| Single moms. Can they have any fun?
Posted: 7/22/2005 7:27:10 PM | | Single Moms can be fun. if you have the patience, willing to settle for being second, open to possiblity of frequently seeing her ex sexual partner,the possibility in some states paying child support for kids that are not yours if a break up should happen, not being in control when you want to meet. | |
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| Single moms. Can they have any fun?
Posted: 7/22/2005 7:28:22 PM |
I've noticed that many single moms are single moms because they had children at a very young age. I've waited until my life was in order, my income stable and strong, and my education complete. I'm now at a stage where I can think about the possibility of having kids of my own.
Is that a fact or are you just making your own half assed judgement again?
A lot of single moms have great careers, or own their own businesses. They are perfectly well off. The reason they are single is nobody's business but their own and their previous partner.
Did you ever stop to think that some woman's previous husband may have cheated? Have passed away?
The more you open your mouth, the more I"m convinced your a walking a*hole.
I believe he was talking about his experience. No reason to resort to name calling. You took that way personal. | |
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| Single moms. Can they have any fun?
Posted: 7/22/2005 8:30:33 PM | Sometimes we cant... and its not necessarily fair, but we have to assign priority in our lives and our children have to be number one.
If you want to take a single mom out and she is always declining- maybe she doesnt have the money for a sitter- just a thought. | |
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| Single moms. Can they have any fun?
Posted: 7/23/2005 7:29:27 AM | Single Moms can have lots of fun. I have been a single mom for 8 years, yes there have been alot that I had to put aside in order to be the best Mom I can, however it is all worth it in the end.
Babysitters can be very benificial in order for a single parent to go out and let loose. Once or twice a month to go out and have a good time is more that enough. To all the guys that that exclude single moms from dating ect.. you really do not know what you are giving up.
Single parents are usually more conciderate, patient and more mature. They know what it all about.
To bad... We don't want guys like you anyways.
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| Single moms. Can they have any fun?
Posted: 7/23/2005 5:32:39 PM | @cpupro_4hire
I think that's it. I want to be #1 in someone's life. I'm not going to take a backseat to anybody.
I think all single people deserve to be top dog at least ONCE in their lives before turning things over to the little tikes.
A babysitter is a temporary fix. If I went out with a single mom, I'd never be #1 because there would always be someone more important in her life... and I can't have that.
You sound so selfish.if you dont want to be with a single mom then hit the door.you have to realize that the kids do come first and the kids cannot take care of themselves.that shouldnt be hard to understand.
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feegle
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| Single moms. Can they have any fun?
Posted: 7/29/2005 4:20:46 PM | | sorry to but in but as a sepparated parent i agree that all women should have time for themselvse thats why fathers should take more responsability with there kids to give the mothers a social life | |
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| Single moms. Can they have any fun?
Posted: 7/29/2005 4:56:28 PM | Actually I never had the fun before I had my child, that I do now....for instance, before I had my child.....
I went to College. I drank a TON. I dated a bit...did my fair share of speaker dancing, yadayada...
Since I've given birth I've:
flown a plane
gone spelunking
traveled
finished my education
learned to rappel
took dancing lessons
and I'm not even CLOSE to being finished...I'm only getting started!
It's really about the sense of adventure that one has. My sense of adventure no longer includes speaker dancing....(well....maybe once every few years lol!) | |
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| Single moms. Can they have any fun?
Posted: 7/29/2005 7:52:51 PM | First of all its 2005. Do you know how many single moms and dads are out there? Is it our fault we are single parents? Obviously it takes two to create a child. First of all a single mom is not just a mom. She is a woman and deserves to have fun and meet the man of her dreams. Those of you who can't handle a woman who has kids or say its baggage are immature. I do understand that some people dont like kids or feel it will get in the way. Then you shouldnt date single moms! I hate how men think i am looking for a father figure. I am not dating to find her a father, she has one. I am dating to meet an honest, trustworthy, caring, loving, fun, open minded man. I dont even involve my child until i think he is a keeper.
You can do tons of things without involving the child. That is why there are babysitters.
And think we wouldnt be single moms if it wasn't for some man. Why is it a man can be a single dad and gets no slack. A single mom, gets slack. A woman is much more than just a mom. 
So your answer is YES single moms can have fun! Lots of fun!!! Just because we are moms doesnt mean we are woman. We are strong, independent woman. Maybe we intimidate you! | |
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| Single moms. Can they have any fun?
Posted: 8/5/2005 1:11:39 AM | I completely agree with every single mom here...Single moms can have a blast, and probably better than anyone else because we don't get to do it every weekend, so when we are able to get out and let loose for a night we cash in on the opprotunity and make it more than worthwhile.
I may still be new at being a single mom, but I am only a single mom, not the single parent involved in my child's upbringing. I may be lucky to have an involved father, where as I know some children aren't so fortunate (and sometimes it is all for a good reason) to have such an involved father in their lives.
I agree that it is ignorant for any man to think that single moms are just hunting for a father figure for their children; we are women, not animals, we have class and have the biggest job of all - parenting. I know for a fact that I am not the only mother on this planet that is very protective of my child's well being, so sorry to say, but before you become a father figure to my child there will be some hurdles to jump. I have male friends that don't want children of their own, but yet they adore my little one, so long as they aren't asked to change diapers or do any of the work involved - When it comes to dating a single mom, the first date won't consist of a crash course on changing diapers, making bottles and parenting.
I oftentimes wonder if many men understand just how hard it can be to be a single parent, when I'm worn out from having a crummy sleep and my baby needs a lot of attention, I don't have someone there to take over so I can take a nap; single moms also can't go out on a limb and make last minute plans, because again, we don't have someone right there to take care of our children. I think we deserve a little more respect from society as a whole - it takes two to tango, a baby is a wonderful thing and a miracle in it's own, and the circumstances of it's coming to be are completely irrelevant.
