| how long without sex is normal?
Posted: 1/15/2009 4:39:04 PM | Maeflowers you are a cool lady!!!!
This whole topic reminds me of the old saying, why buy the cow if you can get the milk for free? | |
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| how long without sex is normal?
Posted: 1/15/2009 4:51:13 PM | My first inclination would be to think that your reason for waiting was because your marriage meant something to you and it took you a while to get over the divorce. I would feel better about someone who waited 6 years after a divorce than I would about someone who jumped back into having sexual relations within a short period of time.
Also, if a woman ends up thinking you are weird for waiting so long, perhaps you and she do not share the same perspective on love and sex. Maybe it is best that you focus on women who find your behavior to be normal. | |
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| how long without sex is normal?
Posted: 1/15/2009 6:27:26 PM | | Normal is whatever works for you. You can tell from the responses that many women think it's OK and believe your roomie is the deviant creep here, not you. I for one think you're great for waiting and avoiding all the drama your roommate has to be swimming in. In fact, you not being sexually active would be more attractive to me than wondering what I would catch from your roomie! | |
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| okay...me again
Posted: 1/15/2009 8:23:03 PM | as far as you men are saying i should go for it again...i ask you why? i have been with well over 25 women in my past and, frankly, feel bad about it.
no i do not have any STDs', after many tests.
i just want to find the one meant for me....
women, yes i may have issues but my heart is truly sincere. i guess the reason i have been celibate so long is to atone for the past.
no, i do not "yearn" for my ex. she was not meant for me and we both knew it.
have you ever dreamt of a sunny day watching the clouds go by and your lover traces a heart on your bare skin in the shape of a heart?
that my friends...
is love. | |
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| how long without sex is normal?
Posted: 1/15/2009 8:34:28 PM | o/p -(how about an answer) still curious: so you may not want to have sex with every women you meet -however wondering if you still crave or have tried to get close, holding, cuddling, smooching -passionate kissing, even spending the night (sleeping -no sex) with any enchanting female in six years? after the final split with the ex, you may feel like your cheating by getting back out in the field, but are you going to still let her rule your life after the final decree has been signed off by the judge? -trust me -she aint coming back | |
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| how long without sex is normal?
Posted: 1/15/2009 8:53:03 PM | final decree was signed and ratified in '03.
want her back? you must be kidding.
as far as the rest...ie. cuddling, smooching, etc.
of course i miss a woman's touch, her laughter, her smile, her scent, her thoughts and dreams... | |
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| how long without sex is normal?
Posted: 1/15/2009 9:13:54 PM | How about a non-commital answer.
When your behaviour is made erratic from lack of sex, you've gone too long without it.
Individual mileages may vary.
Make sure to use the appropriate oil for your engine.
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| how long without sex is normal?
Posted: 1/15/2009 9:42:34 PM |
...I can't tell you how long without is normal. Everyone's sexual appetite is quite different. I prefer to dine with someone who is just as selective as I am...And to be perfectly frank, I have had very few sexual partners throught my life and it is not because I have a low libido....I can be a very passionate lover...with the right person.
Excellent point Maeflowers... 
OP... I'd take some of these posts that allude to your having a low libido with a grain of salt... For some people, if you're not acting like a 2 peckered billy goat, you're "not normal"...
People like your roommate, who are out getting laid just to get laid are probably just keeping themselves distracted from the fact that they have some work to do on themselves before they're anywhere near being suitable for a relationship of any kind.
Like the others, I'd be far more interested in someone who thought sex was supposed to be something special than I would be in someone who thinks sex is just some "junk" to do with another person. | |
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| how long without sex is normal?
Posted: 1/15/2009 10:12:54 PM | So this is where they moved you???? Am I to understand that its ok to have blunt in your face topics like size and Viagra etc etc but start a thread about not having sex and you are weird???
Is PlentyOfFish just about hooking up? Or can it be about not hooking up but simply wondering how things change as we age so that we can be better informed.
Heck I started a topic last night (Wed) about how the Internet has changed how people meet and how hard it can be for those of us out of the dating scene for decades. And how one gathering I was at, where some people from online also were at, really was an eye opener, because their looks and demeanor were so different from online.
Signed on this morning before I headed out and saw an email saying the topic had been deleted. No reason as to why. | |
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| how long without sex is normal?
Posted: 1/16/2009 1:02:38 AM | Why would she have to know how long it's been unless you wanted her to?
No need to worry about it unless you think it's something you want to discuss. If you don't and it comes up you don't have to say how long - just that's it's been awhile
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| okay...me again
Posted: 1/16/2009 4:33:01 AM |
as far as you men are saying i should go for it again...i ask you why? i have been with well over 25 women in my past and, frankly, feel bad about it.
no i do not have any STDs', after many tests.
i just want to find the one meant for me....
women, yes i may have issues but my heart is truly sincere. i guess the reason i have been celibate so long is to atone for the past.
no, i do not "yearn" for my ex. she was not meant for me and we both knew it.
have you ever dreamt of a sunny day watching the clouds go by and your lover traces a heart on your bare skin in the shape of a heart?
that my friends...
is love.
OP, the only person who can answer your original question for you IS you...and I think you already did.  | |
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| how long without sex is normal?
