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Posted: 11/17/2006 9:26:11 AM | | I would give up everything to find someone who can excite my mind if you can do that the rest will follow. My parents were married for 25 years never heard them fix never heard a croos work. I asked my mother one time why? She told me that they were best friends could respect each other first. I am still looking for that a best friend. Sex is important but not the end all. I have found a lot of shallow woman but i am a poor judge because i guess i am a little that way. We must learn to find out what the metal of a person and look deeper into what they like dislike. | |
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Posted: 11/17/2006 9:28:57 AM | There is an old expression:
Women give sex to get love.
Men give love to get sex.
Times are different now. Confusion and frustration has set in like a deep, winter frost.
We have managed to completely seperate "relational" sex and "recreational sex" for better and worse. | |
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Posted: 11/17/2006 9:55:54 AM | i have just read over so much conversation of all you young uns.....if you think you've have it with SEX only....try being 70 & find men between 70 & 85 who all they are looking for is SEX
....not for me, maybe after meeting a great friendship....i went for a llegally blind man ( i'm a very compasionate person ) GUESS WHAT, only interested in SEX....then a 73 yr old paraplegic in a wheel chair, then a man in a wheel chair due to a sroke.....LOTS OF LUCK YOUR YOUNG FEMALES,,,,it never ends....one can't build a relationship on SEX, ask me i truly know....BEEN THERE....DONE THAT....LOL....RINTINGIN | |
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Posted: 11/17/2006 9:24:00 PM | “Why do men just want sex?”
Seeing as this thread started way back in 2005, I realize that this answer is more rhetorical than anything, but hey, might as well throw in my two cents.
So why do men just want sex? Well, it depends on what you mean.
1. If you mean “how come every guy I go out with is constantly trying to grope me and get me into bed?” then it means one of two things:
A. You are dating the wrong guys. Not every man on earth is a slave to his gonads. The guys you are dating are, let me see, what is the technical term? Let me check Wikipedia...Oh, yeah: “Total jerks.” You ought to broaden your search a little. If your problem simply has to do with your taste in men, I can almost guarantee your friends and/or coworkers have noticed it. You might try asking them for advice...and LISTENING to it. Honestly, non-horndog guys aren’t THAT hard to find. Try visiting a church. (Seriously, I’m not joking about that.)
B. There is something about you – you mannerisms, your speech, the clothes you wear, something – that most men are interpreting as a green light to aggressively press you to have sex. Again, if this is your problem, people around you have almost certainly taken note of it. Ask your friends and/or coworkers about it...and LISTEN to what they have to say.
2. If you’re asking, “why are guys so shallow that they’re completely obsessed with sex? Why don’t they care about REAL stuff, like inner beauty, which is ultimately more important?” the answer is, first of all, that this is an enormous oversimplification of how guys actually think. Believe it or not, we DO care about love, relationships, feelings, inner beauty and all that greeting card stuff. Our order of priorities is obviously different, but to say this is evidence that we’re shallow and that all we “really” care about is sex isn’t giving us enough credit. But for argument’s sake, let’s take it as read that “shallow and sex-obsessed” is a reasonably approximate generalization of men. Then, the answer is simply: That’s the way guys are, and life isn’t fair. That might sound terribly cold, but a cynical guy might come back and say that all girls seem to care about is money. “But it’s not like that,” you might say. “Saying that girls only care about money or success is a mean and bitter oversimplification. We actually DO care about blah blah blah...” EXACTLY. It’s the same way with guys and sex. Don’t treat a cheap generalization as a profound insight.
But a larger point is this: Not every woman can look like a Playboy centerfold, and not every man can have an eight-figure bank account. This, in a very crude way, is what’s known as “the tragedy of the human condition.” Some people are born with every gift imaginable; others go through life with nearly every single obstacle in the world placed in front of them. (You think your life is tough? Go read about the life of Joseph Merrick, the “Elephant Man.” Go read about orphans growing up in Somalia.) Most of us fall somewhere in between, for which we ought to be grateful. We have to struggle mightily to find what we're looking for, but WE EVENTUALLY FIND IT, more or less. We should consider ourselves lucky.
And anyways, beauty and wealth are relative concepts. You wouldn’t WANT to live in a world where everybody is equally beautiful and wealthy, because if everybody is pretty and rich, then nobody is.
3. If your question is, “why do guys think about sex ALL THE TIME? Why can’t they just be into puppy dogs and rainbows and never think about sex ever ever ever EVER until it’s time to conceive a child, and then only in the most gentle and romantic way?” then the answer is, heck, I don’t know. That’s the way we are. All men, or at least every normal man I know, spends a lot of time thinking about sex. And not gentle, romantic sex, either. They think about hot, nasty sex. A lot. Some guys, noticing that girls complain so much about guys only thinking about sex, pretend that they don’t think about sex as part of what they believe is a clever strategy to get girls to have sex with them. I know, because in my younger days, I repeatedly tried that method. (If any of you guys ever get that technique to work, please tell me. On second thought, keep it to yourself, because you’ve discovered the Holy Grail: How to completely and totally fulfill a woman on every conceivable physical, psychological, and emotional level simultaneously. You don’t want to kill the golden goose, man. Seriously, dude, keep it quiet and you’ll be getting laid more than an NBA star.) Then it eventually dawned on me that a guy who acts sweet and emasculated to convince girls to give it up is the male equivalent of the girl who bangs every man in sight because she hopes it will make guys love and respect her.
