| Slept with 83 people
Posted: 1/13/2009 12:27:11 PM | | If he loves her he needs to get over it at least she's experienced!!! | |
|
| Slept with 83 people
Posted: 1/13/2009 12:27:49 PM | There was another POF thread that talked about a guy and his amount. It's interesting to see the two threads and the responses they got/get. Though in any thread topic that speaks of exclusions tensions will be high.
OP, This is why BEFORE it gets serious I ask this question. I won't date a guy who treats sex like it's nothing at all that can be had with anybody. So on that note I can kind of understand. 83 is alarmingly high, for any age. IMO, over 20 is high for any age. Nebula does have one point and that is age really has no baring on amount.
How long has he known her to be just finding something like this out now?
He should have thought about this BEFORE getting engaged. Honestly, I think for his particular situation unless she lied and said less before, he should forget about the number. If she lied, I'd call it all off. He should learn his lesson though, find out these things before hand. For some people amount isn't important but for some others it is, everybody is different. | |
|
| Slept with 83 people
Posted: 1/13/2009 12:31:46 PM | wasnt there something about if a guy tells you he slept with # add #?
and same with the female too.
nice mathamatical riddle, LOL
W*X, (Y/Z), to the 12th power................ then 83 = SLUT!
  | |
|
| Slept with 83 people
Posted: 1/13/2009 12:33:51 PM | | My crystal ball tells me that should he "accept" her and drop it...this will be thrown up in arguments for years to come! I say the girl should run like hell from a man who would propose and then contemplate ending it over something so ridiculous...Not like he thought he was a VIRGIN! SHEESH | |
|
| Slept with 83 people
Posted: 1/13/2009 12:34:07 PM |
He really thinks she very cute
Is she 83 other guys cute? Or just 50 other guys cute? I am going to assume she has more going for her than being cute and sleeping with a lot of guys (although, I don't know how she finds the time...). Personally, I don't ask such questions ("How many..." or "Am I the best you've ever had?"). If she's a fine upstanding AND CUTE! girl, what does it matter? She likes sex, so that's a positive. And she's CUTE! | |
|
| Slept with 83 people
Posted: 1/13/2009 12:56:33 PM | I've read most of the responses and now I have come to my conclusion/opinion.
I'd have trouble with that number. The fact that she knows the number in and of itself is troubling to me. 83 men... I think it's just really disgusting and a sign that she is emotionally troubled. If she had 3 long term boyfriends that she banged 1,000,000 times, I would not care nor blink an eye. That's what people do in committed relationships. Fine.
83 men is sickening and I would have to think long and hard (she seems to know a lot about long and hard) about her and the future. Having that many partners is a character flaw. You cannot tell me they were all consummated while in relationships (meaning she had MANY one-nighter's, something most respectable women would not do to themselves), and you cannot tell me they were not all consummated sober (meaning she most likely had drunk sex which means she's probably done it unprotected or with impaired judgment) or she's done it with a few guys at once. That's unacceptable. I'm presuming a lot??? I don't think so.
Just my thoughts. | |
|
| Slept with 83 people
Posted: 1/13/2009 1:07:42 PM | I have a couple questions for those of you who think he should get over her number, and who think its no big deal.
How many of you have close friends who have slept with that many people in that amount of time?
And I mean close friends that you spend alot of time with TODAY, not just an aqaintance.
I also mean that they are still single and active, not someone who did that years ago.
Do you trust that person around your SO? (if you have one) or would you trust them?
Just curious, lol! | |
|
| Slept with 83 people
Posted: 1/13/2009 1:16:41 PM | Do the number of lifetime sex partners mean something in relation to gender? Yes. Is it equal and fair? No. Can or should perceptions be changed? No.
In other words promiscuity is a double standard as applied to men and women. Lying about it or crying about it won't change social perceptions or behavior in practice.
The past is the past? Not really. Women go over my past with a fine toothed comb. Behavior regarding drugs and alcohol are somehow immutable and unforgivable. Sexual behavior regarding promiscuity, well that's just a number. When it regards a woman. The past is the past...?
People can and do change. But the issue certainly deserves consideration. High minded tolerance is great but that woman had a mattress strapped to her back. Round heels. Knee pads. Something to consider. | |
|
| Slept with 83 people
Posted: 1/13/2009 1:33:52 PM | Ahhhh Bodypro, thats the Million Dollar question???? what kind of woman was she?
my other question is how did he know? did she tell him or some other folks came up with the number?
The past should be the past, but with some folks it isnt , that I agree with, double standards for sure but until we find out what made this woman sleep with those guys , we cant say she's a slut for sure. | |
|
| Slept with 83 people
Posted: 1/13/2009 1:47:00 PM | msg 110. Sometimes, SOMETIMES, people emerge from sordid and self destructive pasts to emerge with a new integrity tempered by a tolerance of ones own and others failures and weaknesses.
Now, apparently, I have reversed myself on my previous post. Sexual behavior is a loaded issue. How many is TOO many (life time partners)?
And of course there is that double standard between genders. Which is immutable.
Nobody knows the whole story here. Our posts reveal ourselves. That is all they can do. | |
|
Lurtle
|
Joined: 1/29/2008
Msg: 111 | |
| Slept with 83 people
Posted: 1/13/2009 2:02:48 PM | Procol Harem:
lurtle,
She didn't have sex 83 times.
She had sex with 83 different men.
HUGE difference.
You missed my point...the whole reference to her vagina being big was what I was referring to. | |
|
| Slept with 83 people
Posted: 1/13/2009 2:07:36 PM |
How many of you have close friends who have slept with that many people in that amount of time?
