| I Read His Postcard...
Posted: 1/13/2009 1:53:21 PM | When your dealing with liers and cheaters a postacard that you read is no problems the postie read it 2 and 10 other people .
ICEMAN would of read it 2 . | |
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| I Read His Postcard...
Posted: 1/13/2009 2:01:00 PM | its not snooping... it was a postcard. Snooping would have been ripping open an envelope.
I don't care what anyone says.. you can type one thing on the internet so people believe that you are a decent person... but in all reality.. behind closed doors... WE WOULD HAVE ALL READ IT.. STOP DENYING AND BE REAL.
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| I Read His Postcard...
Posted: 1/13/2009 2:03:24 PM | i missed something.... SHE HAS EVERY RIGHT TO READ THE POST CARD AND ANYTHING ELSE THAT COMES IN... IF HE HAS NOTHING TO HIDE, HE HAS NOTHING TO HIDE RIGHT??? HE HAS ALREADY PROVEN THAT HE CANNOT BE TRUSTED.
but yeh... once a cheat, always a cheat.. people do not change, they just pretend to temporarily.. so you should have left him the first time he proved he was an ass. | |
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| I Read His Postcard...
Posted: 1/13/2009 2:11:37 PM | ^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^...............................................
After raising kids through the teenage years.. you learn NOT to read anybody elses anything! There's a right to privacy. Everyone has it. Breach it.. and you'll never be trusted with or by anyone ever again. If I went through my kids mail.. and what-not.. what and who was to stop them from going through mine.. and what have you. NO thanks! I appreciate my privacy far too much for that to start happening.
How would you feel about someone reading.. then burning your mail?
Talk about being REAL?!  | |
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| I Read His Postcard...
Posted: 1/13/2009 2:11:54 PM | I think maybe I missed something here NOT ??? you think ohthereugo, that I would of read it? bullsh1t, I wouldn't of read it, thats none of my business If someone trusts me to house sit for them, that doesn't mean I have to right to read something address to them.
If my friends wants to share that with me its one thing, reading something that doesn't belong to me is another, I guess im not the curious type.
No Hunneeeee, she doesn't have the right to read his postcard, IT WAS ADDRESSED TO HIM, so let me house sit for you and im sure you dont mind me reading your post cards and mail , is that ok?
As far as im concerned he's moron for allowing this woman to house sit for him and she's stupid to put up with his behavior, so what he was banging someone else, they weren't exclusive, they were fuc* k buddies plain and simple. | |
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| I Read His Postcard...
Posted: 1/13/2009 2:15:08 PM | | I cant believe you set his mail on fire...isnt that a federal offense or something...ok clueless listen up, you so crossed the friends line by getting jealous, if he was cheating, who was he cheating on? YOU!!!! lol no honey, you are not his wife, or even his girlfriend, just some insecure felon that he was sleeping with, I would have never had trusted you in my house if I were him...poor guy, I hope he has learned a lesson from dealing with a person like you. | |
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| I Read His Postcard...
Posted: 1/13/2009 2:40:13 PM |
How would you feel about someone reading.. then burning your mail?
Well, someone did open and read my mail. And not only that, they put the contents, along with several other people's correspondence, on a web site. That's how I know when you give someone permission to receive your mail, it isn't against federal regulations if they read it. None of us was happy about the whole thing, but it was our fault for being ignorant.
When you can't be there to receive your own mail, put a vacation hold on it. Then you don't have to worry about anyone but postal employees reading your mail. | |
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| I Read His Postcard...
Posted: 1/13/2009 2:47:55 PM | ^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^.............................
Sorry to hear that Pazoozoo.
No way of getting legally compensated for NOT giving permission for it to be publicized over the net? Afterall.. you didn't give the world permission to "handle" your mail.. right? No punitive damages? | |
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| I Read His Postcard...
Posted: 1/13/2009 2:49:37 PM |
WE WOULD HAVE ALL READ IT.. STOP DENYING AND BE REAL.
Is it the issue that she read it--which many of us might do--or that she burned it?
If someone takes mail out of your box, it is ILLEGAL and they can be prosecuted for tampering with the US mail. Burning certainly falls within those limits. | |
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| I Read His Postcard...
Posted: 1/13/2009 2:57:07 PM | (by the way, she said in the card she couldn't stand the idea of having some other woman touching him and she was going to look for him on the beach...)
If anyone was house sitting for me and read a postcard i recieved you know what big deal .
Who puts intimate shite on a postcard we all know its an open letter to anyone that handles the postcard i dont know the full story maybe the other chick he was fukin knew she was house sitting a devious plan i know lol
If it was a plan that shed read it beautifull execution indeed
Burning the card we all agree is very very naughty shouldnt of done that naughty girl has learned her lesson ,i hope . | |
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| I Read His Postcard...
Posted: 1/13/2009 3:22:09 PM | He was away.. she was bringing his mail in and what gal would not think that, that postcard was likely from him to her... any of us would have ...
Not me. I would expect someone to send me mail at *MY* address.
UrsulaMajor.. finally, the voice of reason.
