| What's so Wrong with Being Jaded?
Posted: 1/19/2009 10:35:57 PM |
we take the bitter with the sweet and the bitter makes the sweet so, so much sweeter.
That's why I always order the sweet-and-sour chicken. | |
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| What's so Wrong with Being Jaded?
Posted: 1/19/2009 10:41:44 PM | Lol....right? My granny used to bake sour kraut chocolate cake....it was good.
Anyways, I'm takin my jaded little body to my jaded little bed and dream nice green jaded dreams....you know jade is a lucky stone right?
Nite all. | |
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| What's so Wrong with Being Jaded?
Posted: 1/20/2009 1:52:47 AM | hi levis-------------You are much too handsome to be so rude! Now bend over it's spank time you bad boy heheheheh!    | |
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| What's so Wrong with Being Jaded?
Posted: 1/20/2009 5:31:51 AM | "I had some ass tell me I was jaded because I expect any man I'm in a relationship with to be able to support me.
I think that's a reasonable request especially since my needs are simple, I like to eat, I enjoy being in from the cold and rain, I prefer being clothed to being naked when I go out in public....shoes are nice too.
So that is his definition of jaded. Like you said, there is the ying and the yang, you can't know how great something or someone is until you've experienced the bad ones, the losers.
Maybe like the prophet who wrote Ecclesiastes, we take the bitter with the sweet and the bitter makes the sweet so, so much sweeter. "
Your right Zeph...I read that post, that guy is an ass he should have said delusional............  | |
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| What's so Wrong with Being Jaded?
Posted: 1/20/2009 7:38:39 AM | SeventhOne....lol....you so funny, you make me laugh...
Whatever! It's the way I feel and I'm not changing. Seriously. Deep pockets, deep mind, deep emotions, deep loyalty, deep protectiveness.....
I like deep men. Then, when I meet one and he is all that, he has my talents, my skills, my pocketbook, my trust, my devotion, my nurturing, my all and there's a lot.
Only the strong need apply. | |
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| What's so Wrong with Being Jaded?
Posted: 1/20/2009 9:45:01 AM | | Its very easy to become jaded/bitter these days. I've met a few marginal people lately myself. All along I had to keep reminding myself to keep an open mind and the focus paid off. Last night I had dinner with a very nice lady I met here on POF and she is a breath of fresh air compared to those people I've met lately. The lady actually has manners. Hopefully we'll get together again soon. The trend has been reversed as far as I'm concerned. | |
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| What's so Wrong with Being Jaded?
Posted: 1/20/2009 10:35:46 AM | The more I read the forums, the more disturbed I become by those whom find them disturbing, yet feel the need to reply and distribute their own disturbed perspective.
Also, I become more convinced that the forums, dating, life, etc....is all just one big ol' game of Apples to Apples.
You know.....gotta flip a card over and try to match your apples to my apples. And if you don't succeed? Well then, it's the next players turn.
And hopefully, they don't get their apples matched up before you do! | |
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| What's so Wrong with Being Jaded?
Posted: 1/20/2009 4:38:43 PM | I like tall ,built ,handsome men! He has to have a good heart and a strong spirit...The idea is to be able to communicate on every level!  | |
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| What's so Wrong with Being Jaded?
Posted: 1/20/2009 5:07:35 PM | zephyr:
I had some ass tell me I was jaded because I expect any man I'm in a relationship with to be able to support me.
I wouldn't call it jaded. It sounds more like you're looking for an employer.
To each their own.
The term "jaded" has too negative of a connotation to me.
It's good to learn the lesson, but bad to apply it to everyone, IMO.
just a couple thoughts
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| What's so Wrong with Being Jaded?
Posted: 1/21/2009 5:09:35 AM | | In reply to post 113, it appears that you're seeking a man who is compassionate. Some may disagree with this, but I've found that jaded people are often quite compassionate since they have actually suffered in life. Obviously this begs for a definiton of the term, and calls into question what constitutes being jaded. If one is world weary, on what basis? Personally, I think someone who has buried their children has far more claim to this status than one who has gone through a bitter divorce. Then again, I suppose that this is all relative. | |
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| What's so Wrong with Being Jaded?
Posted: 1/21/2009 5:40:40 AM | Levi:
I know, right? But what is so bad about looking for an "employer". That's not to say I don't have feelings, geeze, Cupid screams and flies off, arrows secured when he sees me coming...lol.
Isn't that what it winds up being anyway? These days it seems the modus operendi is: meet someone, the chemistry is there, we like them, respect them, have the hots for them, bed them and then we either decide to continue or dump them or become "friends" with them and repeat the same process all over again until we either contract an incurable venereal disease or wind up marrying them.
