| One night stand...any chance he'll call?
Posted: 1/19/2009 11:32:21 PM | Wow!!! it all makes sense now...I love the first line...it is so true. Eventhough we actually know it...we still go ahead and do it. I had sex with this guy that I though was so hot and actually saw myself being with him. But of course while I was thinking about us planning a movie the next weekend he was probably thinking about the next girl. Let me ask you a question now...if a woman and a man have great chemistry and desire themselves the first time they meet...is wrong to have sex? and if a woman likes this man a lot and does not have sex with him...isn't he thinking negative of her 'cause she didn't give it up? I mean I'm confused...you do and he never calls back then you don't and he thinks you have a stick up your butt!!!! what is wrong and right?...what happened with meeting and desireing eachother and ending up in bed having great sex and have the manners to call the next day...!!!! what is wrong with calling the next day to say hey! it was great and all but I don't think this is going to work out!!! ...wow! that was not hard at all..was it?   | |
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| One night stand...any chance he'll call?
Posted: 1/19/2009 11:37:51 PM | Wow that has to be the most amazing true and just to the point answer Ive seen from a guy on here !!!!
True true and more true and good for u :} a real straight shooter it seems .... | |
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| One night stand...any chance he'll call?
Posted: 1/20/2009 12:24:20 AM | ""SOUNDS LIKE A PLAN""
Dear OP, losen up, cheer up and focus on this part of his answer. To me he is just laughing with you about how things happened. But he seems to be fine with the idea of pursuing knowing each other better. Sometimes humor is not well written or its used as a defense mechanism.
Also notice he writes: ""WE are doing.....""" He accepted he was a party to the events. So its not an attack to you or anything, in any case to both of you.
I would be happy and ready for yr next meeting. BEST OF LUCKS!!!!! | |
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| One night stand...any chance he'll call?
Posted: 1/20/2009 8:14:41 PM |
Wait you want to get to know me a little better aren’t you suppose to do that first. We are kind of working backwards here. I am just kidding sounds like a plan. Hope you had a good weekend.
Caroline, I read warmth and humor in his response, not criticism. A friend once told me that she is very slow to hop in the sack with a new love interest because people usually stop getting to know one another once they have sex. According to her theory, once you've had sex, the desire to keep having sex will inhibit your willingness to show your true self or see your lover's true self. I think this may be often true, but it is not an immutable truth. You both have expressed the desire to know each other better. Don't hold back!
I think all of the folks who think a one night stand can't develop into something more are just shallow or jaded. Your would be beau doesn't seem to have that attitude and if you can avoid it, then I see great potential happiness in your future together. Please keep us posted.  | |
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| One night stand...any chance he'll call?
Posted: 1/20/2009 8:20:26 PM | OP--
Most of my best relationships, including the one I call my "best," have started that way. So my answer to your question is yes. But note I'm referring to relationships since I've been divorced, so I'm going off the last five years (Good theatre show to see, if anyone is interested). Also note that I'm 42, and I think it's much more common for people around my age to be open to a relationship developing from a so-called one night stand. | |
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| One night stand...any chance he'll call?
Posted: 1/21/2009 1:37:16 AM |
if a woman and a man have great chemistry and desire themselves the first time they meet...is wrong to have sex?
I love the word 'chemistry'...
'Chemistry' is what players create to get a naive woman into bed the first night...
'Chemistry' can happen...
but not as often as it's made.... | |
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| One night stand...any chance he'll call?
Posted: 1/21/2009 2:19:55 AM | Look, a girl at work used to flirt with me, I gave her my number one day. She never called and what's worse, she now scowls at me every time I see her.
Another girl, met her on vacation, she lives like other end of North America, she seemed like a nice girl and I figured we talked quite a bit she seemed nice, maybe we should get in touch like nice and friendly facebook or whatever, seriously what am I going to do about a woman who lives 7+ hours away by plane.
I never touched either of these women, both seemed interested in at the very least *just talking* to me. Honestly, I'm a friendly guy what's the problem yeh? Well apparently there's a big god damn problem.
The point of that story? It's akward to call a woman after jumping into bed with her, getting what you want with little effort and then calling her to tell her "Sorry, you were good but... uh not that good... Cya!" but if you want to pin this on men as being a male trait, women will leave you hanging just as easily and for less. | |
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| One night stand...any chance he'll call?
Posted: 1/21/2009 3:06:26 AM | my last 2 long term relationships started with one night stands.
its risky but you never know who the person might be
I wish you the best of luck if you guys really hit it off that well | |
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| One night stand...any chance he'll call?
Posted: 1/21/2009 5:55:36 AM | Your both adults and consented to the night and by your words had a great time....if he calls that would be a plus...BUT if he doesnt....move on and chalk it up to a nice night... | |
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| One night stand...any chance he'll call?
Posted: 1/21/2009 6:39:07 AM | after reading what he texted you I think you're loosing your sense of humor, I honestly think he was just teasing you in a nice way, and i would have thought that the first text he sent ya, the fact that you questioned his teasing makes you seem a little humorless and insecure.
He was flirting with you... joking.
To me he is just laughing with you about how things happened. But he seems to be fine with the idea of pursuing knowing each other better. Sometimes humor is not well written or its used as a defense mechanism.
Also notice he writes: ""WE are doing.....""" He accepted he was a party to the events. So its not an attack to you or anything, in any case to both of you.
Your defensive reply to his email was unwarranted in my opinion, but it sounds like he's willing to look past that. Maybe you'll want to have a chat sometime about how awkward this whole situation has been for you, how insecure you've been feeling - hence your uptight, defensive reply email - but not now.
