| This ain't my first rodeo!!!
Posted: 1/25/2009 9:39:35 AM | I've had family and friends, male and female do this kinda thing to me...and admittedly, there have been times where I've been asked/told/yelled at to NOT do something and did it anyways. I chalk it up to the "Don't push the Red Button" mentality that we sometimes have as people.
Overall, I'd go with a power play for all cases though. Power either by showing off, or by having a genuine desire to try and "help" with something despite being told to keep your hands off. In the case of the latter types, I can't really find a lot of fault with them...I mean, they do have a genuine desire to try and "help" even though they went about it the wrong way.
With the show offs and the "ain't my first rodeo" types, well those ones can get irksome in a hurry for sure. Those would be the ones that would see a leaky pipe for example, and try to patch it with some manner of "MacGyver" solution...that didn't work, so rather than wait til the repair could be afforded, they bark a rally cry of "They charge so much to do so little, I'll just do it myself" and end up screwing it up so bad that the repair (which is NEEDED by this time) is gonna cost 2-5 times as much than if they'd waited.
Or in the case of the OP, leave someone driving around in a frosted state. In her case, he broke it, he bought it...he should offer to pay for his stupidity or offer to drive her around til she can afford the repair. Either way. | |
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| This ain't my first rodeo!!!
Posted: 1/25/2009 9:59:35 AM | He's a dumbass and needs to suck it up and fix it. It's your car, he ignored your wishes, didn't respect you, and broke something (which was semi broken but in acceptable condition). He broke it, he fixes it. It would be different if it was an accident or he didnt know about it, but this was just stupididy so he's on the hook for fixing it.
PS.. I think all men have done something similar, we tend to learn the hard way :) A real man (or woman) steps up to the plate and accepts responsibility for their mistakes. | |
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| This ain't my first rodeo!!!
Posted: 1/25/2009 10:12:30 AM | As for the expression "this ain't my first rodeo", his actions prove he was a horses ass; there is plenty of them at the rodeo.
Your post brought back a memory. I told my EX to leave the window alone too. Sure enough she put it down several times and made the motor fail. $700 dollars later, it was fixed. I was fit to be tied at the time. | |
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| This ain't my first rodeo!!!
Posted: 1/25/2009 10:18:34 AM | And at the end of the day, what kind of guy would let his lady drive around freezing her face off?
No kidding...it makes me happy that I have manual windows on my car. It also sounds like the bulls in the previous rodeos have dropped him on his head. Some people just have to be "right" all the time, even where the evidence is clear. My brother in law comes to mind, one time he was wearing polyester pants and he kept telling us that they weren't...we managed to look at the tag and sure enough 100% polyester. He still didn't believe it. 
Donkeypimp, you are too funny. I've known people who have everything in their midst duct taped. I know some people who should be...including the man in the OP's story.  | |
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| This ain't my first rodeo!!!
Posted: 1/25/2009 11:30:07 AM | | Well, it looks like we all like to see the smug **stards when they fail, so what does that make us? | |
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| This ain't my first rodeo!!!
Posted: 1/25/2009 12:37:06 PM | BBW2love:
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My bf says. "what do you want from the store, babe?"
I tell him.
He comes back with what he thinks I should have from the store.
It always has to be a bargain or bought with a coupon.
It can't be what I specifically asked for. This isn't so much a control thing as it is most men not knowing how to shop for food. When I was a teen and sent to the store, a list from my mom would be very specific, often including brand names and package sizes. A list from Dad would be beyond generic.
Mom's list:
1 pound 80% ground beef
bologna
spiced ham
Kraft American cheese (coupon)
Dad's list, exact same items (not making this up):
chop meat
cold cuts
Didn't help any that Dad wasn't a great speller, either. First time he handed me a list that said "chop meat" on it, it literally took me a few minutes to figure out what that meant.
