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| Why do men run a mile from a girl with a brain and a yen for using it?
Posted: 7/16/2005 9:38:11 PM | | My girlfriend of three years had everything, personality, looks, figure, and the most important thing, a high level intelligence. Unlike some brainy women who have no personality, she had it all. I think you are wrong about men. Some men love women who are intelligent, at least you can always have a good conversation. Who wants to carry on a talk with an airhead? | |
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Garf
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Joined: 4/4/2005
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gramps
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Joined: 7/14/2005
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| Why do men run a mile from a girl with a brain and a yen for using it?
Posted: 7/17/2005 2:04:06 AM | I look for intelligence in a relationship. I will not agree to a date unless I know this guy has a brain in his skull. It really ticks me off when I find a guy who I think is decent but ends up being so typical. I agree that my standards may be fairly high, but I have expectations like most do. I do enjoy the passion in a relationship, but I also enjoy the finer things.
This doesn't necessarily mean I'm too serious, or arrogant, in any way, shape or form. I am generally a laughable person to get along with, but when it comes down to it, I do enjoy intellectuals. | |
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Posted: 7/17/2005 2:21:25 AM | | There deffinently need brains in a relationship to tell if a person is really in love.To much brains cant also get you in trouble because they can use you an throw you away. | |
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| Why do men run a mile from a girl with a brain and a yen for using it?
Posted: 7/19/2005 8:51:15 PM | | Intellect is great but let's not put ourselves too high on the totem pole. When I got my Master's all that did was humble me because there was so much more to learn. If you are a true intellectual you will not look down on others but will be more humble because you realize there are scholars who have worked a lot harder than you and have learned twenty times more than you. With that said----I really find an intelligent woman more sexy and more interesting. | |
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| Why do men run a mile from a girl with a brain and a yen for using it?
Posted: 7/31/2005 10:24:25 AM | Every situation is different - but if YOU are seeing a consistent pattern there is something there- it may be that YOU are very beautiful and sometimes i need to say that to get that out of the way- it may be they are intimidated by YOUR brain wattage and they are trying to diffuse it!!- Some situations are more competitive than others sometimes I am bringing a specific energy to a situation that is being responded to - Getting the physical out of the way and enjoying the rest of a person is sometimes a process --
Personally I have been extremely fortunate in my life with a couple of very very right relationships Great Women -- I am eternally grateful for this -- the did not last forever but they did last a lot longr because we did share a lot on the mental level --
i belive great realtionships operate on the spiritual,mental,emotional and physical levels--
sometimes 25% each level - sometimes 75% one level then it balances back- it can all be good -- but for it to be great for me i need all four aspects
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| Why do men run a mile from a girl with a brain and a yen for using it?
Posted: 8/1/2005 10:16:30 AM | Personaly I love a woman that has inteligence, and not afraid to show or use it, and am not intimidated in the least, if your smarter in some area's than me, well I'll stand BESIDE YOU and cheer you on. It's a joy to be able to converse on diferent levels and on any topic, openly and honestly, without EGO"S or one up-manship. Finding two people of the same mold can often times make the physical aspect just as intense and enjoyable as the connection on the intillectual level, and if the values, integrity, humor and compassion are there as well, it would be a match I've always dreamed of.
So show it, use it and just be yourself, and if someone doesn't feel the sameway, keep looking, there are some of us that can see beyond the shell, and embrace it, and stand proudly beside you. | |
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| Why do men run a mile from a girl with a brain and a yen for using it?
Posted: 8/1/2005 10:26:19 AM | | sorry, just on the subject....I hve never known a man to ever runaway from a lady with a great head on her shoulder....I mean after somewhat superficial looks, we all(mostly) look for somehing deeper....a good heart/caring attitude/humour/wit/brain....I think one of the problemsis in out society is that successful women want a "man" as in beer drinking prick that is going to treat them poorly and then complain when their hunk does not apreciate her brains with his limited capacity....though the above statement has been true in many cultures, but not here in Canada....Cheers, Brian | |
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| Why do men run a mile from a girl with a brain and a yen for using it?
Posted: 8/1/2005 10:35:59 AM | I rather be dumb , it's a lot easier LOL!
I'd rather have someone who is a good conversationalist than really smart...smart doesn't mean much, the knowledge we acquire is easily acquired...romance isn't about smarts...it's about the ability to communicate effectively in the style you have together.
I don't consider myself super smart...in some things I'm quite obtuse LOL...but I know how to learn and I know how to talk about what I've learned, I think...ummmm yeah...I'm pretty sure about that ...heehee.
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TJGren
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Joined: 1/25/2009
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| Why do men run a mile from a girl with a brain and a yen for using it?
Posted: 4/15/2009 2:05:33 PM | Theres intelligence in an intellectual fashion,i.e book smart.Theres spiritual/emotional intelligence,i.e people ,love/ life smart.There street smarts and commonsense and theres animal, cunning.Everyone has smarts, just different kinds.Variety makes the world turn.
Too much deep conversation gets tedious, you need to mix it up with some banter and some heavy flirting.Smile , accept the compliments.say thanks and enjoy the light side of life.Enjoy people for who they are, we cant all be Einsteins.A lot of very brainy people have trouble with social skills,while an average Iq, person can be the soul of the party.
The world is a smörgåsbord of different intellects,appreciate and value them all.Kindness,compassion and tolerance are rarer than high intelligence and way more attractive. | |
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| Why do men run a mile from a girl with a brain and a yen for using it?