But, then again, what woman wants a man in their life if he can't accept everything that contributes to who she is? | |
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| Single moms. Can they have any fun?
Posted: 8/5/2005 2:48:33 AM | | I look at it this way, gives me an excuse to go to Chuck-e-Cheese and play the arcade games without it looking like I wanted to. lol | |
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nixx46
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Joined: 7/31/2005
Msg: 111 | |
| Single moms. Can they have any fun?
Posted: 8/5/2005 6:25:44 AM | Hahhahaaha try being a single dad.... ladies see u and assume the other half is hidden at home and yer just out for a good time.
You have to be ready to accept the team... not just her bud. Same as I expect when I meet a lady... | |
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| Single moms. Can they have any fun?
Posted: 8/5/2005 12:30:14 PM | | lol, Hun you said "all people deserve to be # 1 at least once" well are you trying to tell me that you weren't #1 with your mom, So maybe your turn is up... If your seriously com=nsidering yourself in compition for a #1 spot with a single mom's kids..Let me save you and her alot of time YOU WILL ALWAYS loose... I am not knocking you, prop's for realizing what it is you want !!!! SO good luck on your search and stay away from single ma's.. | |
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| Single moms. Can they have any fun?
Posted: 8/5/2005 6:38:48 PM | 
a single mom like me wouldn't want a baby for a partner anyways...... i already have one! that's why it didn't work out with my ex (father of my child) because he got jealous with my baby! that was just WACKED!!
don't date single moms.........i don't think it's for you!....... although i myself have gone everywhere while i was pregnant and up to now! mountain hiking/climbing, camping, beach, road trips, etc.... i'm blessed with a great baby! so i am able to do alot! but my son will always be my # 1!!
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| Single moms. Can they have any fun?
Posted: 8/5/2005 6:50:45 PM | wait i was agreeing to Kitty on one subject how come it popped here...........
oh well! anyways...... as kitty was saying...... .... she didn't put her son thru "boyfriend after boyfriend" it would really suck if everytime my son walk across my room there's a different guy in there! (whether it's everymonth or more) i want my son to respect women in his life..... starting with me!
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| Single moms. Can they have any fun?
Posted: 8/5/2005 7:31:42 PM | | in reply to the single mom declining: most single parents are living on one income versis the normal two, this cuts down on any active social life she/he may have had in the past. i have been a single parent for most of my childrens lives....not always by choice either. and when i chose to go to a lower income job so i could be a mother who was home more than 3 to 4 hours a day when my kids were up, i lost a lot of my going out income , this is a decisision i do not regret!!!!!a sitter is not always allowed in your money management for that month. | |
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| Single moms. Can they have any fun?
Posted: 8/5/2005 8:44:29 PM | | ya kids always come first. but there is baby sitters and a family member to take these kids for an evening. if guys can't except the fact that i come with a package then don't waste my time kind of thing but it can work i should know i have done it a few times my self | |
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| Single moms. Can they have any fun?
Posted: 8/5/2005 8:57:12 PM | | My youngest is 12, my oldest 18... I have three in between. My girls are all old enough to take care of themselves and even when they weren't I'd get a sitter so I could spend time nurturing my own self.... As far as doing anything at their place, I think that's debatable. I was engaged for a while and my fiancee stayed over quite a bit...I have an open relationship with my girls. You have to remember too that the kids to have grandparents, dad's, etc. taht they can stay with once in a while if you want time to yourself at her place or yours... | |
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nixx46
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Joined: 7/31/2005
Msg: 119 | |
| Single moms. Can they have any fun?
Posted: 8/13/2005 4:14:10 AM | | Single Dad's are the same ... sometimes your date will just have to accept there are 3 of u in whatever your doing that day. If she want to date you... then it is a package...if she doesn't accept that ... then why date her ? | |
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| Single moms. Can they have any fun?
Posted: 8/13/2005 11:21:43 AM | Im a single mom and i still go out and have fun ... my ex takes my daughter almost every weekend so that gives me plenty of time to go out, have a nice dinner at home with the bf, have his stay over etc.
Once i meet someone I have no problems having him come over during the week for dinner, movie etc. There is always time after my daughter goes to be to be alone as well.
The only thing i can see why guys have a problem with dating a single mom is they can not be as spontanious as single girls cuz they have to find a sitter first. Other then that i dont see a problem.
Im sorry but my daughter is # 1 in my life and always will be ...my man comes a close 2nd when i have one lol But that dont mean my family and friends arent up there with him.
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| Single moms. Can they have any fun?
Posted: 8/13/2005 12:21:38 PM | | This is for cpupro. You must have Zero respect for woman for you to come out with comments like that. You need to grow up. Its not all about you | |
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nixx46
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Joined: 7/31/2005
Msg: 122 | |
| Single moms. Can they have any fun?
Posted: 8/15/2005 7:32:57 AM | Angel.. nice post.. I like that your daughter is number 1 and bf is close second. I'll remember that one :)
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| Single moms. Can they have any fun?
Posted: 8/17/2005 10:01:45 PM | | Thx Nixx46 ... of course he comes in a close second ... when i have a man i like to spend as much time with him as i can ... if that includes my daughter as well all the better. | |
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nixx46
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Joined: 7/31/2005
Msg: 124 | |
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| Single moms. Can they have any fun?
Posted: 10/6/2005 4:57:44 AM | | I wish they would! I'm a single dad and all I find on here are women looking for their soulmate. Whatever happened to adventure and fun!!!! | |
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