Beth84
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Joined: 5/14/2007
Msg: 151 | |
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| Single moms. Can they have any fun?
Posted: 12/7/2007 5:20:20 AM | i can honestly say this
men who do not or will not date a woman with a child
are probably men who have ran from the fact that they have one of their own
and do not pay child support...
so every time they see a single woman with a child struggling in the day to day of life..
they are remind of the fact that they are a failure because they failed to take care of their own
and i speak this from the heart as being a single father with sole custody of my own daughter who is now eight.. and i have raised her since she was the age of 16 months old..
trust me it hasnt been easy and i commend any single mom out there who is raising their own without help.. cuz its a b____ trust me i know | |
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| Single moms. Can they have any fun?
Posted: 12/7/2007 6:13:35 AM | Hi...just joined in message board...
and Yes i do have fun....go out when invited to but will never bring a man in my home.
Even my former relationship...i seldom bring him home (only when kids are in for a quick use of the computer or bring in something inside like groceries)for 6 years.
maybe when i become engaged with someone.I keep myself safe and my relationship with kids unspoiled and respectable.I am sure that man learned that respecting my boundaries made him to try and come back for me.
I am glad though that Sassafaraz is now open in Toronto's Yorkville... i love their creme Brulle.I am ready to go out again. | |
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| Single moms. Can they have any fun?
Posted: 12/7/2007 8:11:32 PM | maybe try dating more single moms 2 c how it `works out`..  ..
and as far as ur other 3 questions.. one word.. c-a-r-e-f-u-l-l-y!..  .. | |
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| Single moms. Can they have any fun?
Posted: 12/8/2007 9:34:45 PM | My best fun is seeing my baby respond in delight! Or the way he shakes his hands upwards in anticipation... what about a good game of peek a boo or incy wincy spider? Do men get that?
I want a man, not another baby, whose emotional needs to be number 1 are unending. | |
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| Single moms. Can they have any fun?
Posted: 12/8/2007 10:48:31 PM | I actually think that's a very selfish remark. "I'm not going to take a backseat to anybody."
You could be missing out on the love of your life because you refuse to consider anyone with kids. Furthermore, I wouldn't date someone who demanded they be #1. I have my family, my parents, my children, GOD (and no, I'm not an overly religious person) and it is extremely presumptuous of you to think any woman is going to push all that aside for you. Is she supposed to put you #1 before you even go out on a date? How long do you give her before you feel she has to have you at the top of her priority list?
I'm glad you're at least honest about it, because I'd hate to end up dating someone who thinks like that. 
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| Single moms. Can they have any fun?
Posted: 12/10/2007 5:50:37 PM | i think it would be hard for a single mom, with very young chilren,
to find the time to date and build a relationship, may be with older
children it would be easier, being able to spread yourself out ,
give your kid s the quility time they need , and also giving the new
man in your life the quility time he need s, not just talking about
sex, going out for the evening , clubing , dinner , show s, and also
little romantic getaways ( weekend trips), | |
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| Single moms. Can they have any fun?
Posted: 12/11/2007 11:08:25 AM |
it is extremely presumptuous of you to think any woman is going to push all that aside for you.
Why not? After all, that woman expects men pushing everything aside for her. | |
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| Single moms. Can they have any fun?
Posted: 12/11/2007 11:39:36 AM | I'm oodles of fun! People set appointments to hang out with me! 
Seriously, just because we have children doesn't mean all of us lose ourselves. There is still mom time at least for me. | |
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| Single moms. Can they have any fun?
Posted: 12/11/2007 2:41:01 PM | It is almost like a stereo type. Dating single moms I think can be a great thing, it is like dating single dads! I am a single mom, and am able to have a life outside of being a parent without compromising my child. It is workable.
Now the aggrivation of not being able to do anything at their place, I am not sure what it is you want to "do" per say. If you are talking about rolling around and getting some, you need to understand that being a parent, you have to set a good example.
The other thing is that its a package deal. So when dating a woman or man who has children you need to be upfront with yourself, and see what you really want.
I have guidelines that I follow like:
1. I do not introduce men to my daughter until I am in a relationship
2. He will not be spending the night at my place when she is home
And I explain this to anyone that I am dating. It has not been an issue.
So I guess you need to look at what it is you want in a relationship. Women and men with children have a responsibility that perhaps you do not understand. BEst of luck to you. | |
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| Single moms. Can they have any fun?
