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| Why do men run a mile from a girl with a brain and a yen for using it?
Posted: 6/25/2005 7:36:27 PM | Top 1% Top 3% If someone was truely in a top percentage category shouldn't you realise that you are no better than anyone else? It's a lie some tool with a pen and paper told you. Everybody has their skills they exceed in and others they lack behind in. Just because your litterate doesn't make a person smart. Look at mathematical genious's with autism. Heh no normal person can even comprehend the math these people can do. Would you say that a person with autism is top 1% because they are a living breathing walking calculator? Yet strugle to survive everyday?
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| Why do men run a mile from a girl with a brain and a yen for using it?
Posted: 6/25/2005 7:36:48 PM | | oommaadoll Fry my burger? That's awesome, I'm rolling on the floor laughing!! Excellent, dear, excellent. Play dumb play sexy play whatever, we've all done that men and women. It's a part of life, living and learning. I never looked at myself as a percentage of anything, I loved taking all the tests done the Myers Brigg and Wisconsin whatever it is, voluntarily I enjoy taking the tests. Yeah just to see what someone else's version of a peek into my psyche of answering a sh!t load of questions produces. Does this alter my self perception heck no. It's just interesting to me. If I met someone that wanted to be somewhat seriously involved and for his sake I had to undergo a barrage of these tests, I'd do it in a heartbeat. Not for him exclusively but for me I find them interesting and mildly entertaining. Welcome to my world, being shown on cable in your area on channel 37.8742. | |
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RitzNB
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Joined: 3/16/2005
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| Why do men run a mile from a girl with a brain and a yen for using it?
Posted: 6/25/2005 7:38:34 PM | @ writingstar
From what I'm reading you want someone to appreciate you as a person and not so much as a sexual woman. That's why you appreciate compliments that have to do with you as a person. There's nothing wrong with that. The fact is that you are a woman though and men will be men. You will attract men for your physical appearance. Be grateful for that. Some women would die to get that type of attention. You ASSUME that if a man gives you a compliment that he wants to sleep with you. I think that's a false assumption on your part. I think you might have a bit of an EGO. You're an attractive lady but you're not God's gift to all men. Maybe 50% of the men want to sleep with you while the other half don't. Just because a man gives you a compliment don't assume he wants to sleep with you. He might sincerely appreciate the beauty of a woman without any hidden agenda. It doesn't necessarily mean he wants to get into your pants. | |
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| Why do men run a mile from a girl with a brain and a yen for using it?
Posted: 6/25/2005 7:40:23 PM | I will not invest in men emotionally or connect to them emotionally until I've known them for quite a long while and got to know them as people. Only when I know for certain that there is a genuine connection (and that can take 6 months or 6 years or maybe 6 days, because it depends on the intensity of genuine connection and the situation), will I open emotionally.
Well, good luck with that. Most men I know wouldn't wait 6 months to know if there is an emotional connection with a woman. The third date is enough.
There are probably many other reasons men pay compliments as well. I don't understand the purpose of compliments. They rarely make me feel good because the compliments are about things I don't particularly value.
Perhaps you should learn to take in account things that other people, particularly those you may want to connect emotionally with, value. | |
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| Why do men run a mile from a girl with a brain and a yen for using it?
Posted: 6/25/2005 7:43:40 PM | Writingstar...I don't mean to be obnoxious, you are who you are...and I'm sure you're a wonderful person, but so you know...when you open yourself up...and allow yourself to enter someone elses affection, not only is it very attractive and often reciprocated, but it's also a wonderful feeling...and how can you expect someone to feel for you, if they don't know what makes you tick? In a personal and emotional way...not just intellectually?
To answer to your thread... we don't run...in fact... if you have no stimulating conversation...that's my cue to start for the exits...just as if you can't relate to me emotionally and personally...I'll head for the exit...not everyone is for everyone, relationship wise...but when you click with someone and enjoy their conversation amongst other things...and allow yourself to get to know them and be known as a whole person...not just in one aspect...it can be truely wonderful^^  | |
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| Why do men run a mile from a girl with a brain and a yen for using it?
Posted: 6/25/2005 7:44:33 PM | | i'm no different or better than anyone else...up here we were forced to take i.q. tests every few yrs...none of it was my choice, but we play the cards we're dealt...thing is i'm not an egomaniacal arrogant person...i'm also cursed with being extremely emotional...and i'm done defending myself for no reason... | |
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| Why do men run a mile from a girl with a brain and a yen for using it?
Posted: 6/25/2005 7:44:49 PM | | I like how the thread started as a question about what is wrong with men, and ended up after an orgy of psychobabble concluding the problem is an INFTJNEP innability to experience orgasm. Where's Woody Allen? He should be here taking notes for his next movie. | |
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| Why do men run a mile from a girl with a brain and a yen for using it?
Posted: 6/25/2005 7:47:07 PM | tangoperu You have it down to numbers? Date No.3? Wow, I have to stop and reassess, just completed date No. 2, date No. 3 soon to follow, what is gonna happen?
