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| he'll sleep with you, but won't kiss you
Posted: 3/31/2009 2:33:27 AM | I'll tell you what it is
It doesn't sound like a serious relationship it sounds like two people who just recently started hooking up for fun.
That being the case the guy has put a boundary up letting her know this is not making love this is sex.
There is also the real possibility that he doesn't trust her to not be blowing other guys. | |
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| he'll sleep with you, but won't kiss you
Posted: 3/31/2009 6:20:07 AM | This is so simple to me... I just don't get how this is a question.
Your friend has DEEP self esteem issues. DEEP.
The guy likes to poke her but does NOT want to give her ANY crumbs of affection to give her the wrong idea that she is merely a sperm receptacle for him... hence the no sleeping in the same bed/no kissing edict. Period... end of story.
She's letting him do this to her? HELP HER as her friend. She's no better to him than a pocket pu$$y for God sake! She's got deep feelings for him?? This will not end well. If she puts an ultimatum to him, he'll go bone some other chick.
Be ready with the tissues. Tell her no dating and no sex for a while until she respects herself. | |
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| he'll sleep with you, but won't kiss you
Posted: 4/26/2009 4:08:42 AM | | Any guy that would sleep with you and never kiss you. My God that is awful! How could you even let yourself get intimate with him? I love to kiss and would never ever put up with a guy who had sex with me and never kissed me! Oh and just come out and ask him why already if you are that intimate with him! For Pete's sake!! Never settle for less than you deserve girl! | |
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| he'll sleep with you, but won't kiss you
Posted: 4/26/2009 9:03:04 AM | She should have kissed him (and a lot of other stuff too!) before sleeping with him. Best keep things to their proper order!
Could be that he has hoof and mouth disease and is just embarrassed! | |
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| he'll sleep with you, but won't kiss you
Posted: 4/26/2009 9:39:23 AM | Have you ever met a person you met or even perhaps kissed and something 'repulsed' you?
Or perhaps the smell of the person?
Not the perfume or colonge, I'm talking about the 'scent' of that person.
The person could be attractive, but something was'nt right?
Let's look at why people kiss first.
What many don't know is that kissing is not just a display of affection.
It is also biological.
Pheromones are transferred between the male and female.
This allows both partners to test 'compatibility' and difference.
The wider the differnce, the more attraction (at least in theory).
This is to facilitate a healthy offspring from different genes.
The bottom line, maybe he just wants 'sex' but the biological attraction to the person is'nt there for any other contact.
I know this may sound strange to some, but there is biological evidence to back this up. | |
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| he'll sleep with you, but won't kiss you
Posted: 4/26/2009 3:06:42 PM | LOL; what cracks me up is that every post that talks about sleeping together with someone the sex is so amazing. lol; lot of liars.
tell your friend she's foolish and wrong; sex isnt' about screwing someone like a dog; it's about passion, affection, love, foreplay and showing you care about someone; part of that is kissing.
He's using her as a screw post; he doesn't care about anything else than getting off.
Your friend has a heck of a lot to learn; this guy is about sex and nothing else.
"i know he's wrong for me but I have deep feelings for him". Well it's obvious your friend is extremely insecure and immature. Thats high school speak and it's why women get used so badly.
Your friend is in for a terrible time; he is going to use her and cheat on her if he hasn't already.
Until your friend becomes secure in herself and doesn't lack so much self esteem, nothing will change and it doesnt' matter what anyone says.
Just tell your friend not to say all guys are dogs when she gets hurt; the guys she picks are dogs.
This is the very reason why so many women are single moms or heartbroken; maybe some guys are right; treat a woman like a piece of meat and she'll love you;
women are their own worst enemy. | |
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| he'll sleep with you, but won't kiss you
Posted: 5/4/2009 12:29:47 PM | maybe he has baggage and cant come to kissing someone that is comparative to a previous love...