Posted: 12/11/2007 4:29:25 PM | | The guy who wants to be #1, already is to someone, I have a little nibble from a girl/lady who has two children. She is obviously caring, respnsible, loving, etc. individual. I would be lucky to be her #3 maybe 4th after her dog. | |
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| Single moms. Can they have any fun?
Posted: 12/11/2007 4:44:11 PM | | buy the way , I don't think low of myself. It's just unlike some/most men, a dog IS loyal, their love unconditional. | |
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Ls1
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Joined: 3/26/2007
Msg: 169 | |
| Single moms. Can they have any fun?
Posted: 12/11/2007 6:44:28 PM | Women who have kids are less selfish, more down to earth and appreciate it more when they do go out and have a good time.
I have more in common and have more fun with mothers.
And seeing how married mothers just get me into trouble I'm gonna stick with single mothers......lol. | |
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| Single moms. Can they have any fun?
Posted: 12/12/2007 1:38:43 PM |
Women who have kids are less selfish, more down to earth and appreciate it more when they do go out and have a good time.
I have more in common and have more fun with mothers.
You can not make that statment for ALL single mother.
Most single mothers are good as a girlfield but there are some who are not.
And seeing how married mothers just get me into trouble I'm gonna stick with single mothers......lol.
It it is the same with marriage or a long term that the couple needs COUPLE time or the relationship or marriage will suffer and this is NOT good for the kids in the long run.
The kids are priority #1 most of the time but the man should be priority#1a and not to be taken for granted. | |
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| Single moms. Can they have any fun?
Posted: 12/12/2007 2:03:19 PM |
Actually it was a joke... kinda peace offering, if you wish. A pity it didn't work.
I did say LOL in the first post. Sorry.  | |
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Pucks
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Joined: 10/14/2006
Msg: 172 | |
| Single moms. Can they have any fun?
Posted: 12/12/2007 3:29:35 PM | single moms having fun...no pucking way. kidding aside of course they can.
Like so many other topics, it all boils down to that particular person. Some moms are as dull as a doorknob and others are full of enthusiam. I have a few single moms friends and they are a blast. | |
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| Single moms. Can they have any fun?
Posted: 12/14/2007 7:42:13 AM | Yes we do get babysitters and the kid/s go to daddy's typically every other weekend. Why can't single mom's find family minded men? What about after a relationship has been established? A single mom would want the man to be involved in her life as well as the child's, otherwise what's the point. That would leave us with a "casual relationship" and what's the point in that? Unless of course you're a woman who is okay with that, which I'm not. If a relationship has no growth for something more, I don't see pursuing it. If men have no interest in the kids or don't care that she might be a great mom, then don't date single moms. Date women with kids out of the nest so to speak. It's too bad really. Some men seem to want a woman who's available all the time and there are plenty of us with kid/s and they get selfish because boo hoo, she doesn't have enough time for me... wahhhhh  Some men are truly missing out on the single mom who could be an amazingly smart and beautiful person. If only he loved kids and appreciated what it means to be a good parent! I'll keep dreaming!  | |
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| Single moms. Can they have any fun?
Posted: 12/15/2007 9:51:54 PM | Single mom's can have fun..but they have to have the time or make time to do it. I have known a few single mom's who say they want a LTR but do not want to put time or effort into getting to know someone. If you do not have time do not bother if you have time...great date and hgave fun.
You need to make the guy feel special too. It can not be a one way street or else ot will not work. | |
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| Single moms. Can they have any fun?
Posted: 12/27/2007 12:29:31 AM |
The fact that the relationship failed wasn't due to any lack of trying on my part, but in order for a relationship to survive, both parties must be willing to work at it.
You said it. In my case there was no abuse, just a gulley that widened to a chasm to a point where no matter how much either one of us did, it was never enough. Both parties must work at it, and a one-sided relationship only works as long as the person that is trying continues to try, but eventually, without positive feedback, most will eventually throw in the towel and move on.
Can single moms have fun, are you kidding me, absolutely, and a babysitter is a great idea. I have even paid for a babysitter to go on a trip with me, let them sleep in the room with the kids (depending on gender and age of all parties of course) and give you even more alone time! It works, try it.
Babysitters like cruises too. lol, use your imagination...
If your partner refuses to get a babysitter, than yes I would move on. It is not 'selfish' to want to spend some time alone with a potential partner.
Eventually the kids will grow up and be out of the house, when that happens, many women finally find that they have a sex drive again, its amazing! (Shame that so many don't nurture that sex drive along the way!)
Hint to those guys that have never consider this. But I warn you, you might not be able to handle em....all that pent up lack of use tends to want to come out and play...oh boy. | |
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