| | how to prevent getting hard in bed with a woman?Page 3 of 12 (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10, 11, 12) | Been there.. on the other side, of course. It's OKAY if you get hard, just don't whip it out like MikeM1968 so eloquently put it. I know it makes me feel good if I know he gets pleasure out of what we're doing, and I would actually probably be sad if he didn't get hard.. I mean come on, your in bed with this girl kissing, you should be feeling something!
or you could always "take care of yourself" before getting into bed.. apparently guys can't get it up after the first ejaculation  | |
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Posted: 2/5/2009 8:53:03 PM | Think less.
You seem to just be normally reacting to the sexual comfort of the opposite sex (yes!!--this is a good thing!!).
If you allow yourself to enjoy the comfort of her company, I'm sure no matter how slowly you're intending to take things...you'll both ease into your relations and not jump into sex until you're both mutually ready.
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Posted: 2/6/2009 4:30:25 AM | This is the dumbest post ever. Who cares? Is she going to penalize you for getting a boner? Good God.
I don't know dude... Picture Redd Foxx laying next to you. What are you, 12?? | |
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Posted: 2/6/2009 5:20:42 AM |
she's kinda delicate in a few ways
If this woman were really so delicate she would not be spending the night in your apartment and sleeping in the same bed with you.
I am not an advocate for sex too early in a realationship before you have the opportunity to know each other a little better, but this is insane. This woman, or perhaps I should say "girl" is out of her mind. If I was not ready for sex with a man the last place I would be is in his bed, and the last thing I would be doing would be kissing him lying next to him and spending the night.
If she is not ready for sex take the girl home. I don't care how late it is. If you are too dang lazy to take her home, spring for the cab. A woman doing what you describe where I come from would be called a "pr*ck tease". It is so high school.
Is she a 24 year old virgin? Does her mother know where she is? All I can say is
if it really is too soon in your relationship to be having intercourse its also too soon in your relationship for sleep overs. Either this girl is really naive, inexperienced, and innocent, in which case you should respect her wanting to take things slow, and be the mature one by not getting into this situation in the first place, or she is really manipulative, and is testing your limits and her control over the situation.
This girl is either stupid and clueless, and is staying up way past her bedtime, or she is a controlling woman who wants her cake and eat it too. If she has sexual experience she knows darn well what the physical closeness is doing to you and by virtue of her spending the night, lying next to you in bed and holding you at arms length, that makes her a bit of a sadist. You can't have it both ways. | |
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Posted: 2/6/2009 5:27:54 AM | Your profile says you are 24, how old is the object of your erection? If you are truly serious about your post, "STAY OUT OF BED WITH HER". Messages 20 and 26 said it before.
Lastly, here in the South we have a name that is sometimes used to describe her actions, it's "Prick Tease", we also have a descriptive term for your actions, "Immature". JMHO though because you are going to do what you want anyway.
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| how to prevent getting hard in bed with a woman?
Posted: 2/6/2009 9:32:59 AM | | Unless one of you is 12 years old, the fact that you get aroused by your partner should be considered normal. If she doesn't understand that, then that makes her naive and/or an idiot. | |
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Posted: 2/6/2009 9:34:13 AM |
yeah, sounds kinda like the opposite of what most would want right? Anyway, I tend to get hard very easily, just rhough lots of touching or kissing... but see the girl I'm with now... we're taking it slow... we've slept in the same bed a few times, but we both sense that quite yet isn't the righ time to go all the way (there will be a time soon though). Anyway, I keep on feeling awkward as I'm lying there and we're kissing and I keep getting really hard down there. I can't help it... but I don't want her to notice it or feel it as she'll think that I'm really wanting to go all the way even though she's not ready yet.
I guess I just don't want to make her feel weird about it.
any tips on preventing this from happening?
OP -- are you for real? Seriously man, what the Hell?! You know...take a screen shot of that bolded part so that some years from now, when you find that it stays down without any assistance...you'll look back on your post and damn near cry for asking such a ridiculous question.
