| Forum usage effecting your dating?
Posted: 1/13/2009 10:36:41 PM | | Never dated anyone on here, actually, never even considered meeting anyone here... I like the forums and the banter.... hey, to each their own.... | |
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| Forum usage effecting your dating?
Posted: 1/13/2009 11:19:56 PM | I don't know if any of the men who have contacted me have looked at my forum posting -- well, wait a minute, a few have said they do and they only had positive things to say.
I however, read the forum entries with much interest. A man who is nasty, dismissive or displays intolerance for others is someone that I would never date.
So it helps me see how the little fishies play with each other. Some play nice, others, not so nice. | |
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| Forum usage effecting your dating?
Posted: 1/13/2009 11:26:19 PM | i have forum followers/friends that i talk to.......
dating.........pof????????
like find the real thing~~~~he won't remove his profile
i guess that he still wants to fish
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| Forum usage effecting your dating?
Posted: 1/13/2009 11:27:21 PM | | I forgot, I did have one guy e-mail me who wanted to argue with me about all women being "gold diggers." I just deleted his e-mail, because he was a waste of time. | |
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| Forum usage effecting your dating?
Posted: 1/14/2009 6:31:10 AM | Nope....not effecting my dating because I'm really not dating right now (not seriously anyway).
If someone were to be turned off by what I write in the forums...well...that's on them. I can't control other people's opinions and EVERYONE has one  ! If someone were to be turned off by me being opinionated then they are not the guy for me! I can be passionately opinionated about a position I may have on a topic.
So, I would need someone strong enough in my life to banter with me....if they are that easily offended by something I say.... well then they are not strong enough for me.... | |
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| Forum usage effecting your dating?
Posted: 1/14/2009 9:41:02 AM | | I wonder about this myself sometimes. Maybe some people just can't handle the subject matter/opinion/the truth. | |
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| Forum usage effecting your dating?
Posted: 1/15/2009 1:13:42 PM | My profile is just postings...I figure that its better then the old" i love the beach" type of thing. Thinking alike in a relationship is the glue that holds things together isnt it ?..if we dont think alike, then there is bound to be some problems along the way..so I leave it up to the person checking out my profile to determine whether they are interested enough in me to read my posts...hopefully they have a few of their own so I can get a feel as to who they really are....written profile ads seem just like that...ADS ...that all read the same after the first few...blah...blah...blah..nothing to make them stand out from the rest.
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| Forum usage effecting your dating?
Posted: 1/15/2009 2:25:03 PM | I think its good that the forums show up on the pages that way people can get some insight into your thoughts.......and if they dont like what they read then I guess they need to keep fishing...... | |
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| Forum usage effecting your dating?
Posted: 1/15/2009 6:56:13 PM | i dont know about other ppl, but i find it exciting on the rare occasions i see a girls profile with posts........its like there's a deeper side to them, and also it feels like something we have in common....
as 4 what other ppl might think, i know that sometimes i write some crappy jokes, which would give a lousy first impression 4 whoever read it.....but i write it anyways, its just who i am.....got nothing to hide......
i ll end up screwing it anyway when i start talking to a girl on msn......so might as well screw it up b4 and avoid the disappointment........lol  | |
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| Forum usage effecting your dating?
Posted: 1/15/2009 8:47:01 PM | Nope, but thats ok. I have only received one messge from a forum user. I couldn't tell if it was an insult or compliment ( it was only 2 words long). *shrug* Otherwise I figure its just a filter for the  | |
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| Forum usage effecting your dating?
Posted: 1/16/2009 5:24:58 AM | | For someone to notice that you post in the forums, wouldn't they have to scroll down past the pictures?? I didn't think anyone did that! ;) | |
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| Forum usage effecting your dating?
Posted: 1/18/2009 7:31:36 PM | I tend to be a bit of a forum junkie myself. My forums have just changed over the years. This is the only one I currently visit on a regular basis. There's also a gaming forum I go on from time to time. I figure if a guy reads my replies on here and they scare him away, then he's not a good match for me anyway.
I don't let forums get in the way of dating, but I do tend to be on them more if I'm single, because it just gives me something to do. (or maybe I just like to hear myself talk and have the need to state my opinions on everything. heh)
I also like emoticons which some find annoying.   | |
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| Forum usage effecting your dating?
Posted: 1/18/2009 8:47:59 PM |
For someone to notice that you post in the forums, wouldn't they have to scroll down past the pictures?? I didn't think anyone did that! ;)
True spokenfor, I have a fairly long profile anyway, I doubt many make it down that far to see my postings. I rarely get messages from local men regarding my forum comments. I have however received them from other forum users. Since they all live a million miles away, it hasn't had an effect on my dating at all. | |
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| Forum usage effecting your dating?