To the original topic, "This ain't my first rodeo" happens in more than just domestic relationships. My favorite is when so called "experts" try their best to look for the most complicated solutions to what is usually the simplest of problems. I wrote my first computer program as a senior in high school in the fall of 1981, and I've been doing it as a profession for the last 18 years. I can build a PC from scratch by buying all the parts. But of course, my degree is not in computer science, nor do I have all the cool certificates for taking courses from Microsoft. So I often enjoy when one of these younger IT staffers try to figure out a tech problem that I already know can be solved in a matter of minutes. "Well, I may have to upgrade this, unplug and replace that, make sure the wires inside are connected, and so on." And I'll chime in, "Or, you could go to Advanced Properties, make sure Item Z in unchecked, and reboot." Which is usually followed by a lot of "Ummmm... uhhh..." 
I also work part time in the auto industry and once got a "help question" that went along the lines of "I gave my car a tune-up in the back yard and then it ran horribly - so I changed the muffler, catalytic converter, intake manifold, and put in a new battery, but none of that helped. What should I do?" Hmmmm... since none of those parts were at issue before this tune-up, I guess double-checking what you did during the tune-up was not an option...
Of course, going back to dear old Dad, here was one my sister witnessed, so I have proof it happened... he was in the living room tugging away on the TV knob and it would not come on. "You kids are always messing with this thing!" Very casually, I got up from the kitchen table, strolled into the living room, pulled the knob next to the one Dad was yanking on, and kept walking. Dad was tugging on the contrast knob instead of the on/off knob. After it hit him, even he had to laugh. | |
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| This ain't my first rodeo!!!
Posted: 1/26/2009 10:13:11 AM | This thread brought back a bad memory involving a leaky shower faucet. Of course even though I asked my S.O. not to mess with it anymore while I was at work due to:
1. it being a Friday before a very HOT labor day weekend
2. it was still working, though leaking
3. I only have one bathroom...
yep, he tried anyways. Dropped a very important part between the shower liner and the inside of the wall. Of course this part is only available through the manufacturer, it was now after 5:00 on a Friday, and even though my home warranty could have someone out, nothing could be done without this important part.
We ended up showering all weekend in the neighbor's outdoor shower in our bathing suits, which was meant for getting sand off one's body after a day at the beach. Of course on Tuesday morning I hightailed it to my gym before work, where he did not have a membership.
I did my very best to bite my tongue the entire weekend, but over the course of two years, I always had to pay someone to re-fix whatever my loving S.O. was lovingly trying to fix for me himself so he could feel useful and show me how handy he is. I kept reminding myself it's the thought that counts and he loves me....grrrrrr. | |
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| This ain't my first rodeo!!!
Posted: 1/26/2009 10:25:01 AM |
My ex was just like that. Bull headed know it all that loved to mess things up and leave me to fix it.
I used to have 9 horses. Three of them stallions. I very rarely ever used a schooling whip because they bite like hell even with a medium slap and it breaks trust to bully a horse but a little tap here and there is helpful when schooling them and they respect it if you are gentle but firm lol. Mostly you never have to use it except for teaching dressage with very light taps as an extension of your leg or hand if you are schooling from the ground. But I digress.
Anyway, one day I had this new long schooling whip in my hand and I was flicking it through the air making a whipping sound and my clever ass ex thought he was too fast for me so he stuck his rump out at me and told me to try and take a hit.
Ha ha ha. I've been schooling horses that are a lot faster than him since my teens and I don't miss.
I laid a stroke on his ass so hard he could not breathe for a minute or two and I laughed so hard I couldn't either.
Didn't cure his stupid attitude but it was worth it anyway.
This post is belittling as all hell. We're not animals for you to whip or beat so you can "teach" us. I am sure it was funny, but the addendum to your post is reprehensible. | |
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Posted: 1/26/2009 11:03:06 AM | Anyway, one day I had this new long schooling whip in my hand and I was flicking it through the air making a whipping sound and my clever ass ex thought he was too fast for me so he stuck his rump out at me and told me to try and take a hit.
