| What Would Do If Your Date Said To You, I'm Use To Dating Someone Better Looking Than You?
Posted: 1/22/2009 7:16:05 PM | This did happen to me. I was having dinner with a gal at a popular noisy chain restaurant, and she said, "No offense, but I'm used to dating better-looking men." A group of people at a nearby table looked at us and burst out laughing. I was feeling really low, and just wanted to slide under the table and disappear. Then she turned to them and said, "What the f u c k are you ugly a s s h o l e s laughing at?" I never saw people stop laughing so quickly. They went stone-faced, and slowly turned away and went back to their buffalo wings.
Sometimes, all the bases are covered.
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| What Would Do If Your Date Said To You, I'm Use To Dating Someone Better Looking Than You?
Posted: 1/22/2009 8:14:08 PM |
I once emailed a guy (same age as me) on another dating site to say I liked his profile etc and he sent me this lovely line..
'sorry I like em younger'
so I emailed him back saying, 'my mistake, I like em smarter'.
sparklingseas,
I'm not positive I agree with you about this one. Seems like a different issue. Where
ugly is strictly an insult, age is a matter of preferance and compatibility, you know?
Would you prefer an answer like this, tactless though it may be, over the usual no
answer at all? | |
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| What Would Do If Your Date Said To You, I'm Use To Dating Someone Better Looking Than You?
Posted: 1/22/2009 10:40:00 PM | Me being me, curiosity would kick in first and I'd ask him questions... My first would probably be, "Why does that feel different?". I'd want to know what he was really trying to say... what he thought and how he felt. My ego might twinge but I don't see myself as pretty so I'd set that aside easily to make way for my curiosity about what he meant.
Later on, depending on how the conversation went from there, after curiosity was satisfied, doubts might kick in. I don't see why anyone else should consider me to be pretty, even if it might be nice if they had that delusion. However, I am past the stage where I'll spend time with someone who has feelings that are less than they should be. Fair enough if he considered I wasn't as pretty as his exes: that's may well be true, but if he thinks less of me for that or doesn't find me more attractive than them, I'd be waving goodbye.
There's a big difference between someone considering you pretty and someone finding you attractive. I'm quite sure which is important and which is ego.
Unlike most other people, unless I was kidding around and just teasing him back, I wouldn't be looking for a "comeback" remark or to soften the blow to my ego. Curiosity comes first and I don't think it makes sense to make a big deal out of someone putting their foot in their mouth -- especially without knowing what the follow-up remark was. Maybe he was about to say "but I've never dated anyone so beautiful/amazing/interesting". Since you stormed out, you'd never know what he really meant. I'd rather get the information and think about it later.
But as well as not being pretty, I'm also not normal. :) | |
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| What Would Do If Your Date Said To You, I'm Use To Dating Someone Better Looking Than You?
Posted: 1/22/2009 11:31:01 PM |
The guy must have been mentally ill to make a comment like that.
uh huh...
If I were there I would say oh yeah, well you're so ugly your dentist treats you by mail .... the last time I saw a mouth like that it had a hook in it
You go! That's the best one on this thread so far!
Me being me, curiosity would kick in first and I'd ask him questions... My first would probably be, "Why does that feel different?". I'd want to know what he was really trying to say... what he thought and how he felt.
Omg! This is so funny. Actual therapy even! I would be tempted but I'm just a little weary of not being paid for my counseling skills.
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| What Would Do If Your Date Said To You, I'm Use To Dating Someone Better Looking Than You?
Posted: 1/23/2009 12:53:53 AM | | I would have smiled back,decided i was absolutely starving.Then i would order the most expensive dishes i could find,flirt like id never done in my life,and order the most expensive wine.Just as i was getting him really interested in me i would say " I am used to dating class," then walk out with my head high,leaving him to pay the bill. | |
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| What Would Do If Your Date Said To You, I'm Use To Dating Someone Better Looking Than You?
Posted: 1/23/2009 3:42:08 AM | What's with all the "witty" retorts and childish game playing? Why score points over that sort of person? WHY BOTHER?
I'd simply say "In that case,there's no point in me staying. Goodbye." and walk out. No point scoring, no ego-striking, no revenge: just outta there. If that's the very first thing someone is going to say to me in person, then what else are they going to say and do for the rest of our "relationship"? | |
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| What Would Do If Your Date Said To You, I'm Use To Dating Someone Better Looking Than You?
Posted: 1/23/2009 5:17:02 AM | Well...I had a guy once tell me that he could never be exclusive or faithful to me (or women like me) because my breasts were too small and he couldn't imagine spending the rest of his life never having the pleasure to play with large breasts ever again.
And except for being taken completely by surprise by his comment, it didn't bother me. Shrug...so my breasts are small...it's not like it's something I don't already know so really...who cares?
Oh yeah...I've also been called a "flat ass cracker" in a half joking half serious way before...haha...oh really...I'm white and my ass is flat...noooooo...wha wha wha. 
Seriously though, you can't let that stuff get to you, specially as you get older and gain maturity and you're no longer an impressionable (and insecure) teenager, you know?
Hopefully that woman had enough sense to not let such an insensitive comment get to her and be thankful that he showed his true colours early on...really, who says something like that? I'm not a fan of blunt honesty, which in my opinion is nothing more than aggressive behavior that's delivered with a smile instead of a punch. 
JMO
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| What Would Do If Your Date Said To You, I'm Use To Dating Someone Better Looking Than You?
Posted: 1/23/2009 9:23:51 AM | | If this during the first date I would say "I could say the same thing about you. You aren't that great looking either". But I had been dating a woman for an extended period of time, then I would ask her to clarify her remark and perhaps give her the benefit the doubt depending on what her response was. Many people will say something dumb or use the wrong words to make their point once in a while. | |
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| What Would Do If Your Date Said To You, I'm Use To Dating Someone Better Looking Than You?
Posted: 1/23/2009 11:47:31 AM | Oh snap!!!
That's the saddest thing I think I have heard in a while .. wow..
Not only does the guy land a verbal tko punch, he blindsides her with it in a public place...Grade A douche...
We all have feelings and insecurities when meeting someone new .. And for someone
to drag another's feeling over broken glass like this is callous, heartless and inexcusable..
I dunno how I would repond.. I would either.. *smirk* and tell him,
how relieved I am cuz I only dated him to get with his better looking brother
or
Stab him in the eye with my fork then ask.." how do I look now, bytch?"
lmfaoooooooooo | |
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| What Would You Do If Your Date Said To You, I'm Use To Dating Someone Better Looking Than You?
Posted: 1/23/2009 12:02:58 PM | Well we both were shocked and wished I knew if she left or not, but i hope that she did. She wasn't bad looking at all. Well not to me anyways. As for him, he didn't seem like he should be complaining about her looks. I will leave it at that.
Damn, I hate that this site doesn't really have an edit button. Guess I better proof read my subject lines more before posting them. LOL. | |
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| What Would Do If Your Date Said To You, I'm Use To Dating Someone Better Looking Than You?
Posted: 1/23/2009 3:33:49 PM | "I really do wonder if a guy would react differently in that situation..."
I Cornelius hits on a good point. Who here would have trouble envisioning this scenario:
Her: "I usually date more attractive men."
Him, thinking to himself: "Wow, but here she is with me ... she digs how manly I am."
Him: "So then, what is it about me that turns you on?" | |
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