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Evalis
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Joined: 7/11/2005
Msg: 74 | |
| Do you trust feelings?
Posted: 8/31/2005 7:53:55 PM | There seems to be a strange and unwarranted association of feelings with intiution. Feelings are merely an uneducated, reactionary reponse to a situation, and while they come in varying degrees, are relatively static in their composition: Fear, Lust, Joy, Hate, Calm, Jealously etc..
Emotions, uncontrolled, can lead to horrifying actions, that may be regretted for years to come. Accidently stabbing your friend because you thought your home was being invaded. (As a morbid example). They can also lead you to great feats of strength: Lifting what would seem an impossibly heavy weight off a dying child. Emotions -can- be dangerous, just as they can be helpful.. but more importantly, they can also be wrong. Information that is false, can create emotions just as real as if it were true.
Intuition is the creation of a possible scenario and an action to respond to that scenario on a subconscious level. The unconscious mind tends to be incredibly intelligent (perhaps more so than the conscious) but all of this information is merely created, not actual, and can be very wrong, especially if it's been relied upon many times before without the supporting action. Common traps of relying upon ones intuition involve preventing yourself from performing an action because you believed doing so would lead to a poor result. -Not- acquiring that poor result then leads to justification that 'gut-feeling' was correct, which then serves to strengthen the response when the situation (or something similar) occurs again.
The reason females tend to rely more on intuition than males is not because of any testosterine/estrogen or biological gender differences, but rather because culture requires men take the majority of risks associated with workplace environments (fortunately this part is changing) and advancing relationships. It is extremely easy to exclaim that you knew it was a good idea to leave the bar when those three bouncers began loitering around your table, because the percieved negative result did not occur when you did.
Only if a descision is required -immediately- should anyone ever rely on their intuition. This is the response of animals. We were blessed (Evolution, Ordained, whatever) with a higher level of intellectual reasoning. Use it. | |
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Evalis
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Joined: 7/11/2005
Msg: 75 | |
| Do you trust feelings?
Posted: 8/31/2005 7:57:20 PM | | Err.. I should probably clarify there.. Taking risks prevents you from relying on intuition - you get the real and actual response for your actions, not merely what you percieved would occur | |
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| Do you trust feelings?
Posted: 8/31/2005 9:12:00 PM | I always give a chance for my feelings,but it always brings me down.It always get the best the of me.A lot of people doesnt believe in love anymore.They will think ur crazy if ur one of the believers.
Im trying my best to listen and trust my intiution ,because it makes more sense.The more you listen to it the less pain. | |
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Dryad
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Joined: 7/19/2005
Msg: 77 | |
| Do you trust feelings?
Posted: 8/31/2005 9:20:25 PM | I find my intuition usually alerts me that something’s off. Then I’m stuck trying to reason it through and articulate it. It doesn’t always turn out to be what I expected, but that alert is definitely something I value and pay attention to.
I’m not sure understand seeing feelings as something to ‘trust’; they’re part of my experience. It’s my experience, how could I doubt it? Being aware of my feelings is just part of being fully aware.
Intellectual compatibility isn’t enough for me in an intimate relationship. Without feelings it’s basically a business-type arrangement. There needs to be an emotional connection; the proverbial meeting of souls. However, I’m hard-headed enough to have a mile-wide practical streak running through my romantic side. Finding someone you connect with on many levels is very rare. But if you find it, it’s well worth the effort of being loving.
Lust isn’t love, but a mutually beneficial relationship lead by the head isn’t love either.
It’s somewhere in the union of the reasons of heart and head. | |
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| Do you trust feelings?
Posted: 8/31/2005 9:53:13 PM | | Remember always that the butterfly in your stomach was a worm not that awful long ago. Mutual trust, respect and a willingness to give of yourself without expecting more in return goes much further than feelings ever will. But your neuro transmitters are what attract you to another person. That is beyond your control. Figure out why your body produces phermones and you'll settle the issue. Figure out who is attracted to yours in particular and how to maintain that and we'll all buy into it. | |
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