I should point out, though, a couple of important caveats. One, even though every guy is a raging horny toad on the inside, guys differ in their ability to control the outward expression of it. Some guys have much more control over it than others. See point #1, above. Secondly, guys differ in the relationship they have with their inner lecher. Not every man thinks the nonstop “bwonk-chikki-bwonk-bwonk” porno-soundtrack in the background of his mind is an unqualified Good Thing. I myself have sometimes wished that I could take that little devil sitting on my shoulder (the one who’s constantly screaming stuff in my ear like, “HOO-BOY! Look at the rack on THAT ONE! WOOOOO!”) and temporarily duct tape his mouth shut. In fact, there are times when I’ve wished I could take that little guy out back and beat his little pitchfork-wielding ass into mush with a two-by-four. He’s led me to terrible grief more times than he’s led me to pleasure.
Not that I’m saying that the ol’ inner sex fiend is a bad thing, exactly. I just think it’s a thing that has both good and bad uses. Other guys look at it differently. Some guys see it as a demon to be conquered and crushed; others embrace it with total abandon. But the point is, while you’re never going to find a guy who isn’t hard-wired to obsess about sex (unless he’s a few cupcakes short of a dozen), not every guy in the world puts his brain on autopilot and lets his genitals take over every time he’s around a woman. Some guys have a greater capacity to tell their libido who's boss. (See point #1, again.) | |
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Posted: 11/18/2006 12:13:18 AM | | I cant believe there is about 16 pages of replies to a question of this type. It would be like asking " why do people have to eat every day?... seems to me all they think about is food!. Come on people get real......what kind of crap is this anyway?.... are we supposed to hide it or keep it under and is that why women use their looks to entice seduce and then criticize when men come on to them?... is that also that after they are married they no longer feel the need to seduce or entice and the marriage goes to hell and back?... this touches on another of those big issues going around these forums.... Honesty!... that beguins by being true to one self first of all and then to others and not playing games.....Seems to me that if this lady was looking for a " holier than thou" type man she should go to church to find one but I got news for you sister... they are the same as every other guy... driven by hormones that they got no control over and at your age you too should understand about that. there was a point in your life or most women's lives in their younger years when they would have no problem at all just sitting there and hold hands and look into your eyes and etc etc. but at this age group they r the first ones to tell u never mind the " you love me crap" buddy. just do it.... so where do we stand on this issue?.... everyone knows where we stand and do we even have to ask a question like this...... come on people!..... | |
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Posted: 11/18/2006 1:38:49 AM | | I LOVE sex! But I certainly do not JUST want sex. Nor do I want someone who wants to have sex right away. I must say though, my friend dates from other online sites, and many of the women seem to want sex. The ones he is meeting anyway. Just take your time and communicate with the guy more before you meet him. There are plenty of nice guys around, I am sure. I am one! | |
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| why do men just want sex
Posted: 11/21/2006 5:57:14 AM | Why do women just want emotional intimacy & snuggling on the sofa?
Because that's what they missed in their previous relationships & what is currently lacking from their lives.... | |
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| why do men just want sex
Posted: 11/21/2006 7:49:18 PM | Uh... why are stereotypes still given any credit for anything??
So dumb.. I'm a woman and I think about sex all the time.. I don't care much for emotional crap and cuddling.. It's nothing but a PITA to me.. and sadly ever single guy I've ever dated/married, was a whiny pile of emotional insecurities.. So, yeah... Stereotypes don't mean sh**... Because there will always be someone/something that is different. | |
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Posted: 11/21/2006 8:33:44 PM | You haven't met the right man yet.
Come to think of it, either have I!! I am talking to a couple of men from here, no "dates" as of yet, but met a few and made a few really good friends here ........
I guess we are just learning boundaries in the process! | |
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Posted: 11/21/2006 9:04:21 PM | | Nightwing66 send them my way, because that's what i am looking for + all that other stuff hehe | |
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Posted: 11/21/2006 11:33:26 PM | Hey Fallan, if I was in your area, I'd try hitting you up. I keep hearing a lot from women about guys with emotional insecurities, but I don't have any idea what insecurities they are talking about. Maybe I just don't have any insecurities or I know how to control them? Oh, I also think about sex, but only when I choose to. Like today, I was checking some women out at work, but I wasn't necessarily thinking about sex. Other men might look at every woman they see and sex is what pops into their heads. Speaking of work, the ladies were also checking the guys out too; and since I'm the only guy there, I had to answer their questions about men, lol. But they wouldn't answer my questions about women, that's not fair! Oh well, it was funny watching them call each other back and forth around the store trying to spot guys. | |
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Posted: 11/22/2006 8:18:39 PM | Dear Lady
Sex is easy to find. True friendship, love, etc are not so easy. They take time and patience. I don't think most men or women understand this.
