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Then broke up about 2 months later but have continued to see him only on a sexual basis. I want so much more from him and made it very clear to him.... Won't return my calls on if he want's a piece or text me. But gets angry with me if I go on line....
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I'm in love with this man this is why women should not play FB game...we are too emotionally attached
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Posted: 2/10/2009 11:42:38 AM |
Don't gamble if you can't afford to lose
~OT~ This thread is exactly why I'm an abstinence gal when not in a committed relationship. There is NO winning with the whole FB or FWB game. I can live without sex, but I can't live without my heart/soul ~ no one gets near those without their heart/soul involved to a similar degree as mine. I had one experience that was not based upon feelings and I felt bad about it for a very long time. No need to revisit that again. Ick. JMO  | |
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Posted: 2/10/2009 1:55:50 PM |
This thread is exactly why I'm an abstinence gal when not in a committed relationship. There is NO winning with the whole FB or FWB game. I can live without sex, but I can't live without my heart/soul ~ no one gets near those without their heart/soul involved to a similar degree as mine.
Very well put , over the years I have grown up somehow and find myself on that same step these days..I keep reminding myself that "some things cost to much even when they are free" .
My first thought when I read the topic was
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Posted: 2/14/2009 9:02:06 PM | "This thread is exactly why I'm an abstinence gal when not in a committed relationship. There is NO winning with the whole FB or FWB game. I can live without sex, but I can't live without my heart/soul"
Amen!
I totally agree with the "abstinence" while not in a relationship.
I think it complicates things befor you even really get to know the person you like.
Im super happy to find out im not the only one who thinks this way.
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Posted: 2/14/2009 9:23:37 PM | ^^^
I agree as well. Dont come at me expecting me to sleep with you before you're my man, don't expect me to fill your inbox with dirty messages, none of that bullsh*t. I dont need sex, I want it, but I am not putting myself out there to give someone what they want, when I dont get what I want in return.... which isn't just sex! | |
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Posted: 2/14/2009 10:18:33 PM | Duuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh! Leave. He's using you to satisfy his gluttonous libido and has NO intention of ever going any further with you than that.
You are being used and then will be discarded like last week's newspaper. Get a grip and move on. | |
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Posted: 2/15/2009 1:30:50 AM | | In this case, he won't date you because you already sleep with him. Why would he buy the cow if he is already getting the milk for free? (Crass but true) There is one fact that you seem to not want to recognize. He isn't getting into a serious relationship with you for one simple reason. He doesn't want to. If you want a relationship move on to someone who does. You will not change his mind and if you keep sleeping with him he gets exactly what he wants from you without giving you what you really want from him. Think about it. | |
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Posted: 2/15/2009 5:53:24 AM | | This makes me sad when I read this. It sounds like this is the only way you can get to be around a man at all--are you that undesirable? You are being a free hooker for this guy. Why? | |
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Posted: 2/15/2009 6:03:18 AM | Because males of an animal species are geneticly pre-disposed to want to spread thier genepool as far as possible. (ok I can't spell). Or from a religeous point of view. The flesh is weak. Personally I learned self discipline in my 20's somewhere, but I know plenty of 50 year old still crawling out windows.
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Posted: 2/15/2009 6:10:10 AM | Jrules--
Don't make yourself available to him. Trust me, I've been blinded by love, and KNOW that as long as you, as individual, allow the cycle to continue it will and the only person who will be frustrated in the end will be you. You are providing a need/service for him and that is all he wants.
There are a lot of guys who want a decent lady in and out of the bedroom to do things with...make yourself available to them. Hold off the sex until the time it feels right---because it appears that if a woman gives up sex too early on it somehow diminishes her value in the eyes of the man who has sex with her....stupid I suppose, but it is what it is.
I've done a similiar dance with a man for over 5 yrs....and I guess I've come to a place in my life where the status quo don't cut the mustard. Like you said..you are single---date others and enjoy life as it's meant to be lived. I know it's hard to free yourself from someone who seems to fit your life but just because he fits it doesn't mean he deserves to be in it.
JMHO-MM
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Posted: 2/15/2009 6:28:54 AM | He just not that in to you. Men know what they want just like woman. If he wanted to be with you he would. He has made it clear; however you just simply choose to not see the true pictures. His excuses are not really excuses. It just his was of beating around the bush and not telling you directly. Sorry but it is what it is. You can keep this game up, however he will simply be having his cake and eating it to. Next time around don’t give it up till you’re in a committed relationship. May seem hard however at least you will know they are in it for you.
