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| hey answer this for me please....why does an outspoken girl scare guys off?
Posted: 6/26/2005 12:35:56 PM | Out spoken is fine. Rude and cruel, distastefull comments just to flex a little muscle, is pretty immature and unprofessional.
There is a time to joke around and there is a time to be serious. It's amazing how many self procliamed "blunt" females don't understand that.
They like running thier mouth because to them they feel superior for being the loudest or the person to "say what others were really thinking" Sometimes its better to just not stick your opinion into every little crevass you can.
So to comment on previous posts, I dont feel intimidated nor do I need to Be the Man of the household. She can save my ass in a bar fight for all I care, and I will Appalude her for it. | |
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| hey answer this for me please....why does an outspoken girl scare guys off?
Posted: 6/26/2005 2:01:34 PM | They just can't handle us Kitten. I get the same problem. They say they like honest and open and straightforwardness...but when they get it...they run scared like little dogs with their tails between their legs. lol. What's a girl to do...you just can't please them!!!! Some guys are so f***ed up these days. Whoever doesn't like it can bite me!!!! 
How's that for open and honest. | |
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| hey answer this for me please....why does an outspoken girl scare guys off?
Posted: 6/26/2005 5:31:02 PM | | one I've found that is some cases, some men (I'm NOT saying all) only want you to be honest when you're saying yes, yes to everything they say or being flattering to them. These men that I'm speaking of don't appreciate honesty when you tell them why you don't think they're a good match for you. I've had a few write back and thank me for their honesty and a polite response, which I always give, I have no desire to tromp on someone's feelings and say no thanks as gently as possible. However, I have had some reponses to a polite no that have called me everything from a beytch to the c word, I'm stuck up a snob too into myself too picky....you name it. I'll write back and say well change your profile, because obviously you DON'T want an honest woman!!! | |
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| hey answer this for me please....why does an outspoken girl scare guys off?
Posted: 6/26/2005 5:32:27 PM | There are different levels of being open and honest.
Sometimes people who are trying to be open and honest end up treating their date like a therapist/ best friend all their problems get dumped on.
Or sometimes when you're honest... they just don't agree with you and you have to accept that.
Or sometimes you are being so busy being open that they haven't had a chance to say anything or think about how they feel about situations. | |
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| hey answer this for me please....why does an outspoken girl scare guys off?
Posted: 6/26/2005 5:53:32 PM | kittenontheprowl,
It depends on what you speak out about. I'm very turned on by women who talk sarcastically, intelligently and outspokenly about the issues of the day. But in your case I read your profile and I think you're doing everything you possibly can to scare a man off and complaining about the fact that you have succeeded. Example--Profession: GOLDDIGGER--the very thing that men hate above all else in a woman, next to lying.
Now maybe you're trying to be tongue-in-cheek and humorous but in your ad you come across as dead serious.
I find it so unbelievable how many women, in their relationships with men, pursue a course of action that seems designed to fail. | |
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| hey answer this for me please....why does an outspoken girl scare guys off?
Posted: 6/26/2005 8:05:31 PM | I think honesty and openess is one thing, and anyone that doesn't appreciate those traits in another person is a damn bloody fool. However, it depends on if it sounds like criticism (men hate being told what to do or criticized), negative, nagging, or even the tone of person's voice makes a difference.
Also, men and women communicate differently. We women may take 100 years to get a point across, whereas men would rather get the point across faster than you can say "slam, bam, thank you mam".
Still you should speak what is on your mind instead of holding it in. You get more with honey than you do vinegar, believe me you can say what's on your mind with "honey" and it comes across a lot more smoothly.
A real man or a real woman isn't afraid of outspoken people. I'd rather know where I stand with someone. | |
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| hey answer this for me please....why does an outspoken girl scare guys off?
Posted: 6/27/2005 5:39:29 PM | You know being out spoken is a great thing. I have this problem myself... but I found sometimes being outspoken can really stuff your foot right down your throat at times... and maybe thats what the whole thing is about scaring guys off... Maybe its not the outspoken part that you are doing ... maybe its just the words that are being said... I have met some great women that are very outspoken and they know exactly what they are saying and not sugar coating anything. And yet their choice of words to express this has been very eliquant and powerful enough to capture my attention!!
I am only saying this as a general assessment cause I do not know you at all so please take no offence to this.
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Posted: 6/28/2005 7:53:42 AM | Posted By: Linerunner on 6/26/2005 7:44:43 PM
Subject: hey answer this for me please....why does an outspoken girl scare guys off?
Message: Yeah I'm noticing a disturbing trend.. just about *every* girl on here I find more than mildly attractive lives in Canada! lol I need to think about moving. ;)
lol linerunner thats sweet | |
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| hey answer this for me please....why does an outspoken girl scare guys off?
Posted: 6/28/2005 2:42:03 PM | Outspoken has nothing to do with being Bossy, Overbearing or Controlling in my eyes.
If you can say what you want, why can't I?
I am Outspoken and Blunt.. and if someone cannot handle the answer to a question they ask me.. then they best not be asking.
If someone mistreats or disrespects me while I am out.. they're going to hear about it.
That's far from Bossy, Overbearing or Controlling.. it's Outspoken and not being afraid to say what needs to be said.
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Posted: 6/28/2005 2:46:49 PM | | supersomma Outspoken simply means speaking one's mind or being straightforward. How it's interpreted is another matter. Example: I could tell my SO he doesn't look good in baggy shorts. Is that controlling? Bossy? I'm just speaking my mind. It's up to him to wear baggy shorts or not. If I KEEP telling how silly he looks, then that's controlling. THere's a difference. | |
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| hey answer this for me please....why does an outspoken girl scare guys off?
Posted: 6/28/2005 8:17:27 PM | I'd have to agree with UlaLume: It has less to do with gender and more with ego. I've angered some of my closest friends of the opposite sex when they've asked my opinion of a guy they're interested in and tell them the good AND the bad. Also, I've had some of those same friends tell me what I wanted to hear when I asked them the same, and gotten angry with them when they told me later that they felt otherwise.
Personally, I'd find it refreshing to have more people simply speak their minds. Sure, people get angry in the short term, but most people will get over it and may even be thankful for your candor. | |
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