| Girl your dating screwing another guy what would you do?
Posted: 1/13/2009 10:20:21 PM | OP, Your on the back burner and definitely not respected.
Your there in case nothing else works out or she needs some fast cash. You do nothing to stop this from happening either. Why would you buy tires for someone you've only known for such a short time? What has she done to deserve the shirt off your back?
You are what is known as the "nice guy" and not the good kind but the kind that women of a certain type will do nothing but use you, while the others will just have no respect for you or ignore you all together. | |
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| Girl ... another guy what would you do?
Posted: 1/13/2009 10:28:12 PM | Trying to make her like you by buying, giving things will not help you, believe me. You're saying that she's not giving you straight answers which is not a good sign. If she really cared about how you feel or what you think, she would try to be clear as much as possible.
Excellent points. I agree with all of the above.
Aside, coffaga? I am in awe of your profile. You can write. | |
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| Girl your dating screwing another guy what would you do?
Posted: 1/13/2009 10:53:48 PM | I hate to say it, because I admit I'm kind of jumping to conclusions, but she's made it pretty obvious that she's not trustworthy. I'd say "Buh-bye loser!".
I learned in my last relationship that there are a lot of little signs that, once added together (usually after the relationship has ended, of course), tell you a LOT about the other person's seriousness about you...she's giving you a BIG little sign. | |
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| Girl your dating screwing another guy what would you do?
Posted: 1/13/2009 11:07:41 PM | | Your not is a committed relationship, so even though I understand your fustration and hurt it's not justified. You date some one first to get to know them before you start a relationship with her. What you learned is valuable, she's not feeling you right now as much as you are feeling her. Pull up a little relax keep your options open and don't expect anything. Also she could have went out with her cousin and this guy or she could have lied but don't assume. | |
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| Girl your dating screwing another guy what would you do?
Posted: 1/13/2009 11:25:29 PM | This is a step up from the "because I am on a diet dosnt mean I cant look at the menu" rationale....or oozy slime. Sneaking around, erm not too subtlely in her case -.bit like Godzilla rampaging through a city in search of sustenance, breaming with pride style. Seeking to justify her hunger for needs, flirting, attention and all that malarkey....
From what you have said OP there isnt quiet enough admission available to say she done it chandelier style with this other bloke. But there is enough evidence to say she is pro-actively still searching for new conquests.
This slipper wearer thinks this lot are best avoided.
Totters of to to conquest a muffin
with a side plate of cookies
Hypocrisy tastes lovely
(they will justify their behaviours by olde means and new means whilst blaming you) | |
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| Girl your dating screwing another guy what would you do?
Posted: 1/14/2009 12:04:05 AM | exactly my point, we have went on at least 6 dates and we have had the exclusive talk,
but i cant get a straight answer from her regarding it
So you WANT to be "exclusive", but she has not said yes. I want a winning Lottery Ticket,
and i have spoken to the State about it, but they haven't given me a "straight answer"
regarding it. Am I rich ?
. i gave her a pair of tires for her car because hers were bald, i am willing to give her the shirt off my own back. I guess i am just too caring towards people thus me getting walked on.
Oh yeah, that is your problem. You are just to "caring". While working on that personality
flaw, you might also think about becoming less presumptuous and possessive.
This is just a guess but, she may not think of you the same way you think of her.
" I bought you tires. You owe me loyalty!" Did she see the chains that were attached to this
gift of tires? Were they mentioned in the warranty ? You may be willing to give her the shirt
off your back, but that does not mean she wants it. As someone above me mentioned, you are
beginning to sound like a "Nice Guy", and in case you are wondering, there is nothing
nice about that term.
Learn to slow down OP. She probably went to the bar without you because you are driving
her crazy. ( or driving her to drink...same difference) If you have accused her of
"cheating" on you, it is probably to late for the two of you, but there are other women out there
and you can blow it with them also, unless you change your behavior. | |
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| Girl your dating screwing another guy what would you do?
Posted: 1/14/2009 1:31:33 AM | For the love of god do you really need to ask people for advice on this?? First off she won't give you an answer about exclusivity BBBEEEPPPP, then she talks sexually with some stranger BBBEEEPPP, the you get ditched for new years BBEEPP. Are you going to ask this question once you get an std from her?
Life does not happen unexpectedly as you may think. We are giving constant signs to warn us but choose to ignore them. You are a man and woman want you!!! You just have to realize the true power and quality you have. Dump this girl, stand tall with chest out and get another one. Don't be lazy and just accept what someone is willing to give you. | |
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| Girl your dating screwing another guy what would you do?
Posted: 1/14/2009 3:09:05 AM | One month is hardly enough time to start thinking in terms of exclusivity. That's probably why she wont give you a straight answer about it, she doesn't know yet.
I think you're starting to get a little over anxious about it.
Don't you think she's known other guys before you came along ?
You've got to let the fish take the bait first, before you can reel them in. | |
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| Girl your dating screwing another guy what would you do?
Posted: 1/14/2009 6:22:05 AM |
this was all on New years eve, when we were suppose to hang out. .....Hang Out? What exactly IS that? Sounds like a thing you do when you have nothing better to do. Seems she found something better to do.