You're too kind. x
I also agree with those who said the OP apears to have misconstrued the nature of their relationship. Forgetting the "FWP" designation, let's say "Fred" and I decide that, when he returns from Paris, he and I will sit down and talk about getting back together.
Until Fred returns from Paris, we are not together. Nope, not yet. I might not be happy if Fred has a fling with a French waitress, but I actually have no real say in the matter...since he and I are not together.
Afterall, he didn't send HER the post card .. that was out of HIS control.
Quite right. Besides, you have to consider that the wench who mailed the postcard was *hoping* someone else would read it. Who writes intimate relationship details on a postcard for everyone to see, anyway? An attention-seeker, that's who.
Which is why I always write simply, "Having a lovely here, wish you were time" on my postcards, which is neither here nor there. | |
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| I Read His Postcard...
Posted: 1/13/2009 8:18:52 PM | FWB---you don't stake a claim, you don't make a claim---no such thing as "cheating".
It is what it is, and there's a place for that kind of relationship, but it is not the place to be whining about these sorts of things---He's not your boyfriend. | |
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| I Read His Postcard...
Posted: 1/13/2009 9:13:47 PM | The gal who wrote that postcard did not write it for the op's so called fwb.. it was written exactly for her .. is anyone not aware of that, men play games with women's body parts... women play games with peoples heads.... some have defined fwb as non commital.... Well there is no such thing as a commitment free relationship.. Everybody has expectations in a relationship ........... everybody .. we all work from a barometer of whence we came. If you have no commitment to yourself then and only then can you offer the same to someone else .. and even in the most insidious and heinous members of our species there is still some level of commitment , albeit very skewed.
and ergo ... my dose of in-side-E-us... The only mail that should have been burned to a nice carbonized charr.. was the homonympher.... "YOU got MAIL, MALE" The OP needs to learn more constructive ways to deal with her very deep emotional pain... once channeled to yourself to heal and love you will be doin fine.
Everybody is bashing the OP here and the bigger crime as far as I can see is that she gave her heart to a man who fed her whatever she wanted to hear to get what he wanted from her, so she is obviously very good in the sackaroo dep, she is attentive .. and paying attention is one very important part of being a great lover ... or he wouldah hit the high and low road long ago.... and he was also busy lying to himself .. but then again, men are experts at getting over the guilt while woman wear it like a victorian set of undergarments and a virgin wool dress that would weigh about 100 pounds.
I dunno how many gals I know that have a male friend that they are involved with .. using latex to house the body fluids and call it fwb, the gals think this is exclusive and are just hoping that it goes beyond .. their ovaries and that sometime she will matter to him.. A male who is involved in an fwb is always ready for the next quick fix for his di-ck... but wants to keep the one he is doing around just in case and never tells the gal he is involved in fwb genital slapping about a new conquest he just waits to see and always has an available toy in the closet who will come out with enuff coaxing to be recycled, reduced and reused!
Fwb as a definition and an activity does not work, because the definition cannot even be definitively acted out with the worlds best psychopaths.. our most notorius duo in Canada could not play out their insidiousness without other emotions entering into the equation... sex should bring out the whammo of human emotions .. so unless you block the ability to let yourself go and be connected in all of being human .. even the sex is lousy because the genitals are stimulated via brain centers .. and no emotional ,no bond .. less letting go... and a woman has to let go to have great sex and a man who feels a woman letting go makes him feel a strength that nothing else provides on this planet ... it is non descript that feeling has no definition.. it just is.
The only benefit of an fwb is an individual that has decided to become less than human and act as a vessel for fluid exchange desensitizing the need to feel connected and to have something evolve beyond the flesh and into the realm of what makes us feel like we belong to so much more ....
Op you just gottah revisit your inner love for yourself, nurse that gal back to health and understand that you have the right to feel like your entire essence of being deserves to feel what you have stretches out beyond what even you envisioned.. stop the guilt and when you look out beyond yourself always make sure that first you hug that girl that lives within, she came from many before her and deserves to live her love and then offers so much more. | |
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| I Read His Postcard...
Posted: 1/13/2009 9:20:13 PM | | Aside from the crime you committed by destroying his mail, which I believe is a felony, you did the human thing in reading it and the right thing in leaving him. It's hard for people to not read something right in front of them. It's human to be curious. If it was meant to be it would have been, but considering his history of cheating I wouldn't count on it. Maybe you should count your blessings that you didn't invest more time in it... | |
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| I Read His Postcard...
Posted: 1/13/2009 9:26:06 PM | | Of course, maybe he should count his blessings that you two are over... | |
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| I Read His Postcard...
Posted: 1/13/2009 9:31:22 PM |
WE WOULD HAVE ALL READ IT.. STOP DENYING AND BE REAL
Damn I love it when other people talk for me (yeah that was meant sarcastically)
NO, we wouldnt have ALL read it and yes I'm being VERY real! Some of us, go into a relationship trusting the other person and do NOT feel a need to be nosy and read someone else's mail. If I were in a relationship and had such a lack of trust that I felt that I needed to read someone else's mail, it would be time to end the relationship then and there.