Keep it light. If you have a good time when you meet up again, why don't you tell him that since you're doing it 'backwards' he can only expect a kiss this time Let him know you do have a sense of humour - and tease him back - about how easy he is, and how he could get a reputation if he didn't watch out.
I wish you luck. | |
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| One night stand...any chance he'll call?
Posted: 1/21/2009 6:41:47 AM | | I still wish the girl I had that one nighter with was still with me . THAT why I hate one night stands / leaves you wanting more . IF , I had her phone number . I WOULD be calling . | |
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| One night stand...any chance he'll call?
Posted: 1/22/2009 4:57:37 AM |
I still wish the girl I had that one nighter with was still with me . THAT why I hate one night stands / leaves you wanting more . IF , I had her phone number . I WOULD be calling .
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| One night stand...any chance he'll call?
Posted: 1/22/2009 10:02:06 AM | | I'm thinking the guy wants to like you, but you're making it hard for him to do it. You snapped at a very clear (To me.) joke. He explained it to you, and left the ball in your court. He's probably thinking, "Too bad she turned out to be crazy. I kind of liked her." | |
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| One night stand...any chance he'll call?
Posted: 1/22/2009 11:34:39 AM | If you don't hear from him, I'd bet it's more because guys in their 20s, for the most part, are just looking for fun. Don't take that personally. You had a great time, Good for you and don't beat yourself up about it. It's not like you're some 18 year old who still believes Mr Right's going to ride up on a white horse.
It's 2009 for God's sakes, you're not a slut, you're a big girl who had fun. | |
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| One night stand...any chance he'll call?
Posted: 1/22/2009 11:45:53 AM | Could take the guess work out of it and just call to say Hi...
He could be just like yourself as not knowing just what to do about what took place... | |
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| One night stand...any chance he'll call?
Posted: 1/22/2009 1:00:58 PM | When I'm writing my reply its the 22nd OP posted on the 12th, that's 10 days, plus how however many before she posted, I hate to be negative, but He would have called by now if he was really into you. It happens, heck he might still call but chances are, he won't. Don't beat yourself up about it, you had fun right? think of it it as having fun, let it go.
I am also confused by people saying their relationship started with a one night stand, maybe I don't know the meaning as well as I thought but One night stand seems pretty clear cut ONE NIGHT STAND, not the same as sex on a first date, I had sex on a first date with a guy I dated for two years, didn't have sex with a guy for several dates, only to never get a call after sex happened. Dating is tricky!
My advice don't think about it too much, if you really want to see him, pick up that phone and call, expect the worst, hope for the best. Life goes on regardless of what happens with him.
*edit* just read about the text messaging, hm, I'm going to go out a limb and say you'll probably end up FWB (friends with benefits) Which is fine, if that's what you want. | |
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| One night stand...any chance he'll call?
Posted: 1/22/2009 1:16:09 PM | | You made it through law school so I think you can handle making a call. Where is it written the man makes the call? If you really like the guy and think he may be worth the long distance relationship you need to have an adult conversation now about how you want to proceed. Why leave the door open to having doubts later? | |
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| One night stand...any chance he'll call?
Posted: 1/22/2009 1:19:25 PM | | Unless it's bull$hit she made it through the indoctrination process and probably sat with her legs crossed for 4 or whatever years and recently experienced her first intercourse. | |
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| One night stand...any chance he'll call?
Posted: 1/24/2009 9:44:27 PM |
This past weekend, I was set up with a date for a friend's wedding. The guy is a family friend who I have known casually for a while, but I hadn't spent any real time with him before. I was dreading it (thought it might be awkward), but he and I ended up having a great time. we had very similar senses of humor, and we work in the same field. We drank and talked to whole night, and (very late in the evening) we ended up having sex (several times) at a nice hotel downtown. The sex was AMAZING. But I think I may have acted a little awkward in the morning...I was a little embarrassed to wake up in a hotel room with this guy.
He and I are both lawyers in our late 20's.
I have never had a one night stand before. I actually like this guy, and he seemed to like me. He said he would call. And, even though he lives in another city, both of us can travel quite easily.
So, my question is: do guys ever call after one night stands? Guys--have you ever ended up dating someone after something like this?
Thanks for any insight!
One night stands in todays world is stupidity at its highest level; i'm sure he's rarely had sex;
and yes; he will call you with sweet nothings saying how amazing you are.
how immature can you get. Your not a kid; | |
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| One night stand...any chance he'll call?
Posted: 1/25/2009 3:07:21 AM | In hindsight to all my one-nighters, I damned sure WILL call when I want another one, and you left me a real working number.
But seriously folks..............
Yep, they are great. Fun, uncomplicated, great sex. Usually, I don't have just one-night, after all, the gals in question aren't getting enough or big, and we hook up, then from time-to-time, it continues (usually fading away as we get bored with each other).
In the end, I always leave it up to: Her. If she wants, she wants, if not, I am sure I will find someone else. "Dating".......no. I don't "date", never have, never will. Meet and have some fun, or maybe even hang out, sure. No need to "date", both of us are getting the best of everything we want, with no BS. Now, would I CONSIDER "dating" a gal that I had an off & on with? Why........hell yeah!
After all, if I am still having sex with her on occasion, and we are enjoying it, then obviously, we get along! Hell, we ALREADY knocked out the prime pain-in-the-anus question of Sex, correct? Relationships are the EASY part (since all I EVER hear from married people is ****ing about: SEX). Trust me, if you ain't any good at sex, why in the HELL would you keep me, or vice versa!
Simply the way the world works.
But for that short time span of the typical One-Nighter: We had some FUN! | |
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