| he'll sleep with you, but won't kiss you
Posted: 1/30/2009 11:03:30 PM | | He sounds like he's married...................just my opinion. It just seems that way to me because as other posters have already said kissing is a more intimate act and that is why prostitutes don't kiss the clients. | |
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| he'll sleep with you, but won't kiss you
Posted: 1/30/2009 11:21:49 PM |
apparently this sleeping together is fantastic, but he never kisses her. she says everytime she has tried he pushes her away, but he has no problem getting intimate with her..she also commented that afterwards he'll stay the night but won't sleep in the same bed with her..
He is f*king her....intimacy is not included in this scenario.... | |
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| he'll sleep with you, but won't kiss you
Posted: 1/31/2009 1:14:07 AM | If he's pushing her away physically when she's trying to kiss him, there's an obvious problem.
Plenty of people see kissing a higher form of "intimacy" between two people. Plenty of people also believe kissing shows sincerity to their partners. If he's so eager to sleep with her, then kissing her shouldn't be a problem if he actually was into her. But in this case it seems as though the only thing he's interested comes with no strings attached. | |
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| he'll sleep with you, but won't kiss you
Posted: 2/2/2009 12:32:04 PM | Your " friend" is pretty stupid if she doesn't or cannot figure this out? It doesn't take someone with a IQ below a cucumber to know whats going on ?
And the fact she has feelings for the guy, tells me what she thinks of herself? wow. | |
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| he'll sleep with you, but won't kiss you
Posted: 2/2/2009 12:45:11 PM |
Ahhh ... that has never been an obstacle so far
That's true, because we normally shared the same dinner that evening,, I always try and pick the same food my lady does,,, so when we burp,, we both taste the same,, opps,, | |
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| he'll sleep with you, but won't kiss you
Posted: 2/4/2009 9:52:06 AM | I've known women who have said that.
they want to have sex for release or to fill a 'need'
but kissing would be too 'intimate' :)
O-Kayyyyyyyyyyy | |
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| he'll sleep with you, but won't kiss you
Posted: 2/4/2009 11:13:28 AM |
but he never kisses her. she says everytime she has tried he pushes her away, but he has no problem getting intimate with her.
1. He's treating her like a hooker. Men have sex with hookers, but there's no kissing and no relationship. She's a pro bono hooker with illusions. The difference is that professional hookers know the realities and don't get hurt like she will.
2. "But he has no problem getting intimate with her"??? The question you posed is about his problem with intimacy. Kissing is more intimate than intercourse. Men who won't kiss a woman they're boinking have intimacy problems.
3. Your friend has self-esteem issues. If she felt worthy of a real man, she wouldn't put up with this guy's disrespect and insensitivity to her needs.
she has deep feelings for him...
No she doesn't. She has delusions of a healthy relationship with a manchild who isn't capable of that degree of true affection because some part of him is just barely aware enough not to like himself.
She should RUN... not walk... away from this goon. Being alone is better than being exploited this way. She is reinforcing negative self-image, and she'll have to undo it with difficulty later in life.
I know, I know--she's practicing unconditional love. This is a good illustration of just how impractical and disempowering unconditional love can be. People with healthy self-esteem expect and require respect and consideration, or they're gone. | |
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| he'll sleep with you, but won't kiss you
Posted: 2/4/2009 11:54:11 AM | | Man o man really I hope she doesn't like him, because he only likes to get his willy wet with her. Why kiss her, I been in a similar situation, except I was the one not wanting to kiss, I think I did see pretty woman way too many times. Kissing in a since allows you to become more connected to a person, and grow attachment I don't think he wants her to. | |
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| he'll sleep with you, but won't kiss you
Posted: 2/4/2009 8:59:06 PM |
My guess is that your GF's lover is unable to be emotionally intimate. I fell in love with someone who was an incredible lay but would rarely kiss and if and when he did kiss, it was without passion - almost by rote. It turned out that he had deep-seated emotional issues. ^^This could very well be it. | |
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| he'll sleep with you, but won't kiss you
Posted: 2/5/2009 1:56:15 AM | i agree..sounds like this guy is a total fwb/fu*k buddy..and really not worth the effort..kissing is very personal and if he is not interested in that then he is just not interested in her..say goodbye and move on..