I laid a stroke on his ass so hard he could not breathe for a minute or two and I laughed so hard I couldn't either.
We're not animals for you to whip or beat so you can "teach" us. I am sure it was funny, but the addendum to your post is reprehensible.
I wouldn' t take pleasure in hitting an animal or a human being. What is disturbing about the post is taking so much pleasure ( "and I laughed so hard") in hitting someone "so hard he could not breathe for a minute or two." | |
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| This ain't my first rodeo!!!
Posted: 1/26/2009 11:46:06 AM |
Now, now ladies, admit it. We do it too. Haven't you ever seen a woman watching the male in her life doing something, and she is constantly telling him he is doing it wrong, or asking why is doing something the way he is doing it?
Oh yeah, watched my ex as he was trying to re-glue the rear view mirror on the car and he glues it on upside down. Then he starts tugging on it to come off again and I'm thinking (as I dare not say a thing) "nooooooooo, you're going to...." and then the windshield cracks. Got out my phone and called the Glass Doctor. But I didn't say a word to him. | |
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| This ain't my first rodeo!!!
Posted: 1/26/2009 11:57:37 AM | This is like a man driving around forever and refusing to stop and ask for directions.   | |
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| This ain't my first rodeo!!!
Posted: 1/26/2009 12:08:46 PM | Weeelllllll ..... its .....
fourty below and I don't give a f uck
got a heater in me truck
and I'm off to the rodeo.
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| This ain't my first rodeo!!!
Posted: 1/26/2009 12:29:19 PM |
This is like a man driving around forever and refusing to stop and ask for directions.
Hey! Get 43 of 'em in one place and you've got NASCAR. ( and I'm a fan LOL)
Thorb
I was going to post some more verses of the "Rodeo Song" but somehow I managed to restrain myself....
I hope the "cowboy" that screwed up his gf's car window is finding that she has a "headache" every night from all that cold air coming into her vehicle.
I CANNOT BELIEVE he did not at least get the window back up...
Cindy O | |
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| This ain't my first rodeo!!!
Posted: 2/15/2009 10:45:23 PM | A few people missed the GENDER statement like a whole barn of cowboys and cowgirls So much pent up issues | |
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| This ain't my first rodeo!!!
Posted: 2/15/2009 11:31:33 PM | One of the guys I knew here was like that.
His girl just think it's funny, but I saw it as a bad flaw. He could not get a gigantic can of peaches open with the industrial can opener. So he does the most brilliant thing... He tosses the whole can into the trash.
This was made even more egregious by the fact that:
1) this was a soup kitchen -- he was volunteering along with me and my girl at the time there and I was appalled by the waste of food --I just saw him out of the corner of my eye already toss the thing in.
2) he's supposed to be a "Christian". WE all belong to the same group.
I dove in the trash hoping he tossed it right side up -- alas, the contents were already contaminated with the rest of the trash. | |
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| This ain't my first rodeo!!!
Posted: 2/15/2009 11:51:55 PM | Great thread sweetness
But in defense of our cowboy-window-repairman women need to understand the incredible pressure men are under to be 'handy'. It's so rare that women actually ask men for help these days that we jump all over an opportunity even if we have no fvcking idea what we are doing.
The dead give-a-away that we have no clue is that we answer:
"Are you suuuuure you know what you're doing?"
with
"Oh yeah, I've done this a million times!"
Since you could be a cowboy-window-repairman 24/7 until retirement and still not have fixed a million windows, it's safe to say million = zero.
Adding to the pressure is that while we are 'fixing' (aka destroying) whatever it is, we imagine that women are thinking "if he can't fix a simple 'blank', how is he ever going to find my clitoris?" | |
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| This ain't my first rodeo!!!
