| Forum usage effecting your dating?
Posted: 1/12/2009 6:24:44 AM | I think it has affected me since I started posting the e-mails have stopped and that is fine by me it just means I have found something that will filter out the bad ones for me  | |
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| Forum usage effecting your dating?
Posted: 1/12/2009 7:54:13 AM |
People that are intimidated by my forum posts, or put off by em are not my type anyway, and it saves me time as they don't contact me.
I find that excellent as a screening tool. I'd rather they know what they need to right away, I'd hate for them to have half the story.
Ditto. | |
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| Forum usage effecting your dating?
Posted: 1/12/2009 12:07:08 PM | Being opinionated can elicit reaction on the part of he reader, no question....People will draw either positive or negative inferences on you based on your forum posts.
I don't post to enhance my chances of meeting anyone...If that's a byproduct then all the better but, the bottom line is I participate because I am opinionated and enjoy participating in and reading other's musings, and viewpoints..
A post indeed does offer a peek inside the soul and character and persona of a poster.. People are either drawn or repelled..based on what they are reading..
If someone prefers not to date or get to know me based on a post then problem solved because they are not good for me in the first place..
As far as some being intimidated by merit of someone posting on a forum.. um they may want to grow a pair .. | |
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| Forum usage effecting your dating?
Posted: 1/12/2009 2:46:20 PM | | I tend to get more emails after I've posted on the forum. But wouldn't say it effects getting a date or not. | |
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| Forum usage effecting your dating?
Posted: 1/12/2009 3:10:56 PM | | Doesn't appear to. It seems like all the emails I get on here now are from across the country or from a completely different one. Why can't anyone who's from where I live post on here? lol | |
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| Forum usage effecting your dating?
Posted: 1/12/2009 4:29:55 PM | When I post I am intentionally and actively trolling for the attention of women. Because I crave their attention and that is why I am on a dating site.
And I do, I do get a lot of emails in regards to my posts. They most of them live in Timbuktu, so what's up with that, I don't know.
As a man the forums are more useful to me. If a lady likes my picture, if I capture her interest, she will generally check out the whole package. What I write, how I write, how I think.
Men generally don't delve as deep. We are in a hurry. "She's pretty, that's enough. I know enough!"
When I first came on this site I was harshly convicted by sarcastic posts I made. I thought they were funny but not everybody was laughing. So I deleted my profile and started over.
I wouldn't even think about doing that now. Jesus! Who cares? Don't like it? Hit the road...toad.
It wasn't even...I wrote that I preferred mature woman because that way at least one of us will behave like an adult. I wrote that there is something poignant about a beautiful woman aging. And here is the incriminating part, I wrote: "besides it is like having a lover and a mommy rolled into one."
So, anyway women were suggesting counseling and that I was disgusting and I was telling them it was only a joke and had they ever heard of Freud?
I wonder if that lady ever got a man. I liked her. She was pretty. Yeah. I could have had a nice struggle with that one. | |
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| Forum usage effecting your dating?
Posted: 1/12/2009 4:36:50 PM |
Why can't anyone who's from where I live post on here? lol
I think that all the time!
When I first came on this site I was harshly convicted by sarcastic posts I made. I thought they were funny but not everybody was laughing.
Yeah, I would sometimes get that from my profile or in an email (despite the LOL to indicate it was funny sarcasm). I figure if someone doesn't get me, then they are FAR too sensitive or their ego is too large for me and it won't work in person.
Even if I am in total agreement with a post a man will make, if it is intelligent and he is not "name calling", I will find him interesting. There are some regular posters who I will be a tad shocked at times, but on the whole I've enjoyed their posts.
I don't call people pathetic, stupid, idiot, as a method of sarcasm - I would prefer to find something wittier to say.... | |
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| Forum usage effecting your dating?
Posted: 1/12/2009 5:34:04 PM | | i like reading/commenting the forums. i think a person should be interested in what i'm thinking. so if they don't agree with what i say in the forums, then they really shouldn't date me. | |
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| Forum usage effecting your dating?
Posted: 1/12/2009 9:00:20 PM | not2dvs,
Good point. That's exactly how I made a good friend here in POF. He had just lost his wife to be and he posted on POF a very compassionate comment to another lady. I contacted him and we developed a real nice friendship. Hopefully by now he has a wonderful gf that he met and he seems to be moving on. When we first talked he was pretty affected by his loss. It's good to see a human moving on from a painful situation. | |
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| Forum usage effecting your dating?
