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| why do people stay on POF after meeting someone?
Posted: 2/22/2009 7:56:56 PM | As I'm sure many others have said....
Because of the forums! POF has some AWESOME forums and if nothing else, it's my laugh and entertainment for the day.
And just because you've met someone doesn't mean you have to leave the site! that's why they have options like... "not single/not looking" and looking for "friends" instead of "long term" or "dating". | |
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| why do people stay on POF after meeting someone?
Posted: 2/22/2009 8:16:54 PM | ^^^I'm glad to hear someone feels the same way I do.
Why is it though, that when a guy says the same thing, everyone says, "he's trolling to get a little something on the side"? Sure, some are; but we're not all pond scum.
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| why do people stay on POF after meeting someone?
Posted: 2/22/2009 8:24:54 PM | | I think i'm addicted to these forums...lol. My profile is hidden so I don't show up in searches. I don't know if his is hidden or not but he hasn't given me any reason to not trust him, so i'm not putting much thought into it. We are both open with the fact of why we are on here so we're not sneaking around or anything. | |
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| why do people stay on POF after meeting someone?
Posted: 2/22/2009 8:51:08 PM | ^^^Oh, ya...mines hidden also. The only people who ever "view me" are those who read my posts. Ya, the forums force you to think and help you practice your writing skills. Forum play beats vegetating in front of the TV.
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| why do people stay on POF after meeting someone?
Posted: 2/23/2009 6:42:19 AM |
When you have met someone special and you want to persue a relationship, then you should not be on a SINGLES DATING SITE....that is a deal breaker for me.....if you want me then you want me...and if you are online than you don't simple as that....you are just an insecure player.
Wow...if THAT ain't the pot callin' the kettle black...
Last time I checked, POF forums didn't have a "singles only" requirement.
I think the ones that would call people insecure should maybe start lookin' in the mirror?
Just sayin'.................................. | |
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| why do people stay on POF after meeting someone?
Posted: 3/1/2009 12:31:12 AM | | I'm here to talk on forums and if females want to talk to me the msg box is on my profile but we're only talking as friends because I'm taken and I'm loyal to my lady till she cheats on me or she is mad treating me like shit. | |
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| why do people stay on POF after meeting someone?
Posted: 3/1/2009 1:05:44 AM | Staying on Plentyoffish though dating someone on regular basis: Very simple...POF ..it's a backup plan if you get dumped or something goes wrong in the relatinship. It means you still are NOT sure and are keeping the door open to other possible relationships. Either that or you forgot to close down your accounts!  Because you still have your line in the water!!! | |
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| why do people stay on POF after meeting someone?
Posted: 3/1/2009 7:21:26 PM | Since when did POF become just a singles thing. Not all people that are on here that are taken, married, whatever are looking for options, There are committed people that come on the forums and talk to friends on here as well as singles. And single people come on here for just friendships as well.
If people are that insecure about trusting your partner then they got issues and better check themselves. | |
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| why do people stay on POF after meeting someone?
Posted: 3/1/2009 7:52:05 PM |
And single people come on here for just friendships as well.
Yes! Yes they do! ... even though it clearly states at the top of the page that this is a DATING site!
Ooooh the irony ...  | |
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| why do people stay on POF after meeting someone?
Posted: 3/1/2009 8:11:48 PM | So, what's wrong with friendship only? Some people honestly meet friends here . Without the Forums, I'd have been gone from this site long time ago. What I cannot understand is why some people are threatened by POF. If you are, your relationship is not solid enough. Wouldn't you rather know earlier in your relationship than later that your partner is not committed enough or does not trust you? If coming to the Forums or having some friends is a red flag, put it in your profile so people will know that you have a problem trusting anyone.
I've read so many couples here who are still members of POF and are not threatened by POF. Relationships are what you make of it. If you are naturally insecure, there is no guarantee that you can maintain a healthy relationship even if both of you live in a cave or are stranded in an island. | |
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| why do people stay on POF after meeting someone?
Posted: 3/1/2009 8:35:41 PM | Without fundamentals in place, having the feelings of falling in love exceedingly prematurely can result in needless heartbreaking outcomes. It is true that being single can sometimes produce intense feelings of loneliness. These feelings of solitude and wanting acceptance into a loving relationship can make one push for a relationship that is not correct for them. Beginning to spend time with another, sometimes a person will mistake the feeling of acceptance for the feeling of love. Love is not something easily obtained. For long periods, love can escape us, as we search for that someone special that we wish for in our lives.
