| | Is the Swinger lifestyle appropriate for a couple that is not married?Page 3 of 3 (1, 2, 3) | Personally I am a live and let live person as long as animals and children aren't involved.
Swinger lifestyles married or single just isn't my thing. But neither is having a polygamous lifestyle. Grew up in a European style home where I knew family friends who had maîtresse en titre or mistresses, much like the late French President Mitterrand, who when he died his wife Danielle sat near his mistress Anne Pingeot and their daughter Mazarine at his church funeral.
Yes, I have known people who were into extra curriculum sex while married. Some were in what is called a open, honest, no secrets polyamory lifestyles. Have known few who 'cheat' on their partners. Perhaps this is because I prefer the company of those who are open and honest.
Each person has to be totally honest about what they can live with. If you aren't into alternative lifestyles, do not allow anyone to make you feel you are bad or odd if it's not your thing. | |
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| Is the Swinger lifestyle appropriate for a couple that is not married?
Posted: 3/17/2009 12:53:10 AM |
I think it sounds great, i have no problem with the idea of sharing my partner, i wouldnt have a problem with her getting a foot massage from a masseuse, so i dont see the difference between a vagina massage and a foot massage, they both feel good, and she would be in love with my personality, so no problems there.
What a load of crap! If you truly loved her you wouldn't want to share her with any Tom,****or Harry! What next, soon you're going to say it's ok to sleep with your own mum! | |
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Posted: 3/17/2009 2:11:43 AM | As a boy, i have a natural desire to want to sleep around, so if my girl wanted to do the same, i wuld have a deep and meaningful about why she wants to sleep around, and if she just loved the thrill of trying new men, (which is something men love doing, but women cant seem to comprehend) and from our relationship i new that we were best friends, like kindred spirits, then yes i would have no problem. sex with new partners has a very exciting element to it, gotta use protection ofcourse!!
oh and i like waht the lady said about how they dont keep one partner for too long, so as not to get emotionally attatched, swinging is about ****ing, not emotional attatchment. | |
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Posted: 3/17/2009 8:46:10 AM | Well the reason that mnost of the folks on here can't understand the lifestyle is because they can't wrap their brains around the fact that a person can get pleasure from someone else.
The fact that everyone has a perception of what the lifestyle includes without really understanding it is just one thing, the other fact that people don't really think of their relationship as a journey to be shared and growth they instead use sex as a right of ownership and punishment over the other party involved.(withholding and using it as a reward for good behavior ) instead of a natural act that brings pleasure.
I know that most won't agree and i am ok with that, as someone that has been part of the swinging community for more then 25 years i have seen them come and go,some dip a toe in and then they are gone,some stay for a while but fall by the side.
But the most loving and understanding folks i know value more to their life then the ownership of another persons sex organs.
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Ron9
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| Is the Swinger lifestyle appropriate for a couple that is not married?
Posted: 3/17/2009 8:58:20 AM | While it is none of my business, what others do - to me - that kind of lifestyle is sleezy. I would want no part of it.
People saying that it enhances their relationship ....... to that I say bullchit. That is rationalization.
The thing is - if someone wants sex with multiple people - these days all they need to do is “date”. Even for old goats like me - sex (from total strangers on a date) is shoved right at you. No questions ask - it seems to be just part of the date.
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I bet married swingers DO jabber about how wonderful it is ......... that is part of the “sales pitch” to get more recruits.
That might work for those that think infomercials are being honest. | |
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| Is the Swinger lifestyle appropriate for a couple that is not married?
Posted: 3/19/2009 8:49:10 PM |
Even though I'm a multi-millionaire from my successful robotics company and have all types of women wanting to do whatever I want I always say "just you and me baby" because the whole swinging thing only leads to frequent interrupted relationships.
OK......Bob How much was the ad?
I'm going with the numbers on this one. It is like some other things in life. I don't understand it...wouldn't consider it...but "whatever". | |
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Posted: 3/19/2009 8:53:33 PM |
Even though I'm a multi-millionaire from my successful robotics company and have all types of women wanting to do whatever I want I always say "just you and me baby" because the whole swinging thing only leads to frequent interrupted relationships.
OMGOD I love your profile, from the title BobRuinedTheDate : Narcissistic Lazy Man Seeks Opposite , to where you say you have a 'Big boy haircut now'. | |
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Posted: 4/19/2009 12:12:51 PM | | I'm dating a couple that got married after 3 months of knowing each other... and that was 15 years ago. They are very happily married and spend time with me every now and then. We went to a swinger club last week and had a great time. Oh, and my boyfriend doesn't mind either. | |
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