If you don't finalize plans then don't expect them to happen.
Have you had the exclusive talk with this woman? If not, then what's your beef?
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| Girl your dating screwing another guy what would you do?
Posted: 1/14/2009 7:35:43 AM | | Well im sorry to say but guys do it all the time, now if you have already agreed on an exsclusive relationship and she is doing this she is a hoe bag, if you have not agreed on exsclusivity than maybe you should try to see if she actually agrees.. | |
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| Girl your dating screwing another guy what would you do?
Posted: 1/14/2009 7:50:26 AM | | Let's accept reality: no clear answer IS an answer in and of itself. She doesn't want an exclusive relationship with you and won't be badgered into one. If that is important to you, and it would be to me, I would DTMFA right now without any fanfare and be done with it. | |
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| Girl your dating screwing another guy what would you do?
Posted: 1/19/2009 9:46:42 AM | Her: "hehe thank you! you should call me or cum see me tonight :D" There is nothing to discuss, no conversation to have and nothing you need to be told beyond that one statement. If she would make that statement to another man after having slept with you then you are nothing more than a disposable.
Stop calling her and when she calls you be polite but ALWAYS be busy.
Move on and find yourself a woman that will respect you AND herself.
Well im sorry to say but guys do it all the time, No, scumbags do it all the time and the last time I checked scumbags was gender neutral... that means either sex that does it is a scumbag. If you can't clearly tell the other person that you are seeing and sleeping with other people OR you commit to an exclusive relationship (even if its an implied commitment) and you screw around with someone else you are, by definition, a scumbag.
Beyond that, using someone elses bad behavior as justification for your bad behavior is just plain stooooopid! | |
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| Girl your dating screwing another guy what would you do?
Posted: 1/19/2009 10:02:45 AM | OP, You are forgeting that, women are just something else sometimes, and no matter how you try to ask her if she is seeing someone else, she will never admit to it, but rather deny it. Am not saying you shouldn't ask her, because communication is the key, but there is every possibility that she would deny seeing anyone.
These days, it is very hard to find a trust worthy lady, because they easily get spoiled. That's why it is always a very good thing to cath them young.lol
This girl is seeing someone else, and all you have to do, as a man, i'd advise you not to say anything for now, just pretend like you know nothing, but try and find someone else, as you two re dating, and then just make it 50-50, but after you find another lady, and then sure of her, and you also see that ur present girlfriend is still disrespecting, then just move one.
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| Girl your dating screwing another guy what would you do?
Posted: 1/19/2009 10:09:15 AM | If I were possessive, like so many still poisoned by the Puritans and repressive Christian sects, I would react as if someone had stolen my slave, dog, shovel or car. Since I'm not, I would ask that she get checked for venereal diseases before we continued.
You don't own anyone; it's now illegal. | |
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| Girl your dating screwing another guy what would you do?
Posted: 1/19/2009 12:04:08 PM | It sounds like you have a hard time with her actively flirting with others, and that's okay. It just means she's not the one for you. Find someone who doesn't leave you with these questions, and you will have found the perfect match for you.
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| Girl your dating screwing another guy what would you do?
Posted: 1/19/2009 12:13:11 PM |
exactly my point, we have went on at least 6 dates and we have had the exclusive talk, but i cant get a straight answer from her regarding it. I had just found this all today. so ya i havent seen her to talk to her face to face. hell i have bent over backwards for her. i gave her a pair of tires for her car because hers were bald, i am willing to give her the shirt off my own back. I guess i am just too caring towards people thus me getting walked on.
Dude, let me tell you what I read out of this. You are the one pushing for being exclusive, not her, so she is not giving you a straight answer. The reason being is that she is not ready to be steady with you. She may or may not have slept with someone else, but the way you are now suspect of everything, will lead to her screwing behind your back, or blatantly on your face. Now, you had 6 dates with this girl and you have already bought her tires. Dude, that rings to me of manipulation, not in her part but yours. Now that you have bought her tires, she owes you one. No dude, I don't think so. You are getting walked on because you are allowing it by first being very manipulative, distrustful and then being a bit needy.
So dude, this one you are bringing it on upon yourself. | |
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| Girl your dating screwing another guy what would you do?
Posted: 1/19/2009 12:17:10 PM | | im pretty quick to jump the gun myself on things like this, but newyears eve you spend with your someone...and for you to be with this girl and her spend it with her "cousin" is alittle off. not to mention im sure she didn't ask you to go since it's just her and her cousin. the best thing you have going for you is your not that long in to it, i would call her out on it...when she comes up with some dumb a** reasion tell her you know all about it and send her packing. | |
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| Girl your dating screwing another guy what would you do?
Posted: 1/19/2009 1:28:53 PM | Maybe they had both been watching the Pamela Anderson/Tommy Lee porn vid.
The only straight answer you need is the one you give yourself. To get out and away from the flirtatious slut before you start self harming.
She probably enjoy's your jealousy and how she can wrap you around her finger.
Give her a good slap and send her packin'. | |
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