Beats me. I don't ask friends this, either. | |
|
| Slept with 83 people
Posted: 1/13/2009 2:29:47 PM |
How many of you have close friends who have slept with that many people in that amount of time? And I mean close friends that you spend alot of time with TODAY, not just an aqaintance.
At least 3 that I've known long and well enuf to know such personal things about their lives. And me.
I also mean that they are still single and active, not someone who did that years ago.
There's the caveat. All of us are in our late 40s and are in long-term, exclusive relationships/marriages (or were until recently). So there's proof that "sluts" can change (or perhaps the better word would be mature?).
Do you trust that person around your SO? (if you have one) or would you trust them?
I trust all 3 of them around my man. It's the former goodie-two-shoes who used to only mate once a year max turned attention-seeking, gold-digging wh*** I don't trust. LOL! | |
|
giaus
|
Joined: 12/28/2008
Msg: 114 | |
| Slept with 83 people
Posted: 1/13/2009 3:06:30 PM | | WALK THE F...... AWAY MAN........BEFORE ITS TO LATE,OR YOU WILL BE VERY SORRY........THIS IS A SKANK | |
|
giaus
|
Joined: 12/28/2008
Msg: 115 | |
| |
Iorca
|
Joined: 7/28/2007
Msg: 116 | |
| Slept with 83 people
Posted: 1/13/2009 3:37:20 PM | | I can't help thinking 'at what point was she thinking of stopping counting?' | |
|
| Slept with 83 people
Posted: 1/13/2009 3:39:40 PM | | He should do what he wants. And make this a lesson, it isn't anyone's busniess how many guys/girls someone has slept with. A guy will never know how many I slept with let alone how much is in my bank account. After all, numbers aren't everything. | |
|
| Slept with 83 people
Posted: 1/13/2009 3:44:57 PM | 83 sex partners, whether it is a man or a woman, indicates LOTS of casual sex. A guy having this many sex partners indicates the same sort of indiscretionary sex as a woman. The bigger issue is the guy didn't have the sense to keep his mouth shut until he made a decision regarding whether he wanted to continue the relationship or not. If he shared that information with a friend, his friend tells two friends, they tell two friends, and so on, and so on... Not a positive sign that the guy is very mature. Loose lips sink ships.
She may or may not have contracted an STD. Her probability of having an STD is DEFINITELY higher, regardless whether or not her and her partner practiced "safer" sex.
This sort of thread has already been in these forums, I couldn't find the thread, but the double standard that gets applied to the woman as opposed to the guy is ludicrous. The knowledge of any man or woman having that many sex partners in a fairly short period of time ought to give their partner cause to seriously consider whether or not their partner is capable of appreciating a committed relationship.
What should he do? Suggest that his partner get tested for STDs. If he had sex with her (I'm assuming so), he should get tested as well. Even if they are both clean, they might both have an STD. Both people are in a pickle if one or both test positive. | |
|
| Slept with 83 people
Posted: 1/13/2009 3:56:05 PM | What if this promiscuous "slut" chose most of her 83 from the huge vocal majority of "nice, quality guys"
let's do the math, shall we?
assumption #1: the number 83 is accurate.
assumption #2: the girl lost her virginity at the age of 16.
83 quality fvcks over a 10-year period = 8.3 quality fvcks per year or 1.4 quality fvcks on a monthly basis.
now tell me, how does somebody pull that off without (a) being a prostitute; or (b) giving it away for free as often as humanly possible (a.k.a. "slut" in the vernacular parlance). not written into this equation is the variable of "quality" which, by any stretch of the imagination, must be an outlier on a relative basis, unless we count "quality" as merely over 6 inches in length.
now assuming assumptions #1 and #2 are both true, that either makes her a slut, or a liar. or perhaps both.
we all pass judgment on people for various reasons. the above factors would certainly make *me* change my mind about wanting to marry a man[slut] inclined to behave in a similar fashion, but hey i'm what is known as a "difficult woman". | |
|
| Slept with 83 people
Posted: 1/13/2009 3:59:54 PM | Wow this thread is still going ..
People change.
Sh#t happens.
I just don't see it as an issue as presented in the context it was. | |
|
| |
| Slept with 83 people
Posted: 1/13/2009 4:26:39 PM | If he dumps her have her look me up. I like a woman with some experience! | |
|
| Slept with 83 people
Posted: 1/13/2009 4:45:16 PM |
How many of you have close friends who have slept with that many people in that amount of time?
Beats me. I don't ask friends this, either.
If you have a close friend who is this active, they would be gossiped about enough you would`nt need to ask them.
There's the caveat. All of us are in our late 40s and are in long-term, exclusive relationships/marriages (or were until recently). So there's proof that "sluts" can change (or perhaps the better word would be mature?).
Thanks but I`m looking for those who have close friendships with people who are actively "running their numbers up" or whatever you want to call it.
I`m curious though, did you only choose friendship with them after they left the game and changed as you put it, or did you not know them during their ahh, campaign?
What if they went back to their old ways, would you see them as immature and end the friendships? | |
|
| Slept with 83 people
Posted: 1/13/2009 6:46:26 PM | | The bigger question is why on earth would she tell him how many people she's slept with? If you can't handle the answer, don't ask the question! | |
|
| Slept with 83 people
Posted: 1/13/2009 6:53:57 PM |
Do you trust that person around your SO? (if you have one) or would you trust them?
Uh, yeah. The only person "I" have to trust is my S.O. It doesn't matter whether or not the "friend" can be trusted, because my S.O. can be. | |
|
Home
login 