Posted: 2/16/2009 12:34:17 AM | I think it's all about the fragile (male) ego. If what they were about to do seems stupid and incompetent to you, then it would hurt their pride more to back down and assume you are right then it does when they go ahead and do something stupid anyway. It's like when you tell them not to do something or ask them to do it a particular way that they weren't about to do, then they hear you saying to them "you're too stupid to do it without me telling you exactly how to do it." When they get offended by this, they don't do it the way you suggested in order to say "you might think I'm dumb, but at least you can't tell me what to do or make me do something I don't want to do. I'll show you that I can figure it out for myself!" Then of course more often than not, they do something wrong, and it takes more time than if they had just listened to you, but they can feel like they still have the power to say no and can do whatever they want. And I guess they think that there is still a chance that their way of doing things is the better way.
This is just like not asking for directions when you are possibly lost, or refusing to read an instruction manual, or insisting on doing the opposite way that their significant other just suggested...it's all about saying "I'm not stupid, I can do it!" There is a lot of pressure for a man to appear useful and competent and clever enough to figure things out on his own. Maybe if there is a way to suggest a way of doing something but still making it sound like it was his idea in the first place, then it would be less insulting to him and they won't assume you're saying they're too dumb to think for themselves. Women in general are more used to cooperation and receiving help with things without taking offense. Men feel the pressure to be able to handle it themselves, and need their significant other to make them feel like they have confidence in them. Nuture that feeling whenever you can - that you respect his intelligence and trust that he can handle things, and that you think he is handy and clever, and I think you'll have less of that rebellious knee jerk reaction of doing the opposite of what you suggest. Remember that so much of their personal identity is wrapped up in what they can do, what they have accomplished, and the things around them that display their skill and prowess. Helps explain trophy wives, trophy cars , and trophy electronic gadgets too...
I think also that it helps that when they do something stupid, to not rub their face in it. It hurts when the person you most want to impress (girlfriend/wife/partner) thinks you're incompetent. Try not to rub it in afterwards. | |
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| This ain't my first rodeo!!!
Posted: 2/16/2009 1:21:15 AM | If you're going to the rodeo, you need your man to be a thoroughbred.
You're not going to win the Kentucky Derby with a donkey. | |
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Posted: 2/16/2009 4:44:43 AM | | I just love the expression and I am adding it to my favourites along with "Cowboy up". I am already thinking of situations that I can use it...when others are giving me direction and advice I don't want. This thread though - I think it is just a don't push the red button scenario. | |
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| This ain't my first rodeo!!!
Posted: 2/16/2009 5:49:38 AM |
Men feel the pressure to be able to handle it themselves, and need their significant other to make them feel like they have confidence in them. Nuture that feeling whenever you can - that you respect his intelligence and trust that he can handle things, and that you think he is handy and clever
What if the guy really IS handy and clever, and doesn't screw things up? And what if he picks a time she's not around, fixes something that's bothering her--saving her the cost of having the job done--then says nothing and lets her discover that it works like new? What's his lady to do in that case? Seems to me it ought to worth oh, say a 20 minute back rub. Probably a half hour, if it was a bigger job. And if he really knocked himself out, she might want to treat him to dinner, too. | |
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Posted: 2/16/2009 6:00:04 AM | LOL! Another keeper-right up there with "Unicorns that fart rainbows..." (another thread).
Look, as a guy if I try to fix or do something (to make it right) and I break it (make it worse) I feel doubly obligated to "make it right."
And sometimes the only way to solve a mistake is to throw money at it.
The friend's BF should pay to fix the window IMHO, or at least half.
Aren't we supposed to be able to fix problems that keep each other warm and safe?
Well, it's going to be 77 degrees here, I'm off to the rodeo!
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| This ain't my first rodeo!!!
Posted: 2/16/2009 8:28:28 AM | If I was that chick I would be driving HIS car back and forth to work in the minus something weather. She must live in Canada eh?
No offense OP but if you look at the world and how soft we treat women, you'll see that's how females have the little power they have. Your gender must be treated softer, females ARE softer Mmmmmmmmmm like soft.... all I have to say to that is this
Women wield all the power. Sometimes we just allow you think that you are in charge, because .......well we are sweet like that! | |
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