thats what i see... hard to put urself on the firing line again after getting wounded.. | |
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| he'll sleep with you, but won't kiss you
Posted: 5/4/2009 3:16:21 PM | | I think the best thing to do is bring it right out in the open and ask him about it. What does she have to lose? If she's not comfortable talking with him about something like this, she probably shouldn't be intimate with him. Just my opinion.... | |
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| he'll sleep with you, but won't kiss you
Posted: 5/4/2009 11:25:31 PM | | no easy way to say this, or no gentle way either hes using her for sex, and thats all he wants. she fell for a jerk.... if she keeps sleeping with him shes going to get herself more heartache and its going to be harder and harder to pull away,.... tell her forget him | |
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| he'll sleep with you, but won't kiss you
Posted: 5/5/2009 4:08:38 AM | | Have had this experience with a few ex black boyfs, they will sleep wif you but will only kiss the girl they marry, which i have to say thru knowing and mates that is usually a black girl....they seem to think kissing is TOO intimate while ashag is just that!!! Have managed to change a few of their views but hey ho they are men after all...!! | |
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| he'll sleep with you, but won't kiss you
Posted: 5/5/2009 8:21:43 AM | He's treating their relationship as live porn.
If she has more feeling than that, her heart will be broken. She can decide if it's now, or later, after she has more great sex.
He will miss the sex, but find it elsewhere. Or, go back to using inanimate porn for a while until he does. | |
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| he'll sleep with you, but won't kiss you
Posted: 5/5/2009 8:35:09 AM | wow..yeah ummmm I'm thinking he doesn't want to get attached to her....
isn't ready for a real relationship...in any case he is putting up
obvious intamacy boundries!! They are not feeling the same way so she
needs to confront him..she either needs to be ok with how things are
or the obvious option.....move on. | |
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| he'll sleep with you, but won't kiss you
Posted: 5/18/2009 8:53:55 AM | I'm beginning to wonder if perhaps some people just don't enjoy the drama of not finding the right 'one' more than they actually aspire to find the right 'one.'
Kissing is very intimate so the "he has no problem getting intimate" is bull...there is more intimacy in kissing than there is in sex believe it or not. Sex can be accomplished without any intimacy on the part of both parties. So I question her or your interpretation of intimacy from an emotional standpoint.
Also, obviously she's taken aback by this. As an adult female is she not capable of assessing when she's being used for sex? Apparently the guy doesn't care much about her or has such serious hangups that he's foiling her desires to have a truly intimate experience with someone so why doesn't she take responsibility for what she wants and tell the "no kissing leech" to find another spare bedroom to sleep in.
Deep feelings for him? Based on what? Emotionally detached sex? | |
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| he'll sleep with you, but won't kiss you
Posted: 5/18/2009 12:23:10 PM | | must be that she is good enough to go around with but not to stay with. wonder if she's been eating too many of Bush's baked beans, garlic or hasn't brushed her teeth for a while. that or he won't kiss after oral sex or he suspects she is playing with others at the same time. | |
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| he'll sleep with you, but won't kiss you
Posted: 5/19/2009 4:31:11 PM | She's selling herself short then . Why ???
I wouldn't even THINK of sleeping with someone unless he's not only a great kisser - but likes to do it often !!  | |
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| he'll sleep with you, but won't kiss you
Posted: 5/19/2009 4:54:22 PM | | there is more to the problem then just kissing this would tell me that all he wants is the sex she should get more self confidence about herself and look for someone who really cares for her | |
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| he'll sleep with you, but won't kiss you
Posted: 5/19/2009 5:12:32 PM | | This guy is absolutely not in love and does not even like this woman. He has got some deep rooted belief that she is nasty and sex to him is just that. | |
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| he'll sleep with you, but won't kiss you
Posted: 5/20/2009 10:00:26 AM | @OP:
This person has got to be so desperate that she would **** all her neighbors. Are you kidding? The answer is as subtle as getting hit in the head with a brick! He just is not that into her. | |
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| he'll sleep with you, but won't kiss you
Posted: 5/20/2009 1:25:42 PM | he wont kiss her or sleep in the same bed with her other than to bump uglies???
geeeshhh.... hes using her
alls he wants his sex
tell her to tell him to take a hike..
people can only do to you what you allow them to do. | |
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| he'll sleep with you, but won't kiss you
Posted: 7/25/2009 8:21:14 AM | People will only treat you...
How you will let them, treat you.
Sometimes in cases like this, you have to
look very closely at what you want!
Focus on why this person... and yourself are
in the same room! | |
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