Why not just be honest. Why not just put it out there and stop playing games? I can support myself but it is a struggle every day, each and every week and month that goes by. I'm a hard worker, dedicated and loyal. I'm fiercely proud and independent but why not hope for a man who would love and respect me enough to want to provide for me?
Holy shit! A guy buys a horse and provides a barn for it, feed for it, medical care for it, rides it once in a while...(lol), brushes its coat, buys tack for it....your car....do you drive it, put oil in it? Get the oil changed? Get it a tune-up, put gas in it?
Not that women are possessions, but two people in love and dedicated to each other, need to know their roles in the heirchy of life. They are equals but the man is the head of the household. IF a woman can't follow the man, don't hook up with him in the first place. A woman can't follow a parked car, the man has to be going somewhere that they both agree on.
I'm benevolent, loving and hardworking not to mention not hard to look at and (humble)...lol
So, if it sounds like a business proposition, sorry......just practical. | |
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| What's so Wrong with Being Jaded?
Posted: 1/21/2009 6:46:08 AM | from what i've read we have established the definition of "jaded" and it is "to be exhausted...". i see being jaded as unhealthy...cos its a cop out feeling used by emotional weaklings to hide from dealing with their emotional beliefs on something
a bit of cynicism is a good thing indeed.. full on jadedness, to me, says "well no, i would rather not risk feeling wonderful thru this experience cos of experiences that happened in my past which make me fear taking a risk"
have we become lemmings finally?
jadedness, ennui, the blahs, whatever you want to call it serve only as a breeding ground for separation, dissent, conflict, discomfort and other unpleasantness. I run from jaded people because i like my cynicism at a healthy level.. not toxic
jaded to me, is admitting defeat. it says "i dont think highly enough of myself to want to acheive something better for myself"
jaded people tend to have a lot more baggage in their psychic trunk..
we all have baggage, yes.. but most of us prefer to keep it down to carry on sized rather than a full cargo bay full of it
Life's too short to be jaded.. it blinds you from new and fun experiences and more importantly, learning opportunities.. and only jaded people will claim theyve known it all and seen it all
kinda boring.. especially in the sack
being jaded prevents you from truly feeling pleasure | |
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| What's so Wrong with Being Jaded?
Posted: 1/21/2009 9:04:03 AM | Well Xeno...
Either way, considering how easy it is for women, I raise concerns for many who appear on this site for a long period of time. They are obviously dysfunctional and are at fault. If their expectations were functional, they wouldn’t remain unsatisfied months or years down the track
Too funny... you really believe this don't you.
Well, this below average girl next door as you called her has been on here a shorter period of time than you... and has realistic expectations. As for unsatisfied... honey, having a man around has nothing to do with the quality of life I have. My life is great. I own my own home, have my own career, have great friends, have great men to date and enjoy many hobbies...
Anyone with half a brain knows that true happiness comes from within, not from having a partner..... | |
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| What's so Wrong with Being Jaded?
Posted: 1/21/2009 11:30:42 AM | "Life's mysteries seem so faded"
It is my own personal belief that being jaded is the end result of the brain rewiring itself, mainly if one has suffered from way too many traumatic experiences in life that does not equate to dating or the gender war often seen on these forums. That's just pansy stuff ya know. So I agree with Niflheim there.
"Little out of touch, a little insane, JUST EASIER THEN DEALING WITH THE PAIN".
Oh and as for the baggage remark, it's not how much baggage one person has, but how they move on from that baggage. Yeah baggage can make a person STRONGER then the HAPPY PAPPY people who are so quick to judge those they don't understand.
Wow some people have had some ROSY lives to say such things that GENERALIZE all jaded people. | |
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| What's so Wrong with Being Jaded?
Posted: 1/21/2009 3:21:40 PM | That's a great song Kas.......You have good taste ............
Call you up in the middle of the night
Like a firefly without a light
You were there like a blowtorch burning
I was a key that could use a little turning
So tired that I couldn't even sleep
So many secrets I couldn't keep
I promised myself I wouldn't weep
One more promise I couldn't keep
It seems no one can help me now,
I'm in too deep; there's no way out
This time I have really led myself astray
Runaway train, never going back
Wrong way on a one-way track
Seems like I should be getting somewhere
Somehow I'm neither here nor there
Can you help me remember how to smile?
Make it somehow all seem worthwhile
How on earth did I get so jaded?