Posted: 1/12/2009 9:05:52 PM | I've talked about the forums with people I've met on here. Some have even become active.
I just re-wrote my page and added an invite to read my posts because they will tell what I'm all about.
I do enjoy the long distance emails I've gotten over the past few years. Funny how telling it straight off the cuff can effect people all over the world.
J Mac | |
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| Forum usage effecting your dating?
Posted: 1/13/2009 5:29:11 AM | I look at it as the dance floor mentality; there are those that are active, dancing and exposing them selves. Then again, there are those pointing and laughing while they hold the wall up waiting for someone to coax them out of their shell.
When I used to be here actively searching, I chatted with a lot of people from all over because of my forum posts. It was interesting and I learned a lot. I also had women question why I would expose myself like that.
Why? Because it’s me and I like to socialize, to each his own. | |
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| Forum usage effecting your dating?
Posted: 1/13/2009 11:16:28 AM | | I get a lot of comments about it. However, I also really do not mind. To me the forums are really another good way of people getting to "see" how someone thinks or responds to certain issues. I do not know if it is so much "intimidating" as it is that some people just cannot handle seeing the truth!!! Let people think what they want. I have no problem speaking up on line or off line. I know there is a time and a place for all words, thoughts and actions but I would rather someone see how I am then find out later. However, I am pretty much consistant with behavior. People will see within 10 minutes how I am anyway. I am not one to "hide" anything. | |
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| Forum usage effecting your dating?
Posted: 1/13/2009 2:11:04 PM | I've received mail BECAUSE I post in the forums. I've also looked up other's posts and used them as a filter. I find a person's forum posts reveal a lot more about them than their profile.
Does that make me more opinionated than the next person? I don't think so. It just means that I'm willing to offer my opinions and let other people comment on them. If someone is intimiated by that, then it sounds like a personal problem to me....theirs, not mine......LOL!
I hope everyone has a superb 2009! | |
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| Forum usage effecting your dating?
Posted: 1/13/2009 2:24:27 PM | | I like the forums. This is the best part of the site. Its great to have such an active discussion going on for just about any topic imaginable. | |
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| Forum usage effecting your dating?
Posted: 1/13/2009 3:45:21 PM | I haven't had many local fellows message me to comment on any of my forum posts, the comments I do receive are generally from both men and women who also post in and read the forums. So no, it hasn't effected my dating, which I've not done much of anyway.
It's very rare that a local man who has messaged me has a posting history, I wish more of them did. It often does give a clearer picture of who a person is, than their profile does. | |
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| Forum usage effecting your dating?
Posted: 1/13/2009 4:16:30 PM | It hasn't affected my dating but I have established a nice fan base and will launch a 22 city tour starting in February. 
Seriously, I have made some great long distance friends from my posts and look forward to possibly meeting them in the future. | |
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| Forum usage effecting your dating?
Posted: 1/13/2009 9:04:35 PM | | I've actually gotten a few responses and more profile views because of my posts, but no dates however. But like someone else said, posts allow people to see one side of me, and if they're interested; they'll most likely write me. | |
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| Forum usage effecting your dating?
Posted: 1/13/2009 9:09:33 PM | OP, no one reads my forum posts! The men who e-mail me never mention my forum posts. I wish they would read them, because they probably would have a better handle on who I am, so far it is just about my picture. The typical "you sure are pretty."
I did have to get away from the forums though. They were actually depressing me a bit. Dating goes up and down on POF for me. I do not think there is a connection there. Right now all online dating is going up. | |
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| Forum usage effecting your dating?
Posted: 1/13/2009 10:09:36 PM | I express alot of my thoughts on here. In the past I've written on here before I met someone awhile ago. I don't think that in my past when I did check my emails that it affected my dating. I don't have any emails coming in anymore as I'm with someone. No reason to even log into email.
I come here to read other's thoughts and see what they're going through.
I'm not a forum junkie, I just haven't had the time to pop on here and look too much lately. Life is too busy.
I read the problems and the dilemmas going on and see some of the things that I can sometimes relate to when I dated. Some things not. It helped me realize I wasn't the only one going through trials and tribulations on this site.
It's funny, not ha ha, but ironic, I am better at moral support I guess to others sometimes than myself. | |
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| Forum usage effecting your dating?
Posted: 1/13/2009 10:11:13 PM | | Oh by the way. It really ticked me off in the beginning when I'd post in the forums that it would be on my profile. I think WE should have the choice of it being on our profiles or not don't you all? | |
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