| | Calling All DivorceesPage 9 of 9 (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9) | I can only speak for me....he abused my love for him by screwing around with other relationships. I was always faithful but once I was done...I was done.
This is pretty much how I deal with life now....I have two motto's "once you know you can't pretend you don't know"....and "Once I am done...I am done" | |
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Posted: 8/17/2009 7:49:08 PM | | Well, it wasn't going to get done unless I filed. He left me alone in a house with all the bills and just separated himself from all responsibility. So, yea, I filed, and paid for the entire thing. Better to get it done and over with than try and get him to help me. | |
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Posted: 8/17/2009 7:49:19 PM | | My ex-wife asked for the divorce and I was devastated. After a month of no action on her part, my attorney suggested I file. I did. It took exactly one year to be final. That was three years ago. The kids came to live with me in March of this year and I could'nt be happier. | |
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Posted: 8/17/2009 8:27:17 PM | I'll keep mine short. I've been divorced twice.
First marriage lasted 4 months. I didn't want to be in the marriage to start with and it was my idea to end it. I filed for the divorce and she had custody of the lone child. Yes the child was the reason for the marriage. It was what was considered the right thing to do back then and to some still is. My reason for filing for the divorce? None really other than I was better at those kind of things (paperwork, contracts, taxes, etc)
Second marriage lasted 13 years. It was my idea to end it. She filed for the divorce I got Custody of our child and her step daughter chose to live with me too. Her reason for filing for the divorce? She was in a hurry to get married again. So much that the date was moved back to an earlier date, so that the one year separation came sooner.
I guess that supports the theory that sometimes the person filing has something more to gain by expediting the divorce. I don't believe that is always the case. | |
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Posted: 8/17/2009 10:12:34 PM | My theories? Because men hate change. Because they are comfortable and clueless to their wive's unhappiness. Maybe because women generally are more tuned in to the children and what they are learning from the dysfunctional relationship. I have heard a preacher getting after men who are surprised their wives were divorcing them. I have talked to women whose husbands were surprised to find she was so unhappy. A doctor friend once said she felt like a lot of women get antidressants when, what they really need is a divorce. I had a counselor chastise my husband for not knowing I cried myself to sleep right next to him. Yes, I filed, after counseling didn't work.
Or maybe it is the same reason they won't ask directions or go to the doctor. | |
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Posted: 8/18/2009 12:08:17 AM | | ok, I am the next Liz Taylor...I have been married more times than I care to admit...in some ways I think it could be looked at as I am a romantic and I keep believing one man out there will stick! BUT I think I realize the problem, actually my 24 year old coworker (who's a guy) brought up an excellent point. I am in love with falling in love. Well that fascination, infatuation thing only goes so far, then I get bored. I'm probably sounding pretty imature, and it's not a totally comfortable feeling that a kid 11 years younger than me picked up on it like that. But I really took it to heart, and I think he's right. Bummer. Oh well, good thing I got this website! ha | |
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Posted: 8/18/2009 11:40:25 AM | | After 8 years of marriage, my wife confessed she's been having an affair with her boss for four months. She wasn't "in love" with me anymore and wanted her independence. I filed. Total cost of the divorce: $277 ... and we're still friends. | |
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Posted: 8/18/2009 12:16:36 PM | | My wife told me she wanted a divorce after five years, and I was the one that filed for it. I wasn't particularly happy with the marriage either, but was looking at it as much more of a commitment than she was, and even if I wasn't happy I was going to honor the promise I'd made. Once she said she wanted the divorce, that changed the situation irreversibly for me. Even so, it was still several months before I actually filed, as I didn't want to do it without a lot of thought and further discussion between us, and without making absolutely sure that was the proper course of action for us. | |
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Posted: 8/18/2009 12:28:37 PM | | It was the male in our relationship who wanted the divorce and started the separation proceedings. I was still foolishly believing we could make a go of it -- I was also busy at the time looking after a newborn baby with medical complications (no problems now). | |
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Posted: 8/18/2009 1:26:46 PM | I got married on the first Saturday after I turned 18 and no longer needed my father's consent, which pretty much sums up why I later filed for divorce.
Almost 35 years later I am sitting here escaping the summer heatwave by watching re-runs of 'Divorce Court' on daytime television. Judge Lynn Toler just said something timely tho:
"There is nothing about the words 'I do' that's going to make him jump up and rush to clean the toilet." How true. | |
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Posted: 8/18/2009 2:14:08 PM | | Could be the money. In Quebec, Canada, you don't have to pay alimony back payments until there is a judgment against you. | |
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