| Any single fathers (full-time) had success in dating/relationship?
Posted: 6/20/2006 1:39:10 PM | | I agree the kids have to come first. I have joint shared custody of my son. He is with me 3 days a week. I also have family nearby so its not hard for me to get out and date. But I never let the women meet my son anymore. He is 9 and one doesn't care to even meet them. Plus the ladies I have dated seem to flake out on me after about 5 months. He does not need to be introduced to a women that may not be around in a couple of months. If I ever have a decent relationship that lasts for about year then they can meet. Women with no children I have dated get jealous when you have to put your child first. Try dealing with a grown women that is in competition for you time with your child. Dump at first sign, you can't fix this problem and it gets worse with time. I found women with children at least understand that if they are a good parent. | |
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codmaw
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Joined: 6/10/2006
Msg: 52 | |
| Any single fathers (full-time) had success in dating/relationship?
Posted: 6/21/2006 3:36:05 AM | | hi mate ...i think ive been lucky in the relationship department ,,im now courting a lady, she is very good with my son , who has been with me for 6 yrs now since he was 3, alos beinf self employed has helped me raise my lad as it means i can bbe flexible with his education ,,,he does attend breakfast club at skool and i do the run after skool ass well i dnt need to go on about the daily rourine of work and raising him and also running a home as ur well aware of that .....i think that if two people come together who r single parents can be a very good thing as most of the time they are looking for the same things out of life and have alot more in common... to strat with ,,,wel for yrs actually i came across many women who just couldnt get to grips with men being the only parent to bring up their child ive had many discussions about this and sometimes ive really had to be blunt and say to them that a woman has not got the gos=d given right to have the child with them saying that i think now attitudes are changing ... all i do now is think to myself that when he is older and grown up i will be able to lye straight in bed knowing that ive done my best and been there thru thick and thi n ... i hopw things do work out for you ....mark | |
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| Any single fathers (full-time) had success in dating/relationship?
Posted: 7/1/2006 2:17:47 AM | | I wish I could give you some sound advice, but I guess I'm in the same boat, curtailing all of my dating activities for the past 11 yrs, and focus completely on the upbringing of my son who has recently turned 18. It was all worth it for me, but now I am unsure of how to meet someone for a possible relationship. Heck, I'm honest, I work hard at a job that I totally enjoy, I'm always willing to lend a hand to someone if needed. Maybe for me it's my age, sometimes I feel as though maybe it's too late for me at this stage in my life. I would dearly love to have some success in the area of a personal relationship, and gladly welcome any & all advice from my fellow single dads, or single moms out there. | |
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| Any single fathers (full-time) had success in dating/relationship?
Posted: 7/11/2006 5:11:39 AM | | do not know where you are but we ahve a single parent club nation wide called ginger bread,,, great fro kids and the parent,,, i have been told several times,, i do not want to take on another mans kids,,,, sorry they are mine too you are not taking them on you are just joining the family,, do you know what i meanx | |
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| Any single fathers (full-time) had success in dating/relationship?
Posted: 7/11/2006 6:54:07 AM | I've been a single dad now for 6 years and I have not been out since, I have had chances but it just seems to complicated. things always go wrong. I have 3 of my own and I also look after another 5. I'm not looking for a mother for these kids as they all have one (except one) , but its very hard to explain to ladies that i just want to date and have some adult conversation and my free time is very limited If I ever met a women with 8 kids I would run a mile so I do understand.  this a good site I stumbled on I've now become a forum junkie:) | |
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qbal
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Joined: 6/14/2006
Msg: 57 | |
| Any single fathers (full-time) had success in dating/relationship?
Posted: 7/11/2006 5:54:33 PM | i dont know where you all are from, buthere in england it is hard. i'm a single dad of two (my wife died in labour giving birth to my second) and i work full time from home. my little girl is 9 and my boy just 14 months. i have found that having them makes it easier to strike up a conversation with a woman, but that is it. in our society it seems that women aren't prepared to take on another woman's child. its the "wicked stepmother" thing. on the few dates i've had since my wife died it always ended awkwardly when i mentioned my children. i am forever hopeful of that one who doesn't run though. meantime, if its just for good sex, i dont tell em. | |
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Juno2k
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Joined: 8/12/2006
Msg: 59 | |
| Any single fathers (full-time) had success in dating/relationship?
Posted: 9/10/2006 11:55:24 PM | | I agree with gbal completely my ex was a complete flake leaving me with custody of my 18 month old daughter and having my daughter definatly makes conversation easier, but anything past that is non-existant, once my daughter is mentioned it seems like they just take off running and i never hear from them again, even if we have seen eachother multiple times, then again i think that the age range in which one is looking also has a big play in that matter as well. | |
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| Any single fathers (full-time) had success in dating/relationship?
Posted: 9/11/2006 9:26:15 AM | @ tuyk:
we would be the brady bunch.
This line was used on me recently. What the?!?!
OP: I would really love to meet someone who has kids because they are better able to relate, however I haven't been lucky in that department.
I find that it's the same for single moms as it is for single dads. Maybe it's just a maturity thing. | |
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| Any single fathers (full-time) had success in dating/relationship?
Posted: 9/11/2006 10:55:11 AM | Okay guys I have been hearing things like this for a long time from men and women and I don’t understand. If everybody has the same problem then it should negate itself, by that I mean it should not be the source of the problem because all parties are in the same situation. I have been single for 6 now and I never had a problem. I dated a lot of women and none of them had a problem with me having custody of my daughter, not all of them worked out but for most of them I still see from time to time as friends. I am now with a wonderful woman the only reason I keep my profile up is for the forums. It’s not easy because she does not have kids but we manage. What I fund is that she has a tendency to get jealous if she thinks I put my daughter before her, witch I do because that’s life but again we manage.
I don’t really know what I did different then other guy’s, all I can say is this have fun on dates and when you chat with women, don’t take your situation has a burden, laugh a lot and take chances. When I was playing hockey the coach used to say this “more you shoot at the net better your chances to score” it’s seems a little bad for this situation but it is still true. Date within your category and city. Be understanding toward other and be open minded and finally don’t ever ever give up, like Bruce****urn said kick at the dark until it bleeds day light. I hope this helps
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| Any single fathers (full-time) had success in dating/relationship?
Posted: 9/11/2006 2:57:12 PM | wow, forgot all about this thread...
update on the reason behind it - the relationship didn't last long - just a few months. She was still into the going out and about business. Not into that myself while raising my daughter...
Gave up on the dating possibilities recently when my daughter told me she doesn't want a step mother cause step means evil. We're doing ok. Thanks to all you who replied.
You're all terrific... enjoy your kids... | |
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