And to burn his mail? That's wrong on it's own level right there! | |
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| I Read His Postcard...
Posted: 1/13/2009 9:56:35 PM | | <<<<*hums theme from 'the twilight zone' then barfs on shoes* | |
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| I Read His Postcard...
Posted: 1/13/2009 11:32:21 PM | Dear " verycuriouskitty " ,
How very sad .
This woman has SUCCEEDED at doing EXACTLY what she set out to do .
You were on track to getting back together , and she was GONE .
So she wrote to him , where SHE KNEW HE WASN'T GOING TO BE , and where she KNEW YOU WERE GOING TO BE .
She wrote " to him " on a POST CARD , knowing full well that you would read it , get mad , and leave .
She got you to show yourself as untrustworthy , a federal law breaker , and unable to control yourself .
The only thing she didn't get that she probably hoped for , is you didn't leave then and there, and let the poor dog die in slow agony of dehydration .
How sad , your FWB ( Friend With ( sexual ) Benefits ? ) and you loose .
This woman WINS .
( Even if he didn't go back to her , I am sure , in her little mind , she " got even " !
camper33 . | |
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| I Read His Postcard...
Posted: 1/14/2009 12:30:50 AM |
WE WOULD HAVE ALL READ IT.. STOP DENYING AND BE REAL. Speak for yourself. I would have simply taken the mail and piled it on the dining room table. Being real means to me to not assume what other people would do.
I wouldn't call this "cheating" per se, but it is a violation of trust. I know I don't understand FWB relationships very well. When FWBs agree to hook up, is there any sort of discussion regarding who was the other's last sex partner? If not, STDs are a distinct possibility. Isn't one of the Benefits of FWBs feeling like you are having sex and LESS likely to get a disease? | |
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| I Read His Postcard...
Posted: 1/14/2009 12:54:35 AM | I'm always suspicious of people who date "crazy" people.
More often than not, they're lying to cover their tracks.
And now he's making you feel guilty for reading a post card??
Especially after he shows you the other ones?
bah
You should revisit the feelings you had when you first thought breaking up was a good idea.
Chemistry is often the last thing to go when a relationship ends and it makes people do silly things like get back together when they shouldn't. | |
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| I Read His Postcard...
Posted: 1/14/2009 4:03:07 AM | fwb is interesting how many fwbs can you have ,one four six
or is it exclusive to one .
What do u say to each other ill fuk u u fuk me but we will just be friends . | |
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| I Read His Postcard...
Posted: 1/14/2009 5:02:42 AM |
WE WOULD HAVE ALL READ IT.. STOP DENYING AND BE REAL.
Hunneeee...
When I can no longer talk or think for myself...I'll let you know.
I wouldn't have read the card. Period. I've collected other people's mail before when housesitting...you know what you do? You put it in a pile where they've asked you to. And yes, before you ask, once was for someone I used to date. It's HIS mail---HIS MAIL. Postcard, letter, junk--all not mine.
OP had more feelings for this guy than she wanted to admit and he didn't. Him having to defend HIS mail is BS. Him getting pissed at her for acting like a jealous GF--within his right.
Look--there's no justifying being a snoop. Mail, email, phones, whatever--especially if it's a sexual relationship only.
And again with the whole why have an FWB? Because if that's what you want, that's what you want. Stay focused stone throwers---being pissy cause she had one is NOT the question at hand. Keep those judgments to yourselves. There's a lot of people who do it--they just don't admit it. The question isn't about how bad she is for having an FWB--it's about her feeling guilty for reading and burning (for crying out loud FFS what's wrong with you??) mail in a jealous fit.
OP...you think the card writer has issues? You're well on your way to being her by burning someone else's mail in a jealous fit sister. | |
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| I Read His Postcard...
Posted: 1/14/2009 9:48:24 AM |
WE WOULD HAVE ALL READ IT.. STOP DENYING AND BE REAL.
Speak for yourself. I would have simply taken the mail and piled it on the dining room table. Being real means to me to not assume what other people would do.
Yup, that's what any normal person would have done. Other than to just be NOSY, there was no need to rifle through his pile of mail.
Although, I question OP's moral compass to begin with... but that's just me. | |
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| I Read His Postcard...
Posted: 1/14/2009 10:33:30 AM | It is* not believable *that a woman would write a very private matters in a postcard, that every one can read including the postmaster's staffs.YOUR QOUTE--( by the way,she said in the card she couldn't stand the idea of having some other woman touching him and she was going to look for him on the beach...) People write all the time on postcards on their vacations ,but not private matters that need to put inside an envelope and address to the right person. He was in Baja Mexico and the letter was from California,there is something not right here ,* and she is going to look for him on the beach? That means he is in California. My conclusion on this is your FWB wants to break up your casual sex relation because it is leading in to seriousness on your part and he is not ready yet or he has some other reasons. He was the one who sent that stupid postcard to you LOL. I bet you are a good woman you deserve a better man than him. | |
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