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| I might have just made a huge mistake..help!!
Posted: 6/26/2005 12:26:46 AM | | Pandy, I agree with what you are saying. But just because she made this one mistake, doesn't mean she is likely to repeat it. She already knows how bad this is. I doubt she will resort to this type of thing again. | |
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| I might have just made a huge mistake..help!!
Posted: 6/26/2005 12:38:43 AM | I have only had one serious relationship. 2 months before our wedding I found out about a girl he was seeing on the side when I went on his computer. I logged on his account for a chat program just because it was really no big deal cause I wanted to talk to his friend and this girl messages me thinking it was him and starts talking. I played along with it and that is how I found out. Am I wrong for doing that? I had a suspicion he was up to something because a few days earlier I had found a movie stubb in his jacket to a chick flick that I did not see with him. I was not snooping, I was cleaning out his pockets cause I was like his mother as sad as that sounds.
I don't want to go through life having to check pockets and wallets and internet history. I have learned my lesson. | |
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| I might have just made a huge mistake..help!!
Posted: 6/26/2005 12:56:10 AM | melody... i'm saying this in a teasing sort of way, so don't take it the wrong way... shame on you for playing a game with him you couldn't win. ;) you have your answer about him, it just isn't the answer you were looking for. now, don't do that again, bad girl. :)
if you want to take this further, which i don't think you should but i'll tell you what i would do if i had done something so silly.... i would go all the way with it, pick him up for that "date", go to the hotel with him, let him check you both in and i'd leave him there. :) naaaah, i wouldn't leave him there, but it sounds like fun. :) (actually, in my 20s, i probably would leave him there)
it's not his fault he behaved this way... he's a man and you tempted him with sex. you're not in a relationship with him and even if you were, he'd probably still chat with women on line and probably about sex. men like sex and lots of it... besides... you're only 20, you're way too young to be settling down with someone... just go out and have fun and remember not to play games with men you can't win. best of luck to ya ;)
actually... you shouldn't play games with men to begin with but you're young yet, you'll grow out of that phase. | |
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| I might have just made a huge mistake..help!!
Posted: 6/26/2005 1:52:14 AM | welcome to the jungle melody...
An old melody comes to mind... "if you like pina-coladas, and getting caught in the rain..." old-timers will know of it - be careful of what you're looking for - you'll find it!
By the way, is this your 'real' account or the phony one?
Aloha
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| I might have just made a huge mistake..help!!
Posted: 6/26/2005 9:25:19 AM | @ melodie
Live and learn.
You need to move on if this bothers you as much as you're making it out to.
next time don't dig unless you have a reason. If you have a reason then expect to find out the worst.
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| I might have just made a huge mistake..help!!
Posted: 6/26/2005 9:41:24 AM | Belladona,all I'm saying is that she was just as devious as him.I am in no way condoning his behaviour and perhaps when you read my post you should read what I write.Also, I don't believe in tit for tat,in a relationship or otherwise.Are you the type that would go out and screw someone else because your old man did.Two wrongs don't make a right in any situation.
It was the beginning of their friendship and they both did devious things that show a complete lack of respect for the other,they're both wrong.I don't view this as men against woman.Perhaps if you viewed it that way you would'nt feel a need to side with either of them . | |
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Posted: 6/26/2005 10:15:41 AM | | Hey dragon, The "sneaky" comment wasn't about you. Unfortunately you were just juxtaposed. I was talking about the sneaky snake who started this thread and others who like her. | |
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| I might have just made a huge mistake..help!!
Posted: 6/26/2005 11:26:46 AM | | tyme_gypsy: Have you never made a mistake before? Just because I like the OP doesn't mean I condone what she did. Even SHE doesn't like what she did. She is looking for advice on how to fix it. Not judgement from you. | |
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| I might have just made a huge mistake..help!!
Posted: 6/26/2005 1:18:41 PM | I did one thing wrong and now I am labeled as a sneaky snake? I think you are being a little hypoctritical here because there's no way that you have never made a mistake before and no way that you have never snooped, because everyone has done it once before even if they don't want to admit it.
I don't need someone who thinks they are better than me to come on here and give me their holier than thou speech. | |
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| I might have just made a huge mistake..help!!
Posted: 6/26/2005 2:15:07 PM |
Well, I'm a believer that if you have to sneak around and try and see if he's honourable then chances are that you didn't think he was in the first place.
there's a reason why there's the "Curiosity Killed the cat" saying.
totally agreeing with touch me here..... | |
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Posted: 6/26/2005 6:24:37 PM | i think he got his rose colored glasses and cloke of righteousness on sale the day he called you that melody... don't mind him, this has more than likely happend to everyone, including him.
just know from now on that if you have the slightest idea that something funky may be going on... you're probably right and there's no need to go any further than that with the thought. it's so hard to see things that are right under our noses but if we were to see the same things happening to a friend we could warn them straight away. keeping that in mind... do what you think is best for yourself and don't lay down with men you don't trust. | |
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| I might have just made a huge mistake..help!!
Posted: 6/26/2005 6:59:16 PM | Well you did and you have to live with it but on your behalf somewhere inside you must not have trusted him or yourself by doing the little test on him, since he failed you need to go on, people are users or being used most of the time time, for you to pick yourself be strong and go on even thou you will most likely get back to him, just remember this
1. most men lie when moving there lips when talking
2. dont trust anything they say till after they come brcuse they will tell you any thing to get it and then after may tell the truth
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| I might have just made a huge mistake..help!!
Posted: 6/27/2005 9:29:36 PM | Sex sells.
Most forms of sales nowadays use sex appeal to sell something because, quite frankly, if 2 competing products are advertising, and one of them is using sex appeal to sell, it's gonna sell more almost every time, period.
You managed to get him to like you for pretty much everything but.
Then you tried to sell him someone else based solely on sex.
What's the big surprise?
This is what I don't get about women who withhold sex... you wonder why guys like girls who give it more readily as if it's some kind of big mystery... why torture yourselves trying to make a guy like you for everything but the one thing he should want from you in the first place as a member of the opposite sex, that being sex itself... when the whole thing would be so much easier by just going the obvious route? This is just further proof that women seem to only want that which they can't have... you have the answer right in front of you but you refuse to accept it, the fact of the matter is that if you'd stop playing stupid manipulative head games and withholding sex and just LET GO and be a natural woman and give a man you're attracted to what you KNOW he wants (a sexy "I want your body" attitude which guys LOVE) you could have the most awesome and thrilling and inter-twined relationship you ever dreampt of and it'd make him the happiest guy in the world too from what you've amazingly taken 20 years to figure out! | |
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Posted: 6/28/2005 6:53:07 AM | mike... that was spoken like a true 24 year old man that would hit it and never call her again... and that's sad.
it's a proven fact that couples that wait at least 6 months (which is rare these days) to have sex, actually end up in successful relationships and marriages. when you take the time to get to know someone for those 6 months, you do more good than you can imagine for your relationship. if i could only remember where those stats came from i'd post them... but it's out there somewhere for you to read i'm sure. sleeping with someone too soon is more than likely part of the reason some relatioships don't last. which has absolutely nothing to do with this thread but i couldn't help but to throw my 2 cents in there. ;)
you just keep baggin' all those chicks mike and let us know what you come up with, k ;) hopefully it won't be something nifty like herpes... | |
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