Posted: 1/20/2009 5:48:11 AM | | Yeah, buckeyegal, the only email I ever get anymore is from my forum buddies...my profile is hidden and I'm not looking to meet anyone new, so I'd have to agree...my forum postings aren't affecting my "dating life" at all. LOL | |
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| Forum usage effecting your dating?
Posted: 1/27/2009 9:34:53 PM | When I was here before I use to hang in the single parents and did my best to give helpful advice... email people with legal and such,
When a fish would show an interest,, I'd say read my forums.. or the few I met or talked too, claim they never read the forums.
Now I'm in the sex and dating threads posting as such, and interesting emails and offeres are are being thrown at me....Even got 2 this week that jumped right into rather sexually open..
Nothing scientic here. I only get about 10 new emails a week. over 1/2 are more then an hour away.
just my 2 cents | |
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| Forum usage effecting your dating?
Posted: 1/27/2009 9:59:40 PM | | I really don't see a problem even if it does affect it negatively. If someone's not going to like you for the opinion you put on a forum, they're not going to like the personality responsible for forming that opinion. Think of it as an extra filter :D | |
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| Forum usage effecting your dating?
Posted: 1/28/2009 10:11:05 PM | The only difference that I've noted is in the "who's viewed you". There's always a new face in there, and after checking their profile and seeing where they're from I figure that it musta been something I typed that made them peep! Since I'm kinda mouthy and opinionated and speak from the heart, it's just another way to weed out those that don't fit my bill....  | |
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| Forum usage effecting your dating?
Posted: 1/28/2009 10:20:21 PM | Do we just come across as opinionated and are people that aren't in the forums intimidated by us?
I'm no longer looking.....(very content and happy)
but...
I make friends easily I'm a very warm caring person , off the internet people have no qualms about appraoching me in person, but am I opiniated Yes very the forums are no place for the weak of heart and people who can't handle adversity that soars way over their head. | |
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| Forum usage effecting your dating?
Posted: 1/28/2009 11:25:11 PM | Forum usage doesn't seem to make much difference on dating, as far as I can tell.
I sure find it useful to get to know folks though.
Well, at least the usual suspects. | |
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| Forum usage effecting your dating?
Posted: 2/26/2009 10:45:34 PM | If they read whats on our forum links its the best way to get to know what a person thinks, if they want to put out the time. I have found more people to talk to from forums than searching people on the My City or something.
I like this question: Do we just come across as opinionated and are people that aren't in the forums intimidated by us?
Well, I hope I date someone with an opinion, but we've got to keep our options open right! heeheeheehee | |
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| Forum usage effecting your dating?
Posted: 2/27/2009 7:29:07 AM |
If they read whats on our forum links its the best way to get to know what a person thinks, if they want to put out the time.
IF is the operative word here...
Considering that MAYBE 1 in 30 (if that) even read a profile before emailing - never mind getting to the forum postings, or even realizing there are forums here at POF to begin with...  | |
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| Forum usage effecting your dating?
Posted: 2/27/2009 7:45:32 AM | I met a guy from here around a year ago. We had a few chats online and when I was in his town we decided to meet and have a drink. Throughout the course of the evening he quoted me (from forum posts) many times. I don't know if I was flattered that he did his homework or freaked out. I still am not sure what to make of it.
When I get an email from a man I 1. read his profile 2. look carefully at all his pics. 3. read any forum posts he has made 4. go back and read the message he sent.
I am sure that some men may check me out and then look at some of my posts and think - no way! As already mentioned, if this scares a man off he isn't for me anyway. | |
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| Forum usage effecting your dating?
Posted: 3/1/2009 9:23:40 PM | I'm not a forum junkie. I don't have time alot to read things. I just do it when I'm bored sometimes. I'm too busy most of the time. I don't think I'm opinionated, just throwing some suggestions out there now and then. It's the person who posted (OP) decision to take advice from others or not.
Some people come here and post, because their heart is broken, they're new to the dating world, they need help, etc.
I'm not here to judge or step on any toes.
I've read many forums over the past, and basically I see alot of the same problems over and over again. The good forums are the ones that people step in and try to help the other person gently, not put down or make the person feel worse. We're all human, with hearts, remember that people, please. | |
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| Forum usage effecting your dating?
Posted: 3/1/2009 9:29:10 PM | | Nope. I don't date just as easily with or without the forums! But forums are interesting and often educational! | |
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