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Posted: 2/15/2009 6:29:37 AM | I know this one to well! One of my encounters on this site went that way. Thank God, I blew my fuse after he pushed me to far! Walk away, no run away, lol. You will never get anymore from him than this, believe me. There is always an excuse. Don't allow yourself to be used like that. I can spot them a mile away today, after two of them in my life. I do not have any respect for anyone like that. But I do respect myself. To Thine own self be true!
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Posted: 2/15/2009 6:46:29 AM | Thanks for an intelligent, honest response. PoF seems to be awash with these emotionally unavailable guys and women who pursue them.
I myself have fallen for 2 such 'players' on here.
My question to men is 'why do you play this game? is it not ultimately as unfulfilling for you as it is for women?
I am not bitter but I am examining my own judgment now...... | |
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Posted: 2/15/2009 7:59:15 AM | | Women what is wrong with all of you, men have and always will have that primal urge and you give in right away before they know who you are of course that will be all they are looking for. I bet this is history repeating itself for you. Get out of that pattern and believe in yourself, that love isn't just a roll in the hay. | |
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Posted: 2/15/2009 10:33:09 AM | Well first off a large amount of people be it men or women are on this site and others just like it looking for sex. You know deep down that he is playing games about wanting to date you, he is content with the sex and unfortunately that is all you will ever be for him. I do feel bad for you because you seem to be really into this guy, but obviously he does not care. Your having children wasn't a problem when he first started to talk to you and it isn't now, that's an excuse. You know that you should just drop him and trust i know it may be hard right now but you are better than that and you better demand respect or you will never get it.:  | |
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Posted: 2/15/2009 10:57:38 AM | | He has been clear, now just choose. Accept or reject. You cannot change anyone but yourself. Keep him as a boy toy or leave........it's that simple. Also have you thought about the fact that because this is a non-committed relationship, you are also free to see other people? | |
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Posted: 2/15/2009 11:45:08 AM | FIRST OF ALL, I CAN SYMPATHIZE WITH YOU---ITS HARD EMOTIONALLY, BUT IF YOU REALLY THINK ABOUT THE REASONS WHY IT NEVER WORKED OUT TO BEGIN WITH, IT WILL NEVER CHANGE.... HE SOUNDS VERY INCONSIDERATE AND SELFISH....I DONT THINK YOU WOULD WANT TO MAINTAIN THAT EVEN IF YOU ARE PERMANENTLY IN A RELATIONSHIP WITH HIM....YOU WOULD STILL BE JUST AS UNHAPPY , I F NOT MORE, IF YOU CONTINUE THIS.....THE BALL MUS T BE IN HIS COURT NOW...I KNOW YOUR FEELINGS.....I AM THERE TOO....ITS HARD TO LET GO ESPECIALLY WHEN ITS THE MATTERS OF THE HEART.....ITS NOT AS EASY, BUT THE REASONING IS THERE....ONLY YOU WILL KNOW WHEN ITS TIME TO LET GO AND HOW WILLING YOU ARE TO SEE IT THROUGH....
I AM ON DAY TWO OF LETTING GO.....ITS NOT EASY....BUT YOU MUST REMIND YOURSELF OF WHY YOUARE DOING THIS AND WHY YOUARE STILL UNHAPPY AS THIS IS GOING ON WHILE YOUWERE IN THE RELATIONSHIP.......
HOPE I MADE SENSE AND HAVE GIVEN YOU SOME KIND OF DIRECTION.....YOU ARE THE ONLY WHO KNOWS WHEN YOUARE READY TO DO THIS
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Posted: 2/15/2009 12:55:35 PM | In answering Bigger Than Hip Hop: Two reasons why men do this: 1. They have commitment issues meaning they are afraid (have a psychological fear) of officially getting with a woman (relationship/dating wise) long-term. Now this fear could stem from something that happened in their teenage/20's years with a girl (i.e. guy got dumped and got his heart ripped to shreds) or some form of abandonment issues from his mother or even father where he is afraid of becoming abandoned by a future date/lover.
OR you have the more popular choice of #2 which is simply the guy figures that well if he dates and gets rejected (i.e. doesn't get repeat dates girl doesn't call him back etc.) I will just sleep with the girl so at least I am getting SOMETHING out of her. He figures it's better than going out with ten girls and either not making a real connection with them, making a connection with one them but only to be dumped later, or getting rejected constantly and not getting repeat dates as stated earlier.
It's almost equivalent to the girl never commits and just goes out with rich guys who buy her fancy dinners/gifts.
Interesting thing about all of this is haven't you noticed that everyone always seems to date based on their level of archetype status? Meaning if someone is or displays higher value/status (not socio-economic) you want to date them. Have a great Sunday people of POF!  | |
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