Life's mystery seems so faded
I can go where no one else can go
I know what no one else knows
Here I am just a-drownin' in the rain
With a ticket for a runaway train
And everything seems cut and dried,
Day and night, earth and sky,
Somehow I just don't believe it
Runaway train, never going back
Wrong way on a one-way track
Seems like I should be getting somewhere
Somehow I'm neither here nor there
Bought a ticket for a runaway train
Like a madman laughing at the rain
A little out of touch, a little insane
It's just easier than dealing with the pain
Runaway train, never going back
Wrong way on a one-way track
Seems like I should be getting somewhere
Somehow I'm neither here nor there
Runaway train, never coming back
Runaway train, tearing up the track
Runaway train, burning in my veins
I run away but it always seems the same | |
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| What's so Wrong with Being Jaded?
Posted: 1/21/2009 4:14:20 PM |
Levi:
I know, right? But what is so bad about looking for an "employer". That's not to say I don't have feelings, geeze, Cupid screams and flies off, arrows secured when he sees me coming...lol.
Nothing at all wrong with that, if you and your SO agree on it and are happy with the arrangement.
Personally, I'm not attracted to a subservient situation (for neither she or me).
I wouldn't want to be financially reliant on anyone other than myself. Nor can I see myself putting someone else in that position.
I supported my Mother and Sister (both deceased) efforts to gain independence during the women/equal rights movement. I was proud of their success!
So, I just can't understand the "getting a man and quiting my job" mentality.
It works for some, but not for me.
On topic?
Judging others is, IMO, "jaded."
Judging what's right/works for me (and offering the same to others) is simply realistic.
Dollface:
I didn't intend to come across as "rude." I merely meant to express an observation/opinion. Apologies.
just a few thoughts | |
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| What's so Wrong with Being Jaded?
Posted: 1/21/2009 4:35:39 PM | Levi....Thank you for the apology...Not needed but very sweet........You see there are some gentlemen on this site after all............
ps ..u are a hunkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkk!!! | |
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| What's so Wrong with Being Jaded?
Posted: 1/21/2009 4:36:28 PM | LOL....so, a woman who considers herself an equal with her man in every respect except being able to lift a tank or pound a 12pack, is not a feminist.....that is ludicrous.
Excuses, excuses....feed your horse, pimp your ride, but expect your woman to shell out for you....loser! | |
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| What's so Wrong with Being Jaded?
Posted: 1/29/2009 3:59:00 PM | Is it being jaded or is it that your attitudes have changed over time?
There's someone who recently joined POF from Eastern Massachusetts who I remember from 8-10 years ago from what can best be described as a "swinger's " website and a meeting at a swinger's party. (That was part of my life back then, but not now and I would never think of identifying her more accurately than I have already. If she reads this, I am sure she'll recognize herself.). To read her POF profile and her POF forum comments you wouldn't recognize her - so I am hopefully believing that she has just changed, not gotten jaded.
I know I'm not the same guy I was then, but I look at it as not being jaded, just changed by more life experience... | |
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| What's so Wrong with Being Jaded?
Posted: 1/29/2009 4:27:48 PM | Being a bit jaded is a natural feeling of anyone who lives and breaths. The trick is to allow yourself to feel it, learn from it, then let it go. Keep the lessons, lose the pain and move on with things.
On a side note, this thread is proof that there are way too many miserable people online.Wow...just wow....so very glad not to have run into the types of posters I see here getting all rude and nasty. You go right ahead and keep displaying yourselves as such....I am so sure it will help you find some luvin...lolol Not.
Maybe instead of ****ing about how many years you have been unlucky online you need to realize this medium is not for you and try something else...ooh...but wait, I guess then you'd have to give up your 'victim' card...sorry, what a silly suggestion. Too funny. Get away from the computer and get into the game of life! | |
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| What's so Wrong with Being Jaded?
Posted: 1/29/2009 4:30:47 PM | I think there's nothing wrong with taking the time to feel all the steps of emotional healing: for me it was hurt then anger--I haven't moved on to indifferent, yet. Hopefully I'll get there soon.
The problem with jaded is that it doesn't refer only to how you feel about the people you've had the relationships with. It affects how you feel about many people and sometimes how you relate or react to them. When some poor guy at the mall gets verbally slapped around because your exboyfriend was a creep, that's crossing the line of personal healing time into being jerks ourselves.
Nutt | |
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| What's so Wrong with Being Jaded?
Posted: 1/29/2009 5:54:01 PM | "I am a very healthy 54 year old lady who looks 41...I have lived life long enough to be honest and to the point...To be quite honest if a man felt things with his brain alittle more instead of his defined sexual organ he might just obtain sex ."
- Dollfacexx
If you are looking for a guy with brains not just looking sex, then wear some pants in some of your profile pix! 
Nice legs btw. | |
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