Posted: 4/15/2009 2:19:45 PM | It would depend on what is the "good conversation".
If it's about politics and things of that ilk, that's a real bore and buzzkiller, especially in the preliminary stages of knowing someone. Of course that's just my take on the matter, someone else would probably be on Cloud 9 talking about the recession, etc. | |
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| Why do men run a mile from a girl with a brain and a yen for using it?
Posted: 4/15/2009 2:47:51 PM |
I'm aware that I'm in the top 1% (brainswise)
And the OP fails right outta the gate. Wow such pomp. 
Can I say I'm a 135 IQ? What does that get me?
Eesh...
I can't tell you the number of times that I've found myself in an interesting discussion with a guy (be it international administration, genetic manipulation, or the color of money), and all of a sudden the guy will take my hand and say something like, "You've got beautiful eyes" or "You've got a lovely smile" or something...
Yep. It's called "changing the subject". Look into it.
It kills me every single time. For a start, it tells me he is not at all interested in the conversation, which in turn tells me that he would never have the intense interest I have in the world around me, or in discussing the deeper issues. People who are passionate about these things don't interrupt others with trivia....
Quoting from the OP who's long since gone, I can see why they turn to trivia instead of her arrogant diatribes. It's like having a muscle and just NEEDING to flex it for all to see. Just reading her post I can see pretty clearly that she's right...they aren't at all interested in the conversation. Who would be? I'm all for intellectual discussions and I think a chick with a decent brainpan is intoxicating...but I'm just imagining these poor guys listening to the OP ramble and babble on about how smart she is, and speaking as if an expert on every subject that she deems worthy of chat. That shit gets old in a hurry.
So no small wonder she keeps getting the subject changed to trivial things.
Even intellectuals want some time off occasionally. Just because you have a brain and some smarts doesn't mean you have to beat someone about the ears with it. Again, I'm just imagining these poor guys sittin' there with little wee trails of spittle rolling out the corner of their mouths as she speaks. They're disinterested for a reason. Not everyone wants to discuss quantum mechanics, or spatial inversions, or the price of rice in China. If intellect is so appealing to the OP, she should probably keep lookin' to find that odd-end that matches her word for word...but chances are he's ugly as sin, and thus not dateable.
And really, not everyone is so passionate about external forces around them. The OP uses words like "intense interest" and "deeper issues"...but really, who has the time for all that? Why does everything have to be analyzed to the Nth degree? I have a feeling that she's not as smart as she thinks, but likes to pretend.
Of course, when I make this kind of statement, I get bizarre stares. Aren't women supposed to love being told that they are beautiful, have gorgeous smiles, or whatever. Well, I suppose, if they're insecure and they're desperately searching for evidence that the male likes them as people. For me, the clearest indication of whether someone likes me as a person is whether they're interested in talking and listening to me. It's supposed to be a shared, joyful activity.
The OP coulda stopped at the "listening to me" part, as this seems to be the crux of her post. Sure conversation should be something worth having, and yea I guess one could argue that it should be a "shared, joyful activity"...but what of those ones that just like to talk about a bunch of stuff that has no relevance or meaning to the listener? If it's supposed to be shared, then find a topic that can be discussed from both sides...not just the "I'm smarter than you, just listen" side. With all her bluster, I'd be willing to gamble that she wouldn't be near as keen to discuss things like Nascar, or sports, or bug collections, or the true composition of belly lint to name a few. Probably the type that has to make the conversation as glaringly intellectual as possible with no refrain.
And that alone turns a lot of people off. Myself included. I'm down for a battle of wits and smarts if needs be...but an all the time thing? That would just get so stale after so short a time that I wouldn't be able to bother with it any longer. I don't want all my conversations to be bluntly intellectual...sometimes I wanna talk about rain...and grass...and hobbies...movies...perfumes...simple things. I suspect her men wanted the same. But I guess you can't play at being all smarty-pants if you talk about trivial things.
Of course, sometimes, the guy is just interested in a lay. That's okay, but what I don't get is that I always paste up these detailed blurbs about myself and for the life of me, I can't imagine why the guy can't see that if I'm posting something that detailed, obviously I'm looking for a bit more than a romp in the hay.
I'd have to say that her brains don't scare them...they bore them. Not so much the "women should be seen and not heard" as one alluded to, but rather a "Find a topic we can both partake in". One's trying to be smart and hoi-paloi, while the other probably just wants some chit-chat and nothing else.
Yea after reading the OP, it's clear to me at least that she wants and craves validation for her intellect. She's smart and needs to be observed as such and the rest of us are so beneath her if they wanna talk about something not quite so intellectually stimulating. And Heaven forbid if they actually wanna have sex with her.
Chicks with brains rule. Chicks with brains that like to beat people over the head with their smarts...suck. Smacks of "look at me look at me see what I can do!"
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| Why do men run a mile from a girl with a brain and a yen for using it?
Posted: 4/15/2009 4:02:34 PM | Your post #249, BDJ, reminds me of my Black Labrador, Hector (sadly dead for over 8 years -- best dAmn dawg I ever had):
Occasionally, my (then) wife would get right-royally piSsed at him and yell at him. He'd get all miffed, and would make it a point of not looking at her. In fact, he'd stare at my wife; then, when she looked his way, he'd make a big production of turning his face away. I watched it once, and nearly tore out my stitches laughing. I could almost hear him saying, "See how much I'm not looking at you???"
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