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| What's so Wrong with Being Jaded?
Posted: 1/31/2009 1:42:03 PM | | Jadedness is just one of those turnoffs which we don't know why it turns us off. Since happiness and sweetness is a turnon jadedness is quite naturally a turnoff. While a turnoff isn't a complete dealbreaker however. | |
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| What's so Wrong with Being Jaded?
Posted: 1/31/2009 1:56:00 PM | | Bitter is ok for a season but if you don't get over it it will take your soul and health at the same time. Is being bitter that important in the big picture when the only one you end up hurting is yourself? | |
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| What's so Wrong with Being Jaded?
Posted: 1/31/2009 2:11:18 PM | Wow! I must be missing something here. I'm jaded. I've been bitter, now I'm not. Bitterness and jadedness are two completely different things.
I'm quite happy and content. My life is full of love and hope and expectation. All things happen for a reason. You may not understand the "reason" but faith is what gets us through to happiness and hope.
See, I was jaded AND bitter, now I'm just jaded and happily so. What we seem to have here is a "failya to commonicate." | |
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| What's so Wrong with Being Jaded?
Posted: 1/31/2009 2:46:51 PM | | Humanist, some people associate jaded with angst, and thus they deem it a turn off. Angst, however, is the human response to the unknown since we can't objectify the unknown. What this highlights is that many people don't wish to examine their lives in a significant manner. This may sound arrogant and condescending, but that has been my experience. | |
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| What's so Wrong with Being Jaded?
Posted: 2/6/2009 6:52:20 AM | I perfectly agree with 10of6!
I think cynicism is a good tool to have or to have had at some point. It means if we have been hurt or may get hurt again in the future we can learn from those times and protect our hearts abit. Also at the same time it does not mean we cannot still open ourselves up to other people walking into our lives! My god that all sounds prob very cheesy!
Bitter to me sounds like something that will stay with you and you wont believe anything someone will tell you. To me that means you will end up not being able to trust anyone as you would be bitter. To me it means that you are stuck on one person or the situation and cannot move on from it and we all have to let go at some point
But we all have emotions and feelings so whatever we label it as we should all be ok with feeling those things x | |
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| What's so Wrong with Being Jaded?
Posted: 2/6/2009 6:49:13 PM |
No, not at all, but what this reminds me is that all I have is the here and now, and that my perception of reality is limited by my historical horizon. Does being jaded mean that I've concluded that there is no meaning to life? No, but it also tells me that this is a possible answer, and that my inquiries so far have been permeated with opacity. You may disagree, but I find that realistic myself.
And I thought I spent too much time searching for the meaning of life...lol..
Niflheim: As someone who is a cancer survivor ( and who has faced two other possible death events), I can say with absolute certainty that living in the here and now is pretty much my approach to life these days ( actually always was a bit, just reinforced with my experiences)...but, that is exactly why I try not to think of negatives, or what can go wrong...I am cognizant they can ( they have and probably will again), but, I refuse to let those possibilities keep me from enjoying what life I may have left...( and I'm old too...lol), and for myself, being jaded or cynical or bitter , or anything that assumes the bad/negative is the norm or the majority...or the expectation. Realistic is a good thing...but, being realistic to me doesn't mean always looking for the other shoe to drop, expecting the worst of people, or being a fatalist.
The first definition of jaded in the dictionary is " tired and worn out"....I am far from either, and don't want to be...I want to be alive the rest of my life. And I choose to believe that all is good till proven otherwise.
This in no way implies that everyone has to be this way...the OP was: what's wrong with being Jaded...IMO, and for myself...that is what is wrong with it. It leads with the supposition that life is inherently wrong/bad, and good and right are rare and accidental. Just not how I view it. | |
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| What's so Wrong with Being Jaded?
Posted: 2/6/2009 8:30:27 PM | With reference to the dictionary definition of "jaded", I'm fatigued with the idea that banality constitutes reality. While I'm presently in good health, I became most intimate with the idea that my life is limited by my historical horizon at age 23 when my father died suddently before me at age 23. Watching eyes freeze into eternity was a rather humiliating specatcle. By no means am I trying to trivialize your ordeals in life, and in most ways, I think your world view is in concert with mine.
As for spending too much time searching for the meaning of life, why the hell not? I essentially ask myself every morning why I exist. The rationale for these inquiries is that I can't justify my existence, only my parents can since I wasn't free to be born; and in response to those who would inquire why ask why, I've always replied, who cares about a cipher who asks this anyhow? No, I figure I'm not merely living but attacking existence myself. | |
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| What's so Wrong with Being Jaded?
Posted: 2/6/2009 8:40:36 PM |
I think we all need to taste a little bitter to appreciate what's sweet.
You just can't stay that way forever. But a good bit of bitter never hurt anyone.
I think we learn from it just like any other emotion.
I've had some unsuccessful relationships and I needed to be a bit bitter for a bit.
I got over it with time.
Yes, I agree with the above. It's "OK to visit", just don't stay long...
Time is always the great equalizer. | |
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| What's so Wrong with Being Jaded?
Posted: 2/7/2009 8:02:22 AM | Zephyr many of your posts ring true...I feel as long as we women know men only seek sex we are hence informed and experienced. God just made them differently. They have outdoor plumbing,this strange hot dog,illegal alien that flitters about at will ,,,thier brain lives in that hot dog ...........Guy's you have no clue how to get the hot dog into the bun heheheheh. Women have indoor plumbing, control of thier organ as well as thier mind.
It's all plumbing peeps.........women rule in that dept that is why we control you!
Always-Jeanne:) | |
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| What's so Wrong with Being Jaded?
