| why do people stay on POF after meeting someone?
Posted: 7/19/2009 9:30:42 PM | I think Innovation2009 said it very well especially:
"* Keeping an eye on the attention that you are getting!"
Seems that there are a ton of attention seekers here... | |
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| why do people stay on POF after meeting someone?
Posted: 8/25/2009 6:30:42 AM | Perhaps people have finally woken up to the realization that one does not have to date someone exclusively to find out if it is "going somewhere" which by that term I assume people mean marriage. It's a good thing to keep your options open. Dating exclusively is really quite counter-productive for people wanting to find a life partner/spouse. It's like a marriage test-run and is quite immature in my eyes. I think most people do it because they feel self-conscious if they don't say they are: 1) dating 2) in a relationship and my all time favorite 3) boyfriend or girlfriend.
People, life can be quite simple at times. You meet someone, enjoy their company and if eventually the frienship and itimacy you have with that person looks to the both of you like it could "go somewhere" than it will. Things naturally take their course and don't involve a lot of thought. Other than that being monogamous or dating exclusively is a waste of time for both people. | |
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| why do people stay on POF after meeting someone?
Posted: 8/25/2009 10:10:50 AM | It of course depends on the motives and integrity of each individual.
One size does NOT fit all.
My profile is in hide mode because I am not fishing.
I like forums here, why should I go somewhere else?
Profiles can be accessed via forums, and I don't delete mine for
a couple of reasons:
1. Let the posters see that my posts are not incongruous with what
I stated in my profile. I do the same to craft my responses.
If somebody thinks my viewing of their profile means anything more than
benign curiosity or gleaning info to provide circumspection for my responses,
they are sadly mistaken.
2. I keep it as a sort of template for people I steer here to give them
an idea of what worked for me. A sort of lead by example concept.
I have nothing to hide from my bf, he is more than welcome to
read my posts. He has total access to my computer.
The reality is, I generally only post when he is out
of town. When he is home, I have better things to do.
I allow contact from anybody via email, respond appropriately and block
anyone who feels compelled to violate the few conditions I listed.
I have emailed other posters(m or f) who are accessible to me to provide
info, give kudos, empathetic response, etc.
You have a problem with that? Well, that's YOUR problem, not mine
and refuse to allow it to become so. | |
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| why do people stay on POF after meeting someone?
Posted: 8/25/2009 4:09:53 PM | | Funny I was just going to post a forum on this exact subject. I met a man on here in person, and he stayed at my house for the weekend. I asked him if we were " dating" and he stated "ofcourse". So I then deleted my profile. Yesterday a girlfriend of mine let me know that he was still on here. I was really confused by this. We seemed like we clicked and I had even asked. I just don't know what to think, I really like him but don't want to get hurt either........ | |
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| why do people stay on POF after meeting someone?
Posted: 8/26/2009 11:11:58 AM | If you have been here for a while and post in the forums you tend to make friends who are wise wonderful people who you like to stay in touch with. As well as, banter with in the forums.
Or sometimes it is just the forums, sometimes they are like a bad accident you can't look away from.
For me, it's a bit of both. | |
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| why do people stay on POF after meeting someone?
Posted: 8/26/2009 12:21:08 PM | Why don't u try asking that "someone" if they are ready to take the next step???
You know there is a way to tell when the last time a person was on the website, when viewing their profile. | |
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| why do people stay on POF after meeting someone?
Posted: 8/26/2009 2:00:56 PM | you're a moron op.. plenty of reasons to stay on here, what if you guys dont work out in 2 weeks because *gasp* you're a psycho and misconstrue some tiny act and break up with him because of it, then he has to make a new profile and re acquire all his past acquaintances ?
grow the **** up | |
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| why do people stay on POF after meeting someone?
Posted: 8/26/2009 2:40:45 PM | | Last year, I met someone off POF and we agreed to date exclusively and put an effort into it. I took my profile off, and he said he did. i didn't doubt it. Several months later, we came to the conclusion that it was not going to work. Later, I put a profile back up, and surprise surprise... His profile showed up. he never deleted it. No wonder it didnt work? Not bothered to know. But trust me, next time, i am not deleting my profile. next time, I am changing my status to "not looking", as I really like the forums. | |
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| why do people stay on POF after meeting someone?
Posted: 8/26/2009 3:25:31 PM |
GreenCarrot - you're a moron op.
Those who name call others are worse than whatever they are accusing the target poster of being.
In other words you're a bigger moron GreenFaggot. | |
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| why do people stay on POF after meeting someone?
Posted: 8/26/2009 3:27:58 PM | imo,[1] For friends they met, have their personal e-mail, but still need assurances to stay and being in the public opinion for the fun of it.
[2]Internet therapists,god as we all need help when times are tuff.
[3]Have a s/o, but maybe not 100% sure.
[3]Ego, etc,etc.
[4]Enjoy the soap opera or bizarre.
[5] Enjoy the attention and are forums junkies who post 10,15.,20 times a day.
[6] Have ltr but here to fill the spaces when he comes home to past the time until that day comes...
[7] Have not access to the outside world.
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| why do people stay on POF after meeting someone?
Posted: 8/26/2009 3:59:47 PM | | Personally, I enjoy the forums and if I were in a situation that it was becoming exclusive, I would change my profile to indicate I'm only on here for the forums....make sure you both decide to make it exclusive before removing your profile | |
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| why do people stay on POF after meeting someone?
Posted: 8/26/2009 5:38:42 PM | I have read through a lot of the comments left on this post, and agree with one person totally-
If a person has trust/control issues and are checking up on the person they are dating they should not be on POF trying to do so because that person has issues they need to deal with in order to have a healthy relationship. There are MANY people on POF who should not be here dating.
Until a person has dealt with the pains from their past and laid their issues to rest they can not accept themselves for who they are and love who they are. Without being able to accept and love yourself, you can not love someone else in a HEALTHY manner.
So in my opinion, staying on POF after a relationship has developed is a 2 person agreement. It should be done as a couple. If one of you has a problem with it, close it off. That's what I did 4 years ago when I met my ex bf here. We were together for 2 years. And just in the last 6 months have I actively returned to POF. I wanted to be sure I was healed before I attempted moving on.
Good luck | |
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| why do people stay on POF after meeting someone?
Posted: 8/26/2009 5:43:15 PM |
I have nothing to hide from my bf, he is more than welcome to
read my posts. He has total access to my computer.
The reality is, I generally only post when he is out
of town. When he is home, I have better things to do.
Was it your boyfriend that you sent the rose to? I see you only have one rose to send | |
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