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| do average women with numerous emails even try to get to know a man on pof?
Posted: 10/19/2009 10:13:54 AM | I've never known anyone here who "gets lots of email," except for those who are practically naked in their profiles. They aren't looking for anything meaningful anyway, so I would imagine they are still looking towards that next email.
"Average" women don't get "lots" of emails. | |
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| do average women with numerous emails even try to get to know a man on pof?
Posted: 10/31/2009 5:19:53 AM | ^^^^^ I agree a 100% with Spoken For.
And yes I did try (when I was active) to get to know the man. But when I ask all questions and get a "yes, no or maybe" answer or "no answer" to my questions - it gets tiresome. And if they don't ask questions ... I think they aren't interested.
I know that in some cases, guys are better with the spoken word and if that's the case, ASK for my number or give me your's. It's not that difficult, and I don't bite ... on the phone.
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| do average women with numerous emails even try to get to know a man on pof?
Posted: 10/31/2009 2:03:28 PM | I used to get a lot of email before I put up a ton of restrictions. And I am glad I did. Because all the ones I got were from ThuggetyMcThug who is functionally illiterate, the messages read like, "he shawty, how u doin? I think ur beuatiful, holla at ya boy."
Now he has to be....
Single
Nonsmoker
Has a pic
Has not sought IE
Can write a message at least 200 characters long
The # of messages is down but the quality is up. I call that a good deal. | |
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| do average women with numerous emails even try to get to know a man on pof?
Posted: 11/1/2009 8:13:41 AM | Sure we do! We just can't meet with every single guy who e-mails us. When I was dating, I got maybe 3-5 e-mails daily, and that was plenty. 80% weren't worth responding to, although I usually tried to send something polite. The rest, I'd usually make some attempt at further contact, but that was often not reciprocated, or never led to an in-person meeting. I still met quite a few guys, and ended up with Mr. Right, so you could say I was serious.
It seems a lot of guys here have a really strange perspective of what we women are looking for on this site. I keep hearing about the ego-boost and entertainment. I'm sorry; it just wasn't that way for me. Most of the messages left me feeling "ew" rather than flattered, and as to entertainment- I had a lot of other things to do that were more fun than conduct awkward e-mail exchanges with random men.  | |
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| do average women with numerous emails even try to get to know a man on pof?
Posted: 11/1/2009 8:22:39 AM | | I just went on a coffee date with a guy who doesnt understand why women dont respond to emails. He said isnt it polite to respond. I have responded to everyone that has emailed me. LOL this guy and i made arrangements to meet on saturday night. I said i would get chinese food... and pick up a movie. (that was thursday). I didnt hear from him friday so i assumed plans were still on. I got the food, babysitting arrangements made.......... and he didnt show up. I waited 4 1/2 hours before calling him to see if he was coming. He said he had to work , fell asleep and didnt know what time it was. Even emailed him on Pof ... just incase there was a problem. He never replied. I emailed him again... after talking to him to see if there was a problem. GOT NO RESPONSE... he is listed as a serious member.... always online... and on POF.... lol . If there is no attraction.. .whatever... dont lead people to believe there is.... and IM thinking I KNOW why he isnt getting any responses back from his emails. KARMA baby... KARMA! Have fun in your search everyone.... Keep your eyes out for the players. | |
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| do average women with numerous emails even try to get to know a man on pof?
Posted: 11/1/2009 9:02:18 AM | I receive a fair number of emails here..but it's either feast or famine. One day I may get ten, and then only get one or two per day for a week or more.
I do not reply to most of them. Why? A lot of men don't respond well to rejection..and I just got sick of being insulted. No reply = not interested, clearly.
Last week I had a fellow write to me, no pic on his profile, user name I didn't recognize. He mentioned in his email that he had written me a number of times and I had never responded. I wrote back, and asked him why he would write to me more than once if I had never responded to him. He was in effect calling me shallow, and yet, he kept writing to me. WTF?!
A couple of weeks ago I received an email from a fellow who intrigued me..and we have been in contact ever since. We haven't met yet (distance/schedules), but on paper we get along very well. Remains to be seen if it will go anywhere.
I would love to meet someone and be able to hide my profile for good (would stay for the forums, of course). I am tired of this whole online dating scene, and the lack of follow through. I have been guilty of this as well, no doubt. But, I do not read the emails in my inbox for "entertainment" and sit back and wait for the next batch. Very few of them contain anything remotely interesting, usually it's a "would you like to chat", and I NEVER respond to those. Give me something to chat about, or don't bother.
JMO
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