, you would no doubt sleep with him again and hope that this time he would stick around for a relationship.
Maybe you should change your name to Margerine....also i just read your title...it says..good man wanted for sassy lady ....change that to... good man wanted for easy lady, your favourites will shoot up from 120 to 1,200. | |
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Posted: 1/25/2009 6:02:52 AM | | It happens and it sucks and there is a tendency to dwell on the why's and what if 's but you have to force yourself to realize that (for whatever reason) he wants to pursue someone else (his loss , clearly!) . Although the post above me is quite well, umm , blunt? there are some valid points in there - the first being it's sometimes easy for single people to jump the gun and get too excited and thinking about the future with someone too quickly because they've had a good first couple of dates etc, I always try to just view dates as what they are - a fun night out getting the chance to get to know someone a bit better, seeing if the chemistry is there etc. If it is ,you hang out again and go from there, if it's not - or worse - the attraction is one sided (one person feeling more than the other) you should also just move on , because you (and all us single ppl!) deserve a person who is as into us , as we are them! | |
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Posted: 1/25/2009 6:38:24 AM | Dear OP:
Let me answer your question to what's wrong with you. YOUR SELECTION PROCESS.
Any reasonably attractive, somewhat intelligent woman can have her pick of guys she wants. It's a matter of her selection process which can filter all the good guys out, thus prompting her to question if any good men exist, or in your case blaming yourself beyond your selection process. | |
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Posted: 3/23/2009 8:56:18 AM | | It can mean maybe, that something is wrong with him. Move on. There is more fish in the sea! | |
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Posted: 3/23/2009 9:11:00 AM | Sounds like the only one with a problem is the OP! The guy is honest about things and BOOM, he's the bad guy, or mis-diagnosed as a PLAYER.
As for the guy being lazy because of a 3 hour drive...BS, the ladies that say that haven't driven 6 hours round trip.....alone! | |
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Posted: 3/23/2009 10:13:41 AM | Thiis is the first time I am reading this in forum.
Glad I did.
I had a simaliar experience this weekend.
This guy on here.. waited to see me, made 2 dates with me never bothered to cancel or let me know what was going on.
So I told him to get lost took him off my msn and thought that was it?
Well he connected with me again on here and told me that he was very shy and that he had plans that weekend but didn't want me to be upset.
Plus he didn't have my number at home..... so he couldn't call. but I told him that he could have left me a message on msn at that time or on here.
Anyways... the last time I came on he connected with me again.
Pleaded to me to give him another chance and wanted to come over that night.
I thought to myself.. well maybe 3 times is a charm and being stupid... *I could smack myself now*. I said o.k.
I liked his profile and picture and so why not.
So he came over tried all sorts of things to get me get me started and finally I was so tired I said I am going to bed. He said I am to tired to drive home and could he just snuggle with me. I said o.k. but thats it. Well one thing lead to another.
The next thing he tells me is that in the morning he had to go home to do some chores and said he would be back the same day.
Since then I've never heard from him. I left him my number even on his cell so he would not be able to say he didn't have it.
Foolish? YES. Lonely ? Yes. Ever Again? NO.
I am just recently divorced and felt betrayed by a player.. I know first time you should never get to involved,sometimes things happen you have no control over.
Being the age I am ,I guess I really don't know the dating scene that well and I trust to much.
But I do understand where it is you are coming from ... and its a shame that there are men out there that are just users and players.
If I could ,I would change what happened but I guess... I have to say I did enjoy our time together.. a stress release.
Now though I am wiser to all of this and just want you to know that life has more then one Fish in it.. and go on with your life and make the best out of what has happened, learn from it and don't hate all men.... cause no two are alike.
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Posted: 3/23/2009 3:57:41 PM | >>>> But it's like my uncle says.. Whenever one slips away, theres another swimming around you. <<<<
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Your uncle has never tried internet dating apparently. | |
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