| Single moms. Can they have any fun?
Posted: 10/6/2005 12:37:28 PM | I have a feeling you would be one of those fathers that actually got geolous of the attention their own children were getting...just shows immaturity. If you love a woman then the love for the children will be there too. Children are not "anchors"...I actually ENJOY taking care of my children. If I need some time for myself or to be with someone there are always babysitters or grandparents.  | |
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| Single moms. Can they have any fun?
Posted: 10/6/2005 7:40:50 PM | | Ha Dahh jeez single mom's and married mom's can have losta fun and they need attention to! No you wont always be # 1 but thats a sacrafice you gottra make if you care for them.Personally if a single mom put a new aquaintance ahead of thier child I'd run the oppisate direction as fast as I could..as far as dating (its a date no mating) so take her and the kidds out for some fun you'll learn more about who she really is then than you would think possible. | |
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tnmom
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Joined: 9/28/2005
Msg: 128 | |
| Single moms. Can they have any fun?
Posted: 10/6/2005 9:54:03 PM | | Then don't go out with a mother, because any mother worth her weight will always put her children #1. But they still can have fun kids can make having fun better cause they teach u to be a kid again yourself. | |
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| Single moms. Can they have any fun?
Posted: 10/7/2005 10:30:02 AM | So single parents shoud be dissed and dumped because they've done the hard work for you?
The vast majority of them arent that way by choice, and for people like you to be dissing them simply becuase of their status is insensitive. How do you know you wont be an important person in the kids' lives? Unless you open your mind up, you'll never know how it will turn out. | |
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ban517
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Joined: 7/16/2005
Msg: 130 | |
| Single moms. Can they have any fun?
Posted: 10/9/2005 5:46:05 PM | Hey I hate too say it but It seems that your being a little foolish about what you just wrote! or maybe you don't have any time for the little ones they have feelings just as you do! and it is very clear you are only thinking of your self! Just because a lady has a little one she shouldn't be treated in that manner! and that is the reason she is alone in the first place because of a guy that doesn't have time for kids even his own personaly I think guys like that are such sorry A$$e$ They want all the pleasures but no responceabilty does that shoe fit you?
Think about it and put your self in the same shoes!!!
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| That will change
Posted: 10/23/2005 4:25:04 PM |
I think that's it. I want to be #1 in someone's life. I'm not going to take a backseat to anybody.
So what happens in a few years when you have kids? You expect to be priority ahead of your own kids as well? | |
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| Single moms. Can they have any fun?
Posted: 6/6/2006 5:14:45 PM | ...in answer only to the subject question: single mums can have far more fun than you ever dreamed of or imagine ;-)
I know :-)))
I don't think you see very far at all. Best for you to stay clear of single mothers. They don't need guys like you. Find a single lady who doesn't care for children. ...saves wasting anyone's time. | |
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| Single moms. Can they have any fun?
Posted: 6/6/2006 10:14:40 PM | | yeah I agree its called a babysitter, I m a mom and I make time for myself as I know its important to my own well being that I do so.............. if shes reluctant to leave the kids or cannot afford a sitter and has no friends or family to help out have you considered offering to split the cost of the sitter with her? I ve had a boyfriend come over after my daughters in bed and had a late dinner and a movie together. It takes work but its worth it if you like her!!! | |
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| Single moms. Can they have any fun?
Posted: 6/7/2006 1:39:42 PM | We can when a few things happen
A) Their asleep
B) Their in school. daycare, at grandparents etc
C0 When they grow up | |
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| Single moms. Can they have any fun?
Posted: 5/4/2007 12:22:59 PM | I am absolutely shocked to see- as to how many single Mums there are... What the hell went wrong with them all... or what went wrong with the fathers of their children?...
Never in my life would I have left my wife and my kids, for any other lady in the world... | |
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| Single moms. Can they have any fun?
Posted: 5/4/2007 5:55:28 PM | I think u have some problem in your mind cpupro Lol u wanna be #1 in everything but even when one day your have your own kids u always gonna be 2 and I hope the life make u a better person not like now lol | |
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| Single moms. Can they have any fun?
Posted: 5/4/2007 6:06:56 PM | people should be making a stronger effort to stay with the one's they make these babies with instead of bedding down and having kids out of wedlock.
Well.. kitty.. I was married to both my children's fathers. AND.. my daughter sees her dad weekly. My son a bit less.. So... I do have weekends when I dont have any kids.. Most of the time I dont know what else to do with myself.. other than catch up on chores around the house.. It would be nice to have some adult companionship and conversation.... I came from a Single parent home and havent seen/heard from my father in 33 yrs!! But.. I have a fantastic stepdad!! | |
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Tarika
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Joined: 8/30/2006
Msg: 141 | |
| Single moms. Can they have any fun?
Posted: 5/4/2007 9:13:37 PM | I parented my two boys for quite a few years alone. I didn't go out much and most of my time was spent with them. However, now both are in their teenage years and I can finally have some fun on my own.  | |
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| Single moms. Can they have any fun?