Posted: 1/16/2009 7:42:21 AM |
So this is where they moved you???? Am I to understand that its ok to have blunt in your face topics like size and Viagra etc etc but start a thread about not having sex and you are weird???
Is PlentyOfFish just about hooking up? Or can it be about not hooking up but simply wondering how things change as we age so that we can be better informed.
Heck I started a topic last night (Wed) about how the Internet has changed how people meet and how hard it can be for those of us out of the dating scene for decades. And how one gathering I was at, where some people from online also were at, really was an eye opener, because their looks and demeanor were so different from online.
Signed on this morning before I headed out and saw an email saying the topic had been deleted. No reason as to why.
POF is a large, diverse community. Some people ARE looking to hook up, some are looking to casually date, some for long term, some for other things. When you sign up, you choose what you are looking for and if you read the selections, you would know that some people only want to hook up.
Some people with think going without sex for a long time is weird; some people will find it "normal." That is what happens when you have a diverse group of people posting on a forum.
Your topic was probably deleted by the community for being redundant because it has been done to death. You are supposed to search before you begin a new topic. You can find an old topic and revive it, even if it has 40 pages.
The real person is always different from the online person. How can one project their entire persona in two dimensions? | |
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| how long without sex is normal?
Posted: 1/16/2009 8:10:36 AM | I had a 7 year stint once.
When it was finally my turn at the plate, the woman didn't think it odd. What you might think odd was that I even mentioned it, but you'll find it tough to NOT mention.
No home run, BTW. More like a bunt single down the third base line. Practice DOES make perfect. | |
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| how long without sex is normal?
Posted: 1/16/2009 7:00:30 PM | | I find it trully refreshing to see the posts from men who, aren't running arround hooking up with just anyone, the only criteria being, female, human, and breathing. A man who wants a relationship with substance, not just a one night stand. Bravo, for you. | |
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| how long without sex is normal?
Posted: 1/16/2009 10:03:50 PM | Well, obvious to say no girlfriend either then. I can say honestly, i havent since last spring. But the sex i was having with my partner wasnt as often as i would have liked. H e would rather get drunk and pass out, i didnt stay in that relationship too long. All these months that have gone by , have been rather, sighing , pouts. AWFUL!~~~~ I MISS SEX !
But im waiting till i find the right man again, then its 7 nights a week.....
BUT FOR YOU, maybe your just not ready, and its not a safe world out there to just play around~ But if you put a pic up , you might have someone looking at ya~ i very rarely look at profiles without pics. | |
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| how long without sex is normal?
Posted: 1/17/2009 8:47:34 AM | I would NOT use Normal when talking about Sex. There are so many human varibles that no reseacher would even attempt to answer that question.
The better question for you to ask is...SHOULD I TELL MY POTENTIAL SEXUAL PARTNERS OF MY SEXUAL PAST. (What was your intimate relationships like prior to your divorce)
But its a moot point if you dont have a "partner" to confess to...
Till then, as the saying goes..."Lets worry about that bride when we get there". | |
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| how long without sex is normal?
Posted: 1/17/2009 4:08:24 PM | | I don't think you're odd either OP. Women seem to like the fact that you don't sleep with everything that moves... if anything it may make you more desireable. Think about it, if you haven't been sexually active for that long because you haven't met the right person since your devorce, it paints the picture that you would be a lot less likely to be a cheater. I mean if you have the freedom to sleep with anyone while you're single and you don't, the chances of you sleeping around while in a relationship is slim to none... That's just the way I see it. | |
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| how long without sex is normal?
Posted: 1/17/2009 5:37:42 PM | how long is ONLY that person's preferance. we are all differant people, we all have different prespectives on what is right/wrong, good/bad,  / . good luck. i deal with this question, too. | |
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| how long without sex is normal?
Posted: 1/18/2009 3:17:18 AM |
i guess my question is if i do meet a woman and things progress, would she think i am odd for waiting so long?
Don't tell her and she'll never know.
She may think you're odd for making a big deal out of it. | |
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| how long without sex is normal?
Posted: 1/18/2009 3:34:37 AM | my question is if i do meet a woman and things progress, would she think i am odd for waiting so long?
OP, your long period of celibacy says things about you that some women will appreciate and some will not. The woman who appreciates and values you for your restraint and sensitivity is the woman for you. If you meet a woman who does not value that, she isn't right for you. I don't see anything wrong with telling her about it, and chances are the topic will come up in conversation at some point. We are all different and individual. Some people will think there is something odd with waiting so long, others will not think it is odd, some may even value you more for it. Since you did wait so long, that says something about the type of man you are, and you should wait for a woman who appreciates the type of man you are, not hope that someone will 'overlook' what and who you are. Make sense? | |
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| how long without sex is normal?
Posted: 2/22/2009 10:20:10 AM | I've been divorced for over a year and the marriage was sexless for the previous 2. we were only married for 3. so you tell me, who has the bigger abnormality, you or me?
anyway, I don't think a good woman would think you are odd. Obviously, you can take care of yourself when necessary. | |
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| how long without sex is normal?
Posted: 2/22/2009 11:08:25 AM | My ex and I think 3 days without sex is normal if you work much .
Any longer than that is really pushing it..
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