| This ain't my first rodeo!!!
Posted: 1/24/2009 2:50:47 PM | I know I’ve been in similar situations to this in the past as well…so are these S/O's genuinely trying to help and show off in a way in cases like this, or do they just think we’re truly mental midgets that don’t know what we’re talking about???
I can't speak for those S/O's, but I'm better at understanding mechanical and electrical problems than anyone I know and almost always can fix something other people give up on, so I never assume someone knows what he/she is talking about unless he/she convinces me by explaining what he/she has done already. I don't think someone is a mental midget because of that. What I do happens to depend upon doing that sort of thing very well. That being said, I also know enough to not do something as stupid as you described. . Anyone who really does know what he/she is doing doesn't do more than he/she is willing to undo regardless of his/her own effort/expense. If you want to separate the knowledgeable from the poseurs, insure that he/she will pay for anything that their meddling causes to become an immediate problem or causes more of a problem and make certain the money is available.
Let me ask you something. Is there some reason that admitting someone else might just know more than you about a problem is an issue? For some reason, many women get all bent out of shape when their mechanical ability is questioned even when their mechanical ability is questionable. In those cases, I'm content to let her spend as much as her ego is worth. | |
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| This ain't my first rodeo!!!
Posted: 1/24/2009 3:01:43 PM | oh, I dated a man like that when I was younger.... never again! I can't stand that form of arrogance, and they end up breaking all your things!
I love when a man knows he's right, when he's actually right. But a man's gotta know his limits! tha cowboy would not be part of my life--too stressful when you don't know what he'll insist upon next! | |
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Posted: 1/24/2009 3:20:14 PM | | therisnospoon-- I think there is a profession out there for a woman with your looks and your experience with a whip and it ain't schooling horses. How does Mistress Spoon sound to you? | |
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Posted: 1/24/2009 3:20:35 PM | I've seen dumbass behavior on more than one occasion... saw him snap the BBQ racks trying to force them into slots... test a pellet gun target-practising on the windows... set fire to the gas can... drop a tree on the fence... drop another tree on the house... put the ladder up against the branch being cut off... break the door trying to wiggle it into place... break the dryer... break the oven door off... break the washer... break the lawn mower... almost kill 2 people with blades on the whipper snipper flying off... put the chain on the chainsaw on backwards & loose... the list goes on... all to the tune of "I don't think you should..." followed by a chorus of "you're gonna break it".....
He once greeted me with "you know the wall you told me I couldn't pull out 'cuz it was a load bearing wall?.... Well it came out real easy"...
He now does his own car repairs... I don't care - we're divorced and I'm still beneficiary on his life insurance policy.
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Posted: 1/24/2009 3:29:34 PM | Guess for me that it's people (male/female) who think in bumpstickerese, lol! Just about as soon as I'm able to identify it, they're gone, or I am. First time I noticed it was with *S H I T HAPPENS* . . . . A friend of a friend died and I was telling my ex about it, and that's what he said. I had to actually sit down and take another look at him. . . . Didn't last too long after that. Wasn't so much just the actual words, as that was the way his thought processes actually operated.
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Posted: 1/24/2009 3:37:10 PM | BBW - Ha ha, I think they earn a lot of money too and don't even put out lol but I already have a high paying career. Perhaps I just need someone's ass to practice on for fun lol
Candid - you are too funny LMAO | |
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| This ain't my first rodeo!!!
Posted: 1/24/2009 3:51:42 PM |
Let me ask you something. Is there some reason that admitting someone else might just know more than you about a problem is an issue? For some reason, many women get all bent out of shape when their mechanical ability is questioned even when their mechanical ability is questionable. In those cases, I'm content to let her spend as much as her ego is worth.
Nah, abelian, it's never been a problem for me to ask someone for help that obviously knows more about the issue in question than I do.
This thread wasn't intended to be about males vs females though, nor was it intended to be about mechanical abilities or issues...it was just an example I used, as I've already said.
My question was...WHY is it, that oftentimes one's S/O (whether male or female) seems to totally disregard what we're telling them, when we already know what we're talking about, but they still disregard that and carry on like a bull in a china shop anyway? | |
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Posted: 1/24/2009 4:01:38 PM | My question was...WHY is it, that oftentimes one's S/O (whether male or female) seems to totally disregard what we're telling them, when we already know what we're talking about, but they still disregard that and carry on like a bull in a china shop anyway?
Who knows... maybe they have a genuine need to help. Maybe they are control freaks who need to be in charge. Maybe they're just dumbasses who need a keeper. Either way, let the best man or woman for the job carry out the repairs - even if it means hiring someone else. Mine always said it was my fault - I was so negative and I should just trust him.... see earlier post # 29. | |
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Posted: 1/24/2009 4:06:44 PM | | First of all if HE pays the deductible as he should, the insurance company will cover the balance. Driving around in 22 degree weather and a boyfriend with permanent brain freeze? What's her problem, this man is a royal jackass. | |
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| This ain't my first rodeo!!!