Posted: 2/7/2009 10:30:57 AM | Posted By: Dollfacexx on 2/7/2009 11:02:22 AM
Subject: What's so Wrong with Being Jaded?
Message: Zephyr many of your posts ring true...I feel as long as we women know men only seek sex we are hence informed and experienced. God just made them differently. They have outdoor plumbing,this strange hot dog,illegal alien that flitters about at will ,,,thier brain lives in that hot dog ...........Guy's you have no clue how to get the hot dog into the bun heheheheh. Women have indoor plumbing, control of thier organ as well as thier mind.
It's all plumbing peeps.........women rule in that dept that is why we control you!
Always-Jeanne:)
 
Just because you have what we want does not put you in control of your mind ... Think about it.... from your first period to the big "change" of life....The almighty Vag controls you !!!! | |
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| What's so Wrong with Being Jaded?
Posted: 2/7/2009 10:36:13 AM | | It rubs off on the good people wanting to be happy. being jaded is such a negative thing like other negative emotions people pick up on them before picking up on a good emotion. | |
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| What's so Wrong with Being Jaded?
Posted: 2/7/2009 10:38:48 AM | .........................................................................................................................................
Who the hell wants to start a relationship with a person with a chip on their shoulder or one that thinks ALL men/women are the same?
Bitter=lonely.
 carolann0308 (Post 4) Right On!
Not a thing "wrong" with bitter, jaded, angry, baggage laden peeps - nothing at all. Just NOT (IMO) fit to get into a relationship with.
If you're still licking your wounds from what the last one did "to" you - you are Not ready to start up with someone new. JMHO | |
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| What's so Wrong with Being Jaded?
Posted: 2/7/2009 11:41:24 AM | | Being a little sad saying goodbye to our romantic idealism when we mature seems O.K. to me, but jaded? No. Too harsh and too general. It also says that I might be still hung up on "the ideal relationship", instead of a realistic satisfying one. | |
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| What's so Wrong with Being Jaded?
Posted: 2/7/2009 8:28:59 PM | Being jaded goes beyond relationships. Its not a state of being as a direct result of a bad relationship or a twangy country western song or even a worn out, trite phrase, it is a step up in growth and development.
I, personally, wouldn't want to start a relationship with someone who has taken the head in the sand approach to self examination and a hunger for knowledge and enlightenment.
How many of you have lost a loved one or have been forced to care for someone near to you who has become disabled, or have had a child that has teetered on the edge of death numerous times, or have had no food in your home to feed your family or had a business partner knife you in the back and off with your money? There are many, many ways to become more enlightened.
When you have run the crucible and made it, you look back at the experience with pride and gratitude. But you don't want to do it again. You DO look at others with a more wary eye, you DO consider each and every thing in a proactive way rather than looking back now with the same regrets. | |
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| What's so Wrong with Being Jaded?
Posted: 2/8/2009 12:06:23 AM | Here I stand, the goddess of Desire,
set men on fire,
I have this power,
morning noon and night it's drink and dancing,
some quick romancing,
and then a quick shower,
stage door johnnies always surround me,
they always hound me,
with one request,
who can satisfy their lustful habits,
I'm not a rabbit!
I need some rest!
I'm tired,
sick and tired of love,
I've had my fill of love,
from below and above,
tired,
tired of being admired,
tired of love uninspired,
let's face it,
I'm tired!
I've been with 1000's of men,
again and again,
they promise the moon,
they always coming and going,
going and coming,
and always too soon!
Right girls?
I'm tired,
tired of playing the game,
ain't it a crying shame?
I'm so tired,
God dammit I'm tired!
Hello cowboy, what's your name?
Tex 'mam
Tex 'mam ? Tell me Tex'mam, are you in show business?
No
We'll then why don't you get your freaking feet off here
La ha
Ah ha he hu...
Hello handsome, is that a 10 gallon hat? Or are you just enjoying the show?
Ah ha ah...
Oh miss lilly, oh my laby, oh my **** cat, put it there baby, put it... ohhhhh
I'm tired,
tired of playing the game,
ain't it a crying shame,
I'm so tired
[soldiers:]
she's tired
-she's tired
sick and tired of love
-give her a break
she's had her fill of love
-she's not a snake
from below and above
-can't you see she's sick?
tired
-she's bushed
tired of being admired
-let her alone
tired of love uninspired
-get off the phone
she's tired
-don't you know she's pooped?
I've been with 1000's of men,
again and again,
they sing the same toon,
the start with Byron and Shelly,
and jump on your belly,
and bust your ballon!
aye!
tired,
tired of playing the game,
ain't it a freakin shame,
I'm so...
let's face it,
everything below the waste is kapput! | |
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| What's so Wrong with Being Jaded?
Posted: 2/8/2009 4:48:38 AM | | Nothing. We're human and all can have feelings hurt. The bitterness should go away after awhile and then you just move on. Bitterness takes too much energy away from happiness. | |
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| What's so Wrong with Being Jaded?
Posted: 2/24/2009 10:46:25 AM |
You can be realistic and accept the way the world is without being jaded and bitter. Being jaded and bitter only attracts other people who are jaded and bitter. Being realistic is just seeing things for what they are. Being bitter and jaded are reactions. You can't change reality, but you can change how you react to it.
Not a thing "wrong" with bitter, jaded, angry, baggage laden peeps - nothing at all. Just NOT (IMO) fit to get into a relationship with.
If you're still licking your wounds from what the last one did "to" you - you are Not ready to start up with someone new. JMHO absolutely
Get ready and don't jump in new relationship until all the bitterness is gone | |
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