You gotta be kidding! Three dates = investment? Sorry but to be fair, the post that you responded to in your eagerness said 6 months' 6 years or 6 days. Why did you arbitrarily pick 6 months. You have a lay away plan? In 6 months, no lay, you're away? Oh, sorry that's right your on the 3date plan. Whoohee. Talk about a rush..... | |
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| Why do men run a mile from a girl with a brain and a yen for using it?
Posted: 6/25/2005 7:47:51 PM | Tango,
everyone's different. I'm very similar to writing star. Some people aren't quick to trust other or connect with them. If that drives people away, it's a good thing. They weren't people we would want in our lives anyway.
Also, why should she take into account what others value when coming in the form of compliments? For instance, people tell me all the time that I'm a gifted writer. Great. I say thanks, smile and move on. But that compliment means little to me. | |
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| Why do men run a mile from a girl with a brain and a yen for using it?
Posted: 6/25/2005 7:48:21 PM | Because relationships are more about emotions than the mind. Men may like your intelligence, but that's just one fascinating facet. Intelligent conversation may eventually be involved in the relationship, but it's rarely where it starts.
Having dated some fairly intelligent women, I can generalize a little bit too. For instance, I know from experience that if you can't speak plainly, simply and from the heart, and all you're concerned with is what's spinning in your head at that particular second, most men (Hell, most everyone) will be bored.
Look, I like a nice conversation about the philisophical implications of genetic algorithms, and whether thoughts/memes resemble life enough to merit the label. It takes two to tango, however. You have to be willing to *listen* to the other person, even when they're spouting nonsense, or when you think "you already know that." You might. I hear people explain obvious things to me ever day, until they take some tangent I never expected, or I realize the obvious point they were making was designed to make me see something I'd been missing. Takes patience for that sort of thing. How's yours? | |
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| Why do men run a mile from a girl with a brain and a yen for using it?
Posted: 6/25/2005 7:53:40 PM | Dear Weird944.
Let me give you an example of DUMB. The number of people on this site that have accused me of being arrogant, thinking I'm better than anyone, whatever, is mind blowing. I don't think of myself as better than anyone.
That's your interpretation. Because you think that anyone who makes those statements must be saying so because they want to put others down. In fact, one might just mention them in order to give a broader perspective of what the real problem is. If one withholds information like that, then accurate information doesn't come in. It's important to see the big picture - so I mentioned the fact that I was considered bright.
Being intelligent has nothing to do with emotional intelligence. I'm well aware of that. Nor has it anything to do with ADD, being an INTJ, or being attractive. These are all aspects of the big picture. It was important to give the big picture in order to get balanced feedback.
For the record, the people most likely to accuse others of thinking that they are better than others, are the precise ones who are feeling inferior. | |
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| Why do men run a mile from a girl with a brain and a yen for using it?
Posted: 6/25/2005 8:02:12 PM | | yam Problem? If it's Steelers and Bucs, that's a no win. If you're talking sacrificing my secure career to be a towel girl in the locker room...heck yeah! My soap, my towels... I'd even be willing to possibly shampoo someone's hair now and then, well just to help, I'm a good employee and willing to go beyond my job description. Was that it? If not, oh well.... | |
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| Why do men run a mile from a girl with a brain and a yen for using it?
Posted: 6/25/2005 8:07:21 PM | I'm curious why you and others think I don't listen. I'm a very good listener. I listen lots. I just don't want to get personal within hours or days of meeting. That's all.
I guess you're right about relationships being more about emotions. I guess I thought they were about commitment and raising children together and surviving together. In many cultures, it has stuff all to do with emotions. The marriage is arranged, and often the people become happy as they get to know each other. They know from the start that they have to respect each other. I've met people in marriages like that.
It's only in the last 100 years that there's been the big thing about relationships having to do with emotions.
Anyway, I do have to thank you. I've been wrong about the sex. It's been about the emotions. I understand that now. Bye. | |
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| Why do men run a mile from a girl with a brain and a yen for using it?
Posted: 6/25/2005 8:07:27 PM | In 6 months, no lay, you're away? Oh, sorry that's right your on the 3date plan. Whoohee. Talk about a rush.....
I didn't mention "sex", bucsgirl. I said "emotional connection". For the third date, you generally know if you "like" or "connect with" the person or not. In my relationships, sex has come later, much later.
And I didn't say anything about investment, either. | |
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| Why do men run a mile from a girl with a brain and a yen for using it?
Posted: 6/25/2005 8:13:23 PM | | tango If I misread, my bad. I will admit and own any mistakes or misunderstandings. I do screw up, I am human and if so I sincerely apologize. I am somewhat of a brainiac and I've gone through some of what the OP has, so maybe for me this is hits a little close to home. I'm so OVER the you're just too pretty don't bother having to think your looks will get you anything you want. That makes me want to scream. Hope you understand that. | |
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