Posted: 1/24/2009 4:54:55 PM |
“Back off…this ain’t my first rodeo, and I know what I’m doing!”
I would have responded, "Good. Then saddle up and fvck off!!'"
Working in the trades for so many years I can't tell you how hard I laughed at the OP's situation. This is a daily occurrence at work. It seems no matter where you go there ids always a know-it-all who knows nothing. Even better are the guys who "Talk you through it" but vanish when asked to actually do it.... because they can't do it.
Just shake your head, grab a drink and get it on video because "America's Funniest Videos" love idiots like that...... ya may as well try to win some cash on the show. | |
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| This ain't my first rodeo!!!
Posted: 1/24/2009 5:12:35 PM |
so are these S/O's genuinely trying to help and show off in a way in cases like this, or do they just think we’re truly mental midgets that don’t know what we’re talking about??? Ack...
I had so much fun posting, I forgot to get to the question of this thread... sorry, my bad...
Sweetness, I think that something comes over people when they encounter a situation where they are in the position to help or save their s/o. It's like they have blinders on and cannot see the forest for the trees...
I guess in times like this its a situation where we have to sit back and enjoy the show... and then pick up the pieces afterwards...
I know that I' ve done some pretty rodeo things in my life... I've tried my hand at plumbing - thank goodness I had a plumber that could come over and fix my screw up pretty fast...  | |
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Posted: 1/24/2009 5:26:48 PM | | Omg!! too funny!!! I use this expression actually at work now and then when I am having a conversation with one of the contractors I work with and he's trying to convince me that we should do something a certain way (which usually requires less effort on his part) instead of the right way. It usually gets his attention, and we both laugh, it's been a great tool in my toolbox when dealing with some know it all types. | |
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Posted: 1/24/2009 11:00:36 PM | OP,
You've been around the forums a while and knew it was going to go "gender-specific" when you posted. Otherwise you wouldn't have said:
Edit: This isn't meant to be gender-specific in any way though :)
[Why you wanna stur the pot?]
Whatever.
Myself? I am a pretty damn good wrench.
However, I will respect someone else's property, and their wishes, if they disagree with my prognosis. Most often, not always, I am right and could have saved them a chunk of money.
At the same time, you (females) might surprised at the number of women that concede the 'mechanical world' to the men in their life. Nothing right or wrong with that, but it does present most men with a right-of-passage type situation.
Personally, because I am good with mechanics, I made a vow long ago that I would help any woman I know having mechanical troubles free of charge. It's just good karma.
Maybe the guy was being condescending, maybe he sincerely thought he knew better.
We don't know, but the people in this thread making hard stances on this issue imply 'personal' issues of their own, IMO.
The only ones that truely know are the ones involved in said circumstances.
Be nice.
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| This ain't my first rodeo!!!
Posted: 1/24/2009 11:07:25 PM |
If he is such a bull head know it all, why didn't he fix the window back up for her after the journey? it's not rocket science to take off the door panel and even if only temporary, manually wind the window up, until whatever part of it is broken can be replaced.
Oh, I'm sure he offered to fix it. And she probably even said yes.
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But then she changed her mind when he started pulling out the duct tape and asked for help getting his fingers unglued from eachother. That's usually the point at which these "knowitall" women decide that some "proffesional" repair guy can do a better job.  I mean can you believe the nerve of some people? So what? Now you think Mister "Professional" does a better job than me just because his solution doesn't involve duct tape?!?!? He should totally dump her. | |
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| This ain't my first rodeo!!!
Posted: 1/24/2009 11:10:36 PM | | Donkey Pimp--Don't forget the trash bag to go over the window. What do you think the duct tape is hoding up? | |
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| This ain't my first rodeo!!!
Posted: 1/24/2009 11:21:30 PM |
BTW, had this problem with my window, if you can push it up with your hands you can keep it up with large suction cups placed at the bottom of the window.
Suction sups?!?!? Who needs suction cups?!?!
I am telling you - if Tape can't fix it, it was no good in the first place.
These are the comments/statements that females ALWAYS make, complaining and ranting about MANY of the male's subject's that male's post! Just had to point this out, since we males see this each and every day here on the POF forums. As you females always say, what is good for the gander is also very good for the goose! Fair is fair.
Bro, you are my kinda dude. You're a Bro's Bro. You are truly a man of taste and class. I can guess just by reading your post that your car probably has several square feet of duct tape covering all the major problematic regions. Like the license plate. Or lack thereof. Seriously dude, the cops go for it every time "Oh, did the tape give way again? I'm sorry officer, the license plate is probably just off the side of the road somewhere between here and Interstate 5."