You're an adult. We can assume she is too. This means that unless the two of you were under a rock all your lives, SHE KNOWS YOU'RE GONNA GET STIFF. Unless you say the word "Penis" to her and she gives you this look like "What is that?"...you KNOW she knows you're gonna get hard. Just because you grow a third leg doesn't mean this is an automatic pass to get into her pants, or that you have to ball her just to avoid "blue balls".
Enjoy the feeling now my friend, 'cause most men would kill to have that "problem" of yours. And as you get older, you'll WISH you still had your "problem".
If you're worried that your third leg will make her feel weird, then you're not ready to be having sex...with her or anyone else. It's just that simple. | |
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Posted: 2/6/2009 10:00:27 AM | OP, if I were you, I would worry about something else. I think most girls realize that things down south come alive every now and then. I know I would be worried if we were laying in bed touchy feely and nothing happened, hell my panties would be wet, I would hope he would be standing at attention.
If she's not ready then, don't make out and you won't have to worry about it getting hard. | |
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Posted: 2/6/2009 10:37:25 AM | Here are my suggestions for killing a hard-on:
1. Think about your mother
2. Think about your investments
3. Imagine Roseanne Barr naked
4. Imagine Don Cherry Naked
5. Think about Male Hummer Drivers in rush hour traffic
6. Imagine how things would be if George Bush could get elected for a 3rd term... and did!
7. Imagine Steven Harper hitting on your sister or mother.
8. Think about the next computer you're gonna buy and all the stuff you're not happy with regarding your current and past computers.
9. Imagine you woke up in Detroit on the street... and you don't have your wallet or any ID or money on you. How do you get out of that situation.
I figure at least one of the above should do the trick for you... | |
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Posted: 2/7/2009 4:35:39 AM | | Dude, grow up. You lay in bed with a woman you fancy, you should get hard. If your intentions are as honourable as you say then don't do anything about it, dont worry about it, just go to sleep. You keep digging for ways to turn your self off her now, I guarantee later when you want to show her your magic show you will have nothing. So now you are going to come back asking how to get hard for your girlfriend? It is natural, why are you trying so hard to fight it? | |
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Posted: 2/7/2009 6:04:54 AM | | Wow...I feel bad for you dude...What about putting on the hockey game when you get into bed? If a bunch of spitting, grunting, hairy dudes doesn't "stop the growth" you might want to avaoid laying in bed making out and teasing yourself! | |
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Posted: 2/7/2009 7:46:41 AM | | I love how this thread has turned into ME having a problem. I don't. I've had several girlfriends/relationships in the past, and function just fine in the bedroom, thank you very much. | |
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Posted: 2/7/2009 7:54:21 AM | Listen to Widowedmom, she knows of what she speaks.
You have to set a boundary. If it takes you a minute after making out to get hard, then before getting in the sack the next time, tell her that you can only kiss for a little bit because if you get hard and nothing's going to happen, your balls are going to hurt for several hours. Tell it's called blue balls. If she doesn't believe you, this chic has heard and done it all, has been around the block and back, and is being the biggest tease just toying with you. If she does believe you, then you guys stop making out right away, go to sleep, and problem solved til she's "ready". In the very near future, she's going to realize that to make out in bed, which she likes btw, she's going to have to go all the way, and that's what she's going to do. You just pressured her without pressuring her. | |
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Posted: 2/7/2009 8:11:09 AM | playmaker...you are quite the player, aren't you???
Yikes!!!!!!
Please don't take his advice. Sounds to me like that would make you the male equivelent of a c0cktease.
and...basically he's saying manipulate her. And yeah, that's pressuring. In fact, basically its' threatening her.
Threatening to withdraw your affection unless she gives in.
Um, yeah, good way to have a nice open relationship.
read what I wrote. way back when. Let her know you are erect and tell her that's ok, you can deal with it, it's a normal response to being attracted to her. and you can wait til she's ready, no pressure.
and ironically, taking that pressure OFF of her, will make her feel comfortable enough TO be ready.
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