Posted: 5/4/2007 9:14:39 PM | | I think this was well covered already. My questin is why is it so ''horrible'' to go out on a date with a single mom with her child(ren? Assuming the mom would be willing to introduce the man to her kids but nothing wrong at all with having a date with the kids along. A park can be a good place for a date IMHO | |
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| Single moms. Can they have any fun?
Posted: 5/25/2007 10:23:38 PM | I would never leave my child home unattended at night even during the day
the max i would leave him unattended is one hour,he is eight years old.
Yeah you can have fun being a single parent just hire a babysitter
$40 a week for two nights
i chose not to,i had bed experience with babysitters,and my son rather stay home so
i never go out alone anymore but my parents have him during the summer so that's my chance. | |
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| Single moms. Can they have any fun?
Posted: 5/26/2007 10:52:32 AM | This whole thread cracks me up. I only read the first 2 pages, and it was dated back a few yrs. ago, but seriously, if single mom's bother you so much, then just dont date them (us). There. Problem solved. Why waste your time and the single parents time? How cute the poster wants to be #1. We must have self esteem issues. I never once felt that way before and after I had a child. I was secure with myself enough to know that there is nothing special about being #1. What matters is the time you share with the other person and how they feel. Its not a competiton to have to be #1.  | |
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| Single moms. Can they have any fun?
Posted: 5/26/2007 11:02:35 AM | Just dont date a mommy then. End of story.
And a babsitter? I NEVER leave my son with a babysitter just to go out. I think it's selfish of me if I did.
As for putting a child down at 830 or whatever time and then going out? What if my son woke up in the middle of the night crying? B/c i'm not there, wanting his mommy. I would feel horrible for not being there to comfort him.
My child is in preschool for 8hours a day as it is, w/o his mom. If he's not at his dad's on the wknds or over at his nana's for his once a month- week trip. I dont go out. Period! They are only young once. | |
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| Single moms. Can they have any fun?
Posted: 5/27/2007 8:59:23 AM | Ok here goes,
the myth that single mom's with kids can't have a life beyond thier kids is not true ...I , being a single mom of 2 have my nights after they go to bed....The weekends that thier father takes them and the nights I get a sitter. If you can't handle that, then I guess you aren't for me. And as far as them being number 1, well of course it's kind of an un written thing that says when you have kids you put them on the front burner because they can't take care of themselves and didn't ask to be brought into the world. But, hey there is more than 1 burner and I know where my priorities lie....If one had balance one can make it work | |
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| Single moms. Can they have any fun?
Posted: 5/27/2007 9:09:17 AM | That thing about a man being number one in a single mothers life; that's a no-brainer; If any man came into my life, my children would glom onto him and that man would be number one in my life. My kids wouldn't let it be any other way. -They're so cool! So the point is this: a woman like myself -any single mother for that matter- must be very cautious about whom she dates. And yes single moms can have fun, they just have to know how. Very cautiously! Wow! Even writing this makes me feel better about my situation.
I understand the longing to have some fun. After all; girls just wanna have fun!
You just need to learn how. This was the hardest thing for me to learn being a single
parent. Having some fun; does that mean fun has to be apart from the kids- or children, for you proverbially challenged-? Go to the park on a sunny day when the kids are at school or daycare. Wake up early, pour a cup of coffee and sit on your doorstep or back porch to enjoy the sunrise. Put your hair up., let your hair down.
Learn to embrace the lonely quiet times. It won't last forever.
Take time for yourself, redecorate your home. Do some spring cleaning. Start dusting again.- To get the gossimer out of the corners- that's what I need to do, myself! Lol! Please don't be discouraged, but be incouraged. Today is a new day! | |
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| Single moms. Can they have any fun?
Posted: 5/27/2007 9:12:40 AM | | Kids are a major part in a parents life, if you really like this person you should try going more places that involve the kids and other times get a sitter. Don't forget about the kids or you and her wont work out. I don't think a woman would date someone her kids don't like!! | |
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| Single moms. Can they have any fun?
Posted: 6/27/2007 7:44:34 PM | I agree with Jackal... If your kids dont like the person you are dating, then it is not worth the perpetual conflict .
I did date a man that my daughter liked, but alas , the distance between us was too much for him.. We still chat tho' and who knows ...
I do appreciate a single dad, he knows what it's like to be a parent, also gives us a topic that most parents enjoy talkin about.. OUR kids!!!!
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Beth84
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Joined: 5/14/2007
Msg: 150 | |
| Single moms. Can they have any fun?
Posted: 6/27/2007 8:03:22 PM |
Kitty: It's not his decision that is upsetting everybody; it's his attitude. If you're not ready for kids; fine, then don't date single parents and don't have kids. But, his insistence at being #1 even when there are children involved is just plain selfish and his reference to children as "anchors" just serves to drive home that point. My primary responsibility is to my child and I resent anyone who thinks that there is something wrong with that. No, I can't act like a childless single woman and go out partying all the time; I have responsibilities and I must think about the kind of example I'm setting for my daughter. I would only date a man who understood my priorities and respected them
AMEN!! I wouldn't even THINK about dating a man with that kind of attitude!!!!
And OP thats your opinion and you're entitled to it, but why bother even POSTING on the single parents board?? | |
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