| dutch lady?
Posted: 6/24/2005 5:31:51 PM | | where did you read about this studies? | |
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daisie
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Joined: 9/22/2004
Msg: 27 | |
| Beware of Foreign Women
Posted: 6/24/2005 5:32:47 PM | | Please read my comments carefully. I can only re-explain the same thing so many times. Anyone (and by definition, of course that includes me, and you) who goes overseas to find a mate because they think all the people in their own country are undesireable has got serious problems. That person needs to forget about a mate and spend some time in self relection and inner growth before they should even attempt to drag another person into their problems. Once a person reaches a certain level of intelligence, maturity, confidence, etc, etc, they won't feel the need to condemn the entire group of local people and run all around this big rock called Earth on a "mission" to find a mate. They will reach the state of being able to judge people by much deeper and more important characteristics and personality traits that are important in a relationship. Judging someone on their nationality is superficial and stupid and a poor risk for love (the 1% mentioned above is probably true). | |
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| Beware of Foreign Women
Posted: 6/24/2005 5:44:34 PM | | Um Daisy, what if a person simply goes overseas to find love there because he likes the people,or culture.You presuppose that everyone that goes over there goes because they cannot find love here.Thats wrong.Sounds like you have some insecurity's .Oh,and I did read your thread and it was loud and clear.Also,if you insist that people stay here to marry then they will be judging solely on race which is what you say is wrong about going overseas. | |
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daisie
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Joined: 9/22/2004
Msg: 29 | |
| Beware of Foreign Women
Posted: 6/24/2005 6:15:26 PM | | Um apparently you did not read my postings carefully. No where did I say people need to stay home and only marry local people. I don't believe that and I never said or implied it. If you happen to find a person from anywhere and fall in love....hey that is great. But I still believe if you "set out on a mission to find love elsewhere because locals are undesireable" you are not playing with a full deck. You need help (not you personally, but anyone who does that). | |
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| Beware of Foreign Women
Posted: 6/24/2005 6:38:42 PM | | Why dosen't Canada have the same immigration problems the US does? It is a nice country. It looks like the USA only cleaner. Are foreigners trying to marry Canadians too? | |
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daisie
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Joined: 9/22/2004
Msg: 31 | |
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late™
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Joined: 1/9/2005
Msg: 32 | |
| Beware of Foreign Women
Posted: 6/24/2005 6:49:28 PM |
Are foreigners trying to marry Canadians too?
Mostly Americans, as in my case. | |
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| Beware of Foreign Women
Posted: 6/24/2005 6:49:56 PM | | Daisy,my bad,I stand corrected.RDtoo,yes Canada has what you might consider an immigration problem.Our society is no different than America in that we are free and full of opportunity's as well and much better off than alot of the country's these people are trying to get out of.From what I understand there is an incredible number of applicants for citizenship and we do have illigals that will come all the way from china in rusty boats to get here, some of which cross into America as well.We even have people all the way from south america that have travelled through the states to get here illigally. | |
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| Beware of Foreign Women
Posted: 6/24/2005 7:58:34 PM | To me, it's all semantics. Until you've met someone unexpectedly, learned who they are, their background, education, their family, fell in love, had a long engagement, planned and carried out a wedding in full extensive detail, moved that persons belongings to the United States, then watched that person change into someone you don't know, you’ve got to ask: was I used? No matter the endless hours of listening to their wants and desires, no matter the changes you put into motion to satisfy them, no matter the time spent with each family before and after marriage, it simply doesn’t matter. Once the divorce is filed against you for "irreconcilable differences", the magic escape route for these women I’ve learned from every single other man who has also lived this AND, the former spouse does NOT leave the United States, you've got to ask: was I taken for a freaking ride or what? You all can debate this issue endlessly however, until you’ve lived it the “Beware” put up by Meekrob is for real as these women exist, they come from all walks of life and education levels and they’ll use everything at their disposal, including sex, to get into the United States and get their Green Card. And no, she is not from a 3rd world country. You’d be surprised where she is from.
Lastly, I don’t give a flying fart about any studies, opinions from academia, the government, women’s groups, someone’s think tank, or anyone’s personal opinion: if you didn’t live it, if you didn’t sacrifice for the good of your marriage, if you were not there you simply don’t know it on a personal everyday level. Meekrob is right: Beware. | |
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| Beware of Foreign Women
Posted: 6/24/2005 8:13:17 PM | This thread is getting slightly ridiculous, but as an American man, I am not dull, predictable, monotonous, routine, or tiring. I was completely faithful to my wife, and I have very strong family values. And incredibly I have all my hair and am not overweight. I must be the only man in America like this? I just got back from 2 weeks in Europe and after spending time with Europeans, they are not so different than us.
