| Should your ex answer your calls?
Posted: 1/19/2009 8:20:37 AM | | i agreee with all of the above ops.i am dealing with the same thing our children are 3 and 4.i have long learned to do things on my own and just leave him a message and if he feels its important then he will call back if not i dont hear from him.the one time i tried to call him beacuse my son was puking and i was going to take him to emerg his g/f gave me an attitude and i realized from then on that i am on my own and not to bother with them.i am the same way never call unless its about the kids and its not often that i do once a week about what time he is coming to get them,otherwise if the kids want to talk to him i dial for them and they talk themselves.i suggest dont call unless its about the kids and just leave him a message if he calls back great if not it will say alot about him on its own.and remeber i have learned you cant change someone else just the way you deal with them | |
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| Should your ex answer your calls?
Posted: 1/19/2009 10:29:37 AM | | I had the same problem with my x. The problem was that she got on with life in her own way I had to do the same. I now know how great life can be as a single parent with out the stress of those little problems of her not being around or answering the phone. DON'T get consumed by his ignorance life will bite him back in its own way. If he pays support consider yourself lucky and run with it and stop bugging him, take the money and run . Just enjoy being a single mom and the rewards are huge. | |
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| Should your ex answer your calls?
Posted: 1/19/2009 7:15:42 PM | | I think you need to be kicked in the head! lol Seriously - it takes 2 people to make a child! There are 2 in this picture. He needs to man up & realize that! I hope you don't have kids. | |
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| Should your ex answer your calls?
Posted: 1/20/2009 5:51:14 AM | I tried to let my ex know when our kids were sick or had something on at school etc. He rarely answered the phone and he never returned any of my calls, so I stopped calling him completely. If there's an emergency of course I would try again, if not he misses out on the school concerts and awards nights and sports events, and I look after them when they're sick, so it's his own choice and his own fault if he misses out.
Now that he knows I'm not going to chase him to give him the info he's started to call me, and I answer the phone! | |
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| Should your ex answer your calls?
Posted: 1/20/2009 7:39:08 AM | | Baby is coughing up blood and he doesnt seem concerned or bother to check up on her afterwards? Well to me that behavior is terrible, and I would probably feel very sad. | |
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| Should your ex answer your calls?
Posted: 1/20/2009 8:09:54 AM | | Once a day? wow.. that's alot. If your kids call him to say goodnight everyday. He is not with you anymore and wants his own life. As insensetive as it seems. I'm willing to bet thats why he doesn't answer. Or maybe he is with his girlfriend and doesn't want the drama? Men don't worry as much about sick children as women do. I'm not saying they don't worry, but he knows they are in your capable hands. If he were to call to check up on them constantly would you feel like he was saying you can't take care of em? So you have been apart year? maybe less? maybe a bit longer? that's not a lot of time. Maybe he just wants his me space. Men need that more then women do. If you are calling him everyday he might feel like you two are still together. That's my thoughts anyway | |
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| Should your ex answer your calls?
Posted: 1/20/2009 5:47:15 PM | Wow...I am really grateful that my daughter's father and I can call each other everyday and share info about our daughter...I have my own issues with him, but I can never say he isn't an involved father and understanding of my need to hear the cute story of the day...she is 3. Of course, all we ever discuss is our daughter....
OP - I can imagine how disappointing his behaviour is but it is what it is...stop calling him and you might just be surprised when he begins calling you to ask about the children. | |
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