Maybe if you didn't want things so bad, they'd probably happen.
Is that the old saw about 'you find love when you aren't looking for it'?
I used to think that was BS since I followed more line of 'if you don't know where you're going, you're not likely to get there'.
But then I think about the night I met my heart's desire - I was still getting over 'the last guy', so in truth I wasn't really looking. Not even sure that I wanted yet. But, I was open. It seems the Universe does work in mysterious ways.