If you like the accents, great. But don't be fooled into thinking its anything more than that. And if all of the American men you know are as you describe, I think you need to find some new friends! | |
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| Beware of Foreign Women
Posted: 6/24/2005 8:22:40 PM | | there is a hudge difference between europeans and north americans. believe me. | |
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daisie
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Joined: 9/22/2004
Msg: 37 | |
| Beware of Foreign Women
Posted: 6/24/2005 8:24:57 PM | | Thanks Bunomatic...you are a gentleman indeed. And...a foreigner too...watch out baby...I might be falling in love!! | |
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| Beware of Foreign Women
Posted: 6/24/2005 8:25:26 PM | | Most forien women have not mastered the Kings English to where they can minipulate a statement like American women can. It's either yes or no..no maybe. Vanity has little meaning to them. They are very frank (thank God, they know what they want asnd don't beat around the bush. Coy is not a word in most foreign languages. UF-DA. Don. | |
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| Beware of Foreign Women
Posted: 6/24/2005 8:45:24 PM | | At Spiffy: You are correct. People are people the world over. I lived in 3 other countries spanning about 2 ½ years, mostly Europe. I too mirror your descriptive adjectives as an American man and some. Including the faithfulness to my former spouse that I am proud of which I attribute to my family values and education. Unfortunately, I have somehow relayed that my friends all fell into this predicament and this was not my intention. I'll correct this here. I made the rounds of a few support groups back then and found a common thread among those men who married women from other countries and who opened up enough to describe their lives. All of them believed they were duped by seemingly honest, upright women who changed in the months and years after settling in the United States. Granted, the stories were biased, the men we're acquaintances and I performed no studies however, the common thread was unmistakable. I learned I was not alone. While I have extremely strong convictions about the topic, I had to add my two cents here to get back OT of the Beware warning, it is real. Unfortunately, I can only imagine it goes both ways, gender wise. Lastly, as I believed I married for life, the event I never imagined would happen did, no matter that I never cheated, was never abusive, provided well and gave of my heart, mind and soul, I still come to the conclusion I was duped. Live and learn? Oh yes. Wiser to this day? Absolutely. | |
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| Beware of Foreign Women
Posted: 6/24/2005 8:47:12 PM |
Speaking from experience, don't plan to marry a foreign woman. They will be the greatest actress is the world, you think it's 100%, true and forever. They will try to get a green card. If they don't get that, they're Gandi. If they do and you being them to your country, they'll get settled in with a green card and THEN dump you. Trust me. It happened to me.
I'm a foreign woman! (Cuban). 
I do think that one has to be very careful of people who are desperate for a green card. That ole green card will make all kinds of people say, "Oh I DO LOVE you so MUCH!" Being in a place where there are so many immigrants, this is an old, worn out and oft-repeated true story. Let's call it, "Green Card love." (Wonder if Canadians in here know what a U.S. green card is). | |
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Joined: 1/9/2005
Msg: 41 | |
| Beware of Foreign Women
Posted: 6/24/2005 8:52:49 PM | I'm a foreign woman! (Cuban)
I'll marry you, ................. even though you have passports from four countries, other than mine.
....But you knew that.
(Yes we know what a green card is)
I believed I married for life, the event I never imagined would happen did, no matter that I never cheated, was never abusive, provided well and gave of my heart, mind and soul, I still come to the conclusion I was duped. Live and learn? Oh yes. Wiser to this day? Absolutely.
My experience mirrors yours, except I married a local girl. Do I suspect all local girls of duplicity now?
No, .....nor do I suspect it of all women, regardless of where they were born. | |
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| Beware of Foreign Women
Posted: 6/24/2005 8:54:19 PM | | Although we are Canadian,our television and entertainment is predominantly American,so yes,we do know what a green card is.I've watched cheech and chong. | |
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| Beware of Foreign Women
Posted: 6/24/2005 8:56:31 PM | I'll marry you, ................. even though you have passports from four countries, other than mine.
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| Beware of Foreign Women
Posted: 6/24/2005 8:59:47 PM | | Oddly enough those emoticons resemble a threesome,what are you suggesting,polygamy? | |
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| Beware of Foreign Women
Posted: 6/24/2005 9:02:06 PM | Oddly enough those emoticons resemble a threesome,what are you suggesting,polygamy?
Behave yourself.. Oh my God you're right! Ahem! Should I go edit? I don't like sharing my Canadian man with anybody.
LOL! I think the 3rd one has MOVED! Must be my cyberkinetopsychic abilities! | |
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| Wariness.......
Posted: 6/24/2005 9:10:19 PM | Hmmmm....
Regarding your addendum about how you weren't referring to Australian and those types of women, but you meant "third-world" women... how offensive.
I find it hard to swallow that just because I was born in a certain country,
my values/perspectives make me dangerous or my motives are questionable.
I am one of those "foreign women" of whom you refer, and yes, am originally from a third world country.
For most of my life, I've lived in Canada, a country where there are so many different types of people that I "blend in". My skin is white. I don't have an accent.
People rarely notice my "foreign"ness.
Does that make me even more dangerous? Since you can't tell at a glance that I am some "insiduous foreign source"? *laugh*
I say this lightheartedly. And realize that maybe you have had some really horrible experiences.
But ultimately a person isn't going to want to be with us because of our nationality,
but (I hope) because of our personality.
Wary of foreigners? Hmmm... Keep an open mind. We're all around you. *laugh*
Not the girl from Ipanema *laugh* | |
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| Wariness.......
Posted: 6/24/2005 9:24:33 PM | | op: Very sage advice. A foreign women advertising for a husband is obviously not looking for love. all females in reproductive years have to beat men off with a stick. you need to go to these countries and get to know the culture before you can find the right foreign female. domestic females are not worth considering in my humble opionion. | |
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| Wariness.......
Posted: 6/24/2005 9:35:03 PM | | did you guys just learn this fact? haha god.... Join the military and see how many chicks in asaia want to get married so they can come over ot the US | |
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| Wariness.......
Posted: 6/24/2005 10:43:26 PM | Ok, even though people migrate to Canada too, I bet Canadian business didn't take jobs away from Canadians and paid the immigrants 1/3 the pay to do the same job.
Sorry getting off topic. | |
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| european girls
Posted: 6/24/2005 10:51:37 PM | go to for example czech republic, u gonna meet there beatyfull, educated, REAL girls with no attitude.
canadian girl with looks like that walk on the clouds not looking at mortals. lol. | |
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