Telling yourself that you are in love, does not create love. If not all of the essentials of genuine love are in place, convincing yourself that you are in love does not magically produce those necessary elements. If in almost every relationship you enter, you fall in love within a couple weeks or even days, you must ask yourself; are you really in love?
Undoubtedly, falling in love produces a magnificent euphoric high. The emotion of finding one's "soul mate" fulfills a deep desire to bond with someone. True love is such a rare find. In terms of realistic expectations, one simply cannot sincerely be in love with every person they meet or date. Allowing yourself to feel you are in love with almost everyone you connect with, in a small measure of time, only will lead to ultimate disappointment. Sincerely asking yourself the question, "Was it really true love?" may give you the knowledge that perhaps you did not actually experience love. This is not to imply you did not admire someone, like spending time with him or her or had lust for him or her. However, did real love exist? Comprehending that it did not, may lessen the sense of feeling betrayed and the feeling of being wounded from relationships gone astray.
To free yourself from being the victim of lost "love", give yourself the time to unequivocally get to know and appreciate someone, allowing love to happen in it's own due course. Do not impulsively rush into a state of feeling in love. Seriously consider all of the factors that ensure a real and lasting love. Give this feeling time to develop. Only then, can you truly know that you are in love and not by hoping someone will leave POF after meeting you because you are a cyberfriend many miles away from there comfort zone. | |
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| why do people stay on POF after meeting someone?
Posted: 3/1/2009 11:58:30 PM | Forums notwithstanding, when I'm not single, I'm not on here, so I can't speak for the rest of you guys. *shrug* Any friends I meet can email me. I don't spend much time online anyways.
If my potential gf chooses to be on here while with me, then that's fine, although (in my experience) it's been a sign of a larger insecurity problem on her part. Who knows. | |
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| why do people stay on POF after meeting someone?
Posted: 3/2/2009 12:13:54 AM | i think even tho people meet and truly are loyal to each other, they are kind of addicted to the virtual attention....
i think as the real life relationship grows, the cyber stuff will naturally be boring.....
BUT if someone's eye is wandering there is a reason-- and its best that comes out sooner rather then later | |
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| why do people stay on POF after meeting someone?
Posted: 3/2/2009 12:31:01 AM | | It sucks to have a relationship end poorly and not have anything else lined up...I've learned the hard way to always try to have a potential relationship or two in the early stages of development once things start to turn south. | |
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| why do people stay on POF after meeting someone?
Posted: 3/2/2009 6:34:29 AM | I think it shouldnt be an issue unless one of you raises it as one. Until you are exclusive then why should you leave?
If a guy you are now in a relationship with raises it as a concern then its up to you to make a decision as to whats more important to you. Also to ask yourself why you are actually still coming on the site. Is it because you have made friends or in fact that you are looking for better??? If your looking for better then why stay with him in the first place??? | |
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| why do people stay on POF after meeting someone?
Posted: 3/2/2009 8:03:50 AM | You can tell someone's intentions pretty easily - if they are just here for the forum their profile will be hidden and they will have some sort of message to that affect.
My problem is with people who are in relationships and bored, so they toy with people who are looking and available. | |
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| why do people stay on POF after meeting someone?
Posted: 3/2/2009 1:31:55 PM | Are there a lot of guys who do that? I don't get that really, I think it's fine to leave your profile up until you are sure that your new relationship is working out. But I don't see the point of being married or in a relationship and playing around on the site. I mean, how bored do you have to be to resort to that?? If you do do it, you probably shouldn't be in a relationship, it's a good sign that you aren't ready.
Sometimes however people just don't bother changing their profile to indicate they are off the market. Myself, I'm taking a break from the dating thing, so I made myself invisible, but people STILL found me somehow. I started feeling bad, so I put a little disclaimer in.
So there aren't always ulterior motives- | |
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| why do people stay on POF after meeting someone?
Posted: 3/3/2009 7:33:58 AM | ^^
They do! I was chatting with a guy and it turned out that not only had he posted a fake picture and lied about everything, he was in fact married with children and grandchildren (she sent me a picture of him with his grandchild). Things like that can make you cynical if you let it ... you just have to keep your eyes WIDE open. | |
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| why do people stay on POF after meeting someone?
Posted: 3/3/2009 7:48:07 AM | | THEY COME FOR THE FORUMS! Even after you are in a relationship, you can still come here for relationship advise, sex advise, advise on how to deal with a blended family, etc. | |
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