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| he'll sleep with you, but won't kiss you
Posted: 2/12/2009 4:41:43 PM | Have you ever got the name Jimmy legs correct, that's just what I called him....and what a player he was.
Beware when they say they like kissing on their pro...lasts about a week. | |
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| he'll sleep with you, but won't kiss you
Posted: 2/12/2009 4:47:31 PM | This guy is an A$$hole
Sorry, but here is what I would tell her to do.
She needs to kiss him, and when he turns away, or stops her, she asks him why, and when he does his little routine, and she then says: if you can't kiss me, you can get your rocks off elsewhere.
Pretty durn simple. He either explains or he can walk. I cannot imagine any horror stories such as he was made to feel like such a bad kisser that he never tries again, or that she has halitosis. Certainly if that were it, he would bring it up after 2 years IF HE CARED.
...Been Sleeping together 2 years(OP's verbage)
I have been sleeping with my SO for 2 years.
We:
Share holidays with each other's families
I know his parents even though they live out of state
We have one anothers' house keys
We have places at each others homes for clothes, toiletries(and we live 1.5 hrs apart)
WE SNUGGLE UP and sleep together for the night
So, is that all they do? If so, she needs a serious wake up call. She is wasting her time on a man who only wants to get laid............. he won't even sleep in her bed, what the heck is that all about?
He has more issues than Sports Illustrated
I say:
Hit the Road Jack......Tell her she CAN find a decent man who will lay one on her when he sees her, and when he leaves and will kiss her til her panties fall off(lol) . Then he will snuggle with her, wake her with a kiss and tell her how good she looks in the morning, even though she has her doubts. Then he he will proudly take her to his mom's for Sunday dinner................
Let her read THIS post, and tell her that sex is just that............SEX. Crap she could get paid for having sex without kissing! | |
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| he'll sleep with you, but won't kiss you
Posted: 2/12/2009 4:48:48 PM | Beware when they say they like kissing on their pro...lasts about a week
Well that's not true,, I like to kiss,, but she has to be the right woman,,, as for it lasting a week,, I guess that would depend on if things go well or not...
Edit below,,, what ever that means.... | |
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| he'll sleep with you, but won't kiss you
Posted: 2/13/2009 2:57:41 AM | | I also think that she might started a purely sexual relationship with him. It may be impossible to reverse it now. People only treat us the way we allow them to treat us. she might have set the stage to all this.... | |
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| he'll sleep with you, but won't kiss you
Posted: 2/13/2009 4:05:27 AM | I had a similar situation.
I was seeing a guy for almost a year and I was falling so hard for him. When we first met he and I used to kiss so passionately! Then during the rest of the seeing each other period we wouldn't kiss, not during sex or anything. He used to look away or at the ceiling. The only kisses he would give me would be on the forehead or cheek when we were saying hello/goodbye.
It took me a while to figure out that he didn't like me in that way and didn't want to. He was still heart broken from his ex ( the one and only, barf!) and didn't want to fall in love ever again.
Id say your friend should stay away and save herself from getting hurt asap! If he's not even sleeping in the same bed post sex but staying in the same house than he wants to have his cake and eat it too! | |
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| he'll sleep with you, but won't kiss you
Posted: 2/13/2009 6:12:26 AM | | Kissing to most men shows feelings or a connection......... I would say he has no feelings for your friend... She should seperate herself from him before she winds up more hurt then what she will be finding this out | |
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| he'll sleep with you, but won't kiss you
Posted: 2/18/2009 8:00:25 AM | | sometimes guys like having nast sex.but most cant look at a women afterward are stay the night.she knows he using her but she allows this to happen.if she gets hurt its her own fault. | |
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| he'll sleep with you, but won't kiss you
Posted: 2/18/2009 11:20:28 AM | I'll give you the emotionally detached plain and simple.
Kissing someone invokes feelings or suggests emotions. He doesn't have them and doesn't want them.
Sleeping in the same bed with someone usually involves cuddling, kissing, waking up and starting over. Again he doesn't want it.
She's a lay, that's it. Tell her to deal with it or move on.
I used to be the same way with men when I was dating after my divorce, I had physical needs but didn't want to get emotionally involved. I was told by more than one man that I was too much like a man in that respect and that I made them think about the way they had treated some women in their lives. | |
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