Men like us don't need warranties - we have tape.
The one thing a man like you could use is a type of tape that covers up the smell of liquor. If it weren't for that, there'd be no trouble with the cops in the first place, right bro?
Donkey Pimp--Don't forget the trash bag to go over the window. What do you think the duct tape is hoding up?
What do you think I'm made of money here?!?!
Trash bags and suction cups - these women are gonna drive me into the poor house! | |
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Posted: 1/24/2009 11:34:59 PM |  It can't get any more classic than that! After the debacle of the ex and his penchant for tearing (his version of fixing) things up, I'd noticed that alot of men have this ... quirk. So these days when I see a guy looking to "fix" something for me, I hand him a remote control that won't work on my TV. After spending quite a bit of time trying to get the darn thing to work, I called the manufacturer and found out that there is no code for my specific model. Having lost the receipt the remote got thrown in with all the other electronic goo-gaws. It's like giving a baby keys!! They spend hours trying to get it to work, and leave the other stuff alone! Eventually crying and drooling cuz they just couldn't get it to work.... | |
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| This ain't my first rodeo!!!
Posted: 1/25/2009 2:30:08 AM |
Honestly. That so many hilarious, bright women are still single says something about the other gender. Ladies, cheers to you all! I'm laughing so hard I fear the neighbours will come knocking (it's late).
John Gray says men need to feel competent. If they can't squirt offspring out, they need to have another reason to exist and that's it. Hence the famed failure to ask directions when lost. Sadly, an awful lot of 'em seem not to have twigged that being arrogant about talents one does not actually possess puts the lie to the whole competence facade.
If only they'd figure out that we admire it so much more when they're confident enough to be able to admit they don't know it all... | |
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| This ain't my first rodeo!!!
Posted: 1/25/2009 2:51:28 AM |
Personally, because I am good with mechanics, I made a vow long ago that I would help any woman I know having mechanical troubles free of charge. It's just good karma.
Karmechanics...?...don't think it counts in the Universal collection and disposal of baloney...maybe in the 'mechanical world'...meh?!
People like to feel like they know what they're doing sometimes....if they don't...inevitably, they will come to know and accept it....and if you're really lucky, admit it...;) | |
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| This ain't my first rodeo!!!
Posted: 1/25/2009 2:55:20 AM |
What had me in stitches though, was his comment while he was insisting on forcing the window down, “Back off…this ain’t my first rodeo, and I know what I’m doing!”
I know I’ve been in similar situations to this in the past as well…so are these S/O's genuinely trying to help and show off in a way in cases like this, or do they just think we’re truly mental midgets that don’t know what we’re talking about???
Edit: This isn't meant to be gender-specific in any way though :)
Yes, it is funny. And I've been in similar situations. And, it is NOT gender specific. People like to be right. When they are certain they are right, they will not back down, or are very unwilling to back down. I had such a situation with a co-worker a few weeks ago. After 3 weeks of insisting she was right about something, and my just saying, well, I'm not sure, she came to me and apologized for being so insistent as she had found new 'evidence' that proved she had been wrong all along. Thing is, she was quite agressive about being right for 3 weeks, and so, though she apologized, finally, I can't like or admire in anyway a person who behaves like that. Have some humility, take into account that you might be wrong, and don't be agressive with people. | |
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| This ain't my first rodeo!!!
Posted: 1/25/2009 8:31:05 AM | .......................................................................................................................................
In my "limited" experience with "rodeo's" - I've noted that there's always (at least a little) Bull! | |
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| This ain't my first rodeo!!!
Posted: 1/25/2009 8:55:48 AM | | All I know is HE would be driving my car and I would be driving HIS until the rodeo clown fixed my window! I do NOT do COLD! | |
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Posted: 1/25/2009 9:22:34 AM | DonkeyPimp msg 43;
Freakin' HILARIOUS, man!
I happen to have a problematic power window,driver's side door of my truck. The 2 or 3 times it's fallen clear down, with a little help I've been able to fish it back up.
I have some grippy shelf liner rammed down in the inside of the window channel that keeps it from flat out falling back down. But every few days I have to push the damn window back up. And because it IS a power window, to actually correctly and completely fix it would be a couple hundred bucks that I have other uses for right now. I've developed coping strategies, and I strongly suggest that the OP consider whether she wants to spend however long working around her SO's "rodeos". As I progress through this unplanned visit to Adventures in Modern Dating, I begin to realize that indeed there ARE worse things than not having a man in your life. One of them would be a relationship with a man like the OP's guy.
And at the end of the day, what kind of guy would let his lady drive around freezing her face off? 
Cindy O | |
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