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| who recovers faster after a breakup men or women?
Posted: 2/21/2009 12:02:15 AM | My ex-girlfriend was over our relationship so fast she started dating someone while we were still seeing each other. I however took probably about 3 years to get over it.
Heh, actually, not that I think about it I dunno if she got over it that fast. She still tries to talk to me like we should be friends or some bullsh*t, why I have no clue, even if she's strokin her ego with it it clearly means she's got somethin about it in her head. | |
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| who recovers faster after a breakup men or women?
Posted: 7/2/2009 11:20:29 AM | | Come on, guys! Most of us have dumped one woman simply for another one. We've already moved on before the break-up. We found someone younger, hotter, better- looking, etc., and simply needed to get rid of the old "bag"gage. Assuming that women recover faster is ignorant. How long did your last one keep all your gifts and correspondence, thinking you just needed a break and hoping you'd come back in a few months? You're already bumping someone else a week after the break-up, if not before, while the one you dumped is still reading your old emails and asking friends about you a year later. We know the truth, but as long as we tell ourselves women bounce back faster than we do, we can continue to "love 'em and leave 'em" without remorse. | |
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| who recovers faster after a breakup men or women?
Posted: 7/2/2009 11:58:48 AM | Women recover faster because ...most drag out the breakup and mourn the relationship while they are still involved. She believes him when he says "it will never happen again' "I will change"
Then one day she wakes up and says.."I'm outta here" "I deserve better than this crap" and the poor man is left wondering why he never saw it coming?
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| who recovers faster after a breakup men or women?
Posted: 7/2/2009 12:03:46 PM |
The "dumper" recovers faster than the "dumpee". It has NOTHING to do with gender. Agreed; I don't think it's gender-based, but interest-based. The one who is less invested is the one who recovers faster, if they feel the need to recover at all. | |
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| who recovers faster after a breakup men or women?
Posted: 7/3/2009 3:19:09 PM | | I dont agree that its always the dumper that recovers first. Sometimes you end a relationship for other reasons than because you no longer like the person, sometimes its just the best thing to do for both parties which doesnt make it easier than being dumped, in fact if anything its worse!! | |
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| who recovers faster after a breakup men or women?
Posted: 7/31/2009 10:56:12 PM |
Guys get crushed just as easily as girls.
Though I bleat on about equality at every chance I do not think we are the same.
In this case I'd say maybe there is a reason why we are different but it's just a theory.
When women have babies they form an emotional attachment that is far deeper than that of the father. Yes there are lots of devoted loving dads out there but this is because those babies are a part of our bodies and we must feed them and care for them in a much closer way than traditionally men do.
This means that to survive, the woman must also learn to let go of this deep attachment....in order to move on to the next child and so on and so on.
Also, a woman does not have to keep the bio father around to know she is investing in her own biology. A man does. He needs to jealously watch over his woman to ensure he is investing in his own offspring and that's why men get so obsessive over women. Don't say it ain't so. Men frequently kill to keep women from moving on. Women rarely do that. if they kill it's almost always in self defense. Therefore his attachment is to the woman for strong biological reasons. Also if he wants his offspring to have the best chance to live and prosper he should stick around. I'm not saying it's right, just that's the way it is.
Yes there are exceptions but I truly believe women are far more emotionally fluid and resilient than men.
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| who recovers faster after a breakup men or women?
Posted: 7/31/2009 10:58:02 PM | | I don't know a single woman that is not over her ex but I know tons of men who years later are still not over their ex even if they can easily get someone new. It's not loyalty, it's just a matter of being emotionally flexible. | |
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| who recovers faster after a breakup men or women?
Posted: 8/5/2009 10:04:44 AM | I don't believe it is gender specific. The one who leaves...and has someone waiting in the wings feels the loss much less.
Rejection hurts even when you aren't that into the other person. "How dare you not love me, eventhough I don't love you." :o) | |
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| who recovers faster after a breakup men or women?
Posted: 8/5/2009 10:08:19 AM | | I think it depends on the level of genuine love in the relationship. If you really love someone you can't move on for a long time whether you are a man or a woman. If you are just with someone because they give you a sense of security 'albeit on a subconscious level that you aren't even aware of' then you can move on much faster. In some cases I have heard of people rushing out within a week to find another partner. To my mind that just shows they didn't really love the partner they had initially. | |
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| who recovers faster after a breakup men or women?
Posted: 8/5/2009 1:42:56 PM |
after a breakup the woman tends to move on and start dating ... before men do
I agree. Men tend to be more caring, sensitive, and more emotionally involved in relationships than women. We have a deeper sense of humanity and tend to suffer longer because of it. Too, usually it's the women who make the unfeeling decision to tear the relationship apart because they're pining for some impossible ideal. That generally means that she's further along in the process than the poor schmuck she's dumping.
And then there is the whole sex thing. Women can't last long without it and so they go hornin' around sooner than their distraught and broken male counterparts.
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| who recovers faster after a breakup men or women?
Posted: 8/5/2009 6:19:28 PM | Consigliori[[And then there is the whole sex thing. Women can't last long without it and so they go hornin' around sooner than their distraught and broken male counterparts. ]]]
Are you serious? Really serious? | |
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| who recovers faster after a breakup men or women?
Posted: 8/5/2009 7:30:21 PM | My opinion? Men, at least that is what I have experienced. I may be bitter but I have yet to meet a man who actually had a heart and really was capable of caring.
Yes, I have accused men of not having hearts and just are uncaring, unfeeling robots.
If you don't tell me and or show me you care than I will asume you don't, I've not dated much in my life so I really don't know how men function on an emotional level.
As for me, well after a breakup I think, analyze, cry, pray, cry some more and think I will never get over it, miss him and want it to be rekindled and okay. Hope in a way that they are thinking of me and that they miss me, are sorry, see that they made a mistake and want me back. Wow, what a fantsy!
Reality? They are not thinking about us at all, they are happy as pigs rolling in shit, having fun and we never cross their minds. We are non-existant and they have moved on. | |
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| who recovers faster after a breakup men or women?
Posted: 8/5/2009 8:05:36 PM | I think women take longer to get over it because we need the time to process our grief, talk it out, examine what went wrong, etc. Men don't take as long because they are more likely just bury their feelings and forget about it. I think that women are much more resilient to going back to being on their own, but men don't handle being alone as well. | |
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| who recovers faster after a breakup men or women?
Posted: 8/5/2009 9:17:14 PM | I'd say they are about tied. I seen two men who were still mentally upset over losing a woman 4 and 6 years later. Yet I was over mine 3 months before I left her. There is a trick to that, I got privat counseling 2 years before leaving her. Told her that private marriage counseling did me a lot of good, pity she didn't come to. LOL
But heck she was remarried within a year. I've seen women 4 years later still brooding over their ex. So I'd say its about even. | |
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| who recovers faster after a breakup men or women?
Posted: 8/23/2009 12:55:12 PM | I think women move on faster seeing as they are the emotional type. Lifetime of how to handle crisis.
Men are just completely lost. World has been washed away. Takes longer | |
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| who recovers faster after a breakup men or women?
Posted: 8/23/2009 1:15:17 PM | | Neither do. It has to do with who was the dumper and who was the dumpee. By the time someone dumps another person their heart was already out the door therefore a quicker recovery if they even need one. | |
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