Barry | |
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Posted: 11/22/2006 11:16:03 PM | | Ultimately, in the end, I think sex is the only real, tangible connection that humans have with other. | |
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Posted: 11/23/2006 2:03:39 AM | This is all real men to recognize..hey fellaz it is all right if you just wanted sex from your female company...It is either that or nothing.
We men want sex. there is no mistery in that . it is part of being human also it's s part of the whole relationship. there's certain night where I just wanted to kick back and chill with my homegirl without any intimate encouter.
But Sex as we know is what make most nights exciting between couple..
Women sometime played this game like they just wanted to talk get to know each other type..Total BS. I know for a fact that most women who are going to spend night with a guy.They wanted sex just as much as we do at the end of the night. Of course, they wanted the guy to treated them with respect and all..yet slow and no rush but eventually they know it will happen...
I've seen and heard "Nice guys" who said that their women would not give them sex because she just wanted to spending time with him and telling him all about her needs and problems, emotionally just to drained the guy out...And when she is happy, everything is going fine in her life at that moment in time in her life..
For some reasons, she always end having sex with a random guy from around the way ...But never with the "Nice guy". | |
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Posted: 11/23/2006 2:04:14 AM | This is all real men to recognize..hey fellaz it is all right if you just wanted sex from your female company...It is either that or nothing.
We men want sex. there is no mistery in that . it is part of being human also it's s part of the whole relationship. there's certain night where I just wanted to kick back and chill with my homegirl without any intimate encouter.
But Sex as we know is what make most nights exciting between couple..
Women sometime played this game like they just wanted to talk get to know each other type..Total BS. I know for a fact that most women who are going to spend night with a guy.They wanted sex just as much as we do at the end of the night. Of course, they wanted the guy to treated them with respect and all..yet slow and no rush but eventually they know it will happen...
I've seen and heard "Nice guys" who said that their women would not give them sex because she just wanted to spending time with him and telling him all about her needs and problems, emotionally just to drained the guy out...And when she is happy, everything is going fine in her life at that moment in time in her life..
For some reasons, she always end having sex with a random guy from around the way ...But never with the "Nice guy". | |
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Posted: 12/12/2006 5:54:44 PM | | u have got it so right!!!!!!!!!!!!marry me...men well atleast me...want a woman to make him feel like a man...we need appreciation...we need to feel loved and needed..u dont have to be christ brinkley or cind crawford....ive met a few woman that i wasnt head over heals with at first..but after awhile, when we got to know each other..made love..shared our innermost thoughts..welll...they looked better then the victoria secret models..we have desires..we have needs..but we are also human...we need love...we will treat u like goddesses...i lost the love of my life.....she wasnt drop dead gorgeous at first...but after a few short weeks...i grew so inlove with her...intimacy, sharing..doing things together...talking....she was the goddess sent from heaven i thought..so girls...we doo have feelings...and dont always think from down below...communication is a must....we all should try it.. | |
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Posted: 12/12/2006 6:41:50 PM | I want to have sex too, I enjoy it very much.
But I want so much more than just sex! I want all the BELLS and WHISTLES. Someone to be there for the Good time and strong through the bad. To share all the joy's and sorrows of everyday life. Someone to share the rest of my life with.....Which I hope includes SEX! | |
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Posted: 12/12/2006 7:09:05 PM | I think the question is - why do women want emotional gratification?
I like sex as much as the next dude....but I gotta tell you, it doesn't hold a candle to having a connection with a girl...Casual sex is lame...as well as dangerous.
But just a little something::
Lots of times girls confuse men just wanting sex and taking off for a guy who's trying to get into the relationship, they have sex, but the relationship doesn't work out, so he takes off...You girls need to differentiate the two - some guys DO go in with best intentions, you know. | |
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Posted: 12/13/2006 5:10:04 AM | Fallan~ My post above was meant to be satirical....stereotypes ARE self-defeating & worthless.
Thinking in such a narrow range is bound to limit whan you can 'see' in your potential partners. | |
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Posted: 12/18/2006 11:47:41 AM | Actually there are a few of us left. I'm looking for a relationship that would lead to long term and I've never been into one night stands and never will be. I want someone who not had sex with the whole neighborhood as I havn't been promiscuous and I don't want her to have been.
The last date I was on I stole a kiss at the end and was happy with that. Hee hee.
Good luck and be careful. | |
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Posted: 12/18/2006 12:55:09 PM | yes there is one i am 20 i live in florida and i looking for a long trem relationship i don't want sex from a very long time i just